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Caption : My mom died 12 years ago today. She was beautiful, smart, charming, and a thoroughly destructive (to self and others) alcoholic. That’s what killed her. I don’t know how I thought I could write a book about our relationship quickly. Well, I do: I thought that I could think my way through it. I thought I could do the research and that would be the core of the book: talks with scientists about childhood trauma, a complete family tree. I thought I could do all that work without my feelings distracting me. I thought I could use concentration and intellectual rigor in the place of feeling. I’ve been good at that. But grief will be heard. It demands attention. Grief will surface with a vengeance whether you want it to or not. It will make you pay interest if you have ignored its bill. So for a year and a half I have been feeling my way through it. I have not been writing as much as I thought I would… and slowly letting go of punishing myself for that. I have been trying to invite myself to write rather than making myself write. So I invite you to write with me. Sunday at 1pm CT via Zoom, link to come. It’s a spontaneous invitation. The best kind. UPDATE: Link! https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAucOmpqDkuH91I-ow9X0SCFA-sGq4i2YEC (UPDATE: Link in bio, finally!) It’s a follow up to my celebration of recovery last month (yes she died a month and a day after I got my first year sober). It’s also a celebration of recovery, but — if you like this topic — a celebration of allowing oneself to feel grief… the only way to an ongoing, forever-in-process recovery from it. Join me just to be in community and support in the invitation to feel what demands to be felt.Likes : 832

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Caption : Saw Alex Garland’s Civil War without thinking too much about the fact that my hair was still dirty, had no makeup on, was wearing a shirt I pulled off the floor. But it turns out to have been exactly the look I needed to pay homage to Kirsten Dunst, who is fantastic in the movie and the movie fantastic overall. I loved it. And it’s the first movie in years that left me just sitting in theater while the credits rolled, thinking about how I felt. I really might see it again. It hit me particularly hard as someone who has benefited from political upheaval — I’ve never been a war correspondent but I am drawn to and sometimes benefit from unrest and discord, even if I have soul-deep belief in one side being preferable to the other. Some people have accused it of being both-sidery and I find that critique baffling. It has a moral center. But it doesn’t pull punches.Likes : 489

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Caption : God willing, I’ll have 13 years of sobriety on March 23rd. To mark this special occasion, I’m hosting a virtual writing party for anyone who wants to reflect on whatever it is they’re building to or recovering from. I’ll provide some prompts but the topic is OPEN. 📅 Date: March 23rd 🕒 Time: 3:00 PM CST ⏰ Duration: Approximately 2 hours (or until the ink runs out!) Bring your favorite writing tools and a celebratory snack or bev, connect with fellow writers, and celebrate recovery, whatever that means to you. You can register off the link on the front page of my website anamariecox.com! #SobrietyCelebration #WritingParty #CreativeCommunity #InkSpiration #CelebrateRecovery #WritingJourney #SoberLife #WriterCommunity #SoberAnniversary #WritersUnite #RecoveryWins #Wordsmiths #SoberAndCreative #InkAndInspire #soberliving #literarycommunityLikes : 477

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Caption : Lucky 13.Likes : 394

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Caption : Pretty sure someone needs to invite me to the Hamptons.Likes : 367

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Caption : Tonight the brave little man is at @veterinary_emergency_group, getting more fluids and pain meds. And, get this: I can visit him *anytime.* I could stay the night! They have guest rooms! “That’s our whole thing,” the nurse told me, “You don’t have to just leave your pet here.” I am confident enough in their care — and his prognosis — that I will likely not be back until morning. Honestly, we both could use the sleep. Also I haven’t showered since the adventure began. Had a moment earlier then I thought, “Ew, Ex, you’re stinky!” And then it realized it might be me. Oh hey also sign up for my workshop, because the first class is tomorrow and I guarantee you the format will be quite heart-led.Likes : 358

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Caption : Ex update! He’s been a lot better but still not out of the woods. Part of the problem is he clearly hates his new diet food — low fat, low protein, bland. He is obviously hungry, because he keeps going to the food and treat cabinet that now holds nothing but forbidden delicacies. He’s also tried to get into the bathroom where the kitties eat and I had a minor heart attack when I was cleaning the litter box and thought he snuck some dry food behind my back — I decided he didn’t make it to the bowl because there was so much left and I imagine he would have taken more than a discreet munch. He’s also not showed any set backs since then, knock wood. I have some plain grilled chicken that I bought for my own treat and after consulting with the vet, I’ve been using tiny, tiny bits of it sprinkled into warmed-up diet food and he’s begrudgingly had some small meals. I will get chicken today to boil and make into a completely safe supplement (the grilled chicken, plain as it is, might still have more fat than is ideal). I am going to become the dog mom that cooks more for her dog than herself. He’s drinking plenty and has not had any further accidents in the house, all good signs. Luckily, I’ve also been able to secure the services of a full-time nurse who is very protective of his patient. I still don’t know what day it is but I do have a column due, pretty sure. Thanks to everyone who has written or sent messages. This has been scary and all-consuming. Exley has been my constant companion in these past few years of chaos and challenges; he’s never needed my help like I needed his. I am happy to be here for him and just want to keep being here for him and for him to keep being here, too.Likes : 321

