I never saw her in self-pitying postures, never saw her hunched or slouched, complaining about her fate. She had agency, and she used it—from creating the recipe for Mitchell’s Chilli Garlic sauce and despatching it to the factory, to helping the unemployed find employment, to very successfully blackmailing me: “Promise me you’ll get married before I die.” Up until the day she died, she took her eyebrow pencil and drew a sharp crescent over her brows; she doused herself – her kameez and her chiffon dupattas – in perfume. A couple of months before she passed away, I walked into her room to find her lifting her arms up and down, up and down, exactly as her physiotherapist had recommended. She was visibly frail now, but she was determined to fight. It moved me to tears — her will to live, her insistence on her own dignity, the formidable struggle of mind over matter. Bibi was a force. Just as inter-generational trauma is real, so is inter-generational resilience, should you wish to cultivate it. When she passed away, my cousin texted me. “How are you feeling?” she asked. “The end of an era,” I said. My dearest Bibi, I will remember you swimming placidly in a crochet cap in a tubewell-filled pool; annihilating me in Rummy; telling me, when I got married, how thrilled you were because Bilal’s parents were “good, kind people”; squeezing my hand, when your health was failing, to repeatedly tell me: “I love you very much.” The trend these days is for women to model vulnerable strength (as opposed to no-nonsense strength). What we don’t realise, what we so take for granted, is that it took generations upon generations of more masculine-coded engagement, to get to a place where we now have the luxury of talking endlessly about “our traumas.” To my dear Bibi who came of age in the 50s: thank you for your strength. I didn’t understand it until I was forced to confront its absence in my own life.
I never saw her in self-pitying postures, never saw her hunched or slouched, complaining about her fate. She had agency, and she used it—from creating the recipe for Mitchell’s Chilli Garlic sauce and despatching it to the factory, to helping the unemployed find employment, to very successfully blackmailing me: “Promise me you’ll get married before I die.” Up until the day she died, she took her eyebrow pencil and drew a sharp crescent over her brows; she doused herself – her kameez and her chiffon dupattas – in perfume. A couple of months before she passed away, I walked into her room to find her lifting her arms up and down, up and down, exactly as her physiotherapist had recommended. She was visibly frail now, but she was determined to fight. It moved me to tears — her will to live, her insistence on her own dignity, the formidable struggle of mind over matter. Bibi was a force. Just as inter-generational trauma is real, so is inter-generational resilience, should you wish to cultivate it. When she passed away, my cousin texted me. “How are you feeling?” she asked. “The end of an era,” I said. My dearest Bibi, I will remember you swimming placidly in a crochet cap in a tubewell-filled pool; annihilating me in Rummy; telling me, when I got married, how thrilled you were because Bilal’s parents were “good, kind people”; squeezing my hand, when your health was failing, to repeatedly tell me: “I love you very much.” The trend these days is for women to model vulnerable strength (as opposed to no-nonsense strength). What we don’t realise, what we so take for granted, is that it took generations upon generations of more masculine-coded engagement, to get to a place where we now have the luxury of talking endlessly about “our traumas.” To my dear Bibi who came of age in the 50s: thank you for your strength. I didn’t understand it until I was forced to confront its absence in my own life.
I never saw her in self-pitying postures, never saw her hunched or slouched, complaining about her fate. She had agency, and she used it—from creating the recipe for Mitchell’s Chilli Garlic sauce and despatching it to the factory, to helping the unemployed find employment, to very successfully blackmailing me: “Promise me you’ll get married before I die.” Up until the day she died, she took her eyebrow pencil and drew a sharp crescent over her brows; she doused herself – her kameez and her chiffon dupattas – in perfume. A couple of months before she passed away, I walked into her room to find her lifting her arms up and down, up and down, exactly as her physiotherapist had recommended. She was visibly frail now, but she was determined to fight. It moved me to tears — her will to live, her insistence on her own dignity, the formidable struggle of mind over matter. Bibi was a force. Just as inter-generational trauma is real, so is inter-generational resilience, should you wish to cultivate it. When she passed away, my cousin texted me. “How are you feeling?” she asked. “The end of an era,” I said. My dearest Bibi, I will remember you swimming placidly in a crochet cap in a tubewell-filled pool; annihilating me in Rummy; telling me, when I got married, how thrilled you were because Bilal’s parents were “good, kind people”; squeezing my hand, when your health was failing, to repeatedly tell me: “I love you very much.” The trend these days is for women to model vulnerable strength (as opposed to no-nonsense strength). What we don’t realise, what we so take for granted, is that it took generations upon generations of more masculine-coded engagement, to get to a place where we now have the luxury of talking endlessly about “our traumas.” To my dear Bibi who came of age in the 50s: thank you for your strength. I didn’t understand it until I was forced to confront its absence in my own life.
