Fearne Cotton Instagram – I have to ask myself this question all the time. If I’m in the middle of a panic at attack at night, or my anxiety has peaked I have to examine where my focus lies. Am I in the story I’ve created, which is familiar and easy to fall into, or the reality of a situation. Sometimes when I’m spun out by anxiety it’s very hard to tell. We all have certain narratives that are familiar. It could be that you’re a bad person, or always get it wrong, or that disaster is imminent, or you’re unsafe. It will be bespoke due to your own life experience. I fall into my own mental story constantly and get lost in it, rather than taking the harder, less familiar route of what’s really going on. If you suffer with anxiety I would suggest checking out @owenokaneten and @donnalancs feeds. Both have helped me out of my story many times over the years.