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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : Be careful not to lose your humanity. — Be careful to separate people from the policies of their governments. Be careful to separate people from the actions of terrorists who live among them. Be careful not to collapse history and context into narrow interpretation. Be careful not to eschew complexity and nuance for the sake of memeification. Be careful to recognize that grief for one side does not mean hate for the other. Be careful to understand that support for one side does not mean hate for the other. Be careful of gaslighting on a mass level: disinformation and denial of loss. Be careful not to dismiss the excruciating and real pain of others. Do not make it worse. Be careful not to say things online that you would not say to someone in real life. Be careful not to add hatred on top of hatred; we are all being crushed underneath its compounding weight. Be careful not to lose empathy for those with whom you disagree. Be careful not to dehumanize others. Doing so dehumanizes you. Do not lose touch with the parts of you needed most: Your compassion. Your humanity. Your care.
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Caption : When I was raising my two boys, I relied heavily on my friendships with older women who knew the ins and outs of what it took to be a mother in New York City. I was a foreigner without any family close by in a city where so many parents feel as if they have to go at it alone. And there was another factor, too. My relationship with my own mother was full of love but it was also full of ambivalence. I feared that if I called her with my parenting questions, she’d criticize me from across the ocean, in Belgium. I knew that I needed motherly mentorship beyond the perspective she could give me. The cliché is true: it takes a village to raise a child. But it also takes a village to raise a parent. And so it was. My boys were raised by a host of family friends, chosen aunts and uncles. Seven families, from eight different countries of origin, morphed into a vibrant community. We were in it together, and it was a salve to the impinging loneliness one can feel as a parent. Somehow my boys are now in their mid-late twenties. I currently have five friends who are twenty-five years younger than me who all have become mothers over the last decade. We’ve brought them into the fold. Babies at dinner parties, kids at adult gatherings who fall asleep on a pillow. I’ve relished talking to my young friends about pregnancy and motherhood, fielding their phone calls, meeting their little ones, and watching them grow. I love a front row seat with backstage experience. I asked one of these friends, @erinallweiss if she could share a few thoughts with me about our dynamic for Mother’s Day: “As I reflect on our intergenerational friendship and motherhood, what I appreciate most is the perspective of time. You get to look back, reflect on your parenting experience, and share lessons that are invaluable for what I’m going through right now; and I see in you the benefits of mothering in a way that is authentic to who I am and what I value.” On this Mother’s Day, I’d love to hear about the motherly figures in your life who helped raise you, or are helping you raise your kids. I’d love to hear your stories of intergenerational friendship. I’ll look for yours in the comments.
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Caption : When I was raising my two boys, I relied heavily on my friendships with older women who knew the ins and outs of what it took to be a mother in New York City. I was a foreigner without any family close by in a city where so many parents feel as if they have to go at it alone. And there was another factor, too. My relationship with my own mother was full of love but it was also full of ambivalence. I feared that if I called her with my parenting questions, she’d criticize me from across the ocean, in Belgium. I knew that I needed motherly mentorship beyond the perspective she could give me. The cliché is true: it takes a village to raise a child. But it also takes a village to raise a parent. And so it was. My boys were raised by a host of family friends, chosen aunts and uncles. Seven families, from eight different countries of origin, morphed into a vibrant community. We were in it together, and it was a salve to the impinging loneliness one can feel as a parent. Somehow my boys are now in their mid-late twenties. I currently have five friends who are twenty-five years younger than me who all have become mothers over the last decade. We’ve brought them into the fold. Babies at dinner parties, kids at adult gatherings who fall asleep on a pillow. I’ve relished talking to my young friends about pregnancy and motherhood, fielding their phone calls, meeting their little ones, and watching them grow. I love a front row seat with backstage experience. I asked one of these friends, @erinallweiss if she could share a few thoughts with me about our dynamic for Mother’s Day: “As I reflect on our intergenerational friendship and motherhood, what I appreciate most is the perspective of time. You get to look back, reflect on your parenting experience, and share lessons that are invaluable for what I’m going through right now; and I see in you the benefits of mothering in a way that is authentic to who I am and what I value.” On this Mother’s Day, I’d love to hear about the motherly figures in your life who helped raise you, or are helping you raise your kids. I’d love to hear your stories of intergenerational friendship. I’ll look for yours in the comments.
