Let me know in the comments what you think of the concept of getting back on the monogamy wagon when someone falls off. Would that work for you? And thank you again to #DanSavage for coming on the Ten Percent Happier podcast. To hear our full conversation check out my link in bio. #relationship #partner #love
Tune into Problem Solved for my conversation with @dansavage Together, we tackle listener questions on cheating, polyamory anxiety, and the expectation of celebrities to uphold moral standards. We talk about the questions we wish people would ask us and the questions we hope we never have to hear again. Plus, Dan explains why he can’t check his email on planes. #mentalhealth #therapy #dating #datingadvice #poly
New Savage Lovecast! In the intro: Are the organizers of the Paris Olympics really trying to prevent the athletes from having sex? (Spoiler: No, they’re not!) Then: a woman who wants to explore her dominant side wonders whether there are any men out there who would be into that. (Must be a new listener!) Advice for a straight man whose partner won’t let him go down on her and some thoughts for a couple who wanna doooooo it in every one of our National Parks. And NYT bestselling authors @lyzlenz come on the show to talk about her new book This American Ex-Wife! Get the Lovecast wherever you get your podcasts or listen (and subscribe!) at savage.love!
New Sex & Politics up now with @timmillergram — a 4/20 special! We agreed months ago to meet up for a 4/20 show high and only one of us honored that sacred vow. Can you figure out who it was?
@dansavage recently coined a new word—#tolyamory—to describe a form of non-monogamy that’s entered when people “tolerate,” “put up with,” and “turn a blind eye to” their partner’s extra-curricular sexual activity, but don’t openly negotiate or endorse it. @huffpost reached out to me @love_insight_dating and Leanne Yau @polyphiliablog for comments. Check out the article for details! 💫 Please note that discussing this is not a *recommendation* for tolyamorous relationships. 🤷🏻♀️ But, it’s better to discuss what exists than to deny it. Tolyamory is a VERY common phenomenon, born from a society that attempts—unsuccessfully, of course—to enforce monogamy as a one-size-fits-all model. Also considering the impact of vastly unequal power dynamics, especially between people of different genders and socio-economic statuses, many people end up in situations where they feel like they have no “good”—or better—option. My hope is that this new media coverage of #tolyamory will bring more attention to the failures of mononormativity and the need for broader acceptance and normalization of #ethicallynonmonogamous ways of relating—so that we can all create more honest, transparent, and healthy intimate relationships! 😍 Thank you @kelseyborresen for bringing attention to this, and @dansavage for your awesome neologisms ❤️ @huffpostlife @polyphiliablog @kelseyborresen #enm #cnm #polyamorous #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #relationshipanarchy #solopoly #compersion #consciousrelationships
@dansavage recently coined a new word—#tolyamory—to describe a form of non-monogamy that’s entered when people “tolerate,” “put up with,” and “turn a blind eye to” their partner’s extra-curricular sexual activity, but don’t openly negotiate or endorse it. @huffpost reached out to me @love_insight_dating and Leanne Yau @polyphiliablog for comments. Check out the article for details! 💫 Please note that discussing this is not a *recommendation* for tolyamorous relationships. 🤷🏻♀️ But, it’s better to discuss what exists than to deny it. Tolyamory is a VERY common phenomenon, born from a society that attempts—unsuccessfully, of course—to enforce monogamy as a one-size-fits-all model. Also considering the impact of vastly unequal power dynamics, especially between people of different genders and socio-economic statuses, many people end up in situations where they feel like they have no “good”—or better—option. My hope is that this new media coverage of #tolyamory will bring more attention to the failures of mononormativity and the need for broader acceptance and normalization of #ethicallynonmonogamous ways of relating—so that we can all create more honest, transparent, and healthy intimate relationships! 😍 Thank you @kelseyborresen for bringing attention to this, and @dansavage for your awesome neologisms ❤️ @huffpostlife @polyphiliablog @kelseyborresen #enm #cnm #polyamorous #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #relationshipanarchy #solopoly #compersion #consciousrelationships
@dansavage recently coined a new word—#tolyamory—to describe a form of non-monogamy that’s entered when people “tolerate,” “put up with,” and “turn a blind eye to” their partner’s extra-curricular sexual activity, but don’t openly negotiate or endorse it. @huffpost reached out to me @love_insight_dating and Leanne Yau @polyphiliablog for comments. Check out the article for details! 💫 Please note that discussing this is not a *recommendation* for tolyamorous relationships. 🤷🏻♀️ But, it’s better to discuss what exists than to deny it. Tolyamory is a VERY common phenomenon, born from a society that attempts—unsuccessfully, of course—to enforce monogamy as a one-size-fits-all model. Also considering the impact of vastly unequal power dynamics, especially between people of different genders and socio-economic statuses, many people end up in situations where they feel like they have no “good”—or better—option. My hope is that this new media coverage of #tolyamory will bring more attention to the failures of mononormativity and the need for broader acceptance and normalization of #ethicallynonmonogamous ways of relating—so that we can all create more honest, transparent, and healthy intimate relationships! 😍 Thank you @kelseyborresen for bringing attention to this, and @dansavage for your awesome neologisms ❤️ @huffpostlife @polyphiliablog @kelseyborresen #enm #cnm #polyamorous #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #relationshipanarchy #solopoly #compersion #consciousrelationships
