Brain development/ structure in the early years,0-5, how it thrives through human loving interaction,the function of the brain and its ignition throughout the teen years, is it truly any suprise we are seeing a rise in the numbers of some types of Neuro Divergence parallel to the over extended use of technology from the get go?
I don’t think so families.
Baby media makes no significant impact. They smile & respond to the pitch, the tone,the interaction a parent may engage with them.
The circuit of the brains ability to develop is arrested through over use of screens with Toddlers and their language,comprehension can become delayed.
7 – 11 yrs with impaired simple excutive functioning tasks. Digital dementia.
Teens and their lack of confidence and their ability to make simply rational decisions, anxiety and social challenges increasing.
And all ages struggling severely with emotional regulation.
This is not a coincidence, no. We are just now all seeing the impact of brains that have been use to unplugged activity.
The brain is on overdrive,malfunctioning and it’s revealing its ugly head through our children…and quite frankly adults too. This is a fact for all children.
Our brains need,love,nurture, connections, micro extreme enjoyment, SLEEP, the ability to process and store or delete and only small doses of technology if any for the youngest regarding entertainment and education.
If you think none of us are addicted then technology is smarter than an A -class drug because everybody is scrolling getting a fix without even thinking they are.
How long can you really go without feeling the urge to pick up?
Do you feel agitated if you can’t?
How present are you in the REAL physical WORLD?
Do you take your phone with you every where?
Expect immediate responses from others?
How many excuses will you find after reading this about you and your cellphone?
How many times do your children prize your face away from phone to them?
Worth thinking about deeply and making some changes swiftly. Jo xx
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Between the hamster,birds,puppies,snake,kittens,
chickens and everything else please stop rescuing. Save yourself FIRST, focus on your children, learn to say No.
Children need to learn responsibility be consistent with tasks FIRST. Stop romanticizing after seeing a cute elephant on tik tok!
Parents you are already energized out, stop loading your plate.
Animals require much energy love and care. Hold off until you see such proof to consider. Jo x
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Can we talk about this on behalf of our children? Years ago I coined the saying ‘PERFORMATIVE PARENTING ‘ Self explanatory.
Children sense this energy they know when your behaviour is not authentic and grounded. When your words and the ENERGY of your actions don’t line up, you force them every day to have to recalibrate what’s ‘real’ & what’s not from you.
Please parents less camera,less likes, more off camera love & connection. Your children shouldn’t have to work.
It takes exceptionally experienced skilled work to ground a family to create a space that’s so intimate and real one can be truly themselves and let go, surrender, trust me I know.
Your children are not getting that from you because it’s about you.
You can change that today,You can.
Jo xx
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Babies & Toddlers on iPad’s constantly at home,in strollers, the electronic babysitters to keep them quite & ‘manage’ them.
Teens with no boundaries to respect, stuck in anxious patterns of withdrawals from their phones.
Children playing videogames far too old for them and inappropriate for their age.
Parents choosing to buy selective foods for your children over and over again, that you know consistently deep down is simply not going to help them in the long run.
Buying phones for your tweenagers because you ‘feel’ bad they will be left out.
Sharenting every woe on your childrens delicate shoulders when there used to be something called ‘adult talk’.
Taking your child to a rated R movie hoping they ‘fall asleep’ whilst you watch. [yes this happens in the usa]
Leaving guns laying around and not safely locked up,resulting in child fatalities [usa]
Exploiting your children to make money on social media and robbing them of the freedom every child deserves.
Bypassing unruly behaviour and simply not choosing to connect AND uphold boundaries and consequences. What happened to love & respect,empathy all these disciplines above.
Parents listen,those who become defensive and find excuses,I ask you to STOP and put that energy into change.
I’m just telling it straight,there’s much work to be done and I’m not the only one saying this,many therapists, teachers pediatricians and social workers share the same serious concerns with me.
We are passionate,we care about YOU and your beautiful families, [ is there an emoj for passionate?]
We must act now parents, we must put our families well being on the map,become more invested in changing where we are struggling,seek the help,the resources,if needs be.
So many small changes will make a HUGE IMPACT.
BTW – To those in government step up and make decisions that will educate & support our parents to do better. It’s been a downward spiral for 17 years,enough. You need to fund the grassroots services needed.
You can do better and must!
I call action from every corner.
It’s TIME parents, no more excuses make the above changes NOW!
Jo xx #Helpingfamiliesshine💫
What say YOU?
Many countries have made it illegal.
Should the UK and the USA follow in their footsteps?
