as @justinbieber also famously questioned in song… “is too late now to say sorrrryyyy?” When it comes to anyone, but especially our children, the answer is no. We can always shift our mindset and behavior — take personal responsibility and evolve as we grow and learn. Would you appreciate your parent stepping into your life with this approach even now as a grown-up individual?
Lots of things addressed in this video minus the fact that part of me wants to off Vicky a snuggle. Can I be stopped? Will my desire for emotional and physical availability to my children cripple them for life? Is 16 my cut off? Will my children suffer… will they be able to walk down the street at 24 without me? The world may never know. Just kidding there is quality research around this subject that I clearly feel called to share. 😂🥲 What are your thoughts? Also your thoughts on the sleep concept too! Let’s talk about it all!
It’s honestly slide 3 for me because those internalized thought patterns and conditioned belief systems were my own for much of my life— If I made a mistake or came up short for the concept I had in mind for what made me good enough/worthy of connection/lovable, any pain I endured I thought I deserved. It’s what I “needed” or “what I got” for not living up to the expectations I had for myself or others had for me. I know we all want our children to truly learn, to really develop a moral compass in alignment with our values… and the irony is that when we use shame to attempt to accomplish that, we often de-rail the real learning and rupture their self-esteem instead. Causing them to resent us, and disregard the very lesson we’re trying to explain. The intentions are good, but the strategy is not. Who’s thrilled to have these tools instead like me? 👋🏼
It’s honestly slide 3 for me because those internalized thought patterns and conditioned belief systems were my own for much of my life— If I made a mistake or came up short for the concept I had in mind for what made me good enough/worthy of connection/lovable, any pain I endured I thought I deserved. It’s what I “needed” or “what I got” for not living up to the expectations I had for myself or others had for me. I know we all want our children to truly learn, to really develop a moral compass in alignment with our values… and the irony is that when we use shame to attempt to accomplish that, we often de-rail the real learning and rupture their self-esteem instead. Causing them to resent us, and disregard the very lesson we’re trying to explain. The intentions are good, but the strategy is not. Who’s thrilled to have these tools instead like me? 👋🏼
It’s honestly slide 3 for me because those internalized thought patterns and conditioned belief systems were my own for much of my life— If I made a mistake or came up short for the concept I had in mind for what made me good enough/worthy of connection/lovable, any pain I endured I thought I deserved. It’s what I “needed” or “what I got” for not living up to the expectations I had for myself or others had for me. I know we all want our children to truly learn, to really develop a moral compass in alignment with our values… and the irony is that when we use shame to attempt to accomplish that, we often de-rail the real learning and rupture their self-esteem instead. Causing them to resent us, and disregard the very lesson we’re trying to explain. The intentions are good, but the strategy is not. Who’s thrilled to have these tools instead like me? 👋🏼
It’s honestly slide 3 for me because those internalized thought patterns and conditioned belief systems were my own for much of my life— If I made a mistake or came up short for the concept I had in mind for what made me good enough/worthy of connection/lovable, any pain I endured I thought I deserved. It’s what I “needed” or “what I got” for not living up to the expectations I had for myself or others had for me. I know we all want our children to truly learn, to really develop a moral compass in alignment with our values… and the irony is that when we use shame to attempt to accomplish that, we often de-rail the real learning and rupture their self-esteem instead. Causing them to resent us, and disregard the very lesson we’re trying to explain. The intentions are good, but the strategy is not. Who’s thrilled to have these tools instead like me? 👋🏼
It’s honestly slide 3 for me because those internalized thought patterns and conditioned belief systems were my own for much of my life— If I made a mistake or came up short for the concept I had in mind for what made me good enough/worthy of connection/lovable, any pain I endured I thought I deserved. It’s what I “needed” or “what I got” for not living up to the expectations I had for myself or others had for me. I know we all want our children to truly learn, to really develop a moral compass in alignment with our values… and the irony is that when we use shame to attempt to accomplish that, we often de-rail the real learning and rupture their self-esteem instead. Causing them to resent us, and disregard the very lesson we’re trying to explain. The intentions are good, but the strategy is not. Who’s thrilled to have these tools instead like me? 👋🏼