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Caption : Ex update! He’s been a lot better but still not out of the woods. Part of the problem is he clearly hates his new diet food — low fat, low protein, bland. He is obviously hungry, because he keeps going to the food and treat cabinet that now holds nothing but forbidden delicacies. He’s also tried to get into the bathroom where the kitties eat and I had a minor heart attack when I was cleaning the litter box and thought he snuck some dry food behind my back — I decided he didn’t make it to the bowl because there was so much left and I imagine he would have taken more than a discreet munch. He’s also not showed any set backs since then, knock wood. I have some plain grilled chicken that I bought for my own treat and after consulting with the vet, I’ve been using tiny, tiny bits of it sprinkled into warmed-up diet food and he’s begrudgingly had some small meals. I will get chicken today to boil and make into a completely safe supplement (the grilled chicken, plain as it is, might still have more fat than is ideal). I am going to become the dog mom that cooks more for her dog than herself. He’s drinking plenty and has not had any further accidents in the house, all good signs. Luckily, I’ve also been able to secure the services of a full-time nurse who is very protective of his patient. I still don’t know what day it is but I do have a column due, pretty sure. Thanks to everyone who has written or sent messages. This has been scary and all-consuming. Exley has been my constant companion in these past few years of chaos and challenges; he’s never needed my help like I needed his. I am happy to be here for him and just want to keep being here for him and for him to keep being here, too.Likes : 321

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Caption : The Losers return to a very familiar place: ‘Salem’s Lot. But things look a tad different in 2004. Starring Rob Lowe, Donald Sutherland, Samantha Mathis, and the late and great Andre Braugher and Rutger Hauer, this TNT miniseries updated the 1975 novel by shifting the vampiric action into modern times. This affords the narrative a more topical lense, particularly the mutual feelings of a nation still reeling from 9/11 and the ensuing war overseas. Join the Losers in the popular Stephen King town as they weigh in on the miniseries’ 2004 vibes, the eerie connection to Wolves of the Calla, the changes to the source material, and the phenomenal cast — particularly Sutherland and Brauer. They also debate whether it’s cynical or earnest, why all the characters are jerks, the edge lord vibe of it all, and its connection to a more recent miniseries cut from the same cloth: Chapelwaite. Tune in via link in bio or in the main feed.Likes : 306

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Caption : The Losers return to a very familiar place: ‘Salem’s Lot. But things look a tad different in 2004. Starring Rob Lowe, Donald Sutherland, Samantha Mathis, and the late and great Andre Braugher and Rutger Hauer, this TNT miniseries updated the 1975 novel by shifting the vampiric action into modern times. This affords the narrative a more topical lense, particularly the mutual feelings of a nation still reeling from 9/11 and the ensuing war overseas. Join the Losers in the popular Stephen King town as they weigh in on the miniseries’ 2004 vibes, the eerie connection to Wolves of the Calla, the changes to the source material, and the phenomenal cast — particularly Sutherland and Brauer. They also debate whether it’s cynical or earnest, why all the characters are jerks, the edge lord vibe of it all, and its connection to a more recent miniseries cut from the same cloth: Chapelwaite. Tune in via link in bio or in the main feed.Likes : 306

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Caption : The Losers return to a very familiar place: ‘Salem’s Lot. But things look a tad different in 2004. Starring Rob Lowe, Donald Sutherland, Samantha Mathis, and the late and great Andre Braugher and Rutger Hauer, this TNT miniseries updated the 1975 novel by shifting the vampiric action into modern times. This affords the narrative a more topical lense, particularly the mutual feelings of a nation still reeling from 9/11 and the ensuing war overseas. Join the Losers in the popular Stephen King town as they weigh in on the miniseries’ 2004 vibes, the eerie connection to Wolves of the Calla, the changes to the source material, and the phenomenal cast — particularly Sutherland and Brauer. They also debate whether it’s cynical or earnest, why all the characters are jerks, the edge lord vibe of it all, and its connection to a more recent miniseries cut from the same cloth: Chapelwaite. Tune in via link in bio or in the main feed.Likes : 306

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Caption : The Losers return to a very familiar place: ‘Salem’s Lot. But things look a tad different in 2004. Starring Rob Lowe, Donald Sutherland, Samantha Mathis, and the late and great Andre Braugher and Rutger Hauer, this TNT miniseries updated the 1975 novel by shifting the vampiric action into modern times. This affords the narrative a more topical lense, particularly the mutual feelings of a nation still reeling from 9/11 and the ensuing war overseas. Join the Losers in the popular Stephen King town as they weigh in on the miniseries’ 2004 vibes, the eerie connection to Wolves of the Calla, the changes to the source material, and the phenomenal cast — particularly Sutherland and Brauer. They also debate whether it’s cynical or earnest, why all the characters are jerks, the edge lord vibe of it all, and its connection to a more recent miniseries cut from the same cloth: Chapelwaite. Tune in via link in bio or in the main feed.Likes : 306

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Caption : The Losers return to a very familiar place: ‘Salem’s Lot. But things look a tad different in 2004. Starring Rob Lowe, Donald Sutherland, Samantha Mathis, and the late and great Andre Braugher and Rutger Hauer, this TNT miniseries updated the 1975 novel by shifting the vampiric action into modern times. This affords the narrative a more topical lense, particularly the mutual feelings of a nation still reeling from 9/11 and the ensuing war overseas. Join the Losers in the popular Stephen King town as they weigh in on the miniseries’ 2004 vibes, the eerie connection to Wolves of the Calla, the changes to the source material, and the phenomenal cast — particularly Sutherland and Brauer. They also debate whether it’s cynical or earnest, why all the characters are jerks, the edge lord vibe of it all, and its connection to a more recent miniseries cut from the same cloth: Chapelwaite. Tune in via link in bio or in the main feed.Likes : 306

