Majandra Delfino Instagram – David, BD™️, mother fucking, Walton. Before I met you, I understood the implications. I knew it was a deeper, longer, more layered road ahead, this kid business. Anyone could facilitate a “vision” of what it looked like – the cute house, the mason jars for cocktails, the obligatory posts that barely hide the seething resentment towards the person you cast as a spouse back when it was all a race to the aisle. We can all try and make our moms and grandmas proud with the cute-ish guy who would toe the line, give us good stuff on paper, and fund delirious projections onto our most well-performing golden child with fun “trips with the Gueirlz” in between – and I believe people misunderstand you because you’re so stupid handsome that such might be the trajectory for someone worthy of you. But being the downer I am, I knew that would not sustain. I needed a soul guy. A “let’s allow men and women to have emotions” guy. An “Am I wrong here? Okay well tell me why because I want to understand” guy. Up for healing all the inevitable generational wounds that arise, the built-in bullshit male v female propaganda baked into everything, someone who knew just how much the sensitivity in men has been so forcedly silenced it can only bleed all over everything that is holy. And sure. You’re not infallible, you’re far from perfect, but you’re down on the daily to learn in the name of love no matter how uncool, over-talkingly nebbish, and downright backbreaking – and for me, THATS what my then hypothetical children deserved in a father. What we all deserve.
So while parenting with you sucks shit because to our children you are kind, gentle, analytical, deeply feeling and always, always, always relentlessly up for doing the right, sensitive, “I see you” thing but you legit tune out when I talk and say “what” more than is humanly possible, that is exactly why I let you nut inside me with nothing guarding the net.
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Love you so much David. I know you’re not a social media guy, but the world should know the kind of father you are. | Posted on 19/Jun/2023 07:21:29
