Which should you trust more: someone’s actions or their words?
Well, I always say you should always believe someone’s actions OVER their words . . . UNLESS what they’re telling you will make their life more difficult (such as telling you they’re not interested in a relationship or don’t want to have kids).
By revealing these intentions, they risk losing their connection with you, which means you should absolutely take those words seriously.
And if you stay with them in spite of that knowledge, then they no longer have to worry about leading you on . . . because they’ve told you how they feel. So if they’re telling you they don’t want a relationship but the two of you continue to act like a couple, they get the benefits of a relationship without actual commitment. And if you ever bring up the topic again, they’ll simply remind you: “Hey, I told you I wasn’t interested in a relationship, so I don’t understand why you’re confused.”
When someone clearly tells us their intentions, it can be hard to relinquish the hope that they’ll eventually change their mind. But rather than romanticizing a difficult situation, our time would be better spent investing in someone who’s headed in the same direction we are.
Merry Christmas and happy holidays all! Audrey and I are sending you all so much love. Thank you for everything this year, all of your love and support, it has meant so very much to us. And thank you to everyone who has joined a program, bought a book, watched a video, or engaged with my work anywhere! It’s truly one of the great gifts of my life to continue getting to do this and I never take for granted that it’s made possible because of all your support for what I do. I can’t wait to go into 2024 with you! Whether this holiday season you are happy, excited, sad, scared, lonely, confused, conflicted, (or some combination of all the above!), know that you are not alone. We are with you, and we will continue to work together with you in 2024 to keep moving you in a direction that makes you happier and more peaceful everyday. #team
Til Jan 1st, love you guys!!! Happy holidays! Xxxxxx
Drop a ❤️ if you agree.
There is no avoiding the reality that dating is time-consuming and can lead to burnout.
But making small tweaks to the way we date can have huge ripple effects that safeguard our time and energy.
And if you’re ready to find real results in dating and meet someone who sees your value, comment VALUE below and I will DM you the link to my FREE “Dating With Results” training that will help you find your person.
There is no avoiding the reality that dating is time-consuming and can lead to burnout.
But making small tweaks to the way we date can have huge ripple effects that safeguard our time and energy.
And if you’re ready to find real results in dating and meet someone who sees your value, comment VALUE below and I will DM you the link to my FREE “Dating With Results” training that will help you find your person.
There is no avoiding the reality that dating is time-consuming and can lead to burnout.
But making small tweaks to the way we date can have huge ripple effects that safeguard our time and energy.
And if you’re ready to find real results in dating and meet someone who sees your value, comment VALUE below and I will DM you the link to my FREE “Dating With Results” training that will help you find your person.
There is no avoiding the reality that dating is time-consuming and can lead to burnout.
But making small tweaks to the way we date can have huge ripple effects that safeguard our time and energy.
And if you’re ready to find real results in dating and meet someone who sees your value, comment VALUE below and I will DM you the link to my FREE “Dating With Results” training that will help you find your person.
There is no avoiding the reality that dating is time-consuming and can lead to burnout.
But making small tweaks to the way we date can have huge ripple effects that safeguard our time and energy.
And if you’re ready to find real results in dating and meet someone who sees your value, comment VALUE below and I will DM you the link to my FREE “Dating With Results” training that will help you find your person.
Had a great conversation with my friend @aliabdaal. We talked about life, dating, how Ali applied his productivity mindset to finding love, and how to go about choosing the right partner. Check out the full podcast via the link on my bio.
And don’t forget to check out @aliabdaal ‘s new book ‘Feel Good Productivity’ (out now).
What characteristics do you think make someone a good teammate? Tell me in the comments!
Are they actually ready for a relationship?
I cover this really important topic in this week’s new video, and my answer to this probably isn’t what you’d expect.
Give it a watch to find out the signs you can look out for to discern whether someone is truly a bad bet or if they have real potential.
Full video on my YouTube channel (link in bio)
In today’s new video, I’m sharing 3 powerful mindset shifts that will help you attract the right person faster so you can avoid self-sabotage and burnout as you search for the love you’re looking for. You can see the full video with all 3 mindsets on my Youtube channel (link in bio)
Excited for you to see this one. Leave me a comment and tell me what you thought!
Matthew x
Do you have a question you want to ask me? You can comment ASKMH below and I will DM you the link to send me your question privately.
Do you have a question you want to ask me? You can comment ASKMH below and I will DM you the link to send me your question privately.
Oftentimes, we are so focused on finding someone we feel chemistry with and getting commitment that we forget the true secret sauce to a healthy, long-lasting relationship—compatibility.
If you’re ready to find real results in your love life, I have a free training that will help you tremendously. To get access, you can comment RESULTS below and I will DM you the link so you can start watching now.
Thanks so much to @womenofimpact and @lisabilyeu for having me on her show for this very important conversation.
