Esther Perel Top 100 Instagram Photos and Posts

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We have around 101 most liked posts and photos of Esther Perel with the thumbnails listed below. Click on any of them to view the full image along with its caption, like count, and a button to download the photo.

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Caption : @jayshetty welcomed me back to his On Purpose community for a deep dive into the secrets of lasting chemistry, navigating breakups, the power of accountability in relationships and much more. We address questions such as: Are breakups ever mutual? Are you wondering why you can’t move on from your ex? What does it really take to save a relationship? Can people rebuild trust after experiencing infidelity? How can you navigate the power struggle in a relationship? Join us in this heartfelt discussion that will reshape the way you approach and cherish connection and relationships through the link in my bio or watch the entire episode on Jay Shetty’s YouTube channel.
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Caption : My full conversation from @SXSW on the @VoxMedia stage with @Trevornoah is now available! Join us as we explore laughter’s role in navigating life’s complexities and much more. From shared moments of humor to invaluable insights, including my advice on becoming a better listener, and Trevor’s tips on conquering stage fright as I prepare for my U.S. tour. Listen now on “Where Should We Begin?” through the link in my bio. Stay tuned for the Audience Q A, exclusively on my Apple Podcasts subscription later this week. Cover Photo Credit: Rick Kern/Getty Images for Vox Media
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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. 
 When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. 
 When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. 
 When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. 
 When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. 
 When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : In my American life, I often find myself having to justify taking a vacation, especially when it’s longer than a week. In my European life, it’s a sin to work during the entire month of August. 
 When I booked this trip, I said to myself, “come on, Perel. Even God rested on the seventh day, no justification needed.” But this is easier said than done. I am rarely unoccupied. I actually find it a very difficult state to achieve. So, when I set out to take a “real vacation” this summer, I made an intention to reconnect with my sense of play. At this moment, I’m not feeling connected to playfulness, such a core philosophy in my practice, and I feel a bit guilty for that lack of connection. This sprawling summer trip took me on a boat through the Greek islands with a few close friends. We celebrated a wedding anniversary, hiked miles of coast line trails, cooked, danced, biked from village to village, did daily yoga, and lavished in the company of women. We played. And we played well. But I found myself plagued by a sense of distance, not the kind that comes with traveling far from home, but the kind in which you feel distant from yourself. Even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home. No matter where you go, vacation always comes with a choice: do you want to stay connected to the world and its realities or do you want to disconnect and simply be present where you are? I think what struck me this year is that while I loved seeing friends in each leg of the trip, I came to realize that what I may need more than anything is a fast. To empty out. To go still and quiet. I am full, of people, stories , their problems, my own…and there is not much room inside me. I need to empty the tank, to digest and create space, that will recharge my system. There are many ways to take a break, and perhaps we need a little something different with each season. What does a break mean to you, in this moment?
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Caption : Be careful not to lose your humanity. — Be careful to separate people from the policies of their governments. Be careful to separate people from the actions of terrorists who live among them. Be careful not to collapse history and context into narrow interpretation. Be careful not to eschew complexity and nuance for the sake of memeification. Be careful to recognize that grief for one side does not mean hate for the other. Be careful to understand that support for one side does not mean hate for the other. Be careful of gaslighting on a mass level: disinformation and denial of loss. Be careful not to dismiss the excruciating and real pain of others. Do not make it worse. Be careful not to say things online that you would not say to someone in real life. Be careful not to add hatred on top of hatred; we are all being crushed underneath its compounding weight. Be careful not to lose empathy for those with whom you disagree. Be careful not to dehumanize others. Doing so dehumanizes you. Do not lose touch with the parts of you needed most: Your compassion. Your humanity. Your care.
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Caption : “How do you know if a relationship is worth saving?” is one of the most commonly asked questions I receive. Ambivalence exists in every relational configuration, but we put a lot of pressure on romantic love, in particular, to rise above it. It is an uncomfortable feeling — heavy with contradictions, it makes us doubt our feelings and choices. This discomfort makes us crave a definitive answer. So we force ourselves one way or the other. We learn that romantic love is supposed to flood us with certainty and thus there is no room for ambivalence. But ambivalence is as intrinsic to relationships as love itself. Of course there are situations in which we need to definitively decide to stay or go. But there are just as many, if not more, situations in which our ability to hold our ambivalence is a sign that we understand and accept the complexities of life. ‍ For more on this topic and much more, visit the link in my bio for the full episode of my conversation with On Purpose hosted by @jayshetty.