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Caption : When I was raising my two boys, I relied heavily on my friendships with older women who knew the ins and outs of what it took to be a mother in New York City. I was a foreigner without any family close by in a city where so many parents feel as if they have to go at it alone. And there was another factor, too. My relationship with my own mother was full of love but it was also full of ambivalence. I feared that if I called her with my parenting questions, she’d criticize me from across the ocean, in Belgium. I knew that I needed motherly mentorship beyond the perspective she could give me. The cliché is true: it takes a village to raise a child. But it also takes a village to raise a parent. And so it was. My boys were raised by a host of family friends, chosen aunts and uncles. Seven families, from eight different countries of origin, morphed into a vibrant community. We were in it together, and it was a salve to the impinging loneliness one can feel as a parent. Somehow my boys are now in their mid-late twenties. I currently have five friends who are twenty-five years younger than me who all have become mothers over the last decade. We’ve brought them into the fold. Babies at dinner parties, kids at adult gatherings who fall asleep on a pillow. I’ve relished talking to my young friends about pregnancy and motherhood, fielding their phone calls, meeting their little ones, and watching them grow. I love a front row seat with backstage experience. I asked one of these friends, @erinallweiss if she could share a few thoughts with me about our dynamic for Mother’s Day: “As I reflect on our intergenerational friendship and motherhood, what I appreciate most is the perspective of time. You get to look back, reflect on your parenting experience, and share lessons that are invaluable for what I’m going through right now; and I see in you the benefits of mothering in a way that is authentic to who I am and what I value.” On this Mother’s Day, I’d love to hear about the motherly figures in your life who helped raise you, or are helping you raise your kids. I’d love to hear your stories of intergenerational friendship. I’ll look for yours in the comments.
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Caption : On a recent hike, I spoke with a friend about the difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Being alone is often a condition for peaceful solitude and introspection. Feeling lonely, on the other hand, is an emotional, existential, and social experience that can be profoundly debilitating. In my office, I’ve heard many people talk about loneliness, the kind that is timeless and familiar as well as the kind that seems specific to this era. Every day, there are headlines, posts, and conversations that leave us feeling as if we’d rather be alone than engage with others on such sensitive and divisive topics—whether it’s politically-driven, a schism in your family, or one of a million other topics we are collectively fighting about as a society. My work, in part, is about helping you to disagree without disconnecting. It’s about helping you approach the unfamiliar with curiosity even if it scares or enrages you. It’s okay to respond to such overwhelm with self-isolation. But I hope you won’t stay there too long. I hope you will emerge and seek connection outside of yourself even if it’s hard, even if it means meeting new people or learning a new skill or going to a place you’ve never been. I dive deeper into this topic in this month’s newsletter, available through the link in my bio. After reading, share your thoughts in the comments below.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play. To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play. To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play. To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play. To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play. To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play. To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Ever found yourself in relationships where you ask yourself, “Why do I stay when I know I deserve better?” You’re not alone. In a new episode of “Where Should We Begin?”, I unravel the heartbreaking struggle of a woman stuck in a cycle of toxic love. Tune in as we explore the reasons behind her repeated return to familiar pain, and shed light on the path to breaking free. Listen to “If He’s A “High Value Man” What Am I?” through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Ever found yourself in relationships where you ask yourself, “Why do I stay when I know I deserve better?” You’re not alone. In a new episode of “Where Should We Begin?”, I unravel the heartbreaking struggle of a woman stuck in a cycle of toxic love. Tune in as we explore the reasons behind her repeated return to familiar pain, and shed light on the path to breaking free. Listen to “If He’s A “High Value Man” What Am I?” through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Ever found yourself in relationships where you ask yourself, “Why do I stay when I know I deserve better?” You’re not alone. In a new episode of “Where Should We Begin?”, I unravel the heartbreaking struggle of a woman stuck in a cycle of toxic love. Tune in as we explore the reasons behind her repeated return to familiar pain, and shed light on the path to breaking free. Listen to “If He’s A “High Value Man” What Am I?” through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Ever found yourself in relationships where you ask yourself, “Why do I stay when I know I deserve better?” You’re not alone. In a new episode of “Where Should We Begin?”, I unravel the heartbreaking struggle of a woman stuck in a cycle of toxic love. Tune in as we explore the reasons behind her repeated return to familiar pain, and shed light on the path to breaking free. Listen to “If He’s A “High Value Man” What Am I?” through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Ever found yourself in relationships where you ask yourself, “Why do I stay when I know I deserve better?” You’re not alone. In a new episode of “Where Should We Begin?”, I unravel the heartbreaking struggle of a woman stuck in a cycle of toxic love. Tune in as we explore the reasons behind her repeated return to familiar pain, and shed light on the path to breaking free. Listen to “If He’s A “High Value Man” What Am I?” through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Cultivating trust requires millions of micro-risks that show us we’re not foolish for being confident in our relationship. It requires taking risks together that show us our partner isn’t the same as the people from our past who hurt us. Most importantly, trust requires taking risks together that help us grow into better partners for each other. If we let each other fall in the past, it’s going to take a lot of trust falls to show that we’re committed now to always catching each other, to really holding each other at our most vulnerable. The worst case scenario is that they drop us so many times that we finally understand we can’t trust them. That’s important to learn, too. But if we don’t take the risk at all, we might never know either way. Visit the link in my bio for more on this topic.