Jona Xiao Instagram – For our mental health, we need to stop comparing and despairing and also re-define what success is.
“If I’m going to be competitive with anyone, I’d rather be competitive with myself. How do I be a better version of myself? How do I give and offer more to the world? So, I think I measure myself based on just being the best version of myself. When it comes to my career, I think it’s a much healthier approach.
I’ve been working through external validation because, growing up, I was under pressure to perform and be accepted if I did well, such as getting good grades. As a result, I still put pressure on myself to do a good job nowadays. But we should all measure success based on things we have control over.
So, rather than being results-oriented, I think it would be so much better for us to see success as taking action, being process-oriented, and building great habits that will lead to the external things we want in our lives.
Thus, when we change our definition of success, it’ll change our happiness level, and ultimately, what we achieve in our lives.”
When we focus on our goals as the destination, we miss out on all the synchronicities and magic along the way. Every time we accomplish something, we are right away on the lookout for what is next. Therefore, if there is a destination, then it’s the infinite, never-ending movement of the discovery process between the desire formulated and the formulation of the new one. To embody any desire, we have to include ourselves in the story of that desire coming to life, knowing that we don’t have to know all the “whens” and “hows,” but instead allow ourselves to enjoy the unfolding.
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