One of the most powerful tools for this is telling the other person, “the story I’m telling myself is…”.
It creates the room for them to add more context and doesn’t paint my interpretation as objective truth, which invites them to share their experience of the situation.
This creates more room for dialogue rather than feeling like accusations or blaming to the other person ala “you don’t care about me” or “you’re selfish.”
An alternative is, “the story I’m telling myself is that you did this thing on purpose because you don’t care about me. Can you help me understand what I may be missing or misinterpreting?”
And I learned “the story I’m making up…” framing from @brenebrown 🙏🏼💜🙏🏼
Image: @subconsciousthinkers
📢Urgent‼️
In Atlanta police interests are trying to build a massive police training ground that threatens the environment and Black lives.
Police have already killed one activist…Tortuguita…who was peacefully camped out to protect the Weelaunee forest that Cop City threatens to destroy. Many more lives will be stolen if Cop City prevails.
The time is now to Stop Cop City, there’s only 5 days left! If you’re an Atlanta voter, sign the petition to bring the decision to the ballot. Find your nearest location on copcityvote.com.
No matter where you are, spread the word to #StopCopCity!
Follow @communitymovementbuilders and @blmgrassroots for more.
I made this video in the hopes of giving a clearer picture of life as a working actor who has been affected by the conditions that we are striking for.
Here are some “fun facts” from an actor who has been a main character in 120+ episodes of TV in the past 10 years.
I…
– still do the unpaid labor of self-tapes for every audition (check out @auditionsarework )
– am not a multimillionaire and do not live in a million dollar home/mansion/gated community/luxury condo (or anything close to that).
– lost my health insurance through the union last year (because you have to make $26k a year to qualify).
The majority of actors in the union are low-income, with the mean salary being $46,960 while over 80% make less than the yearly $26,000 needed to qualify for health insurance.
I live a privileged life compared to most people in the U.S. and compared to most actors, but even I have had to wonder about the sustainability of making a full-time living as an actor. The studios are making over $12 BILLION in profit annually, and we are owed a fair share of the work that WE have created.
I love being an actor. But, like all workers, we deserve to be paid fairly and to have sustainable careers. I am on strike not just for myself, but in solidarity with those who do not have the privilege that I do. The background actors, the stand-ins, the guest stars, the stunt coordinators/performers, and everyone else who is a part of this union or who hopes to be one day. But also with workers who are a part of every other union (and those who have yet to unionize), that are demanding what they deserve from those that syphon our labor and who are ready to throw us away, bled dry, to maximize their profits.
I offer this personal information, not to elicit pity. But for the young version of me that would have looked at my career from the outside and would have imagined a certain level of financial security in having “made it.” To break the spell of glamour and glitz that many actors feel the pressure to uphold for “our image.”
Fuck that, I’d rather be real with you.
Workers of the world…may we rise up and take what is rightfully ours!!!
#sagaftrastrong #sagaftraonstrike
Healing Fall is underway 💜🙏🏼💜🙏🏼
🎶 by @discoveryz0ne
Comedian: @mrnatogreen Repost @ravynwngz
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“Yeah! That’s exactly what y’all sound like
Saying you’re not political is still a political stance – you’re opting out the responsibility of the space you take up on Gaia“
Starting week 5 of SAG-AFTRA strike and 100+ days of WGA strike #SAGAFTRAstrong #SAGAFTRAstrike
🥲🥲🥲😂😂😂 @banksnowitzki
Many thousands out today at the solidarity march and rally 🔥🔥🔥 #SAGAFTRAstrong #SAGAFTRAonStrike
A little late in the day but I hope this is helpful, it was for me! 🙏🏼💜🙏🏼
Repost @frontlinemedics
“Been scanning the infonets for the most comprehensive and up to date hurricane preparedness best practices for impending hurricane hitting southern cali and came across this on TikTok from @rachrw89
#hurricanehilary #preparation #emergencypreparedness #stayready #bestpractices #doomscrolling “
Out here with @wgawest #SAGAFTRAstrong #SAGAFTRAstrike
Truly despicable. The amount of other services that could be funded with this money. Things that actually contribute to people’s well-being and safety.
Repost @docmellymel
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“City Council approved a contract to cops that makes their starting salary $97k…that’s before overtime and bonuses and at a time when the killings of our people and police corruption by lapd is at an all time high.
Grateful for the 3 City Councilmembers @cd1losangeles @cd13losangeles & @cd4losangeles who voted for what’s right and to THE PEOPLE for speaking out @blmlosangeles @africatowncoalition_ @peoplescitycouncil @stoplapdspying
Our only solution…
Community.