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : “Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity. At the same time, we expect our committed relationships to be romantic as well as emotionally and sexually fulfilling. Is it any wonder that so many relationships crumble under the weight of it all?” – Mating in Captivity. Our expectations of our partners have never been so high. We often put too much pressure on our romantic partners and have unrealistic expectations for them. We expect a lover, best friend, co-parent, advisor, and more, and people usually can’t fulfill all of these different needs all of the time. You slowly begin to realize that person doesn’t necessarily conform to your expectations. When these expectations are not met, these become the source of disappointment, resentment, and misunderstanding — and eventually, suffering and pain. How do we steer clear of resentment and pave the way for thriving relationships? As Eli Finkel explains, it often involves adjusting our expectations without necessarily diminishing them. Rather than lowering our standards, we might find success in recalibrating them and diversifying our approach by inviting others to contribute to fulfilling our relational needs. And be sure to engage in new experiences together. While sticking to familiar and enjoyable activities can strengthen the friendship aspect, true depth and intimacy often require venturing outside our comfort zones and embracing risk through new experiences with our partner.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : We are taught from a young age to express ourselves. The parts of us that don’t fit in with the groups and communities we are part of, get relegated to a dark corner inside of us. Most of us don’t learn for years what’s in that corner. We have a sense of it. But we don’t dare investigate. I think we can all relate to that loneliness. Despite how alone we may feel, this is one of the most universal experiences in the world—particularly if the part you are hiding is that you are not straight or cis. If you’re reading this and seeing yourself, then you intimately know the shame and fear that comes from the threat of being excluded or excommunicated from the very groups that mean so much to you, whether it’s your family, friend group, or religious institution. Despite the proliferation of Pride celebrations worldwide, many of us don’t come from places that are ready to embrace us in our fullness. But that, too, is a universal experience. I’ve witnessed and studied many powerful examples of human connection. But there is one that I return to time and time again to illustrate why friendship is just as important as romantic partnership or familial ties – the concept of chosen family. Those who shine a light into that dark corner inside of us. Those who see who we truly are. Those who accept it. And those who can relate. In this month’s newsletter, I explore chosen family, how I’ve seen this structure support and uplift those around me, and how family of choice has held me. Follow the link in my bio to read the full story.
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Caption : We are taught from a young age to express ourselves. The parts of us that don’t fit in with the groups and communities we are part of, get relegated to a dark corner inside of us. Most of us don’t learn for years what’s in that corner. We have a sense of it. But we don’t dare investigate. I think we can all relate to that loneliness. Despite how alone we may feel, this is one of the most universal experiences in the world—particularly if the part you are hiding is that you are not straight or cis. If you’re reading this and seeing yourself, then you intimately know the shame and fear that comes from the threat of being excluded or excommunicated from the very groups that mean so much to you, whether it’s your family, friend group, or religious institution. Despite the proliferation of Pride celebrations worldwide, many of us don’t come from places that are ready to embrace us in our fullness. But that, too, is a universal experience. I’ve witnessed and studied many powerful examples of human connection. But there is one that I return to time and time again to illustrate why friendship is just as important as romantic partnership or familial ties – the concept of chosen family. Those who shine a light into that dark corner inside of us. Those who see who we truly are. Those who accept it. And those who can relate. In this month’s newsletter, I explore chosen family, how I’ve seen this structure support and uplift those around me, and how family of choice has held me. Follow the link in my bio to read the full story.
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Caption : Engaging in eroticism enables us to maintain a sense of aliveness, vibrancy, and vitality. But many of us may wonder, what does eroticism truly mean? The erotic landscape is vastly larger, richer, and more intricate than the physiology of sex or any repertoire of sexual techniques. It’s the unexpected yet welcomed touch on a great first date; it’s noticing how late summer rain feels on your skin and inviting your lover outside to experience it with you; it’s traveling to a brand new place and experiencing it unfold before you. As Octavio Paz has implied, eroticism is the poetry of the body the way that poetry is the eroticism of language. Eroticism is cultivating pleasure for its own sake. What are some ways you like to bring eroticism into your life? For me, eroticism is trying new things, going new places, making new connections. It’s also remembering the ancient things you’ve long forgotten. Prompts from my card game, Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories guide me to do just that. I invite you to enter into a practice of exploration, curiosity, connection—not just physically, but energetically, emotionally, and psychologically.
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Caption : Intimacy extends beyond romantic bonds, yet we frequently place the burden of fulfilling all our intimate needs solely on our partners. How might we redistribute this responsibility to foster healthier dynamics? Recently, I had the pleasure of speaking with @dailyfrontrow to discuss why modern dating feels so lonely today and what we can do about it. We also delved into details about my upcoming tour. Visit the link in my bio to read our full conversation.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Esther Perel Instagram
Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Esther Perel Instagram
Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : Sharing stories, needs, desires, or grievances— there’s a powerful connection in the balance between speaking thoughtfully and listening intently. Click the link in my bio for a refresher on the Six Essential Practices to enhance your listening skills in relationships.
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Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
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Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
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Esther Perel Instagram
Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
Likes : 17596
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Esther Perel Instagram
Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
Likes : 17596
73. 17.6K Likes
Esther Perel Instagram
Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
Likes : 17596
74. 17.6K Likes
Esther Perel Instagram
Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
Likes : 17596