I refuse to let the F on my birth certificate be synonymous with FEAR. I refuse to let FEAR be synonymous with Fabric. My dysphoria is not with my Flesh. It is with sexpectations, society and Fictious Fabrications of who I must be based on who has come before me with adjacent genitalia. The I that I am is not merely an Idea. The I that I am is a series of intentions, actions, and experiences. My identity is the I am I. If You wish to attempt to Limit Me with Language, just know that the I that is I can not cease to exist but already does will and has. You may take away my freedom of body, my freedom of speech- but You will never take away what truly makes Me free. The Me that is Me. It is beyond tangibility and touch. It is beyond Your grasp. I am I. Forever, then and now. I will not cease to be I because if I do then I give permission and proof for You to cease to be You. And for Us to cease to be Us. I am I. Are You You? On a train tomorrow so I have extra time! I’ll reply to the first 300 comments 🙂 Ask me anything. #lovewins #whoworeitbetter #lgbtqia #genderfluid #genderqueer #iami
This ended really well, even though I was told by quite a few it was a bad idea. I waited two years to post this because I wanted to respect the clean up process from the wildfires and not capitalize on my own narrative when the focus really needed to be on the communities that lost everything. Why didn’t I just come out loud and proud as all/no gender and queer? Well, based on research from reading message boards and chatting with some other locals prior, the sentiment around LGBTQ (especially trans, non-binary and queer identifying people) was that they were a threat from city living culture causing a mental health crisis in young people. I knew if I just bulled my way in, identity first, I would immediately get stonewalled (pun intended). And being blocked out wouldn’t allow me to contribute to furthering the dialogue, nor would it make me safe- and to be fair it wouldn’t make them feel safe either. So, even though there were some afab people doing the manual labor, the majority were cis men who preferred to work in private groups to “get more accomplished”. And they felt they owed it to the fire ravished community to provide the most efficient service hence the segregation. A lot of people also felt that all LGBTQ people had to offer was their identity. So my goal was to get on the exclusive group, be safe, relate, and then shift stereotype/bias by simply being vs preaching. Why was this important? Well the community genuinely needed help, so that was first. But also, a lot of LGBTQPIA individuals come from rural communities. And all their parents know about us is what they see on TV which is often sexual, violence, or suffering. This leads to them sheltering their kids or “trying to protect them from a cruel fate” by openly admonishing queer individuals. My goal here was to have a positive experience and show that our community cares deeper than it’s given credit for. What do You think about rural community bias? How can we help? Where would You volunteer if safety, money & time werent an issue? PS: I was already in Australia for work. I didn’t fly across the ocean to do this. #lgbtqia #lovewins #reels #documentary #australia #genderqueer
Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
I can’t deny biology right? I’m a boy or girl and that’s it. It’s ALL on the birth certificate. While I understand the desire to homogenize who I am by who has existed before me and the possible basic adjacent characteristics I may have to others from flesh to mind- to call me simply “She” or “He” feels akin to lazily saying one sees “a color of the rainbow”. In reality there are over 18 Decillion colors to perceive. (It’s true look it up). It’s not accurate enough for me to be called “she” or “he”. It’s not fair enough. It’s not true enough. When one talks about me as a person and says “SHE did this”- what does “SHE” even do to the conversation? Why SHE? What accuracy is provided to me by the term “SHE”? When so many have been called “SHE” before? A vision begins to pain in the recipients head, a slew of expectation from all the other “SHE”s they’ve ever met. How I could be, what I could be wearing, why I could be doing what I’m doing, what I may do next. All based on what other “she’s” have done. Not based on what what I have done as I. Frankly, it’s seemingly a lot of extra work for everyone. And the recipient has to unwind what they know about “she” to add me to their expectations. I flinch at the sexpectations and expectations, obstacles, laws and looks that are based around the sound of a “gender”/“sex”. I refuse to participate. When it comes to others using “he” or “she” I will always respect the language and identity of an individual that they have for themselves. Many have fought, suffered, survived & sacrificed for the right to be respected in these sounds. I don’t see my way of existing/identifying as superior to anyone else’s. It’s just what works for me personally and it’s what feels right. ——————————- If someone can’t use the language I use for myself, I’ve let go of trying to control that. I do not need verbal validation for my truth to exist. However, should one call me She or He and treat me to a lesser standard on the basis of sexpectation affiliated to those sounds- I WILL challenge them with all the power of my being. Am I safe with You? (Will answer as many comments as possible!) #genderqueer #lgbtq #memesdaily #iami 📸 @colesprouse