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Caption : The Losers return to a very familiar place: ‘Salem’s Lot. But things look a tad different in 2004. Starring Rob Lowe, Donald Sutherland, Samantha Mathis, and the late and great Andre Braugher and Rutger Hauer, this TNT miniseries updated the 1975 novel by shifting the vampiric action into modern times. This affords the narrative a more topical lense, particularly the mutual feelings of a nation still reeling from 9/11 and the ensuing war overseas. Join the Losers in the popular Stephen King town as they weigh in on the miniseries’ 2004 vibes, the eerie connection to Wolves of the Calla, the changes to the source material, and the phenomenal cast — particularly Sutherland and Brauer. They also debate whether it’s cynical or earnest, why all the characters are jerks, the edge lord vibe of it all, and its connection to a more recent miniseries cut from the same cloth: Chapelwaite. Tune in via link in bio or in the main feed.Likes : 306

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Caption : The Losers return to a very familiar place: ‘Salem’s Lot. But things look a tad different in 2004. Starring Rob Lowe, Donald Sutherland, Samantha Mathis, and the late and great Andre Braugher and Rutger Hauer, this TNT miniseries updated the 1975 novel by shifting the vampiric action into modern times. This affords the narrative a more topical lense, particularly the mutual feelings of a nation still reeling from 9/11 and the ensuing war overseas. Join the Losers in the popular Stephen King town as they weigh in on the miniseries’ 2004 vibes, the eerie connection to Wolves of the Calla, the changes to the source material, and the phenomenal cast — particularly Sutherland and Brauer. They also debate whether it’s cynical or earnest, why all the characters are jerks, the edge lord vibe of it all, and its connection to a more recent miniseries cut from the same cloth: Chapelwaite. Tune in via link in bio or in the main feed.Likes : 306

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Caption : Exley update! Eating is a really good sign. 🙂Likes : 265

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Caption : Exley update! Eating is a really good sign. 🙂Likes : 265

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Caption : Gonna keep wearing my thrifted Brooks Brothers until I get invited to “summer” somewhere.Likes : 257

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Caption : Exley update: Resting comfortably. Vet said he was very anxious at the kennel after the strong meds wore off so that it would be normal for him to conk out here. He did eat, as documented, and even ate a little more later. He has gone outside to do his business and growled at Molly for trying to steal his food. (Turnabout is fair play is what Molly said.) So things are returning to normal if only I could remember what day it is. I think I’m possibly on MSNBC tonight?Likes : 257

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Caption : I am available to speak! Enjoy my crying-in-parking-lot videos? My writing about recovery? My writing? I can talk, too! You can book me via @collectivespeakers for something big (and for-pay) or if you’re a smaller recovery group that wants a guest to speak about their experience, get in touch directly. I love to share my story.Likes : 248

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Caption : New haircut who dis?Likes : 240

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Caption : Ex update: Clean bloodwork results! Pancreas is functioning normally, his energy level is normal-ish (given being on 600mg of gabapentin), and he’s eating more. The vet said that he may be able to return to a less restrictive diet in a couple of weeks, which both of us will enjoy more. Also I got some meds for his as-yet-still undesirable poops, which have given us backside a certain… aroma. The vet tech cleaned up back there as best she could and told me she’d give him what I’d call a “doggy Brazilian” but he thrashed too much so his bikini modeling days will have to wait. Bram continues to be attentive to both of us, dividing his care between emotional and physical support (purrs are healing, I learned that from Margaret Atwood). His insurance rate went up $10/mo but still all worth it. I remembered it’s Friday today! Enjoy your weekend, thanks again for all the comments and messages.Likes : 238

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Caption : Got a home improvement project going… Results up in a couple of days 🤞🏻Likes : 228

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Caption : Can you STAND IT? Can you withstand this level of adorable???Likes : 225

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Caption : Can you STAND IT? Can you withstand this level of adorable???Likes : 225

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Caption : I try not to feel too bad about this — it’s a family disease, after all. But, it’s true, I have raised a large adult son of an alcoholic. Exley can’t come with me to meetings, but I’ve filled our home with recovery literature (that, uh, he can’t read, BUT… VIBES) and we often meditate and pray together. Molly and Bram have somehow escaped this fate (they’re frighteningly well-actualized) perhaps because they were not raised by *two* alcoholics? Or, you know, cats. Less prone to co-dependency. If you wonder about being an ACA, check out the “Laundry List” (Google it!). ACA has been an incredible program for my recovery. Exley will need someone to listen to his Fifth Step and it can’t be me, so maybe if one of you starts now… (Got this idea from following @confidentmutts)Likes : 217

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Caption : He’s gotten a little more subdued in his old age (7!!!!) but Ex-Man still likes to get his ball (“ball”) on.Likes : 215

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Caption : Finally have the post to show folks when they ask what country’s flag I have tattooed on my arm. lol: the tattoo IS a Rothko, it’s THAT ROTHKO.Likes : 213