I never saw her in self-pitying postures, never saw her hunched or slouched, complaining about her fate. She had agency, and she used it—from creating the recipe for Mitchell’s Chilli Garlic sauce and despatching it to the factory, to helping the unemployed find employment, to very successfully blackmailing me: “Promise me you’ll get married before I die.” Up until the day she died, she took her eyebrow pencil and drew a sharp crescent over her brows; she doused herself – her kameez and her chiffon dupattas – in perfume. A couple of months before she passed away, I walked into her room to find her lifting her arms up and down, up and down, exactly as her physiotherapist had recommended. She was visibly frail now, but she was determined to fight. It moved me to tears — her will to live, her insistence on her own dignity, the formidable struggle of mind over matter. Bibi was a force. Just as inter-generational trauma is real, so is inter-generational resilience, should you wish to cultivate it. When she passed away, my cousin texted me. “How are you feeling?” she asked. “The end of an era,” I said. My dearest Bibi, I will remember you swimming placidly in a crochet cap in a tubewell-filled pool; annihilating me in Rummy; telling me, when I got married, how thrilled you were because Bilal’s parents were “good, kind people”; squeezing my hand, when your health was failing, to repeatedly tell me: “I love you very much.” The trend these days is for women to model vulnerable strength (as opposed to no-nonsense strength). What we don’t realise, what we so take for granted, is that it took generations upon generations of more masculine-coded engagement, to get to a place where we now have the luxury of talking endlessly about “our traumas.” To my dear Bibi who came of age in the 50s: thank you for your strength. I didn’t understand it until I was forced to confront its absence in my own life.
I never saw her in self-pitying postures, never saw her hunched or slouched, complaining about her fate. She had agency, and she used it—from creating the recipe for Mitchell’s Chilli Garlic sauce and despatching it to the factory, to helping the unemployed find employment, to very successfully blackmailing me: “Promise me you’ll get married before I die.” Up until the day she died, she took her eyebrow pencil and drew a sharp crescent over her brows; she doused herself – her kameez and her chiffon dupattas – in perfume. A couple of months before she passed away, I walked into her room to find her lifting her arms up and down, up and down, exactly as her physiotherapist had recommended. She was visibly frail now, but she was determined to fight. It moved me to tears — her will to live, her insistence on her own dignity, the formidable struggle of mind over matter. Bibi was a force. Just as inter-generational trauma is real, so is inter-generational resilience, should you wish to cultivate it. When she passed away, my cousin texted me. “How are you feeling?” she asked. “The end of an era,” I said. My dearest Bibi, I will remember you swimming placidly in a crochet cap in a tubewell-filled pool; annihilating me in Rummy; telling me, when I got married, how thrilled you were because Bilal’s parents were “good, kind people”; squeezing my hand, when your health was failing, to repeatedly tell me: “I love you very much.” The trend these days is for women to model vulnerable strength (as opposed to no-nonsense strength). What we don’t realise, what we so take for granted, is that it took generations upon generations of more masculine-coded engagement, to get to a place where we now have the luxury of talking endlessly about “our traumas.” To my dear Bibi who came of age in the 50s: thank you for your strength. I didn’t understand it until I was forced to confront its absence in my own life.
I never saw her in self-pitying postures, never saw her hunched or slouched, complaining about her fate. She had agency, and she used it—from creating the recipe for Mitchell’s Chilli Garlic sauce and despatching it to the factory, to helping the unemployed find employment, to very successfully blackmailing me: “Promise me you’ll get married before I die.” Up until the day she died, she took her eyebrow pencil and drew a sharp crescent over her brows; she doused herself – her kameez and her chiffon dupattas – in perfume. A couple of months before she passed away, I walked into her room to find her lifting her arms up and down, up and down, exactly as her physiotherapist had recommended. She was visibly frail now, but she was determined to fight. It moved me to tears — her will to live, her insistence on her own dignity, the formidable struggle of mind over matter. Bibi was a force. Just as inter-generational trauma is real, so is inter-generational resilience, should you wish to cultivate it. When she passed away, my cousin texted me. “How are you feeling?” she asked. “The end of an era,” I said. My dearest Bibi, I will remember you swimming placidly in a crochet cap in a tubewell-filled pool; annihilating me in Rummy; telling me, when I got married, how thrilled you were because Bilal’s parents were “good, kind people”; squeezing my hand, when your health was failing, to repeatedly tell me: “I love you very much.” The trend these days is for women to model vulnerable strength (as opposed to no-nonsense strength). What we don’t realise, what we so take for granted, is that it took generations upon generations of more masculine-coded engagement, to get to a place where we now have the luxury of talking endlessly about “our traumas.” To my dear Bibi who came of age in the 50s: thank you for your strength. I didn’t understand it until I was forced to confront its absence in my own life.