What are your thoughts on this subject, as I’ve made mine publicly clear for nearly 4 decades – Jo x
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AND If they don’t learn they are capable they will not emotionally mature,if they stay emotionally arrested how will you trust them. If you can’t trust them how will you give them the freedom they seek & need. If they’re not given the freedom how will they ever thrive and become the the well adjusted accountable adults that thrive in this world?
It starts with you PARENTS.
Never in my lifetime have I ever seen so many parents coddling and enabling behaviour that will ultimately leave a significant impact on their children as they become adults. It is so concerning to witness, and yes I know many of you have been left confused with the enormous amount of parenting information on social media that takes true discernment to work out whether it’s for real or just some person trying grab attention, I know because I untangle it for you in private practice.
However….
It starts at home folks. Trust me, I’ve been around long enough,most of you grew up with me.
You can be kind and teach self discipline, you can be loving and firm, you can be honest and not cruel, you can be unwavering in your commitment and fun!!
We must invest in our families in a way that benefits our children’s adulthood.
Jo xx
What do you think about this topic?
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It can take as much as 15 times for your little toddler to aquire a taste for the food you serve,it’s always best to serve with an accompanied dance partner at the food disco so there is a beautiful consistency in texture and taste. That being said your temperament should be served on the side of warmish like your toddlers food otherwise you risk getting into a power battle.
Distraction of small gestures of surprise and laughter can unlock your childs relentlessness, leading to them surprising themselves of how much they actually do like what you’ve served and in that moment of victory you silently take the win & proceed forward casually without the need to remind them what they’ve eaten. Some toddlers can’t handle the big emotional gesture, you will know best.
You normally have a 15- 20 min window before they lose focus so stay to task yourself parents. Eat too your example is golden.
Those with little Toddlers who exhibit signs of HSP,SPD watch for the patterns, the characteristic traits around meal times, they will guide you. For example
the textures,the size of food and remember your own mindset around meal times to help your child.
Note : Most importantly for ALL families of different ages, as a general rule, if you energetically feel agitated or rushed your child will sense this and push back,because they will think it’s them you are protecting on.
Bon Appétit . Jo xx
What is your experience around mealtimes parents?
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There’s a reason SLEEP deprivation was used as torture back in the Tower of London days because even back then they knew the impact of such was horrific,facts remain the same,horrific, the toll it takes on the body & brain has been scientifically proven, in some family cases it has been literally grave,yes these sad stories do exist of mothers who have committed suicide 😢 because they were made to feel shamed if they sleep trained.
The importance of both child and parent receiving quality consistent sleep is imperative to their well being,their brain health and overall health.
I’m here to state because I’ve immersively sleep trained thousands in my 4 decades as a professional successfully, that if you decide to ‘Sleep Train’ your child that is YOUR choice, no threat or harm will be impacted on your child in the long run despite the smear campaign against any parent who decides to do so. These professionals & people know who they are..I know too.
What is vital families is that you remain consistent in your loving attachment in these early formative years and I want you to know you will be causing no dangerous harm to your child to adopt a sleep training method AND remain as your loving connected self with your child during the day.
Training really only takes minimal days and then everyone is sleeping soundly getting quality sleep once again. Toddler happier, parents happier.
However if YOU decide not to that’s your decision and again you are entitled to make that choice of your own free will.
What I’m against is the brigade that wants to ostracize a parent that doesn’t fit their own personal agenda and views on sleep.
It’s hard enough for parents as it is,so why not respect everyones personal choice?
Those of you choosing to make up lies about me and the families I helped on Supernanny get better sleep, shame on you!
You watch a 42 minute show and think you know the hours upon hours I spend helping these families and our interactions …if it wasn’t for their bravery to accept help,their courage, millions of families wouldn’t be getting the quality sleep now, so please respectfully leave my Supernanny Families alone.
Jo xx
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Let’s talk about this.
There are NO boundaries anymore, everybody is a producer, everybody wants to film the inch out of every experience in life. Are people not entitled to a moment of peace to relax, talk in confidence, are parents to expect every teacher to ‘perform’ their childs math class, every chiropractor to clip a mic on you for sensational crunches? Every licensed cosmetic professional to film your personal process, every human to be ‘ON’ and green lit camera ready?
It has got out of hand in society.
For those who are doing as such, I understand in this day and age social media marketing but rein in your boundaries and people, you have the right to say No without feeling bad about it.
Also before you get loud, I was paid to provide my professional services on camera for a NETWORK and families reached out to receive my expertise, which they never had to pay thousands for and I was the care of duty officer, so no family was exploited. Legalities were met. Integrity was kept.
Is it just me. What’s your thoughts? Jo xx
BABY MEDIA is not going to help your INFANT with language or development but YOU CAN because you hold the MAGIC they need, interaction.