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Caption : Finally have the post to show folks when they ask what country’s flag I have tattooed on my arm. lol: the tattoo IS a Rothko, it’s THAT ROTHKO.Likes : 213

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Caption : Bram is not only black, he’s dim. #sweetdumbthing #prettyboys #cats #onebraincellLikes : 204

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Caption : Who has no thumbs and is *high as f#uck*? More love to @modernanimal for easing Ex into a nail trim without full sedation.Likes : 200

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Caption : Can’t think of a more patriotic sentiment.Likes : 198

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Caption : UhhhhLikes : 193

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Caption : Exley does like five tricks total, this is his best one.Likes : 192

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Caption : I gotta get them their own IG handle.Likes : 185

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Caption : New bebe just dropped. (Congrats to @ainsley.mcknze @jlbachman @hlmacke on the new addition!)Likes : 179

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Caption : New bebe just dropped. (Congrats to @ainsley.mcknze @jlbachman @hlmacke on the new addition!)Likes : 179

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Caption : New bebe just dropped. (Congrats to @ainsley.mcknze @jlbachman @hlmacke on the new addition!)Likes : 179

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Caption : What’s the celebrity couple name here? “Exam” won’t work… Exram? Bramley?Likes : 173

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Caption : What’s the celebrity couple name here? “Exam” won’t work… Exram? Bramley?Likes : 173

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Caption : What’s the celebrity couple name here? “Exam” won’t work… Exram? Bramley?Likes : 173

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Caption : I wrote this terrible piece of doggrel during an Adult Children of Alcoholics meeting. Enjoy! (I think it’d be a great song to teach kids but I’m not ready to write a bad song.) When your head’s a mess And your to-do list is too long You’d rather stay in bed Just do a half-assed job Your inner critic is very loud You’re about to sob Don’t do the hardest thing Just do a half-assed job You’re a perfectionist You’re above the mob Be among the masses And do a half-assed job Perfection’s an illusion It keeps you trying too hard Join the rest of humanity And do a half-assed job This doesn’t really rhyme I’m teaching by example And I feel really strongly about this Please let yourself do a half-assed jobLikes : 169

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Caption : I’m obsessed with Alex Garland’s new movie, Civil War, and am starting a free, limited edition Substack in order to share this latest hyper-fixation. My neurodiversity is your extra reading. Go to civilwars.substack.com for a Civil War news and opinion update everyday for as long as my fixation lasts. My neurodivergence is your inbox clutter!Likes : 168

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Caption : She woke up like this. Molly Murderkitten hasn’t been getting quite the IG love she deserves thanks to the Bram and Exley show.Likes : 159

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Caption : Should I stop posting these or create their own account?Likes : 157

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Caption : Cheese-wantersLikes : 155

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Caption : Nurse Bram keeping tabs on any potential rumblies in Exley’s tumblies. Ex is doing great; still hates his diet food but doing great. I greet every good poop with a bar from “solid as a rock,” Arrested Development-style.Likes : 152

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Caption : CW racial violence. “The outright police brutalization and assault on Emory students exercising their constitutional right to free speech is a disgusting display of fascism. These young leaders, many who are LGBTQ , deserve the right to assemble and protest in peace without fear of state violence.” @humanrightscampaign Georgia state director @bentleyforus video of three cops holding down a Black student and pressing a taser against bare skin.Likes : 150

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Caption : About a month ago, Reactive Boy Exley decided he likes walks. Can still be excitable but I carry treats and we try to go at off hours. This isn’t exciting video but that is sort of the point 🤗.Likes : 147

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Caption : I’ve been worried about Exley — because I always worry — he was panting a lot and restless for a few days, tho he didn’t have any other symptoms of the pancreatitis he had in January. I think he might have been just … tummy troubles? We had a long walk and he had a good 💩 and now he’s breathing deep and snoring just a touch. He still has a sedated nail trim and bloodwork appointment on Thursday, my pricey lil pup.Likes : 143

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Caption : This might be the funniest thing I have found in my family photos and those include pics of me with permed hair.Likes : 142

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Caption : This might be the funniest thing I have found in my family photos and those include pics of me with permed hair.Likes : 142

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Caption : It was going to happen at some point.Likes : 140

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Caption : Not sure how Bram manages to look almost as substantial as his big brother here, but I can say my heart swells two sizes when I see them like this. (Molly is in her window perch.)Likes : 138

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Caption : I wrote a piece for CNN about what the E. Jean Carroll verdict means for me. “What’s more, I’ve seen the Trumpist right blithely deny reality over and over again, so I am doubtful of the Carroll verdict’s ability to change their minds. Even more to the point, I fear the upshot of an additional application of a slap-dash veneer of martyrdom upon the Trump brand. Supporters brandish mugshots of him as badges of honor; I fear his fans won’t reject his attitude toward Carroll – and other survivors. Instead, they’ll lionize and echo it. Yet, I’m going to celebrate this verdict, because I am a survivor of sexual assault and while I cannot speak to what the verdict means for Carroll, I can tell you what it means for me: What happened to me matters, even if — as Carroll did — I initially hesitated to call it what it was.”Likes : 133

