The Blessed Madonna Instagram – I have been struggling with what to say. I wanted to balance my need for emotional privacy with the desire to honor the women in my life who are most important to me. During Coachella, my friend of 25 years, Taiisha Devonish came with a diagnosis of cancer and went from bad to end stage in about a week during the trip. It was profound and terrifying. Over decades we have been to countless festivals and raves together in a small tight group. It seemed impossible that Taiisha could die. There was hope from a second opinion on the way to Cali, but when she arrived I knew in my heart this was the last adventure. She fought bravely. When she arrived she came into my to my room quietly and said: I want to live. I want to do this. And she did. She wanted to live. She got every drop out of life. Life isn’t fair but I can’t think of a less deserving subject of the pain she endured. The only thing that makes me feel better is the awe I have for my sister @squishmom and the rest of our chosen family that stepped up. You know who you are. When Taiisha made her exit, she was swarmed with love in a full room. What everyone experienced was difficult, traumatic. We tried so hard to give her more days. More minutes. More months. We’re all on borrowed time. We are devastated by her loss. I feel not only my own pain but the pain of the women who have made a long deep sisterhood with me over the last 20 years. These women travel with me. They make me do human stuff. We prank each other constantly. I don’t deserve them. They have made a life which is wonderful but sometimes isolating, into a world where I am never alone. And they made sure as hell sure that Taiisha was never alone. I have the best chosen family you could have. Taiisha, I feel comfort knowing that wherever I go someday, you’ll be there too. I love you and we will all look after Amy and the rest of the family who love you. Thank you for letting me be in your life. You were the best of us but the love remains. I also want to thank the @coachella staff for sparing no effort to make her comfortable. I could say a thousand things you did right. You gave us a tremendous gift.