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Jezebel Express Instagram - This is for all my new friends! Thanks for being here šŸ’‹. A little about me: āœØI believe that all humans deserve to be treated with respect, and all bodies have equal value. āœØI think body diversity is normal, and strongly believe we need to start thinking about fat folks as ā€œnormal people, just bigger.ā€ āœØI donā€™t believe you can assess someoneā€™s health by simply looking at their body size, especially since ā€œfat and fitā€ folks exist, but so do people for whom weight gain is a symptom and not the cause of ill health. āœØI believe that fat peopleā€™s mental health is worth protecting, and that the cruelty and social stigma fat folks experience can be an exacerbating factor in the (underdiagnosed and often untreated) eating disorders that some fat folks struggle with. āœØI believe personal health is something that should be discussed between a doctor and the patient (and not randoms without access to blood work and/or medical training.) āœØI donā€™t think people who share their bodies in public deserve vitriol, (though some of yā€™all have made sure I know you disagree). āœØI post what I post and go onstage like I do because I believe fat people deserve to exist in public, and because no one deserves cruel treatment for existing in the body they live in today. If youā€™re not on board with these very mild, rational statements, I hope you can get there someday. ā¤ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - Theyā€™re SO SURE their opinions on my body are important and worth sharing! #bless IMPORTANT PS: kids this is a CapCut template green screen of this guy talking that people are putting in front of their own photos to joke about things that arenā€™t going well in their own lives:, I donā€™t know this man but he is apparently heā€™s a famous YouTuber (I thought he was an actor I didnā€™t know when I posted it šŸ« ) and this is an overlay *I* made on the video to comment on how men talk about me, and not something this particular man said about my body. He doesnā€™t even know who I am!
Jezebel Express Instagram - Honestly, my bookshelves are the only thing I miss about living in a house. šŸ“ššŸ¤“šŸ“š I took this self-portrait shortly before moving into my rig and it came up in my memories today so I wanted to share. ā¤ļø Who remembers taking classes from me with these shelves as the backdrop during the first year of C0vÄ«d?
Jezebel Express Instagram - For anyone who needs to hear it today: you canā€™t change the past, but you can always change the future. ā¤ļø Robe is @catherinedlish, naturally āœØ
Jezebel Express Instagram - Dancing on the @selkie #nyfw runway. When the industry said ā€œFashion is for thin folksā€, I said ā€œHold my fans.ā€ And yes, this was my first fashion week, and yes, I did close the show! šŸ’…šŸ» What an absolute dream Thank you @exhibita_lk for capturing this! #plussizefashion #plussizedancer #fairycore #selkie #fandance
Jezebel Express Instagram - A guy in The Orleans just told me he loves ā€œreal womenā€ and I said ā€œYOU MET A FAKE WOMAN?!ā€ It was awk. No regrets.
Jezebel Express Instagram - Itā€™s truly wild that so many people believe that a womanā€™s primary job to is to be as attractive as possible to as wide a cross-section of men as she can manage. Your beauty doesnā€™t exist for other people. Your body does not exist for other people. For anyone who needs to hear it: the fact that some rando man doesnā€™t want you is genuinely unrelated to your worth as a human being. The fact that the aunt you see once a year thinks your arms are wobbly is radio noise. The right people will love and appreciate you as you are. They will remain your fans over eight loss or gain, through amazing fitness and times of flabbiness, through illness and recovery, through aging (assuming you are lucky enough to age.) People who hide behind private profiles and spew venom are not your target audience, and they never were. Blow away their words the way youā€™d wish on a dandelion, and come back to what matters: the people who see you, appreciate you, and treat you with respect. āœØā¤ļøšŸ’• Robe by @catherinedlish, internet drama served up fresh @madonnainn1958 šŸ’•
Jezebel Express Instagram - So one of my TikToks is doing numbers, and as usual, a pile of strangers have shown up to express disgust at my body. I wonā€™t say that this has no emotional impact, but the contents of the hateful messages just feelā€¦ trivial. Maybe itā€™s just part of having been a fat public figure for so long, but I feel like I can hear what people mean under their vitriolā€¦ and so little or what they are saying is actually about me. I remember the time a young fat person DMā€™ed me: ā€œI would want to die if people said those things about me - how can you stand it?ā€ā€Øā€ØI wrote back, and told them the truth: Those people arenā€™t saying anything about me. They are saying something about the way they see the world. ā€Øā€ØPeople who comment on other peopleā€™s bodies do so to express or reenforce their values and beliefs. Something about me feels challenging to them, and they feel the need to re-assert their beliefs out loud, in public. To be clear: they do this for themselves, not me. No one shows up on a strangerā€™s page and says awful shit to them for the strangerā€™s benefit. ā€Øā€ØMaybe theyā€™re saying: šŸ«„ā€œI only value people who live in bodies I find sexually attractive.ā€ šŸ«„ā€œI work hard to have a fit body, and I believe only people with fit bodies deserve respect or attraction.ā€ šŸ«„ā€œI resent you because I hate myself, and I donā€™t understand how you donā€™t hate yourself, too.ā€ šŸ«„ā€œI perceive my social position to be higher than hours, so I have the right to mock you.ā€ā€ØšŸ«„ā€œI was raised to believe fat people are always miserable and self-loathingā€¦ who are you to break the rules?ā€ With family & friends, body commentary is often a bungled attempt at love. ā€œI am afraid you will not find a husbandā€ or ā€œI donā€™t want others to be cruel to youā€. But whether people intend menace or care, the fact remains: body comments are simply reiterations of their own fears and desires, projected onto you and your perfectly acceptable body.ā€Øā€ØComments about our bodies are almost never actually about us, in any way, shape or form. This is worth remembering, because it also means that other peopleā€™s opinions of our bodies should hold but negligible weight when we are assessing our own worth. I hope this helps someone. ā¤ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - Just a little message of hope. ā¤ļø It is possible to improve your relationship with your body. I believe in you.
Jezebel Express Instagram - āœØThings No One Tells You About Being A ShowgirlāœØ No one tells you how much STUFF there is, for starters. You think itā€™s a corset & bra, ruffled panties, a pair of high heels. Youā€™ve got most of that at home.ā€Ø Smash cut to three ā€”or five or fifteen yearsā€” later, & youā€™re backstage with two gowns (one for performing, one for curtain call), two corsets, sixty-inch wide feather fans, a bustle the size of a small car, a boa, lingerie, a lace onesie, three sets of gloves, two pairs of heels (high set for performing & the low ones for your go-go stint) & thatā€™s before you get into wigs & hair accessories & makeup. And no one tells you about the stairs. No one tells you that when youā€™re just starting out, the shoes you need for your show are going to cost $60, & the show is gonna pay you $50. No one tells you how hard youā€™ll work to be seen. No one tells you that one day, youā€™ll see an audience member see themselves in you. They are rethinking what is possible, because of the five minutes you spent onstage. No one tells you that producers are going to hit on you & itā€™s going to be awful. Or that theyā€™re going to hit on everyone except you & that youā€™ll hate yourself for thinking that might be even worse. No one tells you that performing is the best drug. Or that slow weeks & unanswered inquiries will make you wonder if you should just hang up your tassels. No one tells you that half the photos taken of you onstage will make you want to live in a hole in the ground. No one tells you some gigs are perfect for you, & others will never hire you, & itā€™s your job to figure out which is which. No one will tell you that you need to practice or upgrade your costuming or study comedy. A mentor might. But no one tells you how hard it is to get a mentor, either. What I can tell you is: Youā€™ll figure it out. Youā€™ll pick up lessons the way kittens scoop up lacy bras. Youā€™ll laugh so much, & probably cry your eyelashes off at least once. You will make good art & bad art but it will always be yours. The truth is that itā€™s life, just sparklier. So enjoy it. Make some friends. Abandon your ego. Learn what makes your light beam brightest. Then shine. āœØ
