This first picture was taken the night Audrey and I met! How crazy is it that we have a picture from the night we met! A friend of Audrey’s randomly took the photo of us, and then sent us the photo 2 years later when they found it on their phone and realized we had become serious! We’d literally met for the first time an hour before this picture was taken. Just two lil babies flirtin’.
I wasn’t even going to go to this party. I just happened to be back in London for Christmas that week and a friend of mine persuaded me to go. When we were on the way, that same friend told me: “There is a girl who will be there that all the boys are in love with, and we’re all afraid you’re going to steal her”. He didn’t tell me who it was when we walked in, but within minutes I knew.
I was glued to the tv in the bar at the beginning of the evening because there was this big boxing match on that night, but I kept making eye contact with her the whole time. She sidled up next to me, started watching the tv, and then asked me a question about the boxing (something she has never shown an interest in since). And that was that. We talked for 8 hours that night (literally).
David Brookes once said:
“A marriage is a 50 year conversation. Have I met a person who I can talk to for that length of time?”
I have, which is why I asked this incredible human being to marry me.
I can’t believe I get to build a life with someone as amazing as you. I’m stupidly excited to do it all with you—to be grown ups and do all the grown up things, while deep down staying just two lil babies flirtin’.
Happy Valentine’s Day @theaudreyhussey. I love you forever. ❤️
This first picture was taken the night Audrey and I met! How crazy is it that we have a picture from the night we met! A friend of Audrey’s randomly took the photo of us, and then sent us the photo 2 years later when they found it on their phone and realized we had become serious! We’d literally met for the first time an hour before this picture was taken. Just two lil babies flirtin’.
I wasn’t even going to go to this party. I just happened to be back in London for Christmas that week and a friend of mine persuaded me to go. When we were on the way, that same friend told me: “There is a girl who will be there that all the boys are in love with, and we’re all afraid you’re going to steal her”. He didn’t tell me who it was when we walked in, but within minutes I knew.
I was glued to the tv in the bar at the beginning of the evening because there was this big boxing match on that night, but I kept making eye contact with her the whole time. She sidled up next to me, started watching the tv, and then asked me a question about the boxing (something she has never shown an interest in since). And that was that. We talked for 8 hours that night (literally).
David Brookes once said:
“A marriage is a 50 year conversation. Have I met a person who I can talk to for that length of time?”
I have, which is why I asked this incredible human being to marry me.
I can’t believe I get to build a life with someone as amazing as you. I’m stupidly excited to do it all with you—to be grown ups and do all the grown up things, while deep down staying just two lil babies flirtin’.
Happy Valentine’s Day @theaudreyhussey. I love you forever. ❤️
Here is an exclusive clip of my special live training called “Dating With Results.” If you’re exhausted from fruitless dates, bad experiences, and painful situationships that go nowhere . . . and want to find REAL love this year, this training is the perfect way to start actually getting RESULTS in your love life. Simply comment ACCESS below and I will DM you the link to get your free pass to start watching now ❤️
When we get attention from someone it’s exciting. Our mind runs away with the possibilities: “What if THIS is the person?” “What if this led to something amazing?!”. We get invested in a story that our mind creates, not necessarily based on real investment, but on the attention we are getting.
There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the attention that someone is giving you. Just don’t confuse it with someone having a genuine INTENTION for things to lead somewhere real. You can’t instantly know what someone’s intentions are. But there are some ways to gauge:
– ASK questions: About their nature, their goals, their plans in life and what they are looking for. This does NOT mean interrogating someone, it just means having a genuine and relaxed CURIOSITY about the person in front of you.
– Measure ACTIONS (not just words) – do their actions show they are actually prepared to invest in this dynamic with you? Their actions have to be promising, not just their language.
– THEY ASK questions. Are they genuinely trying to get to KNOW you, or just enjoying your company? Someone with real intention will ask you a lot of questions because they are evaluating you for a more important role in their life than simply the person they are sleeping with right now. They are not just interesting, they are interested.
– They’re PLANNING. Are they getting excited about things they want to do/see/experience with you beyond tomorrow night?
– They INVOLVE you – Are they thinking about you in their decision making process? Do you always hear about decisions once they have been made, or is it evident that the plans they are making are taking account of you and your ability to spend time together?
This was me and @theaudreyhussey yesterday, on an extremely rainy day in LA. It was a much needed day of relaxation. But can I be honest? I wasn’t ready for it to be Monday this morning. I could have done with 2 more days. And 3 more cheat meals. Anyone else feel the same?