I never saw her in self-pitying postures, never saw her hunched or slouched, complaining about her fate. She had agency, and she used it—from creating the recipe for Mitchell’s Chilli Garlic sauce and despatching it to the factory, to helping the unemployed find employment, to very successfully blackmailing me: “Promise me you’ll get married before I die.” Up until the day she died, she took her eyebrow pencil and drew a sharp crescent over her brows; she doused herself – her kameez and her chiffon dupattas – in perfume. A couple of months before she passed away, I walked into her room to find her lifting her arms up and down, up and down, exactly as her physiotherapist had recommended. She was visibly frail now, but she was determined to fight. It moved me to tears — her will to live, her insistence on her own dignity, the formidable struggle of mind over matter. Bibi was a force. Just as inter-generational trauma is real, so is inter-generational resilience, should you wish to cultivate it. When she passed away, my cousin texted me. “How are you feeling?” she asked. “The end of an era,” I said. My dearest Bibi, I will remember you swimming placidly in a crochet cap in a tubewell-filled pool; annihilating me in Rummy; telling me, when I got married, how thrilled you were because Bilal’s parents were “good, kind people”; squeezing my hand, when your health was failing, to repeatedly tell me: “I love you very much.” The trend these days is for women to model vulnerable strength (as opposed to no-nonsense strength). What we don’t realise, what we so take for granted, is that it took generations upon generations of more masculine-coded engagement, to get to a place where we now have the luxury of talking endlessly about “our traumas.” To my dear Bibi who came of age in the 50s: thank you for your strength. I didn’t understand it until I was forced to confront its absence in my own life.
I never saw her in self-pitying postures, never saw her hunched or slouched, complaining about her fate. She had agency, and she used it—from creating the recipe for Mitchell’s Chilli Garlic sauce and despatching it to the factory, to helping the unemployed find employment, to very successfully blackmailing me: “Promise me you’ll get married before I die.” Up until the day she died, she took her eyebrow pencil and drew a sharp crescent over her brows; she doused herself – her kameez and her chiffon dupattas – in perfume. A couple of months before she passed away, I walked into her room to find her lifting her arms up and down, up and down, exactly as her physiotherapist had recommended. She was visibly frail now, but she was determined to fight. It moved me to tears — her will to live, her insistence on her own dignity, the formidable struggle of mind over matter. Bibi was a force. Just as inter-generational trauma is real, so is inter-generational resilience, should you wish to cultivate it. When she passed away, my cousin texted me. “How are you feeling?” she asked. “The end of an era,” I said. My dearest Bibi, I will remember you swimming placidly in a crochet cap in a tubewell-filled pool; annihilating me in Rummy; telling me, when I got married, how thrilled you were because Bilal’s parents were “good, kind people”; squeezing my hand, when your health was failing, to repeatedly tell me: “I love you very much.” The trend these days is for women to model vulnerable strength (as opposed to no-nonsense strength). What we don’t realise, what we so take for granted, is that it took generations upon generations of more masculine-coded engagement, to get to a place where we now have the luxury of talking endlessly about “our traumas.” To my dear Bibi who came of age in the 50s: thank you for your strength. I didn’t understand it until I was forced to confront its absence in my own life.
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What an extraordinary weekend in Lahore. Surrounded by friends and allies. A real homecoming. So much gratitude. 🤍
What an extraordinary weekend in Lahore. Surrounded by friends and allies. A real homecoming. So much gratitude. 🤍
What an extraordinary weekend in Lahore. Surrounded by friends and allies. A real homecoming. So much gratitude. 🤍
What an extraordinary weekend in Lahore. Surrounded by friends and allies. A real homecoming. So much gratitude. 🤍
What an extraordinary weekend in Lahore. Surrounded by friends and allies. A real homecoming. So much gratitude. 🤍
What an extraordinary weekend in Lahore. Surrounded by friends and allies. A real homecoming. So much gratitude. 🤍
What an extraordinary weekend in Lahore. Surrounded by friends and allies. A real homecoming. So much gratitude. 🤍
What an extraordinary weekend in Lahore. Surrounded by friends and allies. A real homecoming. So much gratitude. 🤍
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