Jezebel Express Instagram - Today I came across a photo I took this summer. I wasĀ really sick but trying to make it work, and I remember feeling like my body had betrayed me: all I wanted was ONE good shot, but I looked exhausted in every image. I WAS exhausted, and I resented it. I kept getting better, then worse. I eventually found out I had pneumonia, and it did not go quietly. (Months later, I still have a horrible cough!) Through my illness, I kept asking myself: Why am I so embarrassed that Iā€™m ill? And why do I feel like Iā€™ve done something wrong? Itā€™s easy for me to understand that we canā€™t completely control our bodies. Body diversity is normal, and so is body change. But illness feels different. Harder. Of course, I was raised to view illness through the lens of late capitalism. Illness nukes productivity and prevents us from fulfilling our usual obligations. I wasnā€™t raised to value rest, but I was taught that what I accomplish is a reflection of my worth, so illness feels like failure. Our culture has also monetized wellness, and with it, a false narrative that we can avoid sickness (and by extension, death) with the right rituals and purchases. In reality, illness is simply a part of living in a human body, and of aging, assuming we are lucky enough to age. The idea that good citizens produce while bad ones donā€™t is not only untrue, itā€™s wildly ableist. People who ā€œnever get sickā€ are not morally superior to the chronically ill. Community members are allowed to require varying levels of support. One of the core tenets of community, in fact, is that *everyone* needs help.Ā  Illness gives us the chance to practice hearing what our bodies need. To take support from the friends. To slow down.Ā  But slowing down is hard. Iā€™ve been guilted by the bosses who insisted I stay home AND the ones who insisted I come in. Weā€™re told to ā€œget well soonā€, but rarely to take out time to heal. Itā€™s no wonder it feels fraught!Ā  Still: we donā€™t need to view our own illness as an error that other people now have to pay for. Illness is not a personal failing. Itā€™s simply part of being human. Remembering this can help us treat ourselves and others with the respect and care we deserve. ā¤ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - This includes yours. ā¤ļø This reminder feels extra important during the holidays, when many of us visit family who can be quick with criticisms or advice. I know negative messaging runs rampant this time of year, so let me share some beliefs of mine that might be helpful to hear: āœØ All bodies deserve respect, because human beings live in them. āœØ No one deserves to be ridiculed for their size, proportions, ability or any bodily feature.Ā  āœØAll bodies are equally valuable. Aging bodies are not worth less than young ones, thin bodies are not worth more than fat ones. āœØIf you donā€™t have access to someoneā€™s medical records, you canā€™t draw conclusions about their health from their appearance. āœØ No one owes you health. No one owes you an attractive physical appearance that matches your preferences. āœØNo one is obligated to change their body, even if that body is imperfect, even if their feelings about that body are complicated. āœØPeople are allowed to change their bodies if thatā€™s what right for them. What they do with their body is unrelated to your body unless they push you to change, too. āœØCommenting on other peopleā€™s bodies in social situations is inappropriate. People know what they look like, and if they want your input, they will ask. ā€œConcernā€ does not give you a hall pass to comment on other peopleā€™s bodies. āœØShaming, body policing and joking/cruelty about bodies are not respectful. It is sane and reasonable to dislike being subject to this. āœØIt is normal and healthy to set boundaries around body talk. People who resist these boundaries are often defending their ā€œrightā€ to treat you however they want. This is a sh*t dynamic. Itā€™s okay to reject it. āœØ Itā€™s fine to make it weird when people are inappropriate about your body (they have already made it weird for you, right?) āœØItā€™s okay to leave situations where you are not respected. You also have the power to tolerate non-ideal situations & avoid internalizing negative messages. You know what you need and you can find a way to handle your own family dynamics.Ā  āœØYou deserve love and respect this holiday season. I hope it finds you, but even if it doesnā€™tā€” you still deserve it, and Iā€™m holding out for next year. šŸ’•
Jezebel Express Instagram - āœØLet the sun shineā€¦āœØJust finished a glorious extended winter holiday in the desert, and now Iā€™m booking spring dates in the Southwest and up the West coast. Holler if you want me in your cityā€¦ Iā€™d just love to dance for you. šŸ’• Photo by the talented @boudoirbynomi.
Jezebel Express Instagram - A little mountaintop PSA for yā€™all, sent with love. šŸ—£ļøšŸ”ļøšŸ’•
Jezebel Express Instagram - In this age of data obsession, itā€™s understandable that weā€™ve come to view our bodies analytically & critically. In our lives, constant updates are a matter of course. Download the update. Get toned, beat wrinkles. Upgrade your phone. Crush your personal best. We have been encouraged to believe our bodies can be optimized & improved the way we update modern technology: filter, photoshop, control alt delete. We reboot our diets the way weā€™d reboot a hung program. And what is plastic (or bariatric) surgery if not the literal bodily equivalent of ā€œcut and paste?ā€ But our bodiesā€” they are not modern technical wonders. They are not new & improved. They are, in fact, ancient, made of repurposed stardust & water (which we can never drink enough of, no matter how we optimize.) I actually donā€™t even think the optimizing itself is an issue. Wanting improvement is normal. The problem is that ā€œfixingā€ our bodies has become obligatory, and judging bodies based on how successfully they match the cultural standard du jour is the norm. (TW: ED, self-harm, next paragraph only) People talk to me about their bodies a lot, & one confession comes up constantly: they tell me how they have often fantasized about snipping fat or other ā€˜problemā€™ parts away with scissors to perfect their bodies. The fantasy of the optimized body is so powerful they canā€™t even register the horror of scissors slicing into skin. But as we talk, it becomes apparent that what most of these people desire is simply to be treated better: to be loved more easily, to avoid cruelty. The problem is not with the bodies we fantasize about harming, but with a culture that refuses to value them. A culture that invites us to harm them. Our human bodies do not exist to be optimized. Our bodies exist for love & joy & long naps & sunrises & swingsets, & holding toddlers on the perfect curve of our hip. Our bodies are not made to be analyzed, improved, streamlined. Our bodies do what they need to do to keep us alive. Your body is doing exactly what it is supposed to do: itā€™s letting you exist, imperfectly & beautifully. If you want, you can let your body exist imperfectly & beautifully, too. ā¤ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - Todayā€™s reminder, for anyone who needs it. ā¤ļø Itā€™s okay to have good days and bad days and weird days in your human body. All relationships have peaks and valleys, and your relationship with your body is no exception. Try to be kind to yourself (and your body) on rough days, and remember to celebrate the sparkly ones! āœØ
Jezebel Express Instagram - Oregon āœ… Also donā€™t forget my next Zoom class series starts THIS Thursday! āœØšŸ’ƒā¤ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - Dreams do come true! Today I performed in New York Fashion Week in @selkieā€™s unbelievably gorgeous runway show at the St. Regis Hotelā€™s rooftop ballroom! šŸ’— I have such appreciation for @selkie on so many levelsā€” from the unapologetic whimsy and magic of their aesthetic to their intentional, consistent inclusivity and commitment to creating fashion for all bodies. Iā€™ll be posting more about the show this week, but for now, let me just say: WOW. The looks were incredible, the models and teams were so kind, my performance was an absolute blast, and the entire audience looked so great they couldā€™ve stood on their own in the spotlight! But I think the absolute best part of today was realizing that this entire collection would have been brain-breaking to me when a teenager, but it would also have changed my life. Back then, my only option for clothing was whatever the one fat lady store at the mall had on sale. Young people werenā€™t supposed to be fat, so the clothes were targeted exclusively to office workers. I was rocking business casual looks at da club yā€™all! I was out there in chinos! It was not great. Even worse, it got the message knocking around in my impressionable brain that larger bodied people donā€™t deserve beautiful clothing, or to participate in girly or romantic behavior, or to draw attention to themselves at all, unless theyā€™re performing weight loss penitence. I had to do a lot of hard work as an adult to unlearn those lessons, and one of the reasons I began performing burlesque was because I wanted to help adult women rethink their relationships to their bodies and their sexuality. But today, as I was laced into a corset covered in butterflies and swathed in soft sexy pink, I realized that when I most needed to see fashion like this was was a teen flipping through fashion magazines, trying to learn how style worked and seeing no one who looked like me, and nothing that spoke to me. Today I got to be the person teenage me really needed to see in fashion. I canā€™t imagine anything feeling better. @selkie, Iā€™m so glad youā€™re here. You are everything I want fashion to be. Thank you so much for letting me be part of the magic. āœØšŸŒ™šŸ”®
Jezebel Express Instagram - Home away from home šŸ”® I always get a lot of writing done here and I invariably sleep like a rock.
