When people, out of fear, throw out the “just wait until they’re 14” commentary regarding conscious parenting… I sometimes think, “just wait until your child enters into their 3rd marriage and can’t figure out why they keep attracting the same dynamic.” What we are doing now as parents, from infancy, effects way more than our children having good manners or being *nice*… How to love and be loved is the most impactful or detrimental lesson that all of us learn whether what we are being taught is going to enrich our lives or not. So ask yourself, “what am I teaching?” and adjust. It’ll be a gift to you, your children and their relationships longterm. ♥️ Do you see your upbringing show up in your marriage?
When people, out of fear, throw out the “just wait until they’re 14” commentary regarding conscious parenting… I sometimes think, “just wait until your child enters into their 3rd marriage and can’t figure out why they keep attracting the same dynamic.” What we are doing now as parents, from infancy, effects way more than our children having good manners or being *nice*… How to love and be loved is the most impactful or detrimental lesson that all of us learn whether what we are being taught is going to enrich our lives or not. So ask yourself, “what am I teaching?” and adjust. It’ll be a gift to you, your children and their relationships longterm. ♥️ Do you see your upbringing show up in your marriage?
When people, out of fear, throw out the “just wait until they’re 14” commentary regarding conscious parenting… I sometimes think, “just wait until your child enters into their 3rd marriage and can’t figure out why they keep attracting the same dynamic.” What we are doing now as parents, from infancy, effects way more than our children having good manners or being *nice*… How to love and be loved is the most impactful or detrimental lesson that all of us learn whether what we are being taught is going to enrich our lives or not. So ask yourself, “what am I teaching?” and adjust. It’ll be a gift to you, your children and their relationships longterm. ♥️ Do you see your upbringing show up in your marriage?
When people, out of fear, throw out the “just wait until they’re 14” commentary regarding conscious parenting… I sometimes think, “just wait until your child enters into their 3rd marriage and can’t figure out why they keep attracting the same dynamic.” What we are doing now as parents, from infancy, effects way more than our children having good manners or being *nice*… How to love and be loved is the most impactful or detrimental lesson that all of us learn whether what we are being taught is going to enrich our lives or not. So ask yourself, “what am I teaching?” and adjust. It’ll be a gift to you, your children and their relationships longterm. ♥️ Do you see your upbringing show up in your marriage?
When people, out of fear, throw out the “just wait until they’re 14” commentary regarding conscious parenting… I sometimes think, “just wait until your child enters into their 3rd marriage and can’t figure out why they keep attracting the same dynamic.” What we are doing now as parents, from infancy, effects way more than our children having good manners or being *nice*… How to love and be loved is the most impactful or detrimental lesson that all of us learn whether what we are being taught is going to enrich our lives or not. So ask yourself, “what am I teaching?” and adjust. It’ll be a gift to you, your children and their relationships longterm. ♥️ Do you see your upbringing show up in your marriage?
When people, out of fear, throw out the “just wait until they’re 14” commentary regarding conscious parenting… I sometimes think, “just wait until your child enters into their 3rd marriage and can’t figure out why they keep attracting the same dynamic.” What we are doing now as parents, from infancy, effects way more than our children having good manners or being *nice*… How to love and be loved is the most impactful or detrimental lesson that all of us learn whether what we are being taught is going to enrich our lives or not. So ask yourself, “what am I teaching?” and adjust. It’ll be a gift to you, your children and their relationships longterm. ♥️ Do you see your upbringing show up in your marriage?
When people, out of fear, throw out the “just wait until they’re 14” commentary regarding conscious parenting… I sometimes think, “just wait until your child enters into their 3rd marriage and can’t figure out why they keep attracting the same dynamic.” What we are doing now as parents, from infancy, effects way more than our children having good manners or being *nice*… How to love and be loved is the most impactful or detrimental lesson that all of us learn whether what we are being taught is going to enrich our lives or not. So ask yourself, “what am I teaching?” and adjust. It’ll be a gift to you, your children and their relationships longterm. ♥️ Do you see your upbringing show up in your marriage?
When people, out of fear, throw out the “just wait until they’re 14” commentary regarding conscious parenting… I sometimes think, “just wait until your child enters into their 3rd marriage and can’t figure out why they keep attracting the same dynamic.” What we are doing now as parents, from infancy, effects way more than our children having good manners or being *nice*… How to love and be loved is the most impactful or detrimental lesson that all of us learn whether what we are being taught is going to enrich our lives or not. So ask yourself, “what am I teaching?” and adjust. It’ll be a gift to you, your children and their relationships longterm. ♥️ Do you see your upbringing show up in your marriage?
When people, out of fear, throw out the “just wait until they’re 14” commentary regarding conscious parenting… I sometimes think, “just wait until your child enters into their 3rd marriage and can’t figure out why they keep attracting the same dynamic.” What we are doing now as parents, from infancy, effects way more than our children having good manners or being *nice*… How to love and be loved is the most impactful or detrimental lesson that all of us learn whether what we are being taught is going to enrich our lives or not. So ask yourself, “what am I teaching?” and adjust. It’ll be a gift to you, your children and their relationships longterm. ♥️ Do you see your upbringing show up in your marriage?