Some of these suggestions are a bit controversial- but I’m gonna take a chance here. As You know, I bleed but I don’t identify as female. This menstrual cycle I did a bit of journaling on a few basic things regarding menstrual products that I’d like to see change before I leave this earth. -Dont use blue liquid in illustrations of menstrual blood on ads. Use something that looks like actual blood. Destigmatize bleeding by not tiptoeing. Be casually literal. We aren’t afraid to show placenta birth blood and blood from murders or fights on tv right? -Get rid of the term “feminine products” in stores and adverts. That descriptor not only does nothing to illustrate the function of the product, but it’s also not accurate. And it puts a target on anyone that is purchasing but not “feminine” by societal standards. -If a school has a uniform, make menstrual underwear a free part of it. For any student who requests them. No requirements to carry pads/tampons into school, makes menstruation part of school spirit, and keeps people supported. -Educate people about longterm usage items such as menstrual panties- phase out single use items as accessibility picks up. -Put menstrual product dispensers in all restrooms despite the “gender/sex” on the door. These are just a few things, what do You think? Anything You don’t agree with and why? The comments are being watched so whatever You say will possibly have a real impact! Btw these panties are of course @chantelle_paris . And I’m really proud to say that they are rolling into a new era of inclusive language surrounding their menstrual underwear. I tried them during my menstrual cycle and they legit worked- which surprised me because tbh I was skeptical. And they didn’t feel like a diaper. #ChantellePeriodPanties #ChantelleLife #genderqueer #menstrualhygieneday
Some of these suggestions are a bit controversial- but I’m gonna take a chance here. As You know, I bleed but I don’t identify as female. This menstrual cycle I did a bit of journaling on a few basic things regarding menstrual products that I’d like to see change before I leave this earth. -Dont use blue liquid in illustrations of menstrual blood on ads. Use something that looks like actual blood. Destigmatize bleeding by not tiptoeing. Be casually literal. We aren’t afraid to show placenta birth blood and blood from murders or fights on tv right? -Get rid of the term “feminine products” in stores and adverts. That descriptor not only does nothing to illustrate the function of the product, but it’s also not accurate. And it puts a target on anyone that is purchasing but not “feminine” by societal standards. -If a school has a uniform, make menstrual underwear a free part of it. For any student who requests them. No requirements to carry pads/tampons into school, makes menstruation part of school spirit, and keeps people supported. -Educate people about longterm usage items such as menstrual panties- phase out single use items as accessibility picks up. -Put menstrual product dispensers in all restrooms despite the “gender/sex” on the door. These are just a few things, what do You think? Anything You don’t agree with and why? The comments are being watched so whatever You say will possibly have a real impact! Btw these panties are of course @chantelle_paris . And I’m really proud to say that they are rolling into a new era of inclusive language surrounding their menstrual underwear. I tried them during my menstrual cycle and they legit worked- which surprised me because tbh I was skeptical. And they didn’t feel like a diaper. #ChantellePeriodPanties #ChantelleLife #genderqueer #menstrualhygieneday
Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
What I wear is not my gender. At least not for me personally. Both of these are just extensions of my existence. They are not masculine or feminine to me. They do not define my sexuality. They are not intended to illustrate my political beliefs. They are just as they are. Things I like to wear when the weather gets warm. Illustrations of my personal aesthetic and artistic interests. And yet somehow, as much as I strive to steel off the obstacle of existing outside expectations- as much as I say to myself “do what You want, forget the gazes, giggles, glares and gasps.” I find myself processing everyday that while what I wear is not meant to be a battle against society- it does indeed wage war on the perception of “what, who, and how one should be in society”. It makes a seemingly simple activity like swimming the defiance of potential death and a political debate unsolicited on the beach. Does everything I do need to be something in which I have to survive? Must I accept that my existence is resistance and trick myself into believing somehow that it is a privilege to provoke so many people by merely donning a bit of fabric? I’m proud I’ve survived this far. I’m not posting this because I’m tired or feeling sad for myself. I’m posting this because I’m bored. I’m flat out bored with so many people attempting to put others into their own expectations and shackling themselves to silly self regulations and regulations of others. I’m bored, checking my watch hoping for time to come when people are ready to finally be free. When people are willing to free others. You want to have limitations on Yourself, then in my opinion as long as You are choosing those limitations, it’s power. But please, for the love of all that is interesting and good, release people from Your gaze, grip, and guffaws. Because for some it’s deadly. And for everyone- it’s BORING. Anyways- if we went swimming somewhere that You really love where would we go? Lake? Sea? River? Pool? #beachbabe #lgbtq #fashion #beforeandafter #question #genderqueer