Jezebel Express Instagram - This photo!!! I love how I look shocked *and* concerned, like ā€œWhat AM I going to do with all this ass, all this ass outside my jeans?!ā€ If you are unable to refrain from sharing in the comments what you personally would like to do with all this ass, please tip me $50 at any of the links in my bio, as I am not here on the internet to get you off for free. Bisoux. šŸ’‹ Photo by @brokenglassfoto for @strippedavaldezproduction āœØ
Jezebel Express Instagram - I love being on the road, and I am doing some necessary thinking and growth, but god damnā€¦ I miss my city so much. I took this a few weeks ago when I was home for a wedding. (I called no one, because I did not have one spare minute free, so rest assured that it was me, not you. I am coming back for some of that NYC fall magic the minute the weather turns! šŸ)
Jezebel Express Instagram - āœØsoftāœØ Lately Iā€™m thinking a lot about what it means to be soft but strong, resolute but resilient, to trust and love and also honor yourself and your instincts. We have to walk a fine balance and know what requires standing our ground. and where we must go with the flow. Sometimes Iā€™m resistant to change, but lately Iā€™m trying to be softer. A work in progress, always. šŸ“ø: @boudoirbynomi
Jezebel Express Instagram - Iā€™ve been told to hide my entire lifeā€” to wear dark colors, cover my arms, pick ā€œflatteringā€ outfits and wait until Iā€™d lost ten (or twenty or fifty) pounds to doā€¦ well, anything. The beach was for later, when my body was acceptable. Dating could wait until I had a better body to offer my partner. Wearing fun clothes, being loved exactly as I was, being the star of the showā€” I was told I could do those things when I was thin. I would ā€œdeserveā€ them when I was thin. I chose to live my life with joy and exuberance in response to that messaging. Iā€™ve walked in New York Fashion Week, I toured Iceland dancing, and every once in a while, a woman tells me I changed her life. None of that would have happened if Iā€™d been preoccupied with hiding the hideousness of my arm flab from the universe. I was told I had to wait until later to do the daring things, that I needed to be acceptable first. But the requirements for being acceptable kept changing. If Iā€™m honest, it started to feel like a scam, and the ā€œtomorrowā€ that was supposed to be better just never showed up. I started asking what was possible today, in my current circumstances, instead of feeling miserable and ashamed of them. And the day I said ā€œIā€™m tired of waiting, Iā€™m just gonna do it anywayā€ was honestly the best day of my life. You have this option too: to simply exist as you are. To live today. And I do wanna say that deciding to enjoy today doesnā€™t mean that your complex feelings about your body will just poof into thin air. The expectation that we all achieve perfect, unwavering self love is unfairā€” you donā€™t get from hating your body to loving it overnight. Most of us spend most of our lives in the middle. We are allowed to live our best lives while we are figuring it out. We are allowed to live our best lives in bodies we might find imperfect, and bodies we wish we could change, and bodies that are in the process of changing, and bodies that are probably gonna stay the same. I will tell you what I learned the hard way: You are permitted joy. It is your birthright. And you can claim it today. ā¤ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - I hope everyone gets to enjoy a restful long weekend with loved ones! Today Iā€™m on a farm near Yosemite having a feast with friends and a photo shoot is not in todayā€™s plans, so please accept the most Fall Yā€™all photo I could find along with my best wishes for a life spent near people who love you the way you need to be loved. šŸ‚šŸā¤ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - Really enjoyed this costume in this lighting. Not sure what I was doing with my hair. āœØšŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - Whoops i did it again
Jezebel Express Instagram - Loving this new duster- you can never have too much drama onstage! šŸŠ
Jezebel Express Instagram - Sometimes you change your outfit, sometimes you change your oil. šŸ”§ Working on lots of bus projects at VanAid (follow @lovejez for bus stuff) and getting the bus all tuned up for some Arizona shows in early Marchā€¦ Iā€™ll be announcing them very soon!
Jezebel Express Instagram - Quick backstage selfie, and a question for yā€™all! Iā€™ll be announcing some new Spring burlesque classes this week. šŸŽ‰ Is there anything in particular youā€™d like me to teach? Iā€™m taking notes! šŸ’‹ āœļø PS for anyone new: All my burly-w & confidence classes are taught on Zoom, and theyā€™re recorded so you can take them at home, on your own schedule. Letā€™s dance! šŸ’ƒ
Jezebel Express Instagram - Showgirl fit check! (We spend more time in random basements than youā€™d expect.)
Jezebel Express Instagram - Just saw an image of a crowded vintage beach scene w/ the caption "A Beach in the 70s. Not one fat body. My, how the food industry has destroyed us." Fat people have always existed. It's not shocking that theyā€™re not in old beach photosā€” they were taught to hide. When y'all act like fat people are a brand new problem, you help prejudiced people feel justified in othering us & painting us as abnormal. We are not. Fat people have been around. Body diversity is normal. Every mammalian species exhibits it & we think nothing of a bigger gopher w/a smaller sister. There's no need to rank gophers (or people) according to size. Capitalism HAS affected our populationā€™s health in a bunch of ways, including what foods are available/ how theyā€™re grown, but posts like this make it hard to talk about, because their framing is so reductive & misguided. Let's talk about food deserts, or Monsanto, or the racist roots of fatphobic thinking, or how "obesity" is a made-up disease that prevents people from getting adequate healthcare. Or the ways an ever-increasing work week has changed our exercise habits. Or when diet drug Phen-Fen was taken off the market because it was killing people. Letā€™s talk about practical reasons for our fatter population, like folks living longer & having access to medical intervention. We could discuss the ways eating disorder treatment fails so many people who are suffering & then have the exact same conversation about bariatric surgery. We could talk about factory farming, or food choices being ascribed moral virtue, or Americaā€™s prejudice against disability being reflected in anti-fatness. We could discuss the "war on obesity" harming to people of all sizes, or food consumption as stress response, or the myriad ways people are denied access to psychiatric & medical care in America if it doesn't line exactly the right pockets. Does that sounds like too much work? Is it too complicated to talk about fat in a way that encompasses data other than ā€œcalories in, calories outā€'? You're right. Let's just say the problem is ā€œthe food industryā€ making people ā€œfatā€. That way, the solution is simple: just donā€™t be fat. Thatā€™s how this works, right?
Jezebel Express Instagram - When youā€™re fully dressed and ready to go on, but also vibing to the bass coming through the rafters from the stage. šŸ’ƒāœØšŸŽµ
Jezebel Express Instagram - When youā€™re teaching panel skirts, but also not trying to spend an hour hanging out in a g-string on Zoom. This costume made by rita.n.wink ages ago! ā¤ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - Indulge me. šŸ’‹ (I wish the lighting was better but this was backstage & impromptu so itā€™s a miracle it got recorded at all.)
Jezebel Express Instagram - Fast fans from my show in Bisbee a few weeks ago. āœØā¤ļøšŸ’ƒ I realized itā€™s been too long since I shared a video (and also too long since I taught a fans class!)
Jezebel Express Instagram - Little peek at the studio. Love working with @boudoirbynomi & I think these are going to have a SUPER different feel than our last set. Maybe Iā€™ll post some of those this week to remind you! šŸ’‹
Jezebel Express Instagram - You already know the answer. Before anyone writes me an essay on why YOU, personally, need to change your body, let me just say: desiring change is normal. Humans are restlessā€” itā€™s the curse of self-awareness. We want new jobs, different bodies, to swap out the chairs in our living rooms. We are eager to imagine whatā€™s possible in the future and resistant to tolerating what is right now. Iā€™ve said here that you owe no one the body you had in the past, and that extends to changes you want to make now. If you decide you want to have big muscles, I will cheer you on. If you decide you are done with restricting your food intake, I have my pompons ready! But if you are a person who primarily feels pressure to modify your body from outside sources, this is important information. Do you want muscles because your partner thinks superfit bodies are hot? Do you wear shorts at the beach because of how people look at your body? Are you in conversation with your body about what it needs and wants, or are you changing your body to answer other people? It isnā€™t wrong to make decisions that include insights from others, or to make decisions that keep you safe and comfy. But itā€™s helpful to think about how many of our decisions are influenced by the cultural consensus that there is a ā€œrightā€ way to look. Our responses to this pressure vary. Some prioritize looking whatever way will benefit them socially, while others simply try to fit in and avoid social penalty. Others resist the pressure or flout convention. Because power dynamics amongst humans are incredibly fraught, I donā€™t think any of these strategies are wrongā€” but I do think itā€™s important to understand that all of us choose strategies to avoid conflict or oppression in a culture that prizes certain bodies, objectifies or desexualizes others, and ranks all bodies according to an entirely arbitrary hierarchy. To that end, itā€™s worth asking what our fantasies about changing our bodies mean. Do you actually want to modify your physical formā€¦ or do you just wish you could exist peacefully in the body you already have? ā¤ļø āœØI want to affirm that you are worthy of love and respect, as you exist in this moment.āœØ
Jezebel Express Instagram - You should hear it hit the floor šŸ’‹ #backstage #behindthescenes #sparkles #showgirl
Jezebel Express Instagram - Super fun show last night in Troy, NY. Happy Birthday @boucheebardot & thank you for bringing me upstate! šŸŽ‚šŸ’•āœØ#backstage #travelingshowgirl
Jezebel Express Instagram - Now that I have your attention: the BURLESQUE TOP 50 voting closes in a few days! āœØ It has been meaningful for me to be on this list as an artist and activist in the past, because even burlesque is prone to fatphobia, and that is sometimes reflected in who is hired for high paying and high profile work. Iā€™ve had to work HARD to be visible and have a microphone for my messaging that all bodies deserve respect, Anyway, change can be hard to see because it happens so slowly, but I have taken heart in seeing people ā€œmakeā€ this list that people appreciate for making changes in their community and in the world. I want to encourage you to vote for whoever is in your sparkly little heart, and to especially pay attention to performers who be denied opportunities to rise through mainstream channels due to systemic oppression. This is OUR vote for what we want OUR community to look like. ā¤ļø I put a link in my bioā€” if you have not voted yet, donā€™t forget to do so!