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Caption : I decided to take advantage of a rare face of make-up and decent hair to remind you all that I’m doing another session of my Third Story Workshop next month! It starts on 4/23 and is 25% off of $1500 if you sign up in the next three weeks. Find out more at anamariecox.com/thirdstory AND ALSO: Join me for my 13th sobriety anniversary writing party on 3/23! You can register off the front page of my site (the same general location: anamariecox.com). #SoberLife #RecoveryJourney #WritingForRecovery #SobrietyMilestone #CelebrateSobriety #VirtualEvent #WritingTogether #SupportAndInspire #WritingJourney #CraftOfWriting #WritingTips #StoryCrafting #WritersOfTwitter #WritingInspirationLikes : 130

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Caption : I’ve been doing a series of essays over at the buymeacoffee.com/anaamariecox site using the 12 steps as a kind of prompt. I’ve been wanting to write these for awhile, in part because they exemplify what my recovery workshop is about: Finding and claiming the arc of your journey. I finally started writing them this month because, God willing, I’ll celebrate 13 years sober on March 23. This is a look back and, in doing the writing itself, a look forward to the ways that I want to show other how to dive into the work I’ve been doing. I’ve you’re interested in the workshop, slots are now available for the April-June session! Check out anamariecox.com/thirdstoryLikes : 129

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Caption : Brothers from another motherLikes : 123

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Caption : This is what my to-do list looked like in 2018. I feel such sorrow for this version of me, constantly pushing harder and inventing new ways to judge her progress and success (because if she succeed, then the goals were too easy). And I had been doing this to myself for decades. No wonder my gears ground to a halt completely in 2022. No wonder it has taken me two years to begin to recover. Take it easy on yourself today. If you don’t succeed at something, make the goal easier to achieve. If you succeed, take the win. Even better: think of terms of a journey and not a contest. And always rest *before* you need to. If you wait until everything breaks down, you will have to heal longer and more painfully than if you had been gentle with yourself all along.Likes : 122

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Caption : They’re ones demanding breakfast in bed on Mother’s Day! (It’s past 9pm they don’t understand meal times or holidays)Likes : 116

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Caption : All is well.Likes : 114

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Caption : SpoonsLikes : 112

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Caption : I wonder about the exact nature of their relationship sometimes.Likes : 106

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Caption : Love this little guy so much.Likes : 106

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Caption : A reminder that the forced birth movement has targeted access to abortion pills as a major cause; the Supreme Court has agreed to hear a case that will almost certainly cut down the availability of the pills even if it’s unlikely to ban them outright. The international medical non-profit Aid Access (@aidaccess) will sell them to you for future use for $150 — dinner and a movie these days — and offering someone you love the ability to control their own reproductive future? Priceless. Aid Access doesn’t have gift certificates as far as I know but perhaps downloading this card can be the way you show your affection.Likes : 105

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Caption : Bram being helpful, especially in testing the load tolerance of the new standing desk. It’s mounted onto studs so… should be fine(?)… fuzzy rug thing is actually a dog bed but works great as a cover for the walking pad-slash-soft thing to stand on. Still a few things left to the rehab and some details to attend to but already feels great to be working in here.Likes : 104

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Caption : Bram being helpful, especially in testing the load tolerance of the new standing desk. It’s mounted onto studs so… should be fine(?)… fuzzy rug thing is actually a dog bed but works great as a cover for the walking pad-slash-soft thing to stand on. Still a few things left to the rehab and some details to attend to but already feels great to be working in here.Likes : 104

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Caption : I’m doing a series of posts on my experience/interpretation of the Twelve Steps over on buymeacoffee.com — it’s my low-stakes version of a newsletter, because I still really hate newsletters. You can give a one-time donation and get on my mailing list, or you can just visit once a week for a new essay. A reminder that if you enjoy or are inspired by these, I teach a workshop on writing your recovery! The next session will begin in late April. More info at anamariecox.com/thirdstory This week is on Step Two. Here’s the excerpt: A squad car waited outside the hospital door. The Black female police officer who helped me out of the chair also put on a pair of handcuffs. I was crying hard and still very dopey. I don’t remember if my husband or my dad were able to comfort me I just remember sobbing in the back of the car, snot running down my chin. “I’m sorry, honey,” the officer murmured to me. Her kindness made me cry harder. “I really am sorry. I am so sorry. We’ll be there soon. I’m sorry, sweetie, I’m so sorry.”Likes : 104

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Caption : I have a new blog thing that, for now, is centered on the twelve steps. It’s at my “Buy me a coffee” site (buymeacoffee.com/anamariecox) because I am refusing to start a newsletter! You can get the posts mailed to you with a one-time donation or you can support the project monthly and get access to exclusive posts and submit questions (about recovery or… anything!). Some of these thoughts have been on my heart for a while and are finding their way into my memoir. Some of them are stray ideas from my reading or meetings. I hope you’ll find something that resonates for you. This excerpt is: Like any good American, I believed that an organized closet would fix me. I would visit the Arlington, Virginia Container Store and stand still in the valleys between towering displays of shelving, kitchen accessories, and laundry baskets. My cart empty; my mind filled with indecision, shame, and envy. I imagined other shoppers went home to pantries resembling the store windows. I tossed hundreds of dollars of plastic boxes, food decanters, and planner accessories into my cart and fled to the nearest chain restaurant for a glass of wine. Sometimes I opened the boxes when I got home, sometimes they waited for the next hypomanic episode when I would stay up all night, rolling socks and throwing out wire hangers until the sun came up.Likes : 104