Also Audrey is sick. And it’s probably going to make me sick, which is great. And did I mention it’s raining non-stop? Well it is.
P.S. No again, Audrey didn’t give me a love bite, someone at my Jiu Jitsu class did. Los Angeles, California
This quote is taken directly from my new book, Love Life (available for pre-order now at LoveLifeBook.com)
You’re mourning because you think you’ve lost the person you’re supposed to be with. But I can promise you, you haven’t. Because unless someone chooses you, they’re not the person you’re supposed to be with. You can be disappointed that someone wasn’t the right person, but you can’t grieve like they were, because they’re not.
Disappointment takes a minute to get over, but it’s much easier to recover from disappointment than the idea that you’ve lost the love of your life. You didn’t lose that. That is still to come. Something better is coming for you.
Don’t forget: Invest in who invests in you. Drop a ❤️ if you agree
Do you know why heartbreak hits us as hard as it does? In today’s powerful new video, I found the answer in an interview with the world-leading expert on grief, David Kessler @iamdavidkessler.
It turns out, a lot of us are carrying around “unattended grief” that affects us in ways we don’t even realize. We often don’t give ourselves the space to fully feel what we need to in order to break free.
You can watch the FULL video now on my YouTube Channel (link in bio) or by heading over to MatthewHussey.com/blog. Don’t forget to leave us a comment when you do.
Do you relate to this? Tell me in the comments ❤️
Do you relate to this? Tell me in the comments ❤️
Do you relate to this? Tell me in the comments ❤️
Do you relate to this? Tell me in the comments ❤️
“Just because you can cook a five-star gourmet meal doesn’t mean you should do it for every person who knocks on the door of your house.” ❤️
Want more advice for early dating that can help you find your person? I have an entire training on just this that you will want to see. Simply comment ACCESS below and I will DM you the link to your FREE pass to start watching right now.
“Just because you can cook a five-star gourmet meal doesn’t mean you should do it for every person who knocks on the door of your house.” ❤️
Want more advice for early dating that can help you find your person? I have an entire training on just this that you will want to see. Simply comment ACCESS below and I will DM you the link to your FREE pass to start watching right now.
Have you ever tried to keep someone’s attraction by “playing the game”?
In this week’s new video, I want to get to the truth about “playing hard-to-get” and what really happens when you try to win attraction by playing games . . . Watch the full video now on my YouTube channel, or by heading over to MatthewHussey.com/blog (link in bio)
I have a keynote speech to give for a company today. I woke up at 4am LA time to work on my content. At 4:45am I went to the Starbucks with the earliest opening hours I could find, but when I got there, it turned out the place wasn’t open til 5:30am. A guy behind the counter setting up for the day saw me at the door, and came out to tell me they don’t open til 530am. Then he said: “Wait a minute, what is it you wanted?” I just said a black coffee with cream. He told me if I hung out in my car for 5 minutes, he would brew some and come out and give it to me. 5 minutes later, he was at my car with a coffee.
This is him. His name is Bryan. I wanted to say thank you to this man, so I asked him what he’s passionate about/interested in. He told me he went to school for sociology, but while he was there he joined a research team and fell in love with research. He’s been working in @starbucks for the last 6 years (which he loves and also loves his team), but he also loves the idea of being part of a clinical research team of some kind, as he realized he had a passion for it back in school. If you are part of a research team, or know anyone who is, and would be interested in someone kind, who goes over and above in their role for no reason other than it’s his nature, DM him. His IG is @bryaneees08. It’s set to private but you can still DM him.
P.S. Leave a comment telling me about someone who went over and above for you this week, or does in general. Tag them if you can!
Have you ever been tempted to follow dating advice that tells you to act aloof and indifferent?
The problem with this type of game-playing is that any standard we try to uphold without the proper foundations is not a standard, it’s a tactic—and a tactic (like “playing hard to get”) lacks substance and truth, which often leads to it crumbling at the first sign of resistance . . .
In today’s video, I want to share with you the transformation that happens in our dating lives when we develop an organic sense of value for ourselves that tells someone they must invest PROPERLY in order to truly connect . . . (FULL video on YouTube)
P.S. If this video speaks to you and you want to learn how to confidently communicate YOUR standards, I’ve created a space where you can dive deep into this transformative work through my Live Retreat program.
Embarking on this journey toward emotional congruence with our standards doesn’t just alter our actions; it revolutionizes our entire approach to relationships. The result is that you’ll naturally gravitate toward healthier dynamics, and your dating life will undergo a profound shift.
Just head to MHRetreat.com to learn more about joining us in Florida for 6 days of coaching immersion this September.
