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From one inexpensive thing I might misplace that never had to be charged to three insanely expensive things I will definitely misplace all of which have to be charged. Progress! (I held out as long as I could but it felt like Apple was intentionally making the corded earbuds flimsier or something — remember the ads where people were dancing wildly with their corded earbuds in? Yeah, last few years my corded earbuds would turn off whatever I was listening to if I took three steps. So, I made the switch — under duress. And because the mean girls at the gym were making fun of me.)
I recently had the privilege of welcoming the legendary 𝐃𝐀𝐍 𝐒𝐀𝐕𝐀𝐆𝐄 to speak to over 1,200 of my students in my Human Sexuality class here in Seattle at the University of Washington. 🥳🎉 As an author and activist, Dan has significantly shaped the conversation around modern sex and love. Here were some of his most provocative take-aways! 😉🔥 1️⃣ 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐍𝐨𝐧-𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐠𝐚𝐦𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐅𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐀𝐅: It’s time to retire the stale narrative that consensual non-monogamy oppresses women, who now often surpass men in their education and careers. Traditional heteronormative power differentials are withering away, inviting a shift toward more open and equitable relationships. As a result, women nowadays are more likely to feel empowered in the choice to open their relationship and often are the ones who have an easier time finding more casual, peripheral partners. 2️⃣ 𝐈𝐬 “𝐓𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐲” 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐏𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐲? We all know Dan loves a good neologism (i.e. did you know he invented “monogamish” and “pegging?”) Have you heard of his latest term though, “Tolyamory?” Tolyamory, Dan argues, is the most common type of polyamory, and describes an otherwise monogamous relationship where metamours are tolerated (hence the “toly”) but never openly discussed. Need examples? Think the Clintons, FDR and Eleanor Roosevelt, Daphne and Cameron from Season Two of “White Lotus,” and…the French. Perhaps we need to stop judging unspoken arrangements and accept that sometimes it works better when everything’s not “out in the open.” 3️⃣ 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞: Dan shared a golden rule for any short-term relationship including casual sex: the Campsite Rule. The principle is simple yet profound: Always do your best to leave people in a better shape than you found them, just as you would a campsite. It’s a reminder of the care and respect we owe each other, regardless of the duration of our relationships, no matter how ephemeral. Thank you, Dan, for an unforgettable and transformative experience! 🙏💖 #UniversityofWashington #UWSeattle #WashingtonHuskies #UWHuskies #DanSavage #SavageLove
I recently had the privilege of welcoming the legendary 𝐃𝐀𝐍 𝐒𝐀𝐕𝐀𝐆𝐄 to speak to over 1,200 of my students in my Human Sexuality class here in Seattle at the University of Washington. 🥳🎉 As an author and activist, Dan has significantly shaped the conversation around modern sex and love. Here were some of his most provocative take-aways! 😉🔥 1️⃣ 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐍𝐨𝐧-𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐠𝐚𝐦𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐅𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐀𝐅: It’s time to retire the stale narrative that consensual non-monogamy oppresses women, who now often surpass men in their education and careers. Traditional heteronormative power differentials are withering away, inviting a shift toward more open and equitable relationships. As a result, women nowadays are more likely to feel empowered in the choice to open their relationship and often are the ones who have an easier time finding more casual, peripheral partners. 2️⃣ 𝐈𝐬 “𝐓𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐲” 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐏𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐲? We all know Dan loves a good neologism (i.e. did you know he invented “monogamish” and “pegging?”) Have you heard of his latest term though, “Tolyamory?” Tolyamory, Dan argues, is the most common type of polyamory, and describes an otherwise monogamous relationship where metamours are tolerated (hence the “toly”) but never openly discussed. Need examples? Think the Clintons, FDR and Eleanor Roosevelt, Daphne and Cameron from Season Two of “White Lotus,” and…the French. Perhaps we need to stop judging unspoken arrangements and accept that sometimes it works better when everything’s not “out in the open.” 3️⃣ 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞: Dan shared a golden rule for any short-term relationship including casual sex: the Campsite Rule. The principle is simple yet profound: Always do your best to leave people in a better shape than you found them, just as you would a campsite. It’s a reminder of the care and respect we owe each other, regardless of the duration of our relationships, no matter how ephemeral. Thank you, Dan, for an unforgettable and transformative experience! 🙏💖 #UniversityofWashington #UWSeattle #WashingtonHuskies #UWHuskies #DanSavage #SavageLove