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Caption : Polarity in couples can become quite an intense dynamic — especially on the big issues and decisions. As we each dig our heels in further, we actually reinforce the opposing viewpoint of our partner rather than create opportunity for alignment. However, if we were making this big decision on our own: for example, as parents of 2 children, wondering if we should have another, part of us desiring another baby, a bigger family, and the other part feeling the pressure of such a responsibility. We would have inner conflict, likely even ambivalence about the decision. In partnership, we’re simply outsourcing the side of the argument we don’t want to hold—as our partner champions one side, we champion the other, we’ve externalized the conflict that we likely feel around the topic in order to ease ourselves of the inner conflict. The problem is that the conflict then manifests in our relationship. One way to diffuse is to begin to consider and even argue the other side of the decision, allow yourself to feel and truly consider your partner’s side. Allow them to do the same. Recognize the parts of yourselves that are in conflict, to ease the tension between you and put you both on the same team to solve a tricky problem. That sets you up better for success and harmony in the connection.
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Caption : When I was raising my two boys, I relied heavily on my friendships with older women who knew the ins and outs of what it took to be a mother in New York City. I was a foreigner without any family close by in a city where so many parents feel as if they have to go at it alone. And there was another factor, too. My relationship with my own mother was full of love but it was also full of ambivalence. I feared that if I called her with my parenting questions, she’d criticize me from across the ocean, in Belgium. I knew that I needed motherly mentorship beyond the perspective she could give me. The cliché is true: it takes a village to raise a child. But it also takes a village to raise a parent. And so it was. My boys were raised by a host of family friends, chosen aunts and uncles. Seven families, from eight different countries of origin, morphed into a vibrant community. We were in it together, and it was a salve to the impinging loneliness one can feel as a parent. Somehow my boys are now in their mid-late twenties. I currently have five friends who are twenty-five years younger than me who all have become mothers over the last decade. We’ve brought them into the fold. Babies at dinner parties, kids at adult gatherings who fall asleep on a pillow. I’ve relished talking to my young friends about pregnancy and motherhood, fielding their phone calls, meeting their little ones, and watching them grow. I love a front row seat with backstage experience. I asked one of these friends, @erinallweiss if she could share a few thoughts with me about our dynamic for Mother’s Day: “As I reflect on our intergenerational friendship and motherhood, what I appreciate most is the perspective of time. You get to look back, reflect on your parenting experience, and share lessons that are invaluable for what I’m going through right now; and I see in you the benefits of mothering in a way that is authentic to who I am and what I value.” On this Mother’s Day, I’d love to hear about the motherly figures in your life who helped raise you, or are helping you raise your kids. I’d love to hear your stories of intergenerational friendship. I’ll look for yours in the comments.
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Caption : When I was raising my two boys, I relied heavily on my friendships with older women who knew the ins and outs of what it took to be a mother in New York City. I was a foreigner without any family close by in a city where so many parents feel as if they have to go at it alone. And there was another factor, too. My relationship with my own mother was full of love but it was also full of ambivalence. I feared that if I called her with my parenting questions, she’d criticize me from across the ocean, in Belgium. I knew that I needed motherly mentorship beyond the perspective she could give me. The cliché is true: it takes a village to raise a child. But it also takes a village to raise a parent. And so it was. My boys were raised by a host of family friends, chosen aunts and uncles. Seven families, from eight different countries of origin, morphed into a vibrant community. We were in it together, and it was a salve to the impinging loneliness one can feel as a parent. Somehow my boys are now in their mid-late twenties. I currently have five friends who are twenty-five years younger than me who all have become mothers over the last decade. We’ve brought them into the fold. Babies at dinner parties, kids at adult gatherings who fall asleep on a pillow. I’ve relished talking to my young friends about pregnancy and motherhood, fielding their phone calls, meeting their little ones, and watching them grow. I love a front row seat with backstage experience. I asked one of these friends, @erinallweiss if she could share a few thoughts with me about our dynamic for Mother’s Day: “As I reflect on our intergenerational friendship and motherhood, what I appreciate most is the perspective of time. You get to look back, reflect on your parenting experience, and share lessons that are invaluable for what I’m going through right now; and I see in you the benefits of mothering in a way that is authentic to who I am and what I value.” On this Mother’s Day, I’d love to hear about the motherly figures in your life who helped raise you, or are helping you raise your kids. I’d love to hear your stories of intergenerational friendship. I’ll look for yours in the comments.
