That’s a breathtaking perfect nails by @fingertipsthenailspa (Alwarpet Chennai) Alwarpet, Tamil Nadu, India
First step: idealistic love
Idealist love, or idealized love relationships, is young love, the one that we generally live in middle school or high school. For many, this is our first love, and we are full of dreams, innocence and … naivety.
We unconsciously want all relationships, friendly or romantic, to be perfect, pure, eternal.
Second step: love by necessity
When idealism shatters after its painful confrontation with reality, begins a new stage, characterized by doubt, suffering, and loneliness, the feeling of abandonment. After the disillusionment, we find ourselves defenseless, and love ends up becoming a necessity, it turns into a vital need for our soul. But here, too, we are mistaken, and we sin by an excess of individualism.
Love cannot be selfish, even if it is to protect yourself, because this type of relationship also ends up making us unhappy in the end.
By wanting to heal the wound, to heal the old wound (consciously or unconsciously), we are embarking on a path where we love more for ourselves than for the other.
It is a strong, intense, passionate love, which is ultimately destructive and which can quickly fall into all kinds of abuse because we are too dependent on each other.
Third step: unexpected love
After having been too devoted to the other, then too self-centered, after having sinned by both excesses and after having realized that the two ways did not work, we put water in our wine.
We understood that there was a point of balance between giving everything for one and keeping everything for oneself.
We have grown, matured, in short: we are ready to truly love.
We have gained independence: love is no longer a vital need, we know that we do not have to live in pairs to be happy … and it is precisely at this point in our life that we are able to fall truly, madly, deeply in love.
Complicity, mutual understanding, and sincerity are the keys to this love, which is perhaps the closest thing to this fantasized notion of “true love”. You are in a relationship, but not only: your soul mate is also… your best friend. And that’s what makes you happy every day. Chennai, India