Jezebel Express Instagram - Tonight is the Pink Moonā€” hereā€™s a pink moon. šŸ”®šŸ˜‰ Thinking about what Iā€™d like to honor & release this full moon, I came across this photo today. I took it on my birthday in 2021, which I spent alone in a strange city. My bus (where I lived) had broken down halfway between NY & Georgia, where I was headed for winter. Iā€™d decided to make lemonade by getting a cute hotel room to do a self portrait shoot. I got a few good shots in & then the phone rang. It was the mechanic, telling me the engine wasnā€™t fixable. The bus needed a new engine. He reckoned thatā€™d run me about $14,000. This was a problem, as Iā€™d spent my last two grand buying the bus. I sat on the floor, staring at my phone, & then I burst into tears. I didnā€™t feel like shooting anymore, & my makeup was trashed anyway but I did take this one last shot. I wanted to remember how that exact moment felt. I spent an agonizing several days trying to decide what to do. I was encouraged by friends & family to give up the bus & move back to New York. I understand why: I was out of my depth, I was scared & exhausted. Still: I thought I heard a little voice inside me whispering ā€œkeep going.ā€ But what did I know? What if the voice was wrong? Looking back, I realize how far removed I was from my instincts & my own self possession. I thought everyone elseā€™s opinion was more important than mine, that they somehow had the key to knowledge I couldnā€™t unlock within myself. I did eventually decide to replace the engine (at a much lower price) but I was painfully confused and conflicted about my choice. Looking back, I realize how far Iā€™ve come. Living on the road requires you to be so close to your instincts ā€” who is trustworthy, which places are safe. I am so close to the voice that tells me what is right for me now. Iā€™m grateful that some part of me knew that this path was right for me. Iā€™m glad I could hear her whisper. Tonight, I want to honor her person I was when I took this photo. She was so willing to consider, to listen. She was exactly who I needed to be at the time. But Iā€™m ready to let her self-doubt go. These days, I can hear myself so much more clearly. I just have to remember to listen. šŸŒ™
Jezebel Express Instagram - Totally forgot I made the angry door guy at Sony Hall take this walk-by video of us showing off our outfits after the @newyorkburlesquefestival Saturday Spectacular. Look how cute we are tho!!! šŸ„°
Jezebel Express Instagram - Floating through a cotton candy dream @selkie NYFW. It felt exactly like it looks. šŸ©°šŸŽ€šŸ’— šŸ“ø: @ashleehuff #nyfw #fashionweek #whatiwore #pink #plussizefashion #selkie #runway
Jezebel Express Instagram - My Paint By Numbers dance, as immortalized by Luma Rouge ā¤ļø I gotta get this act out againā€¦ itā€™s so much fun (and so messy!)
Jezebel Express Instagram - Every layer of this @selkie look was out of control but this butterfly corset/frilly panty situation was so flirty and fun! šŸ’•šŸ¦‹šŸ’…šŸ» Iā€™m going to try to find a close up photo to post next because I want to give the hair and makeup babes their flowers- they absolutely slayed everyoneā€™s looks. #nyfw #fashionweek #selkie #butterflies #cottagecore #fairycore #pink #newyork #plussizefashion #runway #fatbabe #glamour #fashion #inclusizefashion šŸ“ø: @ashleehuff
Jezebel Express Instagram - āœØIf you are always at war with your body, what would a truce look like?āœØ is it possible for you to relate to your body without confronting it? What would you give up if you declared a truce? What would you gain?
Jezebel Express Instagram - If you got it, flaunt it! Every night of BHOF has an unofficial ā€œthemeā€- the reigning royalty and legends pick colors for es v night. Last night, the theme was ā€œpinkā€- check my story for a little look at all the gorgeous colors and humans who attended the show! šŸ’–
Jezebel Express Instagram - Devilā€™s in the Details. āœØšŸ˜ˆāœØ So grateful @boudoirbynomi took these beautiful close-ups! I sometimes get focused on this costumeā€™s complicated aspects (chain mail bra needs fixed constantly, etc) that I forget to step back and enjoy how beautiful it is! A good reminder for me which Iā€™m sure I can apply to other parts of my life. (Maybe you too?)
Jezebel Express Instagram - The light in this photo was bad, so I started throwing filters on it, and I discovered this one makes me look like a cake topper. šŸŽ‚ BUT WHAT IS THE EVENT that requires this cake topper? Burly-q birthday? Successful application of cat eye liner? I need to know!
Jezebel Express Instagram - Yā€™all I cannot āœØWAITāœØ for you to see the photos @boudoirbynomi took of me yesterday! We had so much fun shooting & playing with her new lights. šŸ„°
Jezebel Express Instagram - āš”ļøELECTRIC LOVE āš”ļøFirst glimpse at my recent shoot with @boudoirbynomi. Feeling this picture of me feeling myself! šŸ‘©šŸ»ā€šŸŽ¤šŸ’…šŸ»šŸ”®
Jezebel Express Instagram - šŸ¦‡ Happy Friday the 13th šŸ¦‡ Incredible šŸ“ø by @ireallyhopeyouwin Incredible robe by @catherinedlish
Jezebel Express Instagram - Itā€™s decorative gourd season, m*therf*ckers. šŸ Last nightā€™s @newyorkburlesquefestival show was incredible and judging by the amount of orange accents & costumes, we are READY FOR FALL! Thanks @angiepontani @jengapay for having me & curating one hell of a festival & @burlesquebishop, our lovely kittens & the whole team for keeping the wheels on the train! I know it takes a lot of people to make a festival go and I appreciate all of you ! šŸ§”
Jezebel Express Instagram - Fun fact: I got mistaken for @sucrealacreme SO MANY TIMES at BHOF last year! šŸ‘Æā€ā™€ļø We donā€™t look (or perform) anything alike, but we do like to joke about it now, and we had to admit that we could kindaaaa see the resemblance at our show in Albany. I look forward to submitting my saxophone-based act to BHOF this year so people can stop her in the hallways to compliment her performance! šŸ˜‰šŸŽ·āœØ
Jezebel Express Instagram - Last night at @newyorkburlesquefestival! Had so much fun. āœØ Lately Iā€™m getting some wild comments about how Iā€™m ā€œsucking inā€ or misrepresenting my body in photos (in the skin tight clothes I wear?! which I take off onstage anyway? okay šŸ‘€). I thought it was probably time to come clean and expose the ā€œreal meā€ so please enjoy. šŸ‘¹
Jezebel Express Instagram - Last night at @newyorkburlesquefestival! Had so much fun. āœØ Lately Iā€™m getting some wild comments about how Iā€™m ā€œsucking inā€ or misrepresenting my body in photos (in the skin tight clothes I wear?! which I take off onstage anyway? okay šŸ‘€). I thought it was probably time to come clean and expose the ā€œreal meā€ so please enjoy. šŸ‘¹
Jezebel Express Instagram - āœØClothing is meant to fit you, not the other way around.āœØ You do not need to fit into the clothing you wore five years ago. You owe no one an unchanging body. You do not ever have to wear the jeans you wore in high school again. You do not need to hang on to clothing that is unlikely to fit you again. If you own any clothing that you use as a tool of shame or punishment, please do not allow it to continue occupying space in your home. The fact that you spent money on something does not mean you need to rearrange your physical body around it, especially if doing so has mental costs. Your clothing should not pinch or hurt you (unless youā€™re into that sort of thing. šŸ˜) Your partnerā€™s fondness for an outfit is not a good reason to keep it around if it makes you feel bad about yourself. All that said, you are also under no obligation to throw away clothing that doesnā€™t fit you, so long as you are not using that clothing to harm yourself. Does it make you happy to know you have it? Does it fall within your bodyā€™s normal size fluctuations? Are you otherwise attached to it? Keep it! It sounds like it ā€œfitsā€ you and your life. Sometimes we are told that we are only allowed to own clothing that fits us, and it can feel like we are being punished for not staying the same size over time. Like food, clothing serves a variety of purposes. Some are practical, some are emotional, some are related to identity or community. And like food, our relationship with clothes can be positive, neutral, or negative. Discarding clothing that makes you feel bad about your body is a concrete step you can take towards accepting your body as it is. There are practical considerations to changing sizes, and I donā€™t mean to minimize them. Anxiety about having clothes that is real, as is actual clothing scarcity for folks with proportions that donā€™t match ā€œstandardā€ clothing shapes or sizes. You know best what is right for you and your life. But I do want to invite you to keep clothing that fits you and feels good in your wardrobe, and to opt out of letting the sizes you own dictate your opinion about what size you ā€œshouldā€ be. Instead, start to honor the size you are. ā¤ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - I have never worn this outfit without someone yelling ā€œTell me about it, stud!ā€ and honestly, if thatā€™s not a good reason to wear an outfit, I donā€™t know what is. New weighted veil by Dulce Dā€™Jour and Iā€™m still learning so donā€™t judge me!!