Oftentimes, we are so focused on finding someone we feel chemistry with and getting commitment that we forget the true secret sauce to a healthy, long-lasting relationship—compatibility.
If you’re ready to find real results in your love life, I have a free training that will help you tremendously. To get access, you can comment RESULTS below and I will DM you the link so you can start watching now.
Thanks so much to @womenofimpact and @lisabilyeu for having me on her show for this very important conversation.
Vulnerability can be scary, but in order to find the relationship we want, we have to signal to the person we’re dating that we’re interested in them and what they have to say.
What do you think about this? Tell me in the comments.
I believe it’s so important to stop for a moment before we begin a New Year and take stock of the progress we made in the last year. (Whatever form it’s taken.)This is one of the ways I try to start a new year from a place of abundance instead of deficit. Abundance is “look how far I’ve already come”, deficit is “look how much I have to do”. Start from a place of confidence of connecting with what’s already been achieved/what you’ve learned/what you’re proud of yourself for. Here’s to a peaceful and connected start to 2024!
If you’re dealing with loss, sickness, or loneliness, this time of year can serve to magnify whatever you’re going through.
So in this weekend’s new video, I wanted to do something a little different . . .
While this message is for anyone who needs a boost during the holidays, it’s especially for those in the middle of a “complicated Christmas.”
And today I want you to know that you’re not alone.
Listen to this message and please do drop me a comment after you watch. I’d love for us all to feel more connected and help people know that others understand what they’re going through right now.
Happy holidays,
Matthew
We don’t have to put ourselves down for not detecting the signs that someone is toxic or bad for us in some way. What we DO have to do, however, is learn from our experiences so that in the future, we can detect warning signs earlier.
Have you ever found yourself struggling to notice red flags in someone? Tell me in the comments.
Here’s a common problem I hear,
You feel ready for a relationship. You’ve worked hard to improve yourself and you have high standards for the person you want to be with long-term . . . but no one you date meets your standards.
I know it can be so frustrating—but this feeling can lead to some dangerous mindsets that get in our way of finding love . . . often without us even realizing it. In today’s new video I’ll show you 3 mindset shifts that will help you attract the right person. Simply tap the link in my IG Profile or head over to MatthewHussey.com/blog to start watching now (and don’t forget to leave me a comment when you do.)
The holidays and the new year is a time where we many struggle with complicated feelings about their lives. Even for those who have positive associations with the holidays, it can exacerbate feelings of loneliness, remind us that we still haven’t found our person, and draw our attention to the fact that in painful ways our lives are not where we thought they’d be by now.
In my first book, “Get The Guy” I wrote about what we can do to create more opportunities in love. But what do we do when we start losing hope because all the dating advice we’ve followed still hasn’t landed us the partner we so deeply want? How can we discover, and change the deeper patterns that are holding us back? And how do we stop our lives in the present from being ruined by the constant fear of ending up alone?
My new book “Love Life” contains the answers to these questions and many more. It seeks to help you discover the deeper patterns that are shaping your love life, set new standards, and develop a brand new relationship with yourself and your life that will attract the love you want. Even if you feel like you’re just broken (or that dating is), I believe this book will change that. It will show you practically how to access your deepest confidence, and help you write a new story for your love life, one that begins the moment you start reading it.
I’ve never put so many hours into a single piece of work in my life, and I cannot wait for you to read it. It’s available for pre-order right now (Comment “preorder” below or click link in bio to order a copy).
IMPORTANT: By preordering now, you also have a place on a journey I’m calling “The Road To Love Life”, an event series starting in January and reserved only for people who pre-order the new book. This 3 month series will offer valuable complementary experiences and trainings, and will help anyone looking for love, or real change to their personal confidence in 2024.
This is a one-off journey to celebrate the launch of this 10 year piece of work, so please don’t let it pass you by.
Comment “preorder” to buy the book now, and in the coming weeks you’ll receive info on what’s coming up on “The Road to Love Life”
Comment “PREORDER” to order your copy of my new book ‘Love Life’ and get yourself on the “Road To Love Life” journey with us starting in January, a 3 month experience where I’ll be giving hundreds of dollars worth of coaching to everyone who grabs a copy of the book right now for $30! Like I said, comment “PREORDER” (or order from www.LoveLifeBook.com.)
Once you order we’ll send you details on how to access all the upcoming trainings in the next couple of weeks!
Want to find love in 2024?
Now is the time when everyone is making New Year’s resolutions. It’s fun and I love that feeling of optimism before January begins. But we also know how hard it is to break old habits and patterns—and end up feeling a sense of failure and frustration if we don’t reach our goals . . .
In today’s new video, I share with you the #1 resolution you should focus on this year to move toward a successful love life. Simply head over to MatthewHussey.com/blog or check out my Youtube channel to start watching now.