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Caption : When I was raising my two boys, I relied heavily on my friendships with older women who knew the ins and outs of what it took to be a mother in New York City. I was a foreigner without any family close by in a city where so many parents feel as if they have to go at it alone. And there was another factor, too. My relationship with my own mother was full of love but it was also full of ambivalence. I feared that if I called her with my parenting questions, she’d criticize me from across the ocean, in Belgium. I knew that I needed motherly mentorship beyond the perspective she could give me. The cliché is true: it takes a village to raise a child. But it also takes a village to raise a parent. And so it was. My boys were raised by a host of family friends, chosen aunts and uncles. Seven families, from eight different countries of origin, morphed into a vibrant community. We were in it together, and it was a salve to the impinging loneliness one can feel as a parent. Somehow my boys are now in their mid-late twenties. I currently have five friends who are twenty-five years younger than me who all have become mothers over the last decade. We’ve brought them into the fold. Babies at dinner parties, kids at adult gatherings who fall asleep on a pillow. I’ve relished talking to my young friends about pregnancy and motherhood, fielding their phone calls, meeting their little ones, and watching them grow. I love a front row seat with backstage experience. I asked one of these friends, @erinallweiss if she could share a few thoughts with me about our dynamic for Mother’s Day: “As I reflect on our intergenerational friendship and motherhood, what I appreciate most is the perspective of time. You get to look back, reflect on your parenting experience, and share lessons that are invaluable for what I’m going through right now; and I see in you the benefits of mothering in a way that is authentic to who I am and what I value.” On this Mother’s Day, I’d love to hear about the motherly figures in your life who helped raise you, or are helping you raise your kids. I’d love to hear your stories of intergenerational friendship. I’ll look for yours in the comments.
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Caption : In the age of TikTok and Instagram, 30-second Reels, and 15-second watch times, we’re prone to oversimplification. We stylize and categorize at a more rapid rate than ever before, with attention spans that reflect the fast-paced high-stimulation culture in which we live. At first glance, we perceive others based on the surface — an accent, an outfit, a set of carefully chosen signals that we curate and display. But if we left at that, we would never know the complexity of this person, the host of experiences, ideas, layers and even contradictions that comprise each individual. It’s in those complexities that we find the most interesting aspects of a person, and of anything for that matter. That’s where my highest interest lies, in the paradoxes, the details, the messy intricacies that lie beyond the surface and the screens.
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Caption : Last month on @billmaher’s show @realtimers, I illuminated the difference between sexuality and eroticism, between a perfunctory act and the multi-sensory journey of pleasure. Many of us, when it comes to sexuality, tend to do what we think we should do rather than what we’d like to be doing (and this is not just a statement about women). We get stuck in ruts and disconnect from our imaginations. We would love to experience new things with our partners but we can be afraid to invite ourselves or them. A minor annoyance or a major impasse can both be catalysts for shutting down sexually. Sometimes we’re “not in the mood;” other times we wonder if we’ve lost what once made us desirable to our partners. We tend to think of these as sexual issues. Really, it’s an erotic dilemma. Contrary to what we are taught, eroticism isn’t purely sexual; it is sexuality transformed and socialized by the human imagination. The imagination creates the plot. Flirtation, longing, and anticipation all play within our mind’s eye. Engaging in eroticism enables us to maintain a sense of aliveness, vibrancy, and vitality.  As Octavio Paz has implied, eroticism is the poetry of the body the way that poetry is the eroticism of language.
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Caption : It’s about time.
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Caption : For the latest episode of Dua Lipa: At Your Service, @dualipa is in conversation with relationship expert Esther Perel (@estherperelofficial). In this clip, they explore the impact of a dissatisfied mindset on relationships: ‘You find yourself leaving a relationship, not because you are unhappy, but because you could be happier. And then you are in pursuit all the time,’ says Esther. For more valuable insights from Esther, listen to the full episode on your preferred podcast platform or ad free in the UK on @bbcsounds! You can also join Esther on a journey to understand human connection and modern relationships on her podcast, ‘Where Should We Begin?’, which returns on 10 July, with new episodes weekly.
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Caption : On a recent hike, I spoke with a friend about the difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Being alone is often a condition for peaceful solitude and introspection. Feeling lonely, on the other hand, is an emotional, existential, and social experience that can be profoundly debilitating. In my office, I’ve heard many people talk about loneliness, the kind that is timeless and familiar as well as the kind that seems specific to this era. Every day, there are headlines, posts, and conversations that leave us feeling as if we’d rather be alone than engage with others on such sensitive and divisive topics—whether it’s politically-driven, a schism in your family, or one of a million other topics we are collectively fighting about as a society. My work, in part, is about helping you to disagree without disconnecting. It’s about helping you approach the unfamiliar with curiosity even if it scares or enrages you. It’s okay to respond to such overwhelm with self-isolation. But I hope you won’t stay there too long. I hope you will emerge and seek connection outside of yourself even if it’s hard, even if it means meeting new people or learning a new skill or going to a place you’ve never been. I dive deeper into this topic in this month’s newsletter, available through the link in my bio. After reading, share your thoughts in the comments below.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play.  To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play.  To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play.  To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play.  To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play.  To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : A strong, meaningful apology goes a long way in repairing major and minor rifts in any relationship. Intellectually, we know this. Apologizing is one of the first relationship skills we learn as young children. But it’s a skill that needs to grow with us. When we first learn to apologize, we often do it because we are told we need to—apologize to your brother for taking his toy. Say you’re sorry to your classmate for not including them in the game. The other child is told to reply I forgive you. There is a clear outcome of this dance: repair in the service of getting back to what matters—play.  To learn more about artful and meaningful apology, visit this month’s blog through the link in my bio and try it out. I’d love to hear how your next apology goes.