Jezebel Express Instagram - These creeps. ā¤ļø I could fill a book with love for these two incredible artists/humans, but for today I just wanna say: no one has ever deserved their crowns more. šŸ‘‘ CONGRATS to our 2023 Best Debut Winner @margomayhem and our 2023 Miss Exotic World @thesamsonnight! Photo by Steve Prue.
Jezebel Express Instagram - I am practicing poi on the beach today, wearing significantly less makeup than this. An all time fave photo by @absesay_photo šŸ”„
Jezebel Express Instagram - Loving this painting by @bronwynmcivor ā€” they used one of my recent self taken photos as a point of inspiration. I love how this is both recognizable and totally new, all at once. šŸ’“šŸŖ· #yourbodydeservesdaylight
Jezebel Express Instagram - āœØCLASS STARTS IN AN HOUR!āœØ You can register on my website and get the link immediately! And if you see this after Thursday night, donā€™t stress, gorgeous humanā€¦ you can still hop in. All classes are recorded and uploaded, so you can always take our first class by recording and join us live next week if you want! You can also take alllll the classes recorded- I know itā€™s hard to get acheudles lined up. Anyway, this is your final warning! lincoln bio as walways šŸ’‹ Photo by @pixelvixenimaging
Jezebel Express Instagram - Always so thankful for the helpfulness of strangers. šŸ„°
Jezebel Express Instagram - Nothing more satisfying than watching a dancer hit their beats! If this skill eludes you, can I remind you that I teach a whole class on musicality? Live class is Thursday, April 18 at 8:15pm ET, but if youā€™re seeing this after that, donā€™t sweat: weā€™re recoridnf class so you can also take it that way! This video is courtesy of @metropolitan_studios_ in Atlanta! This was āœØliterallyāœØmy first show back after the pandemic closures, and you can see how much I was living for the stage! šŸ’ƒāœØā¤ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - Musicality is an incredibly important dance skill! If youā€™d like to hone yours, join my workshop this Thursday! šŸ’ƒ As always, info is in my bio!
Jezebel Express Instagram - Lacing in last night āœØšŸŽ€āœØ (I can go tighte,r but it was a quick changeā€¦ and frankly I prefer to leave a little wiggle room for breathing while dancing!) #corset #glamour #plussize #dancer #nightlife #sparkles #plussizefashion
Jezebel Express Instagram - Me enjoying my life while thousands of people on the internet argue about my body. šŸ¤Ŗ Having a post go viral is always chaotic, but I appreciate how effectively it brings the right people to me! I also know that the people who leave nasty comments are dealing with insecurities or old wounds that compel them to lash out at strangers, and I try hard to have compassion for them. For folks who followed me from my reels this week: Iā€™m so happy youā€™re here! Enjoy the glitter and the giggles! āœØ For the mean folks: I genuinely wish you all the growth and healing you need. Itā€™s possible to feel incredible about yourself without trying to diminish someone elseā€™s shine. Ask me how I know. šŸ˜‰āœØ
Jezebel Express Instagram - When you live in a bus but also teach fan dancing. āœØšŸŖ­šŸšŒ I donā€™t normally teach fans IN the bus but I was workshopping an existing fan act with a student and had them out for reference! Couldnā€™t resist documenting my weirdo life. šŸ’•
Jezebel Express Instagram - Hey babe wake up new tassel twirling class just dropped šŸ„° As always comment if you have questions but full class description is below. āœØ TASSEL TWIRLING FOR TREMENDOUS TATAS MARCH 3, 1-2:30PM EASTERN TIME, $35 flex Join Jezebel Express for a tassel twirling overview designed to help you explore various twirling techniques in a supportive, encouraging environment that celebrates all bodies. Bodies and breasts/chests are all different, so finding the right technique for you and your body is our goal! In addition to trying out some twirling moves, we will also talk about choosing the best pastie size, pastie placement on the chest, different tassel attachment strategies, and making vs. buying pasties. If you are interested in twirling but do not have much (or any) breast tissue, thatā€™s great: itā€™s actually a little easier to twirl with smaller breasts or an entirely flat chest than it is when dealing with a larger cup size! That said, if you are a person with large breasts, have no fear: we will be discussing pastie placement for larger chests, sourcing larger pasties, and finding a twirling rhythm that makes sense for bodies with more breast mass! Jez will be addressing some common questions, including: ā€œWhat do I do if I have extra large or extra small areola?ā€ ā€œCan I twirl with pierced nips?ā€ ā€œWhat if my breast sizes are not the same, or I have only one breast?ā€ ā€What do I do if my nipples point down instead of out?ā€ (The answer to all of these is ā€œTwirl with what youā€™ve got, babe!ā€ but we will go into loving and respectful detail on how to handle these situations in class.) EVERYONE is welcome in class, so long as they intend to participate. No observers are permitted (ie, your partner is not welcome to watch the class unless they have bought a ticket and intend to twirl with usā€” show them your moves at a later date, please!) NOTE ABOUT RECORDED CLASS: The recorded class will contain clear and detailed instruction on all tassel techniques. we cover in the live class, but the recording will not include demonstrations of topless tassel twirling. This is to protect the privacy of the teacher and class. Thank you for understanding!
Jezebel Express Instagram - I trust that none of you doubt my commitment to sparkle motion! āœØ šŸ“ø by @lynzmarie_photo at @grandburlesquepresents šŸ’•
Jezebel Express Instagram - This week, Iā€™ve been thinking about the way we view our bodies as projects. Itā€™s almost as though they are imperfect paintings that always require just one final adjustment, no matter how long weā€™ve been working on them. Our culture encourages us to eye our bodies critically: optimize, perfect, sculpt, tone. We are taught itā€™s necessary to shape our bodies into whatever form is currently perceived as ideal. Of course, ā€œidealā€ is a moving target. The minute you buy a fat ass, thin is in again. We live in a society that rewards certain bodies while penalizing others, so itā€™s normal that we daydream about how our lives would be different if our bodies were different. But we do not need to be wait to live our lives until our bodies are perfect. Maybe you are putting off a beach vacation, trying a daring style, asking for a raise, flirting with someone gorgeous. ā€œIā€™ll do it later,ā€ you whisper. ā€œWhen Iā€™m better.ā€ The thing is: you donā€™t need to be better. And youā€™re not guaranteed later. Let me be clear: All bodies have equal value. All human beings deserve respect. Your body is unrelated to your worth. You will not deserve love or happiness or respect more if you have a ā€œbetterā€ body. Anyone who tells you different is trying to sell you something. And listenā€”you are the ultimate expert on what you & your body need. I donā€™t necessarily think itā€™s wrong to change your body if thatā€™s your desire. Iā€™m just reminding you that you donā€™t have to placeholder your life until your body catches up to your goals. It is possible to live a life full of joy & love & fun in the body you have today. It is possible to find peace there. You just have to put down the paintbrush, step away from the canvas, and live. Live as though your body is already perfect, for one dinner or day. See how it feels. When you return to your canvas, look in new ways. Do you always need to scan for imperfections? What if the weird stuff is actually adding to the painting? What if the flaws make it interesting? What would happen if you hung the painting as it is? What if you never changed another thing about it? What would happen if you acknowledged that you are already a work or art?