Parenting consciously isn’t about the child or parent being perfect and performative. It’s about the growing awareness, shifting mindset and old unhelpful patterns. Along the way, we learn so much about development and healthy expectations not only for our children but also for ourselves. Why we have the urges to react instead of respond… why we resort to shame and criticism and guilt… how our daily choices are impacting our nervous systems. To truly parent our children consciously, we have to be what we wish to teach and that starts with re-parenting ourselves. My course, podcast YouTube channel are all great places to move into a healthier dynamic where everyone thrives. ☁️
Parenting consciously isn’t about the child or parent being perfect and performative. It’s about the growing awareness, shifting mindset and old unhelpful patterns. Along the way, we learn so much about development and healthy expectations not only for our children but also for ourselves. Why we have the urges to react instead of respond… why we resort to shame and criticism and guilt… how our daily choices are impacting our nervous systems. To truly parent our children consciously, we have to be what we wish to teach and that starts with re-parenting ourselves. My course, podcast YouTube channel are all great places to move into a healthier dynamic where everyone thrives. ☁️
Parenting consciously isn’t about the child or parent being perfect and performative. It’s about the growing awareness, shifting mindset and old unhelpful patterns. Along the way, we learn so much about development and healthy expectations not only for our children but also for ourselves. Why we have the urges to react instead of respond… why we resort to shame and criticism and guilt… how our daily choices are impacting our nervous systems. To truly parent our children consciously, we have to be what we wish to teach and that starts with re-parenting ourselves. My course, podcast YouTube channel are all great places to move into a healthier dynamic where everyone thrives. ☁️
When we love ourselves it is so so easy to love others. If you’re feeling resentful, not enough, un-recognized and spread thin— it’s time to take a look at your mental diet and the thoughts you allow to play most often. Take those thoughts captive and then adjust your lens to focus on: the things you do well, the ways you are winning, little details that you can feel grateful for & watch your entire outlook and experience change too, 🖼️
Step 1 of conscious parenting is being aware of our interpretations of things & the reactions that follow. If we can build our awareness around what we feel, why we feel it, what we think & why we think it, and then how we behave in response to those thoughts and feelings… we can truly be present and at peace. Have you found yourself offended or taking something someone on the internet shared personally lately? How about taking your children’s behavior personally?
So now we might ask, “how do I feel my absolute best, most confident, most radiant, most loved…” When we figure out the answers to those questions, our children meet that version of us & receive the same unconditional love to move forward in the world with. What a beautiful chain reaction. ☁️
A 12 things post for fun!! 1. Rounding out year 30 of my life and think I spent it understanding the psychological experience of my 20s, 😂 Does anyone else relate to this? I wonder if I’ll do that again when I’m 40… 2. My next mellow moment is going to be…. *Drumroll* released May 1st! A surprise until then but one that I’ve personally been using this month & it has been so impactful I can’t wait to share it. 3. Having the birds back listening to their sweet little songs has been so uplifting lately… I love spring time even the rainy days. 4. I don’t think there’s ever been a time I leaned into prayer more and felt more in control of my thoughts on a daily basis and it’s been amazing to see the miracles happening all around me my family every day. 5. Still working on my pull-up goal and my best so far is 11 but I’m really relaxed about the outcome! Also need as many 5 star reviews on the podcast as I can get to move up to the top 10 in parenting podcasts! ⭐️! 6. Planning birthday things for our month of birthdays and wanting to possibly do something different from a traditional party… give me your best traditions, 🥲 7. Nonviolent Communication on the podcast has been so life-giving for me to make episodes for— I genuinely look forward to sitting down and recording. I always wish every listener could be right there with me in my living room sipping tea with me. 8. Saw Dan Shay with my best friend for her birthday present and it was so much fun. They are my comfort band, 😂 9. I’ve written something really special and am deciding whether or not I should illustrate it myself or hire someone… I’m thinking a blend of Nancy Tillman and Leo Lionni? 10. Still obsessed with arbonne and so proud of my team, 🥹 after taking so much time away to focus on the course and podcast, building it for a second time has been so rewarding and slow, steady intentional just like I like. 11. Favorite snack at the moment is hands down thin sliced English cucumber with olive oil, vinegar, salt, chili flakes, sesame oil… ☁️ 12. Tommy and I go back to our dance lessons soon and I can’t wait. To wear a cute ballroom outfit with the slick bun, wow… a dream.