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Caption : “Ticks all the boxes” “Perfect on paper” “That’s a dealbreaker” “They’re a ten but…” “Not a good fit” ‍If you haven’t said one of these phrases yourself, you’ve probably heard one from a friend. Over dinner or drinks, you’ve likely dissected a recent first date or new relationship, contemplating whether this one will move “to the next level.” These checklists ooze with pragmatism. But don’t you want a little poetry? This logical approach leaves little room for eros, and our obsession with qualifications can rob us of the inexplicable and unexpected pleasure that comes with meeting a new person. At SXSW this year, we explored the trappings of modern-day dating and The Other AI: Artificial Intimacy. Follow the link in my bio for the full conversation.
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Caption : In our modern world, we live under a guise of hyperconnectivity, digitally linked to one another and an endless sea of information through our devices. We can access answers to our questions in the blink of eye, share our thoughts with thousands of people in an instant, and speak to family across oceans face-to-face with the touch of a button. But there’s no denying that we live in an epidemic of loneliness. And this loneliness and disconnect permeates even our most intimate relationships, even and especially those with our partners. We’re distracted, constantly multi-tasking, often more devoted to our devices than we are to each other on a daily basis. So how do we break this habituated disconnect? What would it take to shift the pattern? At @sxsw this year, I offered this solution—and I’m curious how it lands for you? Does it feel risky? Exciting? Daunting? Overdue? Share your thoughts in the comments below, and follow the link in my bio to see the full talk on The Other AI: Artificial Intimacy.
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Caption : “There is laughter in hell.” Today I join @nayeemaraza and @karaswisher to discuss the loss of their friend and colleague Blakeney Schick and how we live through grief. Listen to our full conversation through the link in my bio.
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Caption : These last weeks as I’ve pored over the news, articles, and clinical analysis, a few articles have shifted my perspective or illuminated this crisis in a new way. Amanda Ripley’s review of Peter Coleman’s “intractable conflict” was one such article. It reminded me how embattled we can become in opposition, a phenomenon I see in my office, on social media, and in global politics.  The response to the war in the Middle East is a tragic example, and the way we perpetuate it here online only entrenches us further. We need voices of mediation and unity today, more than ever.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but learning to navigate these friction-filled spaces can leave you more connected than before the conflict arose. It only takes one different choice to change a pattern. Read more on @shon.faye’s key takeaways from my course “Turning Conflict Into Connection” in @voguemagazine article “5 Thing I Learned from Esther Perel’s New Course on Conflict and Relationships” and visit the link in my bio to check out the course for yourself.
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Caption : Ever found yourself in relationships where you ask yourself, “Why do I stay when I know I deserve better?” You’re not alone. In a new episode of “Where Should We Begin?”, I unravel the heartbreaking struggle of a woman stuck in a cycle of toxic love. Tune in as we explore the reasons behind her repeated return to familiar pain, and shed light on the path to breaking free. Listen to “If He’s A “High Value Man” What Am I?” through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Ever found yourself in relationships where you ask yourself, “Why do I stay when I know I deserve better?” You’re not alone. In a new episode of “Where Should We Begin?”, I unravel the heartbreaking struggle of a woman stuck in a cycle of toxic love. Tune in as we explore the reasons behind her repeated return to familiar pain, and shed light on the path to breaking free. Listen to “If He’s A “High Value Man” What Am I?” through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Ever found yourself in relationships where you ask yourself, “Why do I stay when I know I deserve better?” You’re not alone. In a new episode of “Where Should We Begin?”, I unravel the heartbreaking struggle of a woman stuck in a cycle of toxic love. Tune in as we explore the reasons behind her repeated return to familiar pain, and shed light on the path to breaking free. Listen to “If He’s A “High Value Man” What Am I?” through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Ever found yourself in relationships where you ask yourself, “Why do I stay when I know I deserve better?” You’re not alone. In a new episode of “Where Should We Begin?”, I unravel the heartbreaking struggle of a woman stuck in a cycle of toxic love. Tune in as we explore the reasons behind her repeated return to familiar pain, and shed light on the path to breaking free. Listen to “If He’s A “High Value Man” What Am I?” through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Ever found yourself in relationships where you ask yourself, “Why do I stay when I know I deserve better?” You’re not alone. In a new episode of “Where Should We Begin?”, I unravel the heartbreaking struggle of a woman stuck in a cycle of toxic love. Tune in as we explore the reasons behind her repeated return to familiar pain, and shed light on the path to breaking free. Listen to “If He’s A “High Value Man” What Am I?” through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Cultivating trust requires millions of micro-risks that show us we’re not foolish for being confident in our relationship. It requires taking risks together that show us our partner isn’t the same as the people from our past who hurt us. Most importantly, trust requires taking risks together that help us grow into better partners for each other. If we let each other fall in the past, it’s going to take a lot of trust falls to show that we’re committed now to always catching each other, to really holding each other at our most vulnerable. The worst case scenario is that they drop us so many times that we finally understand we can’t trust them. That’s important to learn, too. But if we don’t take the risk at all, we might never know either way. Visit the link in my bio for more on this topic.