No amount of money is worth your soul or the lives of your people.
#DontBeACop “
Truly despicable. The amount of other services that could be funded with this money. Things that actually contribute to people’s well-being and safety.
Repost @docmellymel
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“City Council approved a contract to cops that makes their starting salary $97k…that’s before overtime and bonuses and at a time when the killings of our people and police corruption by lapd is at an all time high.
Grateful for the 3 City Councilmembers @cd1losangeles @cd13losangeles & @cd4losangeles who voted for what’s right and to THE PEOPLE for speaking out @blmlosangeles @africatowncoalition_ @peoplescitycouncil @stoplapdspying
Our only solution…
Community.
No amount of money is worth your soul or the lives of your people.
#DontBeACop “
Truly despicable. The amount of other services that could be funded with this money. Things that actually contribute to people’s well-being and safety.
Repost @docmellymel
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“City Council approved a contract to cops that makes their starting salary $97k…that’s before overtime and bonuses and at a time when the killings of our people and police corruption by lapd is at an all time high.
Grateful for the 3 City Councilmembers @cd1losangeles @cd13losangeles & @cd4losangeles who voted for what’s right and to THE PEOPLE for speaking out @blmlosangeles @africatowncoalition_ @peoplescitycouncil @stoplapdspying
Our only solution…
Community.
No amount of money is worth your soul or the lives of your people.
#DontBeACop “
Truly despicable. The amount of other services that could be funded with this money. Things that actually contribute to people’s well-being and safety.
Repost @docmellymel
・・・
“City Council approved a contract to cops that makes their starting salary $97k…that’s before overtime and bonuses and at a time when the killings of our people and police corruption by lapd is at an all time high.
Grateful for the 3 City Councilmembers @cd1losangeles @cd13losangeles & @cd4losangeles who voted for what’s right and to THE PEOPLE for speaking out @blmlosangeles @africatowncoalition_ @peoplescitycouncil @stoplapdspying
Our only solution…
Community.
No amount of money is worth your soul or the lives of your people.
#DontBeACop “
Truly despicable. The amount of other services that could be funded with this money. Things that actually contribute to people’s well-being and safety.
Repost @docmellymel
・・・
“City Council approved a contract to cops that makes their starting salary $97k…that’s before overtime and bonuses and at a time when the killings of our people and police corruption by lapd is at an all time high.
Grateful for the 3 City Councilmembers @cd1losangeles @cd13losangeles & @cd4losangeles who voted for what’s right and to THE PEOPLE for speaking out @blmlosangeles @africatowncoalition_ @peoplescitycouncil @stoplapdspying
Our only solution…
Community.
No amount of money is worth your soul or the lives of your people.
#DontBeACop “
Truly despicable. The amount of other services that could be funded with this money. Things that actually contribute to people’s well-being and safety.
Repost @docmellymel
・・・
“City Council approved a contract to cops that makes their starting salary $97k…that’s before overtime and bonuses and at a time when the killings of our people and police corruption by lapd is at an all time high.
Grateful for the 3 City Councilmembers @cd1losangeles @cd13losangeles & @cd4losangeles who voted for what’s right and to THE PEOPLE for speaking out @blmlosangeles @africatowncoalition_ @peoplescitycouncil @stoplapdspying
Our only solution…
Community.
No amount of money is worth your soul or the lives of your people.
#DontBeACop “
Truly despicable. The amount of other services that could be funded with this money. Things that actually contribute to people’s well-being and safety.
Repost @docmellymel
・・・
“City Council approved a contract to cops that makes their starting salary $97k…that’s before overtime and bonuses and at a time when the killings of our people and police corruption by lapd is at an all time high.
Grateful for the 3 City Councilmembers @cd1losangeles @cd13losangeles & @cd4losangeles who voted for what’s right and to THE PEOPLE for speaking out @blmlosangeles @africatowncoalition_ @peoplescitycouncil @stoplapdspying
Our only solution…
Community.
No amount of money is worth your soul or the lives of your people.
#DontBeACop “
Truly despicable. The amount of other services that could be funded with this money. Things that actually contribute to people’s well-being and safety.
Repost @docmellymel
・・・
“City Council approved a contract to cops that makes their starting salary $97k…that’s before overtime and bonuses and at a time when the killings of our people and police corruption by lapd is at an all time high.
Grateful for the 3 City Councilmembers @cd1losangeles @cd13losangeles & @cd4losangeles who voted for what’s right and to THE PEOPLE for speaking out @blmlosangeles @africatowncoalition_ @peoplescitycouncil @stoplapdspying
Our only solution…
Community.
No amount of money is worth your soul or the lives of your people.
#DontBeACop “