Jona Xiao Instagram – May 1st, ‘23: the 1️⃣ , 2️⃣ 🥊:
💥 The writer’s strike became official
💥 Was blindsided by a breakup
& I fell into a depression 😔
Bonus 💥: Months later, my ex (not Michael) told me he cheated on me for the last 6 months of our relationship w/ his friend who I felt I had gone out of my way to be kind and generous to. I felt shocked, ashamed, betrayed by both of them, and stupid.
Thoughts of “why wasn’t I good enough for him?” would creep in and I’d remind myself of things like “someone can only be as honest with others as they are with themselves. He’s dealing with his own demons 👿 and self-deception.”
As a single person again, I tried SO many things to intentionally date that the LA Times literally wrote an article about me (swipe 👈 see it). I was worried I wouldn’t ever find healthy, romantic love in the future.
A combination of coaching, community, Holotropic Breathwork, constantly asking myself “why is this a good thing?” when things wouldn’t go as planned, releasing expectations & re-building a life I loved without needing a romantic partner helped me out of my depression. 😮💨
One of my favorite ❔’s to ask couples is: “What’s your favorite thing about your partner?” One response I heard 15 months ago was: “she’s the kindest person in the world.” 🥹 I was moved and touched. And then my next reflexive thought was “I wish I could say the same about my partner.” 😔
💝 I’m now in a NEW partnership with a human whose capacity for love (for me, his friends, his family, his staff, animals) seems endless & who I can say is one of the kindest human beings I’ve ever met. 😍
Pics 3-7: playing “how close can I get taking this selfie without waking Teagan up?” 😜
🎊 Today, I celebrate finding romantic love again. Here’s to embracing truth, resilience, and the unwavering capacity of the human heart to heal, regain trust, and love again.
If you are feeling lonely or depressed, know that it is 💯 temporary, I promise. Reach out for support and trust that things don’t just happen “to you” but happen FOR you.
If any part of this resonates with you, comment 👇 so we can support one another in our journeys of healing and happiness 😃 | Posted on 10/May/2024 04:00:14