Present LIVE HUMAN loving interaction, is exactly what advances our infants learning experience and their brain development.
I understand parents these days gravitate to the little cute popular shows of today for a welcome quick break,just like they did years ago with the scandalous Baby Einstein shows,again another marketing ploy for parents with infants, however I can tell you because I’ve lived this life for decades in my field, it doesn’t matter how companies tweek creatively, put a person in the mix,use tonation,inflection,labeling, know one thing, media profit because they count on you not being educated to know any different, and innocently you believe them. They influence you to believe you are giving your child the best chance, and play on your emotional desire wanting to be the best parent you can for your infant child. Do not be fooled, it simply isn’t true.
Babies need REAL LIFE experiences, face to face, they notice each and every subtle expression and your immediate response to each sound,babble or physical interaction. I’ve spent absolutely thousands of hours on the floor with babies, face to face,every micro loving expression is not wasted on your infant,your physical presence is key.
When you need a small break and you should, give your infant real life sensory soft toys to hold,squeeze and observe from one hand to the next. Moving on to stacking,shapes & colours in the latter months of infant hood. You are ALL they need as infants. Jox
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Why is it so hard to say Sorry
When our hearts deep down feel it? 💖
Most parents felt shamed because their behavior was made to feel attached to who they are as a person.
Their own parent would say ‘You Are’ statements instead of ‘that or Your’ behavior was very or when you behave…..
And it wasn’t just the words expressed it was the delivery, the energy of those words,the yelling or the controlled ‘disgust’ the silent treatment or the utter contempt to hold a grudge.
Hence moving forward now parenting your own children, if you make a genuine mistake, you go straight back to your own childhood and that feeling of shame freezes you to a place of not moving forward productively as the capable ADULT, the loving PARENT.
Parenting whilst healing or learning about your own childhood takes courage and most of all a love so profoundly beautiful you’re willing to keep moving forward, forging your own pathway and not ‘auto parenting’ for the sake of your children not having to be where you are currently.
So parents may this message be the springboard for change ! feel the emotion, remind yourself you are NOT defined from your past behaviour, remember who YOU ARE , step into your adult self, apologize to your children, back it up with solid action and teach your children one of the biggest life lessons you can provide them earlier on in their lives.
Note : For many families I help on my shows, this was a current reoccurring theme and it was the necessary adult healing needed, helping families with ‘off’ camera guidance many times as their story was not mine to tell unless I had their permission, integrity at all costs. #FamilyFirst.
Jo xx
Let us share our thoughts and feelings on this matter. 🧡
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They sometimes need several hours or the next day to compose their thoughts as a couple, from your honest constructive feedback that resonated as criticism.
They ideally need a partner who will educate themselves on ADHD too so that when trying to express what it is they feel, doesn’t come across like an excuse for their own adult behaviour.
If you watch my shows for their educational purposes and not for distraction you will notice especially those of you with ADHD, sprinkles upon sprinkles of sound advice and techniques that will help guide you because what helps those parents with ADHD can also benefit in some areas those without too.
Jo xx
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I just love that sound.
It’s the sound that the kids are having fun, you are doing okay, despite the moments that are challenging. Despite the moments they’re challenged with.
Our children teach us a valuable lesson, to be present in the moment, to let go of whatever you are ruminating over, to feel the breeze on your face,to give yourself grace. Breathe…..🌈🌳🌞 Jo xx
Do you feel the same?
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The REAL ROLE
how many of you have actually thought about that? How invested are you, enough that you honor the importance of family values, are they important to you.
Do – you- walk – your – talk?
Family values BELONG to every family. Not any type of religion or politics nobody can hijack ‘Family Values’, they belong to Your Family…you get to decide.
The decisions You make.
The priorities you sort out.
The values you honor.
The conversations that are off script because it’s about keeping it real with your children.
There’s no intervals, there’s the highs the lows and the beautiful peace in same same.
Don’t let social media distraction keep you from staying on course. You get one opportunity with each child and each day is new and different. Remember it’s no dress rehearsal when you get into this fresh week ahead. Much love to you all 💜 Jo xx
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A whisper to remind you today. 🤍
Have a beautiful day. Jo xx
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The facts remain that millions of teenagers communicate via texts & voice notes these days,sliding into DMs daily and WhatsApp. However as a parent if you surrender to this form of communication ONLY you miss out on VITAL clues & reassurances that help you as a parent trust more and give your teenagers the freedom they yearn for, the reason they are holding you hostage to only communicating as such in the first place.
