Celina Jaitly Instagram – On the 21st Anniversary of “Miss India Universe 2001” I want to introduce you all to PROBIR DA. Motherhood is an energy, it manifests in any form, meet my 2nd mother, my guide & the person who made Miss India happen for me. It’s hard to imagine what my life would have been like without him & his love.Through my struggling years he warmed me like a mama Kangaroo even though he himself battled Homophobia, ageing & a traumatic personal life. I treasure memories of the time he explained homophobia to me in Bengali, he whispered when he spoke as he was unconsciously afraid someone might overhear him, because it was so taboo,he could never make peace with himself. He never allowed himself to have a genuine love. While he was fighting his own battles he held my hand, empowered me with knowledge about the field I found myself in. He helped me cope with instances of sexual harassment & viciousness of people I was compelled to work with. It was he who insisted I apply for Ms India & made me meet @jeenamitrabanik who was then the regional editor of Femina. She guided us & he did everything in his power to motivate me. I remember him packing a small makeup pouch,my swimsuit in his humble bag when I got selected for Miss India eastern zone trials. We both took a taxi to Taj Bengal, he said he will finish a shoot return to pick me up post the trials. I will never forget his words as the ambassador taxi drove away: “When I return your destiny would have changed, don’t forget your Bengali Ma!” I wanted him to move to Mumbai to head my personal makeup team & start his own studio but he would always say the same thing to me : “My life is here in Kolkata God gave me a mission to care for you, that i did. All I want is to see you married one day” He never got to do my make up on my wedding as he desired as he passed away tragically in 2005. He is also one of the biggest reasons I became an #lgbtqia rights activist. Our many million conversations, the love that we shared, inspired me to fight for change so that the next Probir Da does not die heartbroken because of his orientation. #celinajaitly #missindia #missuniverse #lgbt #lgbtparents #beautyqueen #anniversary #india