Jezebel Express Instagram - Backstage at @laburlabee! I had an epic weekend in Colorado Springs- mor ephotoa forthcoming. THANK YOU EVERYONE for making me feel so gosh darn welcome, for signing up for my classes and for coming to cheer me on! Iā€™m back in Denver performing this Saturday night (announcement about where tomorrow, so stay tuned!!)
Jezebel Express Instagram - I love how much texture and motion you can see here: velvet gloves, crinkled organza, fluttery feathers and tiny twinkling rhinestones. This is how I imagine I look onstage so itā€™s nice to see that itā€™s occasionally true. āœØā¤ļøšŸ’ƒ Thanks @lynzmarie_photo for capturing this!
Jezebel Express Instagram - āœØREMEMBER: CHANGE IS OPTIONALāœØ Happy New Year! I realize itā€™s January 8th, but I ignore the internet first week of the year because ā€œnew youā€ messaging is often super harmful, and I am just not interested in bringing that energy into 2024! I donā€™t do resolutions so much as offer vague advice to self, and this year I went with ā€œDo your best (and also rest!)ā€ I have trouble turning ā€œoffā€ and always feel like I could be doing more, so this framework feels both exciting to try out and like it might benefit me. Since ā€œnew year, new youā€ season is far from over, lemme just say: āœØChange is optional. You donā€™t owe anyone a ā€œbetterā€ you. You deserve love and respect exactly as you exist in this moment. āœØChange is also fine. Thereā€™s nothing wrong with choosing to make different decisions, but think twice before positioning the ā€œnewā€ you as better than the old one. Of course some habits make us happier, but the ā€œoldā€ you got you this far, and she probably had reasons for making the choices she did. There is no need to abandon or humiliate her (especially since, if your resolutions donā€™t go as planned, you might stay her!) āœØ It is okay for it not to be the right time to make big changes (yes, even in January!) Sometimes we have circumstances or constraints that make change extra hard, and sometimes our finances or our health making change extra challenging. If you realize a big change isnā€™t the right move for you right now, try to practice compassion for yourself instead of beating yourself up or wallowing in shame. You are making the decision that is best for you right now, and thatā€™s never something you have to be ashamed of. āœØ You always have the option of rejecting our cultureā€™s belief in body hierarchies (ie, that some bodies are better than others). You can start today, actually. If you need a first step, follow people who live in bodies that you consider ā€œlessā€ valuable (no commenting.) Listen to them. See if watching them be actual humans helps to level the playing field in your head. āœØif your diet is bad for your mental health, your diet is bad for you. It is unhealthy for your diet to dominate your conversations and headspace. āœØDo your bestā€¦ and also rest! ā¤ļøšŸ›ŒāœØ
Jezebel Express Instagram - Donā€™t torture yourself, Gomez. Thatā€™s my job. šŸ„€
Jezebel Express Instagram - Sometimes my lives crash together delightfully.
Jezebel Express Instagram - āœØCasualāœØ. šŸ“ø: @brokenglassfoto in Colorado Springs for @strippedavaldezproduction. I had so much fun!! (PS: Iā€™m back in the Springs for a couple of days doing bus maintenance, holler at me if there are any fun shows to see! ā¤ļø)
Jezebel Express Instagram - Is it even BHOF if you donā€™t post a bathroom selfie in a velvet gown?
Jezebel Express Instagram - šŸ’•šŸŒŗšŸ’–šŸŽŸļøšŸ©°šŸŒ·šŸ·šŸ‘› Went in for blonde balayage and suddenly needed pink hair. Who am I to question my gut? Thanks to mccasino_ for the new look! šŸ’•
Jezebel Express Instagram - These two brought a completely original & absolutely flawless and also *extremely effing cute* routine to #bhof! Biggest congrats Kosmic Joy (@joyridermtl & @kozmicskater) on your Best Small Group win, thank you for being such badass sparkles of love & light. āœØ
Jezebel Express Instagram - Why does this sparkly dress sound like a rain stick tho? šŸ§šŸŒ§ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - Always happiest in a dance studio. ā¤ļø Taught six classes this weekā€¦ I am so grateful for each and every one. šŸ’ƒ thank you @soniarita.az for letting me teach at your amazing Bisbee studio and thank you @xo.mattfinish for letting me teach in YOUR amazing studio in Tucson!
Jezebel Express Instagram - Showgirl mode OFF at @descendonbend āš”ļøI spent labour day weekend with a bunch of nomads in the Oregon outback and it was such a blast. Iā€™ll be posting more about that at @lovejez if youā€™re interestedā€¦ in showpony news, Iā€™ll be in NYC twice in September for two very special shows, so stay tuned here for info on that! āœØ thanks @crizzlecalanca for the photo (and for everything.) ā¤ļø
Jezebel Express Instagram - I had such a blast at @lacyknightly123 TEASY BELLE brunch show yesterdayā€” thank you so much for having me! šŸ’ƒšŸ³ I didnā€™t take enough pictures, but Iā€™m glad I managed to snap one with babe @dahlia_kash ! šŸ’•āœØšŸ„°
Jezebel Express Instagram - šŸŠOrange crush!šŸŠ @newyorkburlesquefestival šŸ“ø: @edbarnas
Jezebel Express Instagram - A little costume detail from tonightā€™s show! No Iā€™m not thinnerā€¦ the backstage mirrors are just on a tilt. Never let the internet fool you babies! You're fine as you are. šŸ˜˜
Jezebel Express Instagram - Living my best life at last Friday nightā€™s STRIPPED! show! āœØ Did you miss me? Good news: Iā€™m on tomorrow night for Carnivale de Sensualeā€™s HOTTER THAN HELL at @theorientaltheater in Denver. šŸ”„ Iā€™ll also be attending tonightā€™s Sandman inspired show (Gaiman not Metallica but good question šŸŽ) at the same theater so if you are going and you see meā€” say hi! People always tell me they saw me and šŸ”ed out on introducing themselves! Iā€™m only mean on the internet, kids, I promiseā€” Iā€™m a real cupcake in person. šŸ§ šŸ“ø by @brokenglassfoto
Jezebel Express Instagram - This photo was taken in Vegas on a disposable camera by @sassyvonstraddler just a few weeks ago, but in my mind, it was taken in the late eighties in a tony NYC bar, where the three of us have just finished relieving some finance bros of their Wall Street winnings for the week. šŸ˜‡šŸ’ø
Jezebel Express Instagram - Backstage āœØ. Had a blast in Tucson & I will definitely be back! Headed back to NYC later this week for a private gig and a little time with friends, and then Vegas for a hot minute before I head back into the wilderness for some skoolie nature time šŸšŒšŸŒ±
Jezebel Express Instagram - Song suggestions in the comments plz! šŸŽ§
Jezebel Express Instagram - Sometimes fancy, sometimes under a bus swearing at an oil filter. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø Thanks for catching my best angles @mrgorgeousny! (PS: this was taken @thesamsonnight & @margomayhemā€™s wedding, peep how elegant it was! šŸ˜)
Jezebel Express Instagram - Post class glow! If you missed our first session of Flirtinf with Burlesque, thereā€™s still time to register: recordings of every class are offered so you can always catch up before next week! šŸ’ƒ
Jezebel Express Instagram - ā›“ļøWhatā€™re YOU lookin at?ā›“ļø AZ Shows & classes done and dusted. Whatā€™s our next adventure?