A 12 things post for fun!! 1. Rounding out year 30 of my life and think I spent it understanding the psychological experience of my 20s, 😂 Does anyone else relate to this? I wonder if I’ll do that again when I’m 40… 2. My next mellow moment is going to be…. *Drumroll* released May 1st! A surprise until then but one that I’ve personally been using this month & it has been so impactful I can’t wait to share it. 3. Having the birds back listening to their sweet little songs has been so uplifting lately… I love spring time even the rainy days. 4. I don’t think there’s ever been a time I leaned into prayer more and felt more in control of my thoughts on a daily basis and it’s been amazing to see the miracles happening all around me my family every day. 5. Still working on my pull-up goal and my best so far is 11 but I’m really relaxed about the outcome! Also need as many 5 star reviews on the podcast as I can get to move up to the top 10 in parenting podcasts! ⭐️! 6. Planning birthday things for our month of birthdays and wanting to possibly do something different from a traditional party… give me your best traditions, 🥲 7. Nonviolent Communication on the podcast has been so life-giving for me to make episodes for— I genuinely look forward to sitting down and recording. I always wish every listener could be right there with me in my living room sipping tea with me. 8. Saw Dan Shay with my best friend for her birthday present and it was so much fun. They are my comfort band, 😂 9. I’ve written something really special and am deciding whether or not I should illustrate it myself or hire someone… I’m thinking a blend of Nancy Tillman and Leo Lionni? 10. Still obsessed with arbonne and so proud of my team, 🥹 after taking so much time away to focus on the course and podcast, building it for a second time has been so rewarding and slow, steady intentional just like I like. 11. Favorite snack at the moment is hands down thin sliced English cucumber with olive oil, vinegar, salt, chili flakes, sesame oil… ☁️ 12. Tommy and I go back to our dance lessons soon and I can’t wait. To wear a cute ballroom outfit with the slick bun, wow… a dream.
A 12 things post for fun!! 1. Rounding out year 30 of my life and think I spent it understanding the psychological experience of my 20s, 😂 Does anyone else relate to this? I wonder if I’ll do that again when I’m 40… 2. My next mellow moment is going to be…. *Drumroll* released May 1st! A surprise until then but one that I’ve personally been using this month & it has been so impactful I can’t wait to share it. 3. Having the birds back listening to their sweet little songs has been so uplifting lately… I love spring time even the rainy days. 4. I don’t think there’s ever been a time I leaned into prayer more and felt more in control of my thoughts on a daily basis and it’s been amazing to see the miracles happening all around me my family every day. 5. Still working on my pull-up goal and my best so far is 11 but I’m really relaxed about the outcome! Also need as many 5 star reviews on the podcast as I can get to move up to the top 10 in parenting podcasts! ⭐️! 6. Planning birthday things for our month of birthdays and wanting to possibly do something different from a traditional party… give me your best traditions, 🥲 7. Nonviolent Communication on the podcast has been so life-giving for me to make episodes for— I genuinely look forward to sitting down and recording. I always wish every listener could be right there with me in my living room sipping tea with me. 8. Saw Dan Shay with my best friend for her birthday present and it was so much fun. They are my comfort band, 😂 9. I’ve written something really special and am deciding whether or not I should illustrate it myself or hire someone… I’m thinking a blend of Nancy Tillman and Leo Lionni? 10. Still obsessed with arbonne and so proud of my team, 🥹 after taking so much time away to focus on the course and podcast, building it for a second time has been so rewarding and slow, steady intentional just like I like. 11. Favorite snack at the moment is hands down thin sliced English cucumber with olive oil, vinegar, salt, chili flakes, sesame oil… ☁️ 12. Tommy and I go back to our dance lessons soon and I can’t wait. To wear a cute ballroom outfit with the slick bun, wow… a dream.
