Making our chidlren feel seen and important isn’t super complicated— most of the time it’s as simple as a little tradition like this. Looking for ways to say yes & simply being curious and playful about their point of view also makes parenting more intentional and peaceful for everyone. #consciousparenting #parenting #prentingtips
Compassion, curiosity and not allowing the emotional state of someone else affect your own are all things that I’d say require a lot of intentionality— and the furthest thing from being “passive” and in a relationship dynamic we wouldn’t even use the term “permissive” because it’s rooted in control and ownership. I’ll make a video on those terms specifically in my next video I think, ☺️
How many times have you told yourself, “next time I will NOT react like that…” after getting dysregulated, arguing, saying things you don’t mean, being physical, etc? And did that strategy ever work for you? 🙂↔️ We might know what we don’t want to do, but if we have no plan for what we WILL do instead, it’s very likely we’ll simply resort back to our current programming/conditioning that we’ve been using for our entire lives when we have felt threatened. Instead get super clear on a real strategy— ask yourself, “what ACTUALLY helps me calm down or remain calm?” and tell yourself THAT for next time. I’ve listed some of the tools that I use in the second-to-last slide & would love to know what helps you in the comments!
Our children… sigh, our little teachers if we let them be. If we take especially our most challenging moments with them as opportunities to look closer at ourselves, our thought patterns, our fears and insecurities— We can unravel it all and become the actors in our lives and relationships as opposed to the reactors that we have been for so long out of survival. Just trying to be lovable, trying to be good enough, to have our needs for connection met… Asking these simple questions gets us out of survival mode and into really living and loving. ᵕ̈
Our children… sigh, our little teachers if we let them be. If we take especially our most challenging moments with them as opportunities to look closer at ourselves, our thought patterns, our fears and insecurities— We can unravel it all and become the actors in our lives and relationships as opposed to the reactors that we have been for so long out of survival. Just trying to be lovable, trying to be good enough, to have our needs for connection met… Asking these simple questions gets us out of survival mode and into really living and loving. ᵕ̈
Our children… sigh, our little teachers if we let them be. If we take especially our most challenging moments with them as opportunities to look closer at ourselves, our thought patterns, our fears and insecurities— We can unravel it all and become the actors in our lives and relationships as opposed to the reactors that we have been for so long out of survival. Just trying to be lovable, trying to be good enough, to have our needs for connection met… Asking these simple questions gets us out of survival mode and into really living and loving. ᵕ̈
Our children… sigh, our little teachers if we let them be. If we take especially our most challenging moments with them as opportunities to look closer at ourselves, our thought patterns, our fears and insecurities— We can unravel it all and become the actors in our lives and relationships as opposed to the reactors that we have been for so long out of survival. Just trying to be lovable, trying to be good enough, to have our needs for connection met… Asking these simple questions gets us out of survival mode and into really living and loving. ᵕ̈
Our children… sigh, our little teachers if we let them be. If we take especially our most challenging moments with them as opportunities to look closer at ourselves, our thought patterns, our fears and insecurities— We can unravel it all and become the actors in our lives and relationships as opposed to the reactors that we have been for so long out of survival. Just trying to be lovable, trying to be good enough, to have our needs for connection met… Asking these simple questions gets us out of survival mode and into really living and loving. ᵕ̈
So much of the time, the answer is in doing less & letting go of all of the ridiculous expectations we put on ourselves and our children that keep us in the “how things should be going” “how my child should be acting” “what I should have done a better job of…” as opposed to just being right where connection is possible: the present moment.
Most parents operating out of fear miss out on some obvious flaws in their approach— If you want confident, adaptable children who become confident, adaptable adults… the answer is not LESS connection and availability, it’s moreeee. When our children feel safe, everyone has the opportunity to rest more & operate in a state of stress less.
Most parents operating out of fear miss out on some obvious flaws in their approach— If you want confident, adaptable children who become confident, adaptable adults… the answer is not LESS connection and availability, it’s moreeee. When our children feel safe, everyone has the opportunity to rest more & operate in a state of stress less.
Most parents operating out of fear miss out on some obvious flaws in their approach— If you want confident, adaptable children who become confident, adaptable adults… the answer is not LESS connection and availability, it’s moreeee. When our children feel safe, everyone has the opportunity to rest more & operate in a state of stress less.