Jezebel Express Instagram - Snapshot with an icon! šŸ•·ļøšŸ•·ļø This movie was formative for me- tell me if it was for you too? I just found this is my drafts so let me give proper credit for the Rando Elvira cutout to The Surly Wench in Tucson where I performed last month - their giant dressing room is a treasure trove of rad oddities but this was definitely my favorite,
Jezebel Express Instagram - āœØSALT LAKE CITY!āœØ I canā€™t wait to join @hottakeburlesque this Saturday night (June 24)! Iā€™ll be there wearing a half-bored sneer & some black lipstick Iā€™m just waiting for someone to smearā€¦ ā›“ļøšŸ–¤šŸ’„
Jezebel Express Instagram - Feeling that eclipse energy today and taking a moment to appreciate the reality of darkness meeting light. No one is always one wayā€” human beings are mutable and ever-changing. Rather than trying to blot out the parts of ourselves that make us uncomfortable, we can choose instead to accept and incorporate themā€¦ to look at our shadows with love and tenderness and try to understand why they are there, instead of banishing them. We are all light and dark, and we always will be. The trick is finding balance, and learning to appreciate (and share) all aspects of ourselves , instead of just the most easy-to-accept parts of us. ā¤ļø šŸ“· by the incomparable @bettinamaystudios
Jezebel Express Instagram - Every once in awhile, it happens: we catch a glimpse of ourselvesā€” maybe in the mirror or at an angle we don't often seeā€” and we think "Damn. I look good." Maybe it's our bodyā€™s shadow or our nose from this angle, or our wrinkles looking kinda cute while we're laughing. We have a rare moment of self-appreciationā€”but we all know what follows that. The voices. Maybe it's a parent ("cover your arms") or friend ("girl, botox!") or partner ("donā€™t get a big head, now!ā€) A litany of lightning speed critiques, replacing your appreciation with shame: you're wrong, you have work to do, you're hideous. Why are we like this? We are taught from the time we begin consuming media that love is always conditional-- that we must look and act exactly right. We must walk a careful tightrope to earn love, and then stay balanced to keep it. Many of us have spent our lives tiptoeing carefully, looking only ahead towards our betterment, instead of admiring the grace and skill of the balancing acts we do every day, or the spectacular view from up here. I don't think love is like a tightrope. This is what self-improvement shills will tell you, though, and theyā€™re loud. Theyā€™re also yelling into the ears of the people who love you, and because those folks want you to be well-loved, they may join the chorus of voices pressuring you to balance oh-so-carefully and never slip up. But love is not a tightrope. Love is a net. Love holds the things we have been told are unforgivable about ourselves. Love does not require perfect balance or staring straight ahead, laser focused on inching toward some ad guyā€™s idea of perfection.Ā  Love wants you to enjoy your time on earth. To revel in the view. To admire yourself. And sure, looking around might make you lose your balance. But what are you even doing on that tightrope anyway?Ā  The next time you catch a glimpse of something you like in the mirror, donā€™t let the voices keep snap your attention back to whatā€˜s ā€œwrongā€. Instead, enjoy a rare glimpse at whatā€™s right, whatā€™s wonderful, whatā€™s perfect about you. Turn your head. Take a good, long look at how beautiful you are. And when you fall, let love catch you. āœØ
Jezebel Express Instagram - Twirling my tassels in a most unconventional manner @harlowsnightclub in Sacramento! Thank you @burlyclines @vivalachacha for a super fun show! āœØ šŸ“ø: @jamesblonde001
Jezebel Express Instagram - āœØšŸ§™ā€ā™€ļøBASIC WITCH šŸ§™ā€ā™€ļøāœØ I had the best Halloween Weekā€¦ instead of working a ton, I went to a grown-up Halloween party, hit up some trick or treating, and even wore a costume I have zero plans of ever using in an act! Got this cute starry dress at plus size thrift shop @iwantsecondspdx during their store Halloween party this weekend. I wasnā€™t sure where Iā€™d wear it, but these random impractical sleeves were too c*nt to pass up! Took me about 36 hours to find an occasion šŸŽƒ I hope everyone had a super fun Halloweekā€¦ if you did anything great, Iā€™d love to hear about it! šŸ‘‚ šŸ‘»šŸ’€šŸ§›šŸ»ā€ā™€ļøšŸ¦‡
Jezebel Express Instagram - Do I have anything stuck in my teeth? šŸ˜¬ An all time fave shot from @absesay_photo ā¤ļø
Jezebel Express - 28.3K Likes - This is for all my new friends! Thanks for being here šŸ’‹. A little about me: āœØI believe that all humans deserve to be treated with respect, and all bodies have equal value. āœØI think body diversity is normal, and strongly believe we need to start thinking about fat folks as ā€œnormal people, just bigger.ā€ āœØI donā€™t believe you can assess someoneā€™s health by simply looking at their body size, especially since ā€œfat and fitā€ folks exist, but so do people for whom weight gain is a symptom and not the cause of ill health. āœØI believe that fat peopleā€™s mental health is worth protecting, and that the cruelty and social stigma fat folks experience can be an exacerbating factor in the (underdiagnosed and often untreated) eating disorders that some fat folks struggle with. āœØI believe personal health is something that should be discussed between a doctor and the patient (and not randoms without access to blood work and/or medical training.) āœØI donā€™t think people who share their bodies in public deserve vitriol, (though some of yā€™all have made sure I know you disagree). āœØI post what I post and go onstage like I do because I believe fat people deserve to exist in public, and because no one deserves cruel treatment for existing in the body they live in today. If youā€™re not on board with these very mild, rational statements, I hope you can get there someday. ā¤ļø

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Caption : This is for all my new friends! Thanks for being here šŸ’‹. A little about me: āœØI believe that all humans deserve to be treated with respect, and all bodies have equal value. āœØI think body diversity is normal, and strongly believe we need to start thinking about fat folks as ā€œnormal people, just bigger.ā€ āœØI donā€™t believe you can assess someoneā€™s health by simply looking at their body size, especially since ā€œfat and fitā€ folks exist, but so do people for whom weight gain is a symptom and not the cause of ill health. āœØI believe that fat peopleā€™s mental health is worth protecting, and that the cruelty and social stigma fat folks experience can be an exacerbating factor in the (underdiagnosed and often untreated) eating disorders that some fat folks struggle with. āœØI believe personal health is something that should be discussed between a doctor and the patient (and not randoms without access to blood work and/or medical training.) āœØI donā€™t think people who share their bodies in public deserve vitriol, (though some of yā€™all have made sure I know you disagree). āœØI post what I post and go onstage like I do because I believe fat people deserve to exist in public, and because no one deserves cruel treatment for existing in the body they live in today. If youā€™re not on board with these very mild, rational statements, I hope you can get there someday. ā¤ļø
Likes : 28348Jezebel Express - 6.5K Likes - Theyā€™re SO SURE their opinions on my body are important and worth sharing! #bless IMPORTANT PS: kids this is a CapCut template green screen of this guy talking that people are putting in front of their own photos to joke about things that arenā€™t going well in their own lives:, I donā€™t know this man but he is apparently heā€™s a famous YouTuber (I thought he was an actor I didnā€™t know when I posted it šŸ« ) and this is an overlay *I* made on the video to comment on how men talk about me, and not something this particular man said about my body. He doesnā€™t even know who I am!

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Caption : Theyā€™re SO SURE their opinions on my body are important and worth sharing! #bless IMPORTANT PS: kids this is a CapCut template green screen of this guy talking that people are putting in front of their own photos to joke about things that arenā€™t going well in their own lives:, I donā€™t know this man but he is apparently heā€™s a famous YouTuber (I thought he was an actor I didnā€™t know when I posted it šŸ« ) and this is an overlay *I* made on the video to comment on how men talk about me, and not something this particular man said about my body. He doesnā€™t even know who I am!
Likes : 6488Jezebel Express - 3.4K Likes - Honestly, my bookshelves are the only thing I miss about living in a house. šŸ“ššŸ¤“šŸ“š I took this self-portrait shortly before moving into my rig and it came up in my memories today so I wanted to share. ā¤ļø Who remembers taking classes from me with these shelves as the backdrop during the first year of C0vÄ«d?

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Caption : Honestly, my bookshelves are the only thing I miss about living in a house. šŸ“ššŸ¤“šŸ“š I took this self-portrait shortly before moving into my rig and it came up in my memories today so I wanted to share. ā¤ļø Who remembers taking classes from me with these shelves as the backdrop during the first year of C0vÄ«d?