A 12 things post for fun!! 1. Rounding out year 30 of my life and think I spent it understanding the psychological experience of my 20s, 😂 Does anyone else relate to this? I wonder if I’ll do that again when I’m 40… 2. My next mellow moment is going to be…. *Drumroll* released May 1st! A surprise until then but one that I’ve personally been using this month & it has been so impactful I can’t wait to share it. 3. Having the birds back listening to their sweet little songs has been so uplifting lately… I love spring time even the rainy days. 4. I don’t think there’s ever been a time I leaned into prayer more and felt more in control of my thoughts on a daily basis and it’s been amazing to see the miracles happening all around me my family every day. 5. Still working on my pull-up goal and my best so far is 11 but I’m really relaxed about the outcome! Also need as many 5 star reviews on the podcast as I can get to move up to the top 10 in parenting podcasts! ⭐️! 6. Planning birthday things for our month of birthdays and wanting to possibly do something different from a traditional party… give me your best traditions, 🥲 7. Nonviolent Communication on the podcast has been so life-giving for me to make episodes for— I genuinely look forward to sitting down and recording. I always wish every listener could be right there with me in my living room sipping tea with me. 8. Saw Dan Shay with my best friend for her birthday present and it was so much fun. They are my comfort band, 😂 9. I’ve written something really special and am deciding whether or not I should illustrate it myself or hire someone… I’m thinking a blend of Nancy Tillman and Leo Lionni? 10. Still obsessed with arbonne and so proud of my team, 🥹 after taking so much time away to focus on the course and podcast, building it for a second time has been so rewarding and slow, steady intentional just like I like. 11. Favorite snack at the moment is hands down thin sliced English cucumber with olive oil, vinegar, salt, chili flakes, sesame oil… ☁️ 12. Tommy and I go back to our dance lessons soon and I can’t wait. To wear a cute ballroom outfit with the slick bun, wow… a dream.
A 12 things post for fun!! 1. Rounding out year 30 of my life and think I spent it understanding the psychological experience of my 20s, 😂 Does anyone else relate to this? I wonder if I’ll do that again when I’m 40… 2. My next mellow moment is going to be…. *Drumroll* released May 1st! A surprise until then but one that I’ve personally been using this month & it has been so impactful I can’t wait to share it. 3. Having the birds back listening to their sweet little songs has been so uplifting lately… I love spring time even the rainy days. 4. I don’t think there’s ever been a time I leaned into prayer more and felt more in control of my thoughts on a daily basis and it’s been amazing to see the miracles happening all around me my family every day. 5. Still working on my pull-up goal and my best so far is 11 but I’m really relaxed about the outcome! Also need as many 5 star reviews on the podcast as I can get to move up to the top 10 in parenting podcasts! ⭐️! 6. Planning birthday things for our month of birthdays and wanting to possibly do something different from a traditional party… give me your best traditions, 🥲 7. Nonviolent Communication on the podcast has been so life-giving for me to make episodes for— I genuinely look forward to sitting down and recording. I always wish every listener could be right there with me in my living room sipping tea with me. 8. Saw Dan Shay with my best friend for her birthday present and it was so much fun. They are my comfort band, 😂 9. I’ve written something really special and am deciding whether or not I should illustrate it myself or hire someone… I’m thinking a blend of Nancy Tillman and Leo Lionni? 10. Still obsessed with arbonne and so proud of my team, 🥹 after taking so much time away to focus on the course and podcast, building it for a second time has been so rewarding and slow, steady intentional just like I like. 11. Favorite snack at the moment is hands down thin sliced English cucumber with olive oil, vinegar, salt, chili flakes, sesame oil… ☁️ 12. Tommy and I go back to our dance lessons soon and I can’t wait. To wear a cute ballroom outfit with the slick bun, wow… a dream.