I get this neeeed we parents feel to have control— to exercise control, to be IN control… We want to be good parents with good kids, but utilizing force and fear-based tactics only works against the relationship we have with our children, and therefore destroys the opportunity for real influence. Connection, trust, security, and modeling healthy behavior is what will be most fruitful for you as a parent, and your child not only as a child— but teen, young adult and parent themselves one day. 🙏🏼
Parenting perfection IS the awareness, the growth… it highlights what it means to be human in the most vulnerable sense— Parenting consciously and opening your eyes to truly see the child in front of you, to consider them as a whole person and respect them with compassion and a real deeper understanding from infancy is the greatest lesson in living that life has to offer in my opinion. When we learn to see our children this way, we see ourselves and every other person this way as well.
Blaming other people, your children, your circumstances, your upbringing for your emotional reactions and responses keeps you from feeling empowered and present… Of course we can be influenced by our environment and the people in it, but ultimately we are the only people who can make ourselves feel and respond in any type of way. I listed some of the things I prioritize to feel confident, connected, emotionally regulated, curious and compassionate. What tools help you? I’d love for the comments to help anyone working toward more peace in their days and relationships.
Happy birthday to my number 1! 🏎️♥️🎈The person I get to love and learn/grow with for the rest of my days is a year older, wiser and hotter—What a privilege to celebrate so many birthdays with such a wonderful person. I love you forever, bb. Best year yet is all teed up. XO
How many triggers can we experience in a 45 minute period… Conscious parenting in real time isn’t just feeling content and relaxed 24/7, it’s having the tools to slow down, be present, connect more and be more curious & deal with the highs and lows in a way that doesn’t sever self-esteem, attachment and relationship.
If we rely on our children to be a certain way, and our environment to be absolutely perfect to be content, calm and present… we will rarely find ourselves in that state. But if we evaluate our reactions, ask ourselves questions like, “what does my conditioning look like?” “what made it easier for my needs to be met?” we can 1. Have more compassion for our parents who were just trying their very best, but 2. Have more compassion for ourselves and children— and start a new pattern of unconditional love, curiosity and connection.
If we rely on our children to be a certain way, and our environment to be absolutely perfect to be content, calm and present… we will rarely find ourselves in that state. But if we evaluate our reactions, ask ourselves questions like, “what does my conditioning look like?” “what made it easier for my needs to be met?” we can 1. Have more compassion for our parents who were just trying their very best, but 2. Have more compassion for ourselves and children— and start a new pattern of unconditional love, curiosity and connection.
If we rely on our children to be a certain way, and our environment to be absolutely perfect to be content, calm and present… we will rarely find ourselves in that state. But if we evaluate our reactions, ask ourselves questions like, “what does my conditioning look like?” “what made it easier for my needs to be met?” we can 1. Have more compassion for our parents who were just trying their very best, but 2. Have more compassion for ourselves and children— and start a new pattern of unconditional love, curiosity and connection.
If we rely on our children to be a certain way, and our environment to be absolutely perfect to be content, calm and present… we will rarely find ourselves in that state. But if we evaluate our reactions, ask ourselves questions like, “what does my conditioning look like?” “what made it easier for my needs to be met?” we can 1. Have more compassion for our parents who were just trying their very best, but 2. Have more compassion for ourselves and children— and start a new pattern of unconditional love, curiosity and connection.
If we rely on our children to be a certain way, and our environment to be absolutely perfect to be content, calm and present… we will rarely find ourselves in that state. But if we evaluate our reactions, ask ourselves questions like, “what does my conditioning look like?” “what made it easier for my needs to be met?” we can 1. Have more compassion for our parents who were just trying their very best, but 2. Have more compassion for ourselves and children— and start a new pattern of unconditional love, curiosity and connection.
If we rely on our children to be a certain way, and our environment to be absolutely perfect to be content, calm and present… we will rarely find ourselves in that state. But if we evaluate our reactions, ask ourselves questions like, “what does my conditioning look like?” “what made it easier for my needs to be met?” we can 1. Have more compassion for our parents who were just trying their very best, but 2. Have more compassion for ourselves and children— and start a new pattern of unconditional love, curiosity and connection.
If we rely on our children to be a certain way, and our environment to be absolutely perfect to be content, calm and present… we will rarely find ourselves in that state. But if we evaluate our reactions, ask ourselves questions like, “what does my conditioning look like?” “what made it easier for my needs to be met?” we can 1. Have more compassion for our parents who were just trying their very best, but 2. Have more compassion for ourselves and children— and start a new pattern of unconditional love, curiosity and connection.
If we rely on our children to be a certain way, and our environment to be absolutely perfect to be content, calm and present… we will rarely find ourselves in that state. But if we evaluate our reactions, ask ourselves questions like, “what does my conditioning look like?” “what made it easier for my needs to be met?” we can 1. Have more compassion for our parents who were just trying their very best, but 2. Have more compassion for ourselves and children— and start a new pattern of unconditional love, curiosity and connection.
If we rely on our children to be a certain way, and our environment to be absolutely perfect to be content, calm and present… we will rarely find ourselves in that state. But if we evaluate our reactions, ask ourselves questions like, “what does my conditioning look like?” “what made it easier for my needs to be met?” we can 1. Have more compassion for our parents who were just trying their very best, but 2. Have more compassion for ourselves and children— and start a new pattern of unconditional love, curiosity and connection.
If we rely on our children to be a certain way, and our environment to be absolutely perfect to be content, calm and present… we will rarely find ourselves in that state. But if we evaluate our reactions, ask ourselves questions like, “what does my conditioning look like?” “what made it easier for my needs to be met?” we can 1. Have more compassion for our parents who were just trying their very best, but 2. Have more compassion for ourselves and children— and start a new pattern of unconditional love, curiosity and connection.
