Deepak Chopra Instagram – #AskDeepak “I am actively participating in several of your meditation experiences. The last one “Manifesting grace through gratitude” has given me enormous insights and shifts in awareness. I have taken steps in seeing all human beings as one instead of being separated individuals and I can see their ego struggles through their actions. I can feel compassion for each and everyone, except for my husband. Why is it so difficult to detach from all the insults and accusations that are thrown at me by my husband? Why am I not able to see his struggling ego? Please help me gain insight as it is difficult for me to stay committed to my marriage this way, although I do wish to regain a connection with my husband again.” My response: Firstly, there is no excuse for your husband insulting you. So you don’t need to feel bad about not feeling compassionate about his behavior. The other thing is that certain people in our life are so much a part of our hearts and soul, that we no longer seem to have any defense against them at the subconscious level. The hurt and attacks from them go so deep that it feels like we are being hurt from the inside. Healing this depth of trauma requires that we find our core self, our whole, unhurt self at our essence. Through meditation or other spiritual practices, we reclaim this healthy, whole center of our Being, and from there we heal the old hurts and learn to see these attacks and insults as the foreign and irrelevant behavior it truly is. Love, Deepak