A 12 things post for fun!! 1. Rounding out year 30 of my life and think I spent it understanding the psychological experience of my 20s, 😂 Does anyone else relate to this? I wonder if I’ll do that again when I’m 40… 2. My next mellow moment is going to be…. *Drumroll* released May 1st! A surprise until then but one that I’ve personally been using this month & it has been so impactful I can’t wait to share it. 3. Having the birds back listening to their sweet little songs has been so uplifting lately… I love spring time even the rainy days. 4. I don’t think there’s ever been a time I leaned into prayer more and felt more in control of my thoughts on a daily basis and it’s been amazing to see the miracles happening all around me my family every day. 5. Still working on my pull-up goal and my best so far is 11 but I’m really relaxed about the outcome! Also need as many 5 star reviews on the podcast as I can get to move up to the top 10 in parenting podcasts! ⭐️! 6. Planning birthday things for our month of birthdays and wanting to possibly do something different from a traditional party… give me your best traditions, 🥲 7. Nonviolent Communication on the podcast has been so life-giving for me to make episodes for— I genuinely look forward to sitting down and recording. I always wish every listener could be right there with me in my living room sipping tea with me. 8. Saw Dan Shay with my best friend for her birthday present and it was so much fun. They are my comfort band, 😂 9. I’ve written something really special and am deciding whether or not I should illustrate it myself or hire someone… I’m thinking a blend of Nancy Tillman and Leo Lionni? 10. Still obsessed with arbonne and so proud of my team, 🥹 after taking so much time away to focus on the course and podcast, building it for a second time has been so rewarding and slow, steady intentional just like I like. 11. Favorite snack at the moment is hands down thin sliced English cucumber with olive oil, vinegar, salt, chili flakes, sesame oil… ☁️ 12. Tommy and I go back to our dance lessons soon and I can’t wait. To wear a cute ballroom outfit with the slick bun, wow… a dream.
A 12 things post for fun!! 1. Rounding out year 30 of my life and think I spent it understanding the psychological experience of my 20s, 😂 Does anyone else relate to this? I wonder if I’ll do that again when I’m 40… 2. My next mellow moment is going to be…. *Drumroll* released May 1st! A surprise until then but one that I’ve personally been using this month & it has been so impactful I can’t wait to share it. 3. Having the birds back listening to their sweet little songs has been so uplifting lately… I love spring time even the rainy days. 4. I don’t think there’s ever been a time I leaned into prayer more and felt more in control of my thoughts on a daily basis and it’s been amazing to see the miracles happening all around me my family every day. 5. Still working on my pull-up goal and my best so far is 11 but I’m really relaxed about the outcome! Also need as many 5 star reviews on the podcast as I can get to move up to the top 10 in parenting podcasts! ⭐️! 6. Planning birthday things for our month of birthdays and wanting to possibly do something different from a traditional party… give me your best traditions, 🥲 7. Nonviolent Communication on the podcast has been so life-giving for me to make episodes for— I genuinely look forward to sitting down and recording. I always wish every listener could be right there with me in my living room sipping tea with me. 8. Saw Dan Shay with my best friend for her birthday present and it was so much fun. They are my comfort band, 😂 9. I’ve written something really special and am deciding whether or not I should illustrate it myself or hire someone… I’m thinking a blend of Nancy Tillman and Leo Lionni? 10. Still obsessed with arbonne and so proud of my team, 🥹 after taking so much time away to focus on the course and podcast, building it for a second time has been so rewarding and slow, steady intentional just like I like. 11. Favorite snack at the moment is hands down thin sliced English cucumber with olive oil, vinegar, salt, chili flakes, sesame oil… ☁️ 12. Tommy and I go back to our dance lessons soon and I can’t wait. To wear a cute ballroom outfit with the slick bun, wow… a dream.