In today’s new video, I share with you the #1 resolution you should focus on this year to move toward a successful love life.
You’ll learn how to identify some of the deeper fundamental beliefs that may be working against you and how to start unwiring them. So whether you’re feeling broken, hopeless, frustrated, or just ready for a fresh start . . . this New Year’s message is for you.
(Full video on my Youtube channel)
Hanging out live, chatting about heartbreak ♥️
If you are going through heartbreak and want to hear more about how you can heal and reclaim your confidence, I have a series that will really help you. In this interview series you’ll find hard-won wisdom from some of the most inspiring speakers in the world.
Comment EXPERT and I’ll DM you all the details to start watching now (or head over to HeartbreakSeries.com)
⬅️ SWIPE LEFT for the before and after 😃🧡! This is Taylor . . .
She came to an event I did with @cosmopolitan in a hotel in New York nearly 10 years ago back when I had a column in the magazine!! The other morning she saw me working out in LA and came over to tell me, and then pulled up this picture of the two of us from that event! Insane.
The second picture is us two today. She now gives advice on her account, so give her a follow people @sparklequeenla
I love bumping into you guys all over the world, and it’s extra special when we have history together. We have these beautiful moments in time together, then I go away and grow up, you go away and grow up, and we compare notes. It’s amazing. Let’s keep growing together over a lifetime all! Love you guys xxx
And thank you @sparklequeenla for making this special moment with me! Made my day. 🧡💛❤️
Here’s the problem: Every “I’m fine” we utter only adds time to the clock, ticking away moments we could spend living in radical acceptance of where we truly are.
The toll this takes on us can be profound, because internally, this pretending only prolongs the pain that nobody else sees.
The world might see us as strong and resilient, but in an attempt to keep up appearances, we mask our authentic experience of life, which only disconnects us further from it.
True growth can’t begin until we have the courage to accept where we are, right now—acknowledging our truths, facing our fears, and embracing our vulnerabilities.
Getting people to this place of radical acceptance is the starting point of my Retreat program. Over 6 immersive days, we create a safe environment to confront those truths, shed the weight of pretense, and heal. In a world where vulnerability often feels impossible, here is where we find the courage to make genuine progress.
So if 2024 is the year you want to confront life’s complexities head-on, with courage and self-compassion, this is your invitation. Come join me. Apply now at MHRetreat.com.
Let’s stop pretending and start living, together.
Have you ever found yourself approaching a situation where you feel hurt, with your weapons first? Next time you find yourself in an emotionally complex situation with your partner, take a moment an evaluate. Am I approaching them with anger first, or am I communicating what I need, and how I feel in a way that they can be on my team, rather than my enemy?
If you’ve experienced this before, tell me how you’ve dealt with this in the past in the comments.
Witnessing the incredible courage of participants in my Retreat program is humbling, and never fails to amaze me.
Committing to a full week of confronting life’s toughest challenges demands genuine bravery, and facing them head-on is an act of raw courage that’s truly inspiring.
But what makes this journey beautiful is that, in willingly confronting these challenges, we’re not just saving time—we’re rescuing ourselves from potentially months, even years, unnecessarily spent in a painful space.
For those in search of a safe, supportive space to embrace vulnerability, undergo profound healing, and foster lasting change, our Live Retreat returns to Florida this year from September 9-15.
This Retreat is the heartbeat of my organization, and the soul of my team and me.
It involves 6 days of immersion for your personal growth, paired with unforgettable experiences—all designed to create the ideal environment for you to build a fulfilling relationship with yourself, create the life you want, and find the magic within you.
If you want to take a deeper journey with me this year, head to MHRetreat.com to learn more about this transformative process, and how you can become a part of our global tribe in 2024.
Know anyone who wants to raise their standards, find their person, and live happily (no matter what) this Valentine’s Day? My new book Love Life is the gift of peace, happiness, and the tools to find real love. Who could you order a copy for today as a valentines gift today?
Also, this month only when you preorder a copy of the book, you get access to my expert series “Happiness After Heartbreak”. Nearly 7 hours of video training with world leading experts like Nicole Le Pera (The Holistic Psychologist), Dr. Ramani, David Kessler, Lewis Howes, Glo Atanmo, Amy Porterfield, and Tom and Lisa Bilyeu, all helping you move through any kind of grief of heartbreak you might be experiencing right now.
Comment ‘EXPERT’ below to get this offer.
You’ll get immediate access to the free expert series. The book will ship April 23rd, but the expert series is available right now as soon as you order.
You can also do this via www.HeartbreakSeries.com 🧡
