Divya Spandana Instagram – As women we are constantly blamed for every crime a man commits against a woman. Whether it is rape or whether he abuses you physically or verbally. We often hear this- It’s your fault, you shouldn’t have said that, you shouldn’t have done that, you shouldn’t have worn that, too tight, too short, too showy, too long, you shouldn’t have gone out late, shouldn’t have gone out at all, you shouldn’t have worn make up, why red lipstick, why glitter, shouldn’t have smiled, shouldn’t have blinked (?!) you shouldn’t this, you shouldn’t that- why? cos we are conditioned/taught to think men will be men and therefore we must compromise, we must change, we must adjust, we must put up- NO. NO! Full stop to this nonsense. To be honest, I’ve done this to myself and to friends. Taken the blame. But you know what? Not any more. Don’t turn a blind eye to crimes against women. Speak up.