This is for all my new friends! Thanks for being here 💋. A little about me: ✨I believe that all humans deserve to be treated with respect, and all bodies have equal value. ✨I think body diversity is normal, and strongly believe we need to start thinking about fat folks as “normal people, just bigger.” ✨I don’t believe you can assess someone’s health by simply looking at their body size, especially since “fat and fit” folks exist, but so do people for whom weight gain is a symptom and not the cause of ill health. ✨I believe that fat people’s mental health is worth protecting, and that the cruelty and social stigma fat folks experience can be an exacerbating factor in the (underdiagnosed and often untreated) eating disorders that some fat folks struggle with. ✨I believe personal health is something that should be discussed between a doctor and the patient (and not randoms without access to blood work and/or medical training.) ✨I don’t think people who share their bodies in public deserve vitriol, (though some of y’all have made sure I know you disagree). ✨I post what I post and go onstage like I do because I believe fat people deserve to exist in public, and because no one deserves cruel treatment for existing in the body they live in today. If you’re not on board with these very mild, rational statements, I hope you can get there someday. ❤️
They’re SO SURE their opinions on my body are important and worth sharing! #bless IMPORTANT PS: kids this is a CapCut template green screen of this guy talking that people are putting in front of their own photos to joke about things that aren’t going well in their own lives:, I don’t know this man but he is apparently he’s a famous YouTuber (I thought he was an actor I didn’t know when I posted it 🫠) and this is an overlay *I* made on the video to comment on how men talk about me, and not something this particular man said about my body. He doesn’t even know who I am!
It’s truly wild that so many people believe that a woman’s primary job to is to be as attractive as possible to as wide a cross-section of men as she can manage. Your beauty doesn’t exist for other people. Your body does not exist for other people. For anyone who needs to hear it: the fact that some rando man doesn’t want you is genuinely unrelated to your worth as a human being. The fact that the aunt you see once a year thinks your arms are wobbly is radio noise. The right people will love and appreciate you as you are. They will remain your fans over eight loss or gain, through amazing fitness and times of flabbiness, through illness and recovery, through aging (assuming you are lucky enough to age.) People who hide behind private profiles and spew venom are not your target audience, and they never were. Blow away their words the way you’d wish on a dandelion, and come back to what matters: the people who see you, appreciate you, and treat you with respect. ✨❤️💕 Robe by @catherinedlish, internet drama served up fresh @madonnainn1958 💕
Oregon ✅ Also don’t forget my next Zoom class series starts THIS Thursday! ✨💃❤️
I hope everyone gets to enjoy a restful long weekend with loved ones! Today I’m on a farm near Yosemite having a feast with friends and a photo shoot is not in today’s plans, so please accept the most Fall Y’all photo I could find along with my best wishes for a life spent near people who love you the way you need to be loved. 🍂🍁❤️
Super fun show last night in Troy, NY. Happy Birthday @boucheebardot & thank you for bringing me upstate! 🎂💕✨#backstage #travelingshowgirl
Now that I have your attention: the BURLESQUE TOP 50 voting closes in a few days! ✨ It has been meaningful for me to be on this list as an artist and activist in the past, because even burlesque is prone to fatphobia, and that is sometimes reflected in who is hired for high paying and high profile work. I’ve had to work HARD to be visible and have a microphone for my messaging that all bodies deserve respect, Anyway, change can be hard to see because it happens so slowly, but I have taken heart in seeing people “make” this list that people appreciate for making changes in their community and in the world. I want to encourage you to vote for whoever is in your sparkly little heart, and to especially pay attention to performers who be denied opportunities to rise through mainstream channels due to systemic oppression. This is OUR vote for what we want OUR community to look like. ❤️ I put a link in my bio— if you have not voted yet, don’t forget to do so!
The light in this photo was bad, so I started throwing filters on it, and I discovered this one makes me look like a cake topper. 🎂 BUT WHAT IS THE EVENT that requires this cake topper? Burly-q birthday? Successful application of cat eye liner? I need to know!