When you sporadically communicate in REAL TIME on the phone as a parent you become more attuned and will…..
1.Notice the smaller details in what they choose to share and what they deflect.
2. Notice subtleties in their voice, inflection & tonation.
3. Radar in on your parental instincts to know if something feels energetically genuine or not [ that ‘off’ feeling]
4. Detect honesty [It’s easier for a child to white lie via txt]
5. There’s no excuses based on dropped wifi or delay in getting back.
6. Create healthier communication that is respectful.
7. Establish boundaries that your teen will appreciate from you.
In a world where there is opportunity to connect & communicate variably let’s be smart about it. Our children need this from us – Jo x
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With a significant rise in childhood anxiety & depression, are we part of the problem as parents? Do you think we overshare, dump,involve our children in situations that are simply not their concern as children? Should our children be exposed to so much strive?
You see my thoughts but what do you think?
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Taking into account, thoughtful.
How many of you currently, right now, value the importance of such raising your family and how is it shown,taught,appreciated,given,accepted,implemented?
Would love to hear from you all 🤍
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It’s decision time, by the way, not making one,is making one.
Make mature decisions, for your children’s sake,they have a lifetime,so give them Teen time & for those parents handing over their phones from infants upwards scrolling on social media,just stop, you are interfering and distracting the development of their brain….and you will see & they will suffer the detriment of that unfold as early as the toddler years.
Make the right choice parents, for your children’s well being,do the right thing, please. Jo xx
Parents ..Make the better choice for your teens.
Yes, you still have time, you can retract your decision.
It takes a strong parent, one who will do the right thing for THEM, over their own emotions and how it makes them feel as a parent because as we know being a parent is about making decisions we won’t always feel good about.
If we are to remain honest in our conversations here then i must continue to say what parents do not always want to hear…..most parents are worried about their children missing out but missing out on what i ask? You’ve all read, seen, heard.
They are already missing out on the genuine interactions they should be having, the day you decided to allow them into a landscape you knew not really much about or them emotionally able to handle.
The teens were held back so much over the pandemic at a time where it’s all about freedom and social gathering and friendships. Give them a chance,pullback until they are 16,17 give them the opportunity.
Stop following the herd,you are stronger than that and be a parent with more parental leadership.
Jo xx
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If the post resonated it’s because you’re stuck but you know that, you know you want something different for your family or yourself or maybe even your relationships, however you might be fearing what it’s going to take or maybe your partner has found a thousand excuses to sabotage your efforts to receiving the guidance,keeping you both from what you truly need and want.
You convince yourself it will go away, and ,well, it doesn’t, right? but you know that.
It’s TIME, time to be courageous, here’s why, there’s too much conflicting advice out here on social media,people who talk and crib verbiage but have NO practical experience and it’s costing you and your family from feeling Confident raising your family.
I encourage you to take a brave step forward, because it is brave and I will show you how UNCOMPLICATED it can be when you’re willing and wanting.
I will show you because I can, because I walk the talk and it’s about time you did too.
People invest with business coaches, fitness coaches, fashion coaches ,YET there’s no VALUE placed on Investing in FAMILY. How crazy is that?
Keeping it real folks. If you want my help please go to Jofrost.com and fill in the application. Ready to serve 🙏🏾YOU.
Jo xxx
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How’s Co – Parenting going for you?
What’s easier,what’s tough?
Would love to hear, to understand more from you all – Jo xx
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That’s if you ask Alexa….
However when I came to the USA 20 years ago, I was told by the Network I couldn’t use the word because in the states it was associated with sex. 🇺🇸
I said no chance! the Brits get it and so eventually will the USA.
However with conviction that word would always remain to describe a familiar behaviour NOT the core character of a child.
Most parents underestimate their children,they learn quickly from their parents how to behave to get what they want even if not very good for them. Clever right? – A ‘Mock’ tantrum. Innocent behaviour, never intentional or personal.
Some behave from a fight or flight response – An ‘Emotional’ tantrum.
Safety & nurture is vital.
Some from a ‘Situational’ tantrum –
Building trust is a big one.
TANTRUM – A physical reaction of intense feelings.
My book, JO FROST TODDLER RULES [found on Amazon] which I’m proud to say won an educational parenting award, you will learn about my discovery years ago of these 3 types of tantrums I coined and will become confident on how to identify & empathethically respond to your child so that you may help your toddler as you learn to maturely respond and nurture.
All words carry energy,boundaries and love do go together so I encourage you to take the time to educate yourself on this subject and let me know what a difference it made in your lives via DM.😊
How do you feel about the word naughty?
😊 Thank you for taking the time to read. Jo xx
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