I recently had the privilege of welcoming the legendary 𝐃𝐀𝐍 𝐒𝐀𝐕𝐀𝐆𝐄 to speak to over 1,200 of my students in my Human Sexuality class here in Seattle at the University of Washington. 🥳🎉 As an author and activist, Dan has significantly shaped the conversation around modern sex and love. Here were some of his most provocative take-aways! 😉🔥 1️⃣ 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐍𝐨𝐧-𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐠𝐚𝐦𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐅𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐀𝐅: It’s time to retire the stale narrative that consensual non-monogamy oppresses women, who now often surpass men in their education and careers. Traditional heteronormative power differentials are withering away, inviting a shift toward more open and equitable relationships. As a result, women nowadays are more likely to feel empowered in the choice to open their relationship and often are the ones who have an easier time finding more casual, peripheral partners. 2️⃣ 𝐈𝐬 “𝐓𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐲” 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐏𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐲? We all know Dan loves a good neologism (i.e. did you know he invented “monogamish” and “pegging?”) Have you heard of his latest term though, “Tolyamory?” Tolyamory, Dan argues, is the most common type of polyamory, and describes an otherwise monogamous relationship where metamours are tolerated (hence the “toly”) but never openly discussed. Need examples? Think the Clintons, FDR and Eleanor Roosevelt, Daphne and Cameron from Season Two of “White Lotus,” and…the French. Perhaps we need to stop judging unspoken arrangements and accept that sometimes it works better when everything’s not “out in the open.” 3️⃣ 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞: Dan shared a golden rule for any short-term relationship including casual sex: the Campsite Rule. The principle is simple yet profound: Always do your best to leave people in a better shape than you found them, just as you would a campsite. It’s a reminder of the care and respect we owe each other, regardless of the duration of our relationships, no matter how ephemeral. Thank you, Dan, for an unforgettable and transformative experience! 🙏💖 #UniversityofWashington #UWSeattle #WashingtonHuskies #UWHuskies #DanSavage #SavageLove
I recently had the privilege of welcoming the legendary 𝐃𝐀𝐍 𝐒𝐀𝐕𝐀𝐆𝐄 to speak to over 1,200 of my students in my Human Sexuality class here in Seattle at the University of Washington. 🥳🎉 As an author and activist, Dan has significantly shaped the conversation around modern sex and love. Here were some of his most provocative take-aways! 😉🔥 1️⃣ 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐍𝐨𝐧-𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐠𝐚𝐦𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐅𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐀𝐅: It’s time to retire the stale narrative that consensual non-monogamy oppresses women, who now often surpass men in their education and careers. Traditional heteronormative power differentials are withering away, inviting a shift toward more open and equitable relationships. As a result, women nowadays are more likely to feel empowered in the choice to open their relationship and often are the ones who have an easier time finding more casual, peripheral partners. 2️⃣ 𝐈𝐬 “𝐓𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐲” 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐏𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐲? We all know Dan loves a good neologism (i.e. did you know he invented “monogamish” and “pegging?”) Have you heard of his latest term though, “Tolyamory?” Tolyamory, Dan argues, is the most common type of polyamory, and describes an otherwise monogamous relationship where metamours are tolerated (hence the “toly”) but never openly discussed. Need examples? Think the Clintons, FDR and Eleanor Roosevelt, Daphne and Cameron from Season Two of “White Lotus,” and…the French. Perhaps we need to stop judging unspoken arrangements and accept that sometimes it works better when everything’s not “out in the open.” 3️⃣ 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞: Dan shared a golden rule for any short-term relationship including casual sex: the Campsite Rule. The principle is simple yet profound: Always do your best to leave people in a better shape than you found them, just as you would a campsite. It’s a reminder of the care and respect we owe each other, regardless of the duration of our relationships, no matter how ephemeral. Thank you, Dan, for an unforgettable and transformative experience! 🙏💖 #UniversityofWashington #UWSeattle #WashingtonHuskies #UWHuskies #DanSavage #SavageLove
I recently had the privilege of welcoming the legendary 𝐃𝐀𝐍 𝐒𝐀𝐕𝐀𝐆𝐄 to speak to over 1,200 of my students in my Human Sexuality class here in Seattle at the University of Washington. 🥳🎉 As an author and activist, Dan has significantly shaped the conversation around modern sex and love. Here were some of his most provocative take-aways! 😉🔥 1️⃣ 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐍𝐨𝐧-𝐌𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐠𝐚𝐦𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐅𝐞𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐀𝐅: It’s time to retire the stale narrative that consensual non-monogamy oppresses women, who now often surpass men in their education and careers. Traditional heteronormative power differentials are withering away, inviting a shift toward more open and equitable relationships. As a result, women nowadays are more likely to feel empowered in the choice to open their relationship and often are the ones who have an easier time finding more casual, peripheral partners. 2️⃣ 𝐈𝐬 “𝐓𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐲” 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐏𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐲? We all know Dan loves a good neologism (i.e. did you know he invented “monogamish” and “pegging?”) Have you heard of his latest term though, “Tolyamory?” Tolyamory, Dan argues, is the most common type of polyamory, and describes an otherwise monogamous relationship where metamours are tolerated (hence the “toly”) but never openly discussed. Need examples? Think the Clintons, FDR and Eleanor Roosevelt, Daphne and Cameron from Season Two of “White Lotus,” and…the French. Perhaps we need to stop judging unspoken arrangements and accept that sometimes it works better when everything’s not “out in the open.” 3️⃣ 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐑𝐮𝐥𝐞: Dan shared a golden rule for any short-term relationship including casual sex: the Campsite Rule. The principle is simple yet profound: Always do your best to leave people in a better shape than you found them, just as you would a campsite. It’s a reminder of the care and respect we owe each other, regardless of the duration of our relationships, no matter how ephemeral. Thank you, Dan, for an unforgettable and transformative experience! 🙏💖 #UniversityofWashington #UWSeattle #WashingtonHuskies #UWHuskies #DanSavage #SavageLove
Nice to see Mr. Benis again.