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Fantasy is our very human ability to come back to something and forever change or relive it. Fantasy has the power to connect us to hope, playfulness, and mystery and often express our deepest emotional needs and wishes — surrender, abandon, being taken care of, being in charge, being safely aggressive — all in the language of sex. Much of my sexual education came from films. Many of these scenes play out fantasies. I believe, if we didn’t have fantasy, we couldn’t live. We all have these imaginative resources that allow us to play and be curious, to go beyond our lived experience. The wonder of fantasy is that it allows us to bypass reality; we can let go of the constraints of age, physical limits, material realities, health conditions and religious restrictions. I invite you to explore the selection of my Top 10 Erotic Films featured in @thecut through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Depression is the family secret that everyone has. Approximately 280 million people suffer from depression worldwide (WHO). There are few people who haven’t been touched by it either directly or indirectly yet it is a conversation many are hesitant to have. So, let’s talk about it. Three years ago, I invited writer and lecturer, Andrew Solomon to my Sessions community to have a conversation about depression. In this clip, Andrew and I discuss how depression and anxiety of today is the mirror response to the pressure on happiness. The expectation of a constant state of happiness will cause you to constantly wonder if you are happy or if you are happy ENOUGH. Society’s distortions of people posting their best moments and their best selves on social media and this obsession with happiness and its relentless pursuit inherently creates massive uncertainty and self-doubt. Visit the link in my bio to watch part of our conversation as Andrew defines depression and we explore the complexities and challenges surrounding it as well as treatment and critical actions for parents and friends of someone who is depressed. For the full conversation, I invite you to join my Sessions community at sessions.estherperel.com. #mentalhealthawarenessmonth
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Caption : When a woman’s place was stirring the pot around the fire and men were off hunting down the dinner, both sexes generally only came together for romance. Today, we go through life with more friends, boyfriends, and girlfriends than any generation before us. So how do we decide who will be what? I have male friends I’ve known since high school. In fact, ‘boyfriends’ came and went, but many of the ‘boy friends’ are still solidly in my life. The very fact that they were my friends meant I had absolutely no romantic feelings for them. Over the years, we’ve played many roles for each other: playmates, career counsellors, confidantes, and alibis. We’ve told each other what to wear, say, do, been there for weddings, child-induced sleepless nights, funerals and marital collapses. Some people truly believe that a friendship between opposite sexed is not really possible. They blame the inevitable X factor, while others claim jealously will rear its head when one of the two has a partner or gets married. Trust is key. Can women and men be friends? I answer with an unequivocal yes — with good communication, boundaries, expectations and an open mind. Our world has evolved so rapidly these last decades when it comes to gender, sex, and romance — opening up even more possibility and opportunity. I believe we’re blessed with the ability to weave many types of relationships and for me, friendship between men and women is a unique strand that needs to be valued highly. I’d love to hear your thoughts.
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Caption : Even couples that don’t “fight” have conflict. Explore the dynamics of conflict in relationships my latest course, Turning Conflict Into Connection. Inside, I’ll take you through a series of short videos and exercises to teach you what causes conflict, how you can better understand your responses (and your partner’s), and skills and frameworks you can start using right away to transform conflict into opportunities for growth, strengthening the foundation of your relationship. Conflict is intrinsic to every relationship. Together, let’s master the art of navigating conflict, enriching our relationships along the way. Visit the link in my bio.
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Caption : Earlier this month, I sat down with @danharris on the @tenpercenthappier podcast to talk about the “One Thing That Will Improve the Quality of Your Life.” Listen to the full episode through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Today marks the first day of Mental Health Awareness Month. And while it’s important to recognize the strides we’ve made in normalizing conversations around mental health, we also must acknowledge how individualized the conversation has been. How such an emphasis on “self-care” can actually make us more isolated and alone, the focus heavily centered on the self, the individual. What’s lost here is the mutuality of relationships—the reciprocity, the way that you weave fabric between people who are relying on each other, the healing capacity of the collective. Feeling personally and communally supported and connected is a key component to feeling good. Intimacy and human interaction have a direct correlation to our mental health and longevity. Relational health must be a focal point of our mental health approach going forward. After all, the quality of relationships determines the quality of our lives.