You can sit with Us. If You are a person who is willing to make a space for people to sit at Your table please say it below. “You can Sit Here” or “You can Sit with Me”. CARE NOTE FOR THE REST OF THIS POST: Contains reference to 2 deceased beings & help resources. This week has been devastating. First we lost Thomas who was an amazing soul and actor on @queerz.without.fearz and then yesterday we lost @notsosecretlyshay – a powerful community voice, educator, talent and also actor in @queerz.without.fearz as well as Apocalypse Killer. This morning hit especially hard. So I recorded this. So many people are facing a multitude of difficulties that have never been experienced before. The ones we typically experience mixed with the impacts of the pandemic’s isolation from our chosen family on our minds & souls. We can feel trapped. Depression, self doubt, fear- can be a suction cupped whirlpool sucking is into a singular crushing space. Just this month, I came out of a two month depression dip. But it was harder this time than normal. Even with a loving supporting environment. I had to remember that these emotions and feelings come in waves. They wash over and away. Yet in the thick of things we can feel like “yes there’s resources” but reaching out to them feels like climbing a mountain. It’s hard to do self care techniques. It’s hard to care. If You can’t bring yourself to reach out to @switchboardlgbt @trevorproject @genderedintelligence or more, and at the moment only have the capacity to exists then know You can exist with Us. Right here. In the comment section is a whole world of people who love You and believe in the being You are and can be. We are clean slates, fresh starts, and people who love You. You have purpose. You have belonging. You have so much to offer the possibility to be a being for light to prevail. You already are with every breath. For a complete list of resources go to checkpointorg.com . #resource #lgbtqia #lovewins #trans #freshstart #safespace #reels #notalone #nonbinary #queerpride #youcansithere
Hello SafeBowers! 🌻 We have not had time to share much on Social Media so far during this war, so we made sure to take the time out today to talk to You about SafeBow. SafeBow is a grassroots organization founded by @raindovemodel about a week after the war began. We initially started by providing mental health support and a safe space for Ukrainians and Russians alike. However, it quickly turned into us actively helping people cross the Ukrainian border with a special focus on LGBTQ , disabled and BIPOC individuals. We are helping as many people and animals in need as we can—all with the help of Your donations and volunteer work. SafeBow is different from other (amazing!) organizations in the sense that we offer one-on-one guidance for refugees fleeing the war and those who reach out to us in need of information. There is an exponentially increasing need for case managers and researchers within SafeBow as Ukraine surpasses the 3 million mark of displaced individuals. It is difficult work but it is the most rewarding work of our lives. If You would like to help us, You can donate via Safebow.org (link in bio), offer assistance via the website also or even sign up to become a volunteer like us. The numbers can be intimidating, but we will train You and help You every step of the way. Very few of us had experience in this area before we began but hundreds of us from around the world were driven to help the people of Ukraine and so, SafeBow was born. There are multiple roles within SafeBow that need filling, so, if You are feeling unsure but have a desire to help, please contact us via our website, we would love to connect with You. 🌻 ~ Love, SafeBow [ID: A graphic. Baby blue background. Hands forming a heart with the text “Safebow” in all caps below it and “safebow.org” below that. The text and logo are designed in a dark red-brownish color.] Tags: #SafeBowOrg #StandWithUkraine #IStandWithUkraine #HelpUkraine #UkrainianRefugees #GrassrootsOrganization #MarginalizedCommunities #HelpRefugees #HelpVulnerablePeople #Ukraine #Refugees #War #UkrainianWar #PeaceForUkraine .
Is all “normal” bad? Is there anything that is a universal “normal”? Sometimes in our fight to break free of the things that bind us back- we get a lot of messages to “be different” and “live outside the lines”. While this is something that feels very cool and edgy to shout, do and champion… it can also be exhausting. As a result sometimes we can find ourselves drained just by trying to live “authentically” while adhering to this “but not like others”. As humans we often DO want some common grounds and reliably safe spaces where we can feel accepted and “not out of place”. And in our efforts to eradicate “normal” we are implementing a new “normal”. The “normal” of being “unique” or “different”. So here’s a quick loving reminder that You’re already different- the You that You are is You and You alone. Never full comparable to another. You have already arrived to uniqueness. Every breath, thought, millisecond of emotion and Yours and Yours uniquely. You are not a boring person if You wear something that is collectively acceptable or is a social trend. It’s completely natural to want to share common comforts with the world around You. And some of us must do “the normal” in order to survive the people who have defined what is “normal”. Please let go of any shame in doing what You’ve got to to survive or thrive. However “normal” can become dangerous when it is defined as “the correct thing to do” vs “an ok thing to do”. The word “normal” shouldn’t be weaponized as a hierarchal indicator, but often it is and as a result it can be a very toxic. We aren’t better than someone just because we engage in what other humans around us often engage in. Is there something “normal” that You love? Or should we eradicate the term “normal” altogether when referring to any element of human expression/experience? #questionoftheday #lgbtqia #gen derfluid #genderqueer #normal #memes #instadaily PS The hat is by queer owned brand @refusetoconformclothing