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Caption : Ok maybe Bram’s hiding places work better than I thought. (Or Molly is not the genius she thinks she is.)Likes : 102

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Caption : Ok maybe Bram’s hiding places work better than I thought. (Or Molly is not the genius she thinks she is.)Likes : 102

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Caption : Ok maybe Bram’s hiding places work better than I thought. (Or Molly is not the genius she thinks she is.)Likes : 102

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Caption : Ok maybe Bram’s hiding places work better than I thought. (Or Molly is not the genius she thinks she is.)Likes : 102

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Caption : I call this “tai chi fighting” because they occasionally just look at each other intensely and kind of pat the air in front to them. Exley does not like any of it; he just wants us all to get along!Likes : 97

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Caption : In our latest episode, Ana Marie Cox generously shared details about recovery Bipolar II Disorder, how she views her most recent manic episode as a relapse, her higher power, and the intersectionality of her recovery formula and social justice. If you were raised by an alcoholic, are a survivor of c-ptsd, are seeking a thoughtful way to exist in today’s sociopolitical climate, or want to engage the narrative of your life in an active way, this conversation is for you💜 @anamariecox hosts a writing workshop and you should check it out:) Visit anamariecox.com for more info✍️ Tomorrow’s episode drops with another mind-blowing guest who shares about autism substance use disorder, drug policy, and harm reduction🔥 #oodat #higherpower #socialjustice #recovery #cptsd #acoa #stigmafree #endthestigma #mentalhealthawareness #soberlifeLikes : 96

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Caption : In our latest episode, Ana Marie Cox generously shared details about recovery Bipolar II Disorder, how she views her most recent manic episode as a relapse, her higher power, and the intersectionality of her recovery formula and social justice. If you were raised by an alcoholic, are a survivor of c-ptsd, are seeking a thoughtful way to exist in today’s sociopolitical climate, or want to engage the narrative of your life in an active way, this conversation is for you💜 @anamariecox hosts a writing workshop and you should check it out:) Visit anamariecox.com for more info✍️ Tomorrow’s episode drops with another mind-blowing guest who shares about autism substance use disorder, drug policy, and harm reduction🔥 #oodat #higherpower #socialjustice #recovery #cptsd #acoa #stigmafree #endthestigma #mentalhealthawareness #soberlifeLikes : 96

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Caption : In our latest episode, Ana Marie Cox generously shared details about recovery Bipolar II Disorder, how she views her most recent manic episode as a relapse, her higher power, and the intersectionality of her recovery formula and social justice. If you were raised by an alcoholic, are a survivor of c-ptsd, are seeking a thoughtful way to exist in today’s sociopolitical climate, or want to engage the narrative of your life in an active way, this conversation is for you💜 @anamariecox hosts a writing workshop and you should check it out:) Visit anamariecox.com for more info✍️ Tomorrow’s episode drops with another mind-blowing guest who shares about autism substance use disorder, drug policy, and harm reduction🔥 #oodat #higherpower #socialjustice #recovery #cptsd #acoa #stigmafree #endthestigma #mentalhealthawareness #soberlifeLikes : 96

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Caption : In our latest episode, Ana Marie Cox generously shared details about recovery Bipolar II Disorder, how she views her most recent manic episode as a relapse, her higher power, and the intersectionality of her recovery formula and social justice. If you were raised by an alcoholic, are a survivor of c-ptsd, are seeking a thoughtful way to exist in today’s sociopolitical climate, or want to engage the narrative of your life in an active way, this conversation is for you💜 @anamariecox hosts a writing workshop and you should check it out:) Visit anamariecox.com for more info✍️ Tomorrow’s episode drops with another mind-blowing guest who shares about autism substance use disorder, drug policy, and harm reduction🔥 #oodat #higherpower #socialjustice #recovery #cptsd #acoa #stigmafree #endthestigma #mentalhealthawareness #soberlifeLikes : 96

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Caption : In our latest episode, Ana Marie Cox generously shared details about recovery Bipolar II Disorder, how she views her most recent manic episode as a relapse, her higher power, and the intersectionality of her recovery formula and social justice. If you were raised by an alcoholic, are a survivor of c-ptsd, are seeking a thoughtful way to exist in today’s sociopolitical climate, or want to engage the narrative of your life in an active way, this conversation is for you💜 @anamariecox hosts a writing workshop and you should check it out:) Visit anamariecox.com for more info✍️ Tomorrow’s episode drops with another mind-blowing guest who shares about autism substance use disorder, drug policy, and harm reduction🔥 #oodat #higherpower #socialjustice #recovery #cptsd #acoa #stigmafree #endthestigma #mentalhealthawareness #soberlifeLikes : 96

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Caption : If I don’t make my bed while Exley’s having breakfast it often doesn’t get made. Oh and did I say *my* bed? Foolish of me… Whose bed is this?Likes : 95

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Caption : We have successfully hacked summer (for now) with a cordless misting fan.Likes : 95

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Caption : Everything is terrible but at least Molly has a fuzzy belly for you to admire (do not touch it).Likes : 93