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Caption : In the past, when a relationship ended, that was it. Most of the time you had no way of finding the person anymore. You had moved. They had moved. Yet, in the present day, we possess the capability to sustain connections, whether by choice or circumstance. I’m frequently asked the question, “When two people break up should there be an expectation of friendship?” Additionally, “Is this even possible?” This question has to be put in context, considering factors such as life stage, age, and the nuances of the breakup. And it’s important to allow for some time, a transitional period between the end of the relationship and the start of a friendship. Can people stay friends with people they once had a romantic relationship with? Absolutely. Can people do so in a way that is not threatening to their current relationship? Of course that too. The question is a question of trust, of mutual respect, of openness, and of clear boundaries. (Video credit: @thecut)
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. ‍ And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. ‍ And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. ‍ And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. ‍ And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. ‍ And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. ‍ And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : In my most recent newsletter, I expressed my commitment to focus. To focus on one thing consistently, one thing that does not involve me touching my phone, and going deep just into that one thing. This fall, it’s guitar. I’ve wanted to pick it back up for years. I want to get that focus back—string by string—and finally calm my wandering mind. So, I’m doing it. I’ve committed to learning four songs from the old days. Recently, I told a colleague over Zoom I couldn’t go into “meeting overtime” because my guitar teacher was coming. And, with that, I immediately saw how committing specific time to learning also creates a helpful boundary between work and home. My advice to you is to try something new—especially something creative—it’s a great way to jumpstart emotional connection. Having a project, building something, planting, cooking or baking (especially the recipes of our ancestors)… It’s the small, heartwarming, sensual thing that brings light into our lives in a new way. ‍ And if even that feels difficult, start here: close your eyes and imagine feeling totally flat. What are you thinking? What other feelings come up? How does your body feel? What does it make you want to do? Now, reverse that. Imagine the most joyful feeling you can conjure. Take it to its extreme. What thoughts inspire that state of mind? How does it feel in your body? What might you feel motivated to do? Sometimes just taking this mindset of peaceful excitement with us as we continue in our routines can help refresh them. And when we’re ready to take it further, our imagination will be waiting, ready.
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Caption : “Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity. At the same time, we expect our committed relationships to be romantic as well as emotionally and sexually fulfilling. Is it any wonder that so many relationships crumble under the weight of it all?” – Mating in Captivity. Our expectations of our partners have never been so high. We often put too much pressure on our romantic partners and have unrealistic expectations for them. We expect a lover, best friend, co-parent, advisor, and more, and people usually can’t fulfill all of these different needs all of the time. You slowly begin to realize that person doesn’t necessarily conform to your expectations. When these expectations are not met, these become the source of disappointment, resentment, and misunderstanding — and eventually, suffering and pain. How do we steer clear of resentment and pave the way for thriving relationships? As Eli Finkel explains, it often involves adjusting our expectations without necessarily diminishing them. Rather than lowering our standards, we might find success in recalibrating them and diversifying our approach by inviting others to contribute to fulfilling our relational needs. And be sure to engage in new experiences together. While sticking to familiar and enjoyable activities can strengthen the friendship aspect, true depth and intimacy often require venturing outside our comfort zones and embracing risk through new experiences with our partner.
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Caption : I’ve spent much of the past two weeks watching, listening, and having difficult conversations—my attention locked on the horror that is taking place in the Middle East and the waves of fear and hatred reverberating across the world. As I’ve mentioned many times before, my parents were survivors of the Nazi concentration camps and sole survivors of their respective families. Like many of you, trauma was woven into the fabric of my family history. Today, an entire history of intergenerational trauma lies awake inside of me and I know I am not alone in experiencing that. My inbox during these days has been inundated with demands and pleas, for me to “speak out”, “say more”, “take a stance.” But after my previous post, I felt compelled to take a moment. Not because I had nothing to say but because I needed time to process, to gather my thoughts, to ensure that my anger, frustration, and fear don’t speak for me. This isn’t just another headline or a distant crisis; it hits close to home in a way that words can scarcely convey. And this moment of reflection has allowed me to honor the depth of the pain and resilience that runs through my family’s history and through the family history of many others, on all sides. I needed a moment to connect with the shared human experience that binds us all. Across our feeds, I see intense polarization. I see rage that is drowning out the fear. I see a focus on making a point rather than making a difference. The words we use emphasize our differences and pull us apart, but the feelings we hold highlight the similarities of our experiences. The grief, the fear, the heartbreak are universal. In these last weeks, one thing has become clear, something crucial is missing—a sincere and compassionate acknowledgment of one another’s experiences. At this moment, we need compassion, curiosity, and empathy to stay connected, not only with the humanity of others, but with our own humanity. If we don’t find a way to truly listen to each other, acknowledge the collective pain, and stay connected, trauma will continue to be woven into the fabric of generations to come.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Birthdays are a moment of reflection — a celebration yes, but also an annual benchmark, a moment to survey the vista and see from whence you’ve come. I found myself flipping through old photo albums this week, reflecting on my early childhood, my first steps on stage at 3 years old, to studying education and theater at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, to expressive arts therapy at Lesley College, jumping to much later down the line when speaking, improvising, and playing on-stage is still such a part of my life. These memories draw me back through this lifelong pursuit of play, reminding me how formative this liberating act has been in my world and my work. Encouraging me, even now, to continually come back to the play that has shaped me.