A 12 things post for fun!! 1. Rounding out year 30 of my life and think I spent it understanding the psychological experience of my 20s, 😂 Does anyone else relate to this? I wonder if I’ll do that again when I’m 40… 2. My next mellow moment is going to be…. *Drumroll* released May 1st! A surprise until then but one that I’ve personally been using this month & it has been so impactful I can’t wait to share it. 3. Having the birds back listening to their sweet little songs has been so uplifting lately… I love spring time even the rainy days. 4. I don’t think there’s ever been a time I leaned into prayer more and felt more in control of my thoughts on a daily basis and it’s been amazing to see the miracles happening all around me my family every day. 5. Still working on my pull-up goal and my best so far is 11 but I’m really relaxed about the outcome! Also need as many 5 star reviews on the podcast as I can get to move up to the top 10 in parenting podcasts! ⭐️! 6. Planning birthday things for our month of birthdays and wanting to possibly do something different from a traditional party… give me your best traditions, 🥲 7. Nonviolent Communication on the podcast has been so life-giving for me to make episodes for— I genuinely look forward to sitting down and recording. I always wish every listener could be right there with me in my living room sipping tea with me. 8. Saw Dan Shay with my best friend for her birthday present and it was so much fun. They are my comfort band, 😂 9. I’ve written something really special and am deciding whether or not I should illustrate it myself or hire someone… I’m thinking a blend of Nancy Tillman and Leo Lionni? 10. Still obsessed with arbonne and so proud of my team, 🥹 after taking so much time away to focus on the course and podcast, building it for a second time has been so rewarding and slow, steady intentional just like I like. 11. Favorite snack at the moment is hands down thin sliced English cucumber with olive oil, vinegar, salt, chili flakes, sesame oil… ☁️ 12. Tommy and I go back to our dance lessons soon and I can’t wait. To wear a cute ballroom outfit with the slick bun, wow… a dream.
A 12 things post for fun!! 1. Rounding out year 30 of my life and think I spent it understanding the psychological experience of my 20s, 😂 Does anyone else relate to this? I wonder if I’ll do that again when I’m 40… 2. My next mellow moment is going to be…. *Drumroll* released May 1st! A surprise until then but one that I’ve personally been using this month & it has been so impactful I can’t wait to share it. 3. Having the birds back listening to their sweet little songs has been so uplifting lately… I love spring time even the rainy days. 4. I don’t think there’s ever been a time I leaned into prayer more and felt more in control of my thoughts on a daily basis and it’s been amazing to see the miracles happening all around me my family every day. 5. Still working on my pull-up goal and my best so far is 11 but I’m really relaxed about the outcome! Also need as many 5 star reviews on the podcast as I can get to move up to the top 10 in parenting podcasts! ⭐️! 6. Planning birthday things for our month of birthdays and wanting to possibly do something different from a traditional party… give me your best traditions, 🥲 7. Nonviolent Communication on the podcast has been so life-giving for me to make episodes for— I genuinely look forward to sitting down and recording. I always wish every listener could be right there with me in my living room sipping tea with me. 8. Saw Dan Shay with my best friend for her birthday present and it was so much fun. They are my comfort band, 😂 9. I’ve written something really special and am deciding whether or not I should illustrate it myself or hire someone… I’m thinking a blend of Nancy Tillman and Leo Lionni? 10. Still obsessed with arbonne and so proud of my team, 🥹 after taking so much time away to focus on the course and podcast, building it for a second time has been so rewarding and slow, steady intentional just like I like. 11. Favorite snack at the moment is hands down thin sliced English cucumber with olive oil, vinegar, salt, chili flakes, sesame oil… ☁️ 12. Tommy and I go back to our dance lessons soon and I can’t wait. To wear a cute ballroom outfit with the slick bun, wow… a dream.
Our nervous system isn’t designed for constant chitter chatter, stimulation, and noise. Just like our children less activities, less extra curricular plans, more peace and quiet… time to be human, we do too. ☁️
Who were you before the world told you to be? Before you had to start living in survival mode, picking up on every cue and signal & taking mental notes on how to be lovable and have your needs met? what a gift it is for our children to be unfamiliar with these layers and coping strategies. To equip them with what truly helps any person thrive: real self-esteem.