Nice to see Mr. Benis again.
Nice to see Mr. Benis again.
I believe the children are our future.
New Lovecast! In the Intro: Gay-faced jerk proposes to GF in June, defeats pride, breaks Internet! Then: their new poly guru is giving culty vibes and a married caller is nervous about introducing the GF to her in-laws. And joining me on the Magnum:… author Leo Herrara (@herreraimages) joins me to talk about his new book “(analog) CRUISING.” Leo wants gay men to put down our phones and learn how to pick each other up again. Leo wants you off the apps and in the streets! Get the Lovecast on all podcast platforms or listen and subscribe at savage.love!
New Savage Lovecast up now! In the intro, the GOP agenda for American women: husbands you can’t leave, pregnancies you can’t terminate, politicians you can’t vote out. Then: do rules against “catching feelings” ever work? Plus: does her roommate not wanna f*ck her again or is he just dense? And the baby veto. Listen now at savage.love!
Got my imposter syndrome booster shot this week @aspenideas — thank you for having me back!
Had a great time hosting HUMP in Berlin for the second year in a row at Babylon Kreuzberg — and an audience member and Magnum Lovecast Sub brought me a lovely gift! HUMP! 2024 Part One is touring now! To find out when HUMP is coming to a city near you go to HumpFilmFest.com!
Had a great time hosting HUMP in Berlin for the second year in a row at Babylon Kreuzberg — and an audience member and Magnum Lovecast Sub brought me a lovely gift! HUMP! 2024 Part One is touring now! To find out when HUMP is coming to a city near you go to HumpFilmFest.com!
Had a great time hosting HUMP in Berlin for the second year in a row at Babylon Kreuzberg — and an audience member and Magnum Lovecast Sub brought me a lovely gift! HUMP! 2024 Part One is touring now! To find out when HUMP is coming to a city near you go to HumpFilmFest.com!
New Savage Lovecast! At the top of the show I prove — yet again — that AI technology can’t do my job. (WHEW!) Then a caller is worried her BF might be gay… and all signs (and his fuck machine) point to… probably? Another caller isn’t sure what to do with all the hot young men who are hitting on her. (I have some suggestions!) And joining me for the interview: @rhainacohen, author of “The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life WITG Friendship at the Center.” We talk about the relationships that truly sustain us — spoiler: they’re not our romantic partners or our fuck machines. Listen now at savage.love or wherever you get your podcasts!
New Sex & Politics with author Rob Henderson — we talk about his new book “Troubled,” growing up in the foster care system, the chaos adults inflict on children, and his concept of “luxury beliefs.” He considers open relationships to be one and we argue about that… a lot. Listen at savage.love!
Video clip from a recent Savage Love Live — my advice for a caller who has been living with his ex after their breakup and it’s been pretty peaceful and mellow lately. But the lease is up and now they’re getting ready to move out (and move on) and he wanted advice on, well, sticking the dismount — keeping things friendly during the final stressful stage of what was, in essence, a breakup on hold. Savage Love Live shows are invite-only for our Magnum Subs — if you want to come to the next SLL, become one of my subs now at savage.love!
My guest on the Magnum Savage Lovecast this week: Dr. Eric Sprankle, author of “DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation!” We talk sperm retention (and why it’s bullshit), “wellness” influencers (and their bullshit), and — yes — we talk about fetal masturbation… which is a thing. It’s a great convo! Subscribe and listen at savage.love!
Recent studies show that singles are more open to nonmonogamy in their dating lives, even if they aren’t practicing it. Author and host of The Savage Lovecast @DanSavage believes this is a sign that daters actually want to have stronger, mostly monogamous relationships. Say what?! Listen to the clip to get the full explanation. Have you seen an increase in nonmonogamous practices in your dating scene? To hear the full interview, listen to the Dates & Mates episode titled, “The Big 500 & Savage Love”. #dansavage #datinggoals #dating101 #damonahoffman #datesandmates
Join us this Thursday for “The Gender Question” panel – a conversation about the evolution of gender – at the 20th #AspenIdeas Festival! June 27, 2024 3:10 PM-4:00 PM Paepcke Auditorium