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Caption : Why is it often easier for us to fight than to listen? Polarity in relationships can become quite an intense dynamic — especially on the big issues and decisions. As we each dig our heels in further, we actually reinforce the opposing viewpoint of our counterpart rather than create opportunity for alignment. One way to diffuse is to begin to consider and even argue the other side, allow yourself to feel and truly consider the opposing viewpoints. Allow them to do the same. There are opportunities to shift the energetics by talking instead of fighting, by diffusing, listening, and coming to center instead of holding ground. What would it look like if we took a moment to genuinely listen to a perspective other than our own? Explore my @masterclass through the link in my bio to master this concept and many more. Right now, you get two memberships for the price of one, making this a perfect holiday gift.
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Caption : Making new friends as an adult can be challenging, especially when so many of us are working from home, shopping from home, even dating from the comfort of our couches. For some of us, the momentum required to get up and out of the house has never been higher, and this at-home inertia can be quite a hurdle when it comes to creating community in a new city, expanding your social sphere, or simply nurturing a new friendship. The key is getting out in the world, experiencing your neighborhood, happenings in your area, inviting new friends to deepen a relationship over a cocktail or a concert. It’s these shared experiences that create bonds and memories, spark fascinating conversations and reveal commonalities. What are some of your favorite activities to do with new friends or lovers? Visit last month’s workshop through the link in my bio to explore adult friendships and how to build stronger connections in today’s world.
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Caption : We are taught from a young age to express ourselves. The parts of us that don’t fit in with the groups and communities we are part of, get relegated to a dark corner inside of us. Most of us don’t learn for years what’s in that corner. We have a sense of it. But we don’t dare investigate. I think we can all relate to that loneliness. Despite how alone we may feel, this is one of the most universal experiences in the world—particularly if the part you are hiding is that you are not straight or cis. If you’re reading this and seeing yourself, then you intimately know the shame and fear that comes from the threat of being excluded or excommunicated from the very groups that mean so much to you, whether it’s your family, friend group, or religious institution. Despite the proliferation of Pride celebrations worldwide, many of us don’t come from places that are ready to embrace us in our fullness. But that, too, is a universal experience. I’ve witnessed and studied many powerful examples of human connection. But there is one that I return to time and time again to illustrate why friendship is just as important as romantic partnership or familial ties – the concept of chosen family. Those who shine a light into that dark corner inside of us. Those who see who we truly are. Those who accept it. And those who can relate. In this month’s newsletter, I explore chosen family, how I’ve seen this structure support and uplift those around me, and how family of choice has held me. Follow the link in my bio to read the full story.
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Caption : We are taught from a young age to express ourselves. The parts of us that don’t fit in with the groups and communities we are part of, get relegated to a dark corner inside of us. Most of us don’t learn for years what’s in that corner. We have a sense of it. But we don’t dare investigate. I think we can all relate to that loneliness. Despite how alone we may feel, this is one of the most universal experiences in the world—particularly if the part you are hiding is that you are not straight or cis. If you’re reading this and seeing yourself, then you intimately know the shame and fear that comes from the threat of being excluded or excommunicated from the very groups that mean so much to you, whether it’s your family, friend group, or religious institution. Despite the proliferation of Pride celebrations worldwide, many of us don’t come from places that are ready to embrace us in our fullness. But that, too, is a universal experience. I’ve witnessed and studied many powerful examples of human connection. But there is one that I return to time and time again to illustrate why friendship is just as important as romantic partnership or familial ties – the concept of chosen family. Those who shine a light into that dark corner inside of us. Those who see who we truly are. Those who accept it. And those who can relate. In this month’s newsletter, I explore chosen family, how I’ve seen this structure support and uplift those around me, and how family of choice has held me. Follow the link in my bio to read the full story.