The Times of London @thetimes ran a story about #tolyamory —a neologism coined by @dansavage. I got interviewed by reporter @clairecohen1 to give my take on what the word means—and, most importantly, whether it’s all the French’s fault? 😂 I don’t think I’m being biased (even as a French Canadian!) when I say that tolyamory transcends geography and cultures. I think the combination of humans not being a naturally monogamous species WITH living in mononormative societies where most people can’t afford to be openly or ethically non-monogamous for fear of repercussions is a recipe for deception and betrayal. I don’t condone or recommend tolyamory. I don’t think being tolyamorous is not anyone’s ideal situation. But, living in a less-than-ideal world, I have empathy for how countless folks consider it their most realistic option. Abandoning the social privileges of monogamous coupledom is still too costly for many people—particularly women. That’s a big reason why it’s important to continue doing the work to destigmatize ethical forms of #nonmonogamy and promote gender equity everywhere around the globe. I would love to see a world where people do not feel the need to lie, conceal, cheat, or stay with partners with whom honesty cannot thrive. To move closer to this, I believe discussing (rather than hiding) common relational realities—and breaking up with the illusion than monogamy is the only legitimate way to love—is an important step. What do you all think? Were you ever in a toly situation? Do you think toly can ever be considered “ethical”…? 🤓 #enm #cnm #nonmonogamy #polyamorous #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #compersion #sexatdawn #monogamy
The Times of London @thetimes ran a story about #tolyamory —a neologism coined by @dansavage. I got interviewed by reporter @clairecohen1 to give my take on what the word means—and, most importantly, whether it’s all the French’s fault? 😂 I don’t think I’m being biased (even as a French Canadian!) when I say that tolyamory transcends geography and cultures. I think the combination of humans not being a naturally monogamous species WITH living in mononormative societies where most people can’t afford to be openly or ethically non-monogamous for fear of repercussions is a recipe for deception and betrayal. I don’t condone or recommend tolyamory. I don’t think being tolyamorous is not anyone’s ideal situation. But, living in a less-than-ideal world, I have empathy for how countless folks consider it their most realistic option. Abandoning the social privileges of monogamous coupledom is still too costly for many people—particularly women. That’s a big reason why it’s important to continue doing the work to destigmatize ethical forms of #nonmonogamy and promote gender equity everywhere around the globe. I would love to see a world where people do not feel the need to lie, conceal, cheat, or stay with partners with whom honesty cannot thrive. To move closer to this, I believe discussing (rather than hiding) common relational realities—and breaking up with the illusion than monogamy is the only legitimate way to love—is an important step. What do you all think? Were you ever in a toly situation? Do you think toly can ever be considered “ethical”…? 🤓 #enm #cnm #nonmonogamy #polyamorous #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #compersion #sexatdawn #monogamy
The Times of London @thetimes ran a story about #tolyamory —a neologism coined by @dansavage. I got interviewed by reporter @clairecohen1 to give my take on what the word means—and, most importantly, whether it’s all the French’s fault? 😂 I don’t think I’m being biased (even as a French Canadian!) when I say that tolyamory transcends geography and cultures. I think the combination of humans not being a naturally monogamous species WITH living in mononormative societies where most people can’t afford to be openly or ethically non-monogamous for fear of repercussions is a recipe for deception and betrayal. I don’t condone or recommend tolyamory. I don’t think being tolyamorous is not anyone’s ideal situation. But, living in a less-than-ideal world, I have empathy for how countless folks consider it their most realistic option. Abandoning the social privileges of monogamous coupledom is still too costly for many people—particularly women. That’s a big reason why it’s important to continue doing the work to destigmatize ethical forms of #nonmonogamy and promote gender equity everywhere around the globe. I would love to see a world where people do not feel the need to lie, conceal, cheat, or stay with partners with whom honesty cannot thrive. To move closer to this, I believe discussing (rather than hiding) common relational realities—and breaking up with the illusion than monogamy is the only legitimate way to love—is an important step. What do you all think? Were you ever in a toly situation? Do you think toly can ever be considered “ethical”…? 🤓 #enm #cnm #nonmonogamy #polyamorous #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #compersion #sexatdawn #monogamy