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Caption : I’ve been producing a lot of content lately, as you might have noticed. All of it is work I want to do; some of it I even get paid for. It’s still easy to confuse the amount of work I do with how much I’m worth. It’s too easy to push through the feeling of accomplishment and wind up on the side of “I have nothing left.” The past few days, I have felt myself starting to hit a wall… Like a slow-mo video of a crash test dummy, just beginning to see the car hood crumple up in front of me. But I am hitting the breaks before everything’s completely totaled. I didn’t do any work today. I went to a meeting and to yoga. I was in bed at 8pm, and am winding up my day with this reminder for the rest of you: Whatever it is you feel bad about not getting done today can wait. Worrying about it now won’t get it done. *Decide to rest.* Deciding to rest is the only thing that allows me to actually let go, I’ve found. *Decide* to not do a thing, and tomorrow, you may have the energy to do it. Or you’ll make a decision to not do it again. Sleep well.Likes : 86

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Caption : Freeze framing what my lawn looks like now so I will remember it in late August after two months of 100-degree temps and no rain.Likes : 85

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Caption : I love gray days. A perfect cup of coffee, sleeping pets, melancholy music, an assignment I’m half-ignoring… This room has been the hardest room in my house to get right. It’s the smallest and almost a perfect square. It has a sleeper sofa that I had to partially disassemble to get in the door. It isn’t leaving. I want to use it for an office but where do I put the bookshelves? (I also can’t afford new bookcases…) It has west-facing windows and gets light throughout the day; it will be perfect for something and some arrangement but I guess I have to wait to hear what it is. (Suggestions welcome!) For now, it’s a calm and comforting spot for three out of four of us (Molly off dreaming of murder somewhere else). What do you think I should do here?Likes : 84

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Caption : Latest piece up at CNN.com! To the justices seated before him, he cited the Dobbs v. Jackson majority decision’s statement that “women are not without electoral and political power,” and Biden told them, “…and you’re about to realize how much they have.” He then followed by saying, “No kidding,” and warned that Republicans “have no clue about the power of women.” The warning isn’t wrong, but it betrays a fundamental misunderstanding of the connection between reproductive care and political power. Opponents of abortion access know exactly how much power women have — which is why they want to take abortion access away.Likes : 79

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Caption : God sometimes speaks to me through shuffle. Woke up this morning on the wrong side of my mind and the driving to my meeting first I heard two songs I listened to on my darkest days of using. Elliott Smith’s “Needle in the Hay” — it’s about heroin specifically but why we use generally: I can’t be myself I can’t be myself and I don’t wanna talk I’m taking the cure So I can be quiet whenever I want So leave me alone Then, Jesus, “The Believer” by @rhettmiller, which is about Smith: All of your good friends All of the people I’d meet Keep a list of the things In this world that we trust … When you said happiness is all you wanted You said this is all you wanted How I miss You almost made it Happiness And while I miss Smith as much as anyone (the night he was on The Oscars was either the day punk died or the day people heard what it could produce), that song hit me because it reminded me of what I’d lose if I completely gave up. Now, eventually, I did give up. But the universe wouldn’t let me off that easy. One thing that kept me going when I had to start over again was the same thing “The Believer” said to me: “You’re so close, you’re loved even if you don’t feel it.” And then this was the reading in the meeting. AA literature isn’t often as beautiful as what Elliott Smith or Rhett can produce, but this one comes close. And I have seen the stars in sobriety. Let me testify that to you. Whatever you’re going through today, my witness to you is that the stars will be called in to shine for you as they always eventually do for me.Likes : 74

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Caption : God sometimes speaks to me through shuffle. Woke up this morning on the wrong side of my mind and the driving to my meeting first I heard two songs I listened to on my darkest days of using. Elliott Smith’s “Needle in the Hay” — it’s about heroin specifically but why we use generally: I can’t be myself I can’t be myself and I don’t wanna talk I’m taking the cure So I can be quiet whenever I want So leave me alone Then, Jesus, “The Believer” by @rhettmiller, which is about Smith: All of your good friends All of the people I’d meet Keep a list of the things In this world that we trust … When you said happiness is all you wanted You said this is all you wanted How I miss You almost made it Happiness And while I miss Smith as much as anyone (the night he was on The Oscars was either the day punk died or the day people heard what it could produce), that song hit me because it reminded me of what I’d lose if I completely gave up. Now, eventually, I did give up. But the universe wouldn’t let me off that easy. One thing that kept me going when I had to start over again was the same thing “The Believer” said to me: “You’re so close, you’re loved even if you don’t feel it.” And then this was the reading in the meeting. AA literature isn’t often as beautiful as what Elliott Smith or Rhett can produce, but this one comes close. And I have seen the stars in sobriety. Let me testify that to you. Whatever you’re going through today, my witness to you is that the stars will be called in to shine for you as they always eventually do for me.Likes : 74

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Caption : Latest op-ed is up at CNN! It’s about the new Stormy Daniels doc. Produced by Erin Lee Carter and Judd Apatow, it’s surprisingly intimate and powerful. I had thoughts! — Stormy Daniels is the kind of woman who should scare former President Donald Trump the most: a woman who’s frightened but willing to tell the truth anyway. To admit that you’ve been taken advantage of and to be clear that your safety and personhood were violated can itself be empowering. In the documentary, Daniels talks about how she now understands her compliance to Trump “humping away” at her as being a product of her Southern upbringing. “I was taught to respect and obey … elders” (a term that would surely and satisfyingly infuriate Trump).Likes : 73