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Caption : Engaging in eroticism enables us to maintain a sense of aliveness, vibrancy, and vitality. But many of us may wonder, what does eroticism truly mean? The erotic landscape is vastly larger, richer, and more intricate than the physiology of sex or any repertoire of sexual techniques. It’s the unexpected yet welcomed touch on a great first date; it’s noticing how late summer rain feels on your skin and inviting your lover outside to experience it with you; it’s traveling to a brand new place and experiencing it unfold before you. As Octavio Paz has implied, eroticism is the poetry of the body the way that poetry is the eroticism of language. Eroticism is cultivating pleasure for its own sake. What are some ways you like to bring eroticism into your life? For me, eroticism is trying new things, going new places, making new connections. It’s also remembering the ancient things you’ve long forgotten. Prompts from my card game, Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories guide me to do just that. I invite you to enter into a practice of exploration, curiosity, connection—not just physically, but energetically, emotionally, and psychologically.
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Caption : “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.” ― Rumi The process of repair begins with accountability. The act of taking responsibility for your part, coming to the center of the conflict, hands open, taking ownership of your contribution with no expectation of reciprocation or forgiveness. In couples, breakthrough happens when each person freely shares what they are doing differently with the intention to improve things, rather than doggedly focusing on the change they need from their partner. This is how therapists know they’re getting somewhere. Their job is not to act as judge, jury, and executioner. It’s to help the clients navigate how people in love can behave in unloving ways—and how they can carve a new path. To learn more about the art of taking accountability, visit my recent newsletter on the topic through the link in my bio.
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Caption : Traveling has been a lifelong passion for me. When I first began traveling, I had to see as many places as possible – the temples, the mosques, the churches. What building can I see? What place can I discover? Often, the value of a vacation lies in committing yourself to doing nothing at all. Relaxing without an agenda. A vacation means releasing ourselves from the burdens of planning and productivity. It’s stepping away from the “I must” or “I should” that allows us to enter a liminal space. In my recent trip, even though my surroundings had changed, I was still occupied by work and home and thinking of all that I had planned during my time abroad. But, I reminded myself, during your time off, your only job is to make room for serendipity. Now, I’m committed to focusing less on the number of places I should see and more on creating space inside of me for a real vacation, a real break. I focus more on the quality of my experiences, not the quantity of activities I’m able to complete. I focus on emptying out and making space so I can come back replenished and a little stronger. So tell me, what do you need when you need a break? Explore this topic further by reading my latest newsletter linked in my bio.
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Caption : How to Become the Perfect Partner 🧡 Follow: @greatness x @estherperelofficial and head to episode 1433 on The School of Greatness for more. Recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships, Esther Perel shares how to develop a healthy relationship with your own expectations, and so much more in this powerful masterclass 🔥 You tuning in? Drop a YES!
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Caption : In moments when our loved ones confide in us with their pain or struggles, it’s natural to want to leap into action, to fix things, to offer solutions. However, what I’ve found is that true support often begins with a different approach: being an empathic witness. Rather than rushing to provide answers or solutions, we can instead offer a listening ear and an open heart. When someone shares their feelings or experiences with us, we can respond with curiosity and compassion, inviting them to share more by saying, “Tell me more,” or checking in to see if they wish to continue the conversation. This simple gesture communicates that we’re here to listen, to understand, and to validate their emotions. Being an empathic witness doesn’t require us to have all the answers or to make the pain disappear. Instead, it’s about holding space for the other person’s emotions, allowing them to express themselves freely without judgment or interruption, to convey that their feelings are valid and worthy of attention, even if all we do is listen.
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Caption : Intimacy extends beyond romantic bonds, yet we frequently place the burden of fulfilling all our intimate needs solely on our partners. How might we redistribute this responsibility to foster healthier dynamics? Recently, I had the pleasure of speaking with @dailyfrontrow to discuss why modern dating feels so lonely today and what we can do about it. We also delved into details about my upcoming tour. Visit the link in my bio to read our full conversation.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : “It’s a cardinal rule in therapy that practitioners aren’t supposed to tell their patients what to do or how to live. Instead, it’s their job to sagely guide them toward a new perspective.” There are however rules I live by that act as guideposts and inspiration for creating deep connections, expressing myself freely, and having a bit of fun. Join me on @thecut as I explore Rules To Live By with writer Bindu Bansinath via the link in my bio.
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Caption : Sharing stories, needs, desires, or grievances— there’s a powerful connection in the balance between speaking thoughtfully and listening intently. Click the link in my bio for a refresher on the Six Essential Practices to enhance your listening skills in relationships.
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Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
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Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
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Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
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Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
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Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
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Caption : Every day I work with couples who have been devastated by infidelity. They are in disbelief, gutted, shattered. Despite how common affairs are, the intensity of reactions that surround the topic of infidelity stands in the way of understanding, repair, and resilience — all elements that are crucial to the vitality of a relationship. Love is messy, infidelity more so. As a friend or family member of someone who has discovered an affair, your role is to be a support system and guide your loved one in getting back their own sense of self-worth, to overcome what very well may be one of the most challenging times of their life. Visit the link in my bio to learn how to best support a friend or family member during this time.
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