Most parents operating out of fear miss out on some obvious flaws in their approach— If you want confident, adaptable children who become confident, adaptable adults… the answer is not LESS connection and availability, it’s moreeee. When our children feel safe, everyone has the opportunity to rest more & operate in a state of stress less.
Most parents operating out of fear miss out on some obvious flaws in their approach— If you want confident, adaptable children who become confident, adaptable adults… the answer is not LESS connection and availability, it’s moreeee. When our children feel safe, everyone has the opportunity to rest more & operate in a state of stress less.
Most parents operating out of fear miss out on some obvious flaws in their approach— If you want confident, adaptable children who become confident, adaptable adults… the answer is not LESS connection and availability, it’s moreeee. When our children feel safe, everyone has the opportunity to rest more & operate in a state of stress less.
Most parents operating out of fear miss out on some obvious flaws in their approach— If you want confident, adaptable children who become confident, adaptable adults… the answer is not LESS connection and availability, it’s moreeee. When our children feel safe, everyone has the opportunity to rest more & operate in a state of stress less.
Most parents operating out of fear miss out on some obvious flaws in their approach— If you want confident, adaptable children who become confident, adaptable adults… the answer is not LESS connection and availability, it’s moreeee. When our children feel safe, everyone has the opportunity to rest more & operate in a state of stress less.
A fun little realistic mini vlog for your enjoyment, 🥹😂 I have missed vlogging, & nothing compares to a YouTube edit— so long, relaxed and peaceful… But this was fun and hilarious because while it wasn’t some sort of *picture-perfect* morning on paper, practicing conscious parenting and living in real time “perfectly” is exactly what you see here: having the skills and tools to express and meet our needs, work together, try to understand one another, show patience and compassion in more than just the easy-peasy moments where those things come naturally to us. I love my family so much and I’m so happy that we have each other to learn and grow with every day. So many blessings I can’t even count. 🍒
If you feel overwhelmed, like you’re not doing enough, like you can’t manage all of the extra tasks and to-dos and activities, or the constant need to tidy up… simplify things. Take one thing off the to-do list, sign up for one less extra curricular… de-clutter your space & in turn you’ll de-clutter, and simplify your heart and mind. The expression, “less is more” has been around a long time for a reason. 🤌🏼☁️🍒
Day 1 camera roll! Plus I’ve been vlogging a little bit for fun, 🍒🥹 This job is what made the Mellow Mama possible as well as what allowed me to be home full time with my beautiful children, but I had no idea the skills, confidence, empowerment, connection and friendships I would gain along the way. ☁️ Always grateful!!! And thank you to my clients for supporting me & making trips like this possible! 😊 Also I miss my family, I should have brought a hand pump because the milk is killin me, I’m so excited to hear about the memories my husband is making this week with our bebés, I’m so grateful for him and our families who love on them while I’m here!
Day 1 camera roll! Plus I’ve been vlogging a little bit for fun, 🍒🥹 This job is what made the Mellow Mama possible as well as what allowed me to be home full time with my beautiful children, but I had no idea the skills, confidence, empowerment, connection and friendships I would gain along the way. ☁️ Always grateful!!! And thank you to my clients for supporting me & making trips like this possible! 😊 Also I miss my family, I should have brought a hand pump because the milk is killin me, I’m so excited to hear about the memories my husband is making this week with our bebés, I’m so grateful for him and our families who love on them while I’m here!
Day 1 camera roll! Plus I’ve been vlogging a little bit for fun, 🍒🥹 This job is what made the Mellow Mama possible as well as what allowed me to be home full time with my beautiful children, but I had no idea the skills, confidence, empowerment, connection and friendships I would gain along the way. ☁️ Always grateful!!! And thank you to my clients for supporting me & making trips like this possible! 😊 Also I miss my family, I should have brought a hand pump because the milk is killin me, I’m so excited to hear about the memories my husband is making this week with our bebés, I’m so grateful for him and our families who love on them while I’m here!
Set up a little something for your children to stumble upon today & quietly observe… ☁️
A realistic morning chit chat with some of my favorite people, 🥹☕️