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Caption : Chill SaturdayLikes : 71

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Caption : Office refresh still in progress but sharing bc the details are already making a difference.Likes : 70

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Caption : Office refresh still in progress but sharing bc the details are already making a difference.Likes : 70

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Caption : Serial commas. Okay, if they get their own insta, what do I call it? @bramandexley? Nice and simple…Likes : 69

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Caption : Who framed Bram?Likes : 68

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Caption : You always hurt the ones you love.Likes : 68

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Caption : Another shot from the totality, the corona less broken up by clouds and shining in a near-perfect circle. #nofilter #eclipseLikes : 68

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Caption : Old enough to remember (it’s a collection of “just hard enough” NYT puzzles) PS I caught the misspelling of “Occam.”Likes : 67

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Caption : I’ve started a kind of pop-up podcast for the month of March over on @petedominck’s feed. It’s about recovery very broadly defined — recovery from addiction, living with chronic illness, dealing with mental illness, social justice, the whole shebang, because all of these things are related. This week is a conversation with author Oliver Broudy, whose book about environmental illness (“The Sensitives”) anticipated a lot of our conversation about long Covid. We also cover addiction, isolation, and labor rights! Check it out at https://standupwithpete.libsyn.com/supd-presents-ana-marie-cox-getting-better-with-guest-journalist-and-author-oliver-broudy If you like this content, consider support me over at buymeacoffee.com/anamariecox and I can do more of it. (Maybe even start my own pod.) You can also consider taking my recovery writing workshop! (anamariecox.com/thirdstory). There are many ways to help me continue doing this kind of work; please help me avoid adding a newsletter to the list!Likes : 65

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Caption : Latest essay in my series on recovery using the Twelve Steps as prompts is up. It’s Step Five and it’s a banger. If you’re interested in writing your own recovery memoir — recovery from anything, from illness to disordered eating to job loss — I teach a workshop about just that. More here: www.anamariecox.com/thirdstory If you’d like to read the whole essay or support me in writing more, visit buymeacoffee.com/anamariecox (posts are at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anamariecox/posts) —- I’ve heard more Fifth Steps than I’ve said; people have confessed truly awful things – criminal activity, boundary-crossing, violence – yet I’ve never thought, “I could never do that.” I’ve done some truly awful things myself. I know that under the influence, I’m capable of worse. However, the high others describe upon completing their Fifth Step has escaped me. I’ve felt incremental relief, let’s say. But shame has never left me; it has shriveled up around the edges. The shame covered me less completely and more unevenly, like someone with an inexpert bang trim. When I hear someone else’s list of wrongs, I simply try to love them through it. “We love you until you learn to love yourself.” I have said that a million times. I have heard it a million more. I have believed it. Where was that inexhaustible reservoir of love when it came to me? Now, I wonder: What if I stopped trying to forgive myself and focused on loving myself instead? What terrifying miracles might occur? #FifthStepJourney #RecoveryReflections #SelfLoveQuest #AACommunity #VulnerabilityMatters #SobrietyInsights #InnerHealing #SheddingShame #ACAThoughts #UnconditionalLove #FacingWrongsWithCourage #PersonalGrowthJourney #BeyondForgiveness #HealingFromWithin #MiraclesOfSelfLove #TwelveYearsSober #AuthenticityInRecovery #EmbracingImperfection #InnerStrengthStories #TriumphOverSelfLoathing #cptsd #innerchild #aa #adultchildren #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #selflove #selfcare #healingshameLikes : 65

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Caption : Latest essay in my series on recovery using the Twelve Steps as prompts is up. It’s Step Five and it’s a banger. If you’re interested in writing your own recovery memoir — recovery from anything, from illness to disordered eating to job loss — I teach a workshop about just that. More here: www.anamariecox.com/thirdstory If you’d like to read the whole essay or support me in writing more, visit buymeacoffee.com/anamariecox (posts are at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/anamariecox/posts) —- I’ve heard more Fifth Steps than I’ve said; people have confessed truly awful things – criminal activity, boundary-crossing, violence – yet I’ve never thought, “I could never do that.” I’ve done some truly awful things myself. I know that under the influence, I’m capable of worse. However, the high others describe upon completing their Fifth Step has escaped me. I’ve felt incremental relief, let’s say. But shame has never left me; it has shriveled up around the edges. The shame covered me less completely and more unevenly, like someone with an inexpert bang trim. When I hear someone else’s list of wrongs, I simply try to love them through it. “We love you until you learn to love yourself.” I have said that a million times. I have heard it a million more. I have believed it. Where was that inexhaustible reservoir of love when it came to me? Now, I wonder: What if I stopped trying to forgive myself and focused on loving myself instead? What terrifying miracles might occur? #FifthStepJourney #RecoveryReflections #SelfLoveQuest #AACommunity #VulnerabilityMatters #SobrietyInsights #InnerHealing #SheddingShame #ACAThoughts #UnconditionalLove #FacingWrongsWithCourage #PersonalGrowthJourney #BeyondForgiveness #HealingFromWithin #MiraclesOfSelfLove #TwelveYearsSober #AuthenticityInRecovery #EmbracingImperfection #InnerStrengthStories #TriumphOverSelfLoathing #cptsd #innerchild #aa #adultchildren #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowth #selflove #selfcare #healingshameLikes : 65