⚡️ELECTRIC LOVE ⚡️First glimpse at my recent shoot with @boudoirbynomi. Feeling this picture of me feeling myself! 👩🏻🎤💅🏻🔮
✨CLASS STARTS IN AN HOUR!✨ You can register on my website and get the link immediately! And if you see this after Thursday night, don’t stress, gorgeous human… you can still hop in. All classes are recorded and uploaded, so you can always take our first class by recording and join us live next week if you want! You can also take alllll the classes recorded- I know it’s hard to get acheudles lined up. Anyway, this is your final warning! lincoln bio as walways 💋 Photo by @pixelvixenimaging
Me enjoying my life while thousands of people on the internet argue about my body. 🤪 Having a post go viral is always chaotic, but I appreciate how effectively it brings the right people to me! I also know that the people who leave nasty comments are dealing with insecurities or old wounds that compel them to lash out at strangers, and I try hard to have compassion for them. For folks who followed me from my reels this week: I’m so happy you’re here! Enjoy the glitter and the giggles! ✨ For the mean folks: I genuinely wish you all the growth and healing you need. It’s possible to feel incredible about yourself without trying to diminish someone else’s shine. Ask me how I know. 😉✨
When you live in a bus but also teach fan dancing. ✨🪭🚌 I don’t normally teach fans IN the bus but I was workshopping an existing fan act with a student and had them out for reference! Couldn’t resist documenting my weirdo life. 💕
💕🌺💖🎟️🩰🌷🐷👛 Went in for blonde balayage and suddenly needed pink hair. Who am I to question my gut? Thanks to mccasino_ for the new look! 💕
I had such a blast at @lacyknightly123 TEASY BELLE brunch show yesterday— thank you so much for having me! 💃🍳 I didn’t take enough pictures, but I’m glad I managed to snap one with babe @dahlia_kash ! 💕✨🥰
Every once in awhile, it happens: we catch a glimpse of ourselves— maybe in the mirror or at an angle we don’t often see— and we think “Damn. I look good.” Maybe it’s our body’s shadow or our nose from this angle, or our wrinkles looking kinda cute while we’re laughing. We have a rare moment of self-appreciation—but we all know what follows that. The voices. Maybe it’s a parent (“cover your arms”) or friend (“girl, botox!”) or partner (“don’t get a big head, now!”) A litany of lightning speed critiques, replacing your appreciation with shame: you’re wrong, you have work to do, you’re hideous. Why are we like this? We are taught from the time we begin consuming media that love is always conditional– that we must look and act exactly right. We must walk a careful tightrope to earn love, and then stay balanced to keep it. Many of us have spent our lives tiptoeing carefully, looking only ahead towards our betterment, instead of admiring the grace and skill of the balancing acts we do every day, or the spectacular view from up here. I don’t think love is like a tightrope. This is what self-improvement shills will tell you, though, and they’re loud. They’re also yelling into the ears of the people who love you, and because those folks want you to be well-loved, they may join the chorus of voices pressuring you to balance oh-so-carefully and never slip up. But love is not a tightrope. Love is a net. Love holds the things we have been told are unforgivable about ourselves. Love does not require perfect balance or staring straight ahead, laser focused on inching toward some ad guy’s idea of perfection. Love wants you to enjoy your time on earth. To revel in the view. To admire yourself. And sure, looking around might make you lose your balance. But what are you even doing on that tightrope anyway? The next time you catch a glimpse of something you like in the mirror, don’t let the voices keep snap your attention back to what‘s “wrong”. Instead, enjoy a rare glimpse at what’s right, what’s wonderful, what’s perfect about you. Turn your head. Take a good, long look at how beautiful you are. And when you fall, let love catch you. ✨
✨🧙♀️BASIC WITCH 🧙♀️✨ I had the best Halloween Week… instead of working a ton, I went to a grown-up Halloween party, hit up some trick or treating, and even wore a costume I have zero plans of ever using in an act! Got this cute starry dress at plus size thrift shop @iwantsecondspdx during their store Halloween party this weekend. I wasn’t sure where I’d wear it, but these random impractical sleeves were too c*nt to pass up! Took me about 36 hours to find an occasion 🎃 I hope everyone had a super fun Halloweek… if you did anything great, I’d love to hear about it! 👂 👻💀🧛🏻♀️🦇
Snapped this last night after teaching a couple of really fun classes 💃, and when I saw it, I thought “Wow… I look more crooked than usual!” I think it’s part the lighting, but also: my face is not symmetrical, and also: most faces are not perfectly symmetrical! I can’t count how many times I’ve told someone they’re gorgeous and they’ve replied “yeah, except for this crooked nose”. We’re encouraged to nitpick our flaws literally down to the bone, so I just wanted to say into the universe: almost everyone is crooked, it’s fine to be crooked, there is beauty in the crookedness, and we can all feel free to take the take the shape of our muscles and bones off the list of things we criticize about ourselves you look in the mirror. 🪞
Had an amazing long weekend playing with baby goats in the sunlight and celebrating around a campfire with friends. 🐐🍾 This goat is named Iris and she was very chill about me treating her like an overgrown puppy dog. More glamour soon but I’ve fully embraced comfy mode til I fly back to NYC!
Last night I taught burlesque classes from a TJMaxx parking lot, and today I’m in California doing my best Ewok impression among the redwoods. Holy cats, these trees are gorgeous, and I also feel like I’m finally starting to get the swing of bus life… living in a vehicle is easiest and most fun in the middle of nowhere, and it has been a struggle to balance that with needing to be in cities for shows and the good internet that teaching classes online requires! Anyways, I’ll post more trees @lovejez but wanted to throw an update on main here as well!
✨HAPPY BIRTHDAY @minxarcana!✨This day last year, we were at @madonnainn1958 with @bettina_may having the funnest birthday weekend ever — Canadian/New York friends unite! I treasure our friendship and miss you and hope you have the most amazing birthday (but also let’s do Madonna in again next year 💐) Photo by @bettinamaystudios because of course it is. 😍
Happy birthday to @ginminsky, one of the most fabulous women in New York! ✨💕🎪 I hope you get all the ice cream your heart desires. 🍨
✨CLASS STARTS TOMORROW!✨Dance is for everyone, including you. ❤️ if you have always been interested in burlesque dancing but you felt hesitant or shy or simply unwelcome in dance studios, let me just encourage you to tip your toes in and enjoy the sparkle! My classes are on Zoom so they’re available worldwide, and recordings are shared each week so if you can’t make the live classes, you can take them on your own time. I also offer an honor system discount foe folks who need could use a little financial boost (I know the holidays are coming!) Just use BOOST for a 30% discount on the entire series. I hope to dance with you soon! 💃🪩✨ lincoln my bíó to register on my site, or register through @nyschoolofburlesque! ❤️
Some bonus cuteness from last night!
I taught 🐢✨SLOW BURN FOR AWKWARD TURTLES✨🐢 in Albany— my class about how to learn to embrace moving slowly and sensually— and we had a blast! Thank you to everyone who came out! if this sounds like a class you need, I do have a recorded version of a past Slow Burn class (not the Albany version, it’s one from last year) and it’s available on my website for purchase so feel free to get yourself some turtle power!