The Times of London @thetimes ran a story about #tolyamory —a neologism coined by @dansavage. I got interviewed by reporter @clairecohen1 to give my take on what the word means—and, most importantly, whether it’s all the French’s fault? 😂 I don’t think I’m being biased (even as a French Canadian!) when I say that tolyamory transcends geography and cultures. I think the combination of humans not being a naturally monogamous species WITH living in mononormative societies where most people can’t afford to be openly or ethically non-monogamous for fear of repercussions is a recipe for deception and betrayal. I don’t condone or recommend tolyamory. I don’t think being tolyamorous is not anyone’s ideal situation. But, living in a less-than-ideal world, I have empathy for how countless folks consider it their most realistic option. Abandoning the social privileges of monogamous coupledom is still too costly for many people—particularly women. That’s a big reason why it’s important to continue doing the work to destigmatize ethical forms of #nonmonogamy and promote gender equity everywhere around the globe. I would love to see a world where people do not feel the need to lie, conceal, cheat, or stay with partners with whom honesty cannot thrive. To move closer to this, I believe discussing (rather than hiding) common relational realities—and breaking up with the illusion than monogamy is the only legitimate way to love—is an important step. What do you all think? Were you ever in a toly situation? Do you think toly can ever be considered “ethical”…? 🤓 #enm #cnm #nonmonogamy #polyamorous #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #compersion #sexatdawn #monogamy
The Times of London @thetimes ran a story about #tolyamory —a neologism coined by @dansavage. I got interviewed by reporter @clairecohen1 to give my take on what the word means—and, most importantly, whether it’s all the French’s fault? 😂 I don’t think I’m being biased (even as a French Canadian!) when I say that tolyamory transcends geography and cultures. I think the combination of humans not being a naturally monogamous species WITH living in mononormative societies where most people can’t afford to be openly or ethically non-monogamous for fear of repercussions is a recipe for deception and betrayal. I don’t condone or recommend tolyamory. I don’t think being tolyamorous is not anyone’s ideal situation. But, living in a less-than-ideal world, I have empathy for how countless folks consider it their most realistic option. Abandoning the social privileges of monogamous coupledom is still too costly for many people—particularly women. That’s a big reason why it’s important to continue doing the work to destigmatize ethical forms of #nonmonogamy and promote gender equity everywhere around the globe. I would love to see a world where people do not feel the need to lie, conceal, cheat, or stay with partners with whom honesty cannot thrive. To move closer to this, I believe discussing (rather than hiding) common relational realities—and breaking up with the illusion than monogamy is the only legitimate way to love—is an important step. What do you all think? Were you ever in a toly situation? Do you think toly can ever be considered “ethical”…? 🤓 #enm #cnm #nonmonogamy #polyamorous #polyamory #ethicalnonmonogamy #consensualnonmonogamy #compersion #sexatdawn #monogamy
Does anyone… still wear… a hat?
bitch staring me down while im tryin to work
I resent the omission.
Hello, Martin.
No idea what statement this Easter display is trying to make.
New Savage Lovecast! I talk about the increasing uselessness of dating apps — and the fact that they’re spying on us — before taking listener sex questions about party fouls, sex workers, body counts, and more. And then joining me for Second Opinion: Slate’s current reigning Dear Prudence Jenée Desmond-Harris! We talk about Desmond-Harris’s move from serious journalism to the equally serious business of dishing out relationship advice! She’s been at it for a few years now and she shares some things she’s learned writing a high-profile advice column, some things she worries about, and some things she doesn’t worry about. And we take some listener sex questions together! Listen now at savage.love!
New Savage Lovecast! In the intro: Dan was rooting for Croatia during #eurovision2024 — find out why at the top of the show! Then: He’s young, he’s hot, but the girls aren’t biting. Is it because he’s trans? Plus: dipping is gross but wet-and-messy is hot! And joining me on the Magnum: Peggy Orenstein — author of “Girls & Sex” and “Boys & Sex” — comes on the show to talk about her viral essay in the NYT about choking (knock it off, people!) and sticks around to give a little sex advice! Lots more good stuff on the Micro & Magnum! Listen now where you get your podcasts or at savage.love!
New Savage Lovecast! In the intro: Whoever you are, someone doesn’t want you at Pride — and isn’t that great? Then: a sexy male hairdresser hit on his wife and now she wants to up their marriage. (Like, she wants to open it RIGHT NOW.) Another caller wants to know whether women are received at night gay leather/fetish events like IML and Folsom and a straight guy nearly gets gay bashed and his gay tells him… he did it (nearly got gay bashed) all wrong. And joining me on the Magnum: Jason Roeder, former editor of The Onion, has a new advice column on Substack called “Bad Advice.” Just how bad is Jason’s advice? We invited him on the show to find out! Get the Lovecast wherever you get your podcasts or listen now at savage.love!
New Savage Lovecast up now! In the intro… Hollywood teases audiences with crazy sex but rarely delivers. (Talking to you, Challengers!) Then… lying liars and the blowjobs they give, new boyfriends and the $1000 sex dolls they have! And joining me on the Magnum: @zimmermanstan drops in to talk Golden Girls, Rosanne, gay men and their grandmas, being closeted in Hollywood and more! Then Stan sticks around to try his hand at giving sex advice! Listen now at savage.love!
New Savage Lovecast! In the intro: bisexual erasure is always wrong — even when you’re doing it to swarms of insatiable cicadas! Then financial domination with @mz.kim.ap, being a third in a triad with @neilmcneil, vibrators, your straight friend’s closeted gay husband and more! Listen now at savage.love!
New Savage Lovecast with guest @zimmermanstan! Listen at savage.love!