Likes : 3436Jezebel Express - 2.9K Likes - For anyone who needs to hear it today: you canā€™t change the past, but you can always change the future. ā¤ļø Robe is @catherinedlish, naturally āœØ

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Caption : For anyone who needs to hear it today: you canā€™t change the past, but you can always change the future. ā¤ļø Robe is @catherinedlish, naturally āœØ
Likes : 2924Jezebel Express - 2.4K Likes - Dancing on the @selkie #nyfw runway. When the industry said ā€œFashion is for thin folksā€, I said ā€œHold my fans.ā€ And yes, this was my first fashion week, and yes, I did close the show! šŸ’…šŸ» What an absolute dream Thank you @exhibita_lk for capturing this! #plussizefashion #plussizedancer #fairycore #selkie #fandance

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Caption : Dancing on the @selkie #nyfw runway. When the industry said ā€œFashion is for thin folksā€, I said ā€œHold my fans.ā€ And yes, this was my first fashion week, and yes, I did close the show! šŸ’…šŸ» What an absolute dream Thank you @exhibita_lk for capturing this! #plussizefashion #plussizedancer #fairycore #selkie #fandance
Likes : 2375Jezebel Express - 2.2K Likes - A guy in The Orleans just told me he loves ā€œreal womenā€ and I said ā€œYOU MET A FAKE WOMAN?!ā€ It was awk. No regrets.

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Caption : A guy in The Orleans just told me he loves ā€œreal womenā€ and I said ā€œYOU MET A FAKE WOMAN?!ā€ It was awk. No regrets.
Likes : 2207Jezebel Express - 2.1K Likes - Itā€™s truly wild that so many people believe that a womanā€™s primary job to is to be as attractive as possible to as wide a cross-section of men as she can manage. Your beauty doesnā€™t exist for other people. Your body does not exist for other people. For anyone who needs to hear it: the fact that some rando man doesnā€™t want you is genuinely unrelated to your worth as a human being. The fact that the aunt you see once a year thinks your arms are wobbly is radio noise. The right people will love and appreciate you as you are. They will remain your fans over eight loss or gain, through amazing fitness and times of flabbiness, through illness and recovery, through aging (assuming you are lucky enough to age.) People who hide behind private profiles and spew venom are not your target audience, and they never were. Blow away their words the way youā€™d wish on a dandelion, and come back to what matters: the people who see you, appreciate you, and treat you with respect. āœØā¤ļøšŸ’• Robe by @catherinedlish, internet drama served up fresh @madonnainn1958 šŸ’•

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Caption : Itā€™s truly wild that so many people believe that a womanā€™s primary job to is to be as attractive as possible to as wide a cross-section of men as she can manage. Your beauty doesnā€™t exist for other people. Your body does not exist for other people. For anyone who needs to hear it: the fact that some rando man doesnā€™t want you is genuinely unrelated to your worth as a human being. The fact that the aunt you see once a year thinks your arms are wobbly is radio noise. The right people will love and appreciate you as you are. They will remain your fans over eight loss or gain, through amazing fitness and times of flabbiness, through illness and recovery, through aging (assuming you are lucky enough to age.) People who hide behind private profiles and spew venom are not your target audience, and they never were. Blow away their words the way youā€™d wish on a dandelion, and come back to what matters: the people who see you, appreciate you, and treat you with respect. āœØā¤ļøšŸ’• Robe by @catherinedlish, internet drama served up fresh @madonnainn1958 šŸ’•
Likes : 2136Jezebel Express - 2.1K Likes - So one of my TikToks is doing numbers, and as usual, a pile of strangers have shown up to express disgust at my body. I wonā€™t say that this has no emotional impact, but the contents of the hateful messages just feelā€¦ trivial. Maybe itā€™s just part of having been a fat public figure for so long, but I feel like I can hear what people mean under their vitriolā€¦ and so little or what they are saying is actually about me. I remember the time a young fat person DMā€™ed me: ā€œI would want to die if people said those things about me - how can you stand it?ā€ā€Øā€ØI wrote back, and told them the truth: Those people arenā€™t saying anything about me. They are saying something about the way they see the world. ā€Øā€ØPeople who comment on other peopleā€™s bodies do so to express or reenforce their values and beliefs. Something about me feels challenging to them, and they feel the need to re-assert their beliefs out loud, in public. To be clear: they do this for themselves, not me. No one shows up on a strangerā€™s page and says awful shit to them for the strangerā€™s benefit. ā€Øā€ØMaybe theyā€™re saying: šŸ«„ā€œI only value people who live in bodies I find sexually attractive.ā€ šŸ«„ā€œI work hard to have a fit body, and I believe only people with fit bodies deserve respect or attraction.ā€ šŸ«„ā€œI resent you because I hate myself, and I donā€™t understand how you donā€™t hate yourself, too.ā€ šŸ«„ā€œI perceive my social position to be higher than hours, so I have the right to mock you.ā€ā€ØšŸ«„ā€œI was raised to believe fat people are always miserable and self-loathingā€¦ who are you to break the rules?ā€ With family & friends, body commentary is often a bungled attempt at love. ā€œI am afraid you will not find a husbandā€ or ā€œI donā€™t want others to be cruel to youā€. But whether people intend menace or care, the fact remains: body comments are simply reiterations of their own fears and desires, projected onto you and your perfectly acceptable body.ā€Øā€ØComments about our bodies are almost never actually about us, in any way, shape or form. This is worth remembering, because it also means that other peopleā€™s opinions of our bodies should hold but negligible weight when we are assessing our own worth. I hope this helps someone. ā¤ļø

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Caption : So one of my TikToks is doing numbers, and as usual, a pile of strangers have shown up to express disgust at my body. I wonā€™t say that this has no emotional impact, but the contents of the hateful messages just feelā€¦ trivial. Maybe itā€™s just part of having been a fat public figure for so long, but I feel like I can hear what people mean under their vitriolā€¦ and so little or what they are saying is actually about me. I remember the time a young fat person DMā€™ed me: ā€œI would want to die if people said those things about me – how can you stand it?ā€ā€Øā€ØI wrote back, and told them the truth: Those people arenā€™t saying anything about me. They are saying something about the way they see the world. ā€Øā€ØPeople who comment on other peopleā€™s bodies do so to express or reenforce their values and beliefs. Something about me feels challenging to them, and they feel the need to re-assert their beliefs out loud, in public. To be clear: they do this for themselves, not me. No one shows up on a strangerā€™s page and says awful shit to them for the strangerā€™s benefit. ā€Øā€ØMaybe theyā€™re saying: šŸ«„ā€œI only value people who live in bodies I find sexually attractive.ā€ šŸ«„ā€œI work hard to have a fit body, and I believe only people with fit bodies deserve respect or attraction.ā€ šŸ«„ā€œI resent you because I hate myself, and I donā€™t understand how you donā€™t hate yourself, too.ā€ šŸ«„ā€œI perceive my social position to be higher than hours, so I have the right to mock you.ā€ā€ØšŸ«„ā€œI was raised to believe fat people are always miserable and self-loathingā€¦ who are you to break the rules?ā€ With family & friends, body commentary is often a bungled attempt at love. ā€œI am afraid you will not find a husbandā€ or ā€œI donā€™t want others to be cruel to youā€. But whether people intend menace or care, the fact remains: body comments are simply reiterations of their own fears and desires, projected onto you and your perfectly acceptable body.ā€Øā€ØComments about our bodies are almost never actually about us, in any way, shape or form. This is worth remembering, because it also means that other peopleā€™s opinions of our bodies should hold but negligible weight when we are assessing our own worth. I hope this helps someone. ā¤ļø
Likes : 2063Jezebel Express - 1.9K Likes - Just a little message of hope. ā¤ļø It is possible to improve your relationship with your body. I believe in you.

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Caption : Just a little message of hope. ā¤ļø It is possible to improve your relationship with your body. I believe in you.
Likes : 1935Jezebel Express - 1.9K Likes - āœØThings No One Tells You About Being A ShowgirlāœØ No one tells you how much STUFF there is, for starters. You think itā€™s a corset & bra, ruffled panties, a pair of high heels. Youā€™ve got most of that at home.ā€Ø Smash cut to three ā€”or five or fifteen yearsā€” later, & youā€™re backstage with two gowns (one for performing, one for curtain call), two corsets, sixty-inch wide feather fans, a bustle the size of a small car, a boa, lingerie, a lace onesie, three sets of gloves, two pairs of heels (high set for performing & the low ones for your go-go stint) & thatā€™s before you get into wigs & hair accessories & makeup. And no one tells you about the stairs. No one tells you that when youā€™re just starting out, the shoes you need for your show are going to cost $60, & the show is gonna pay you $50. No one tells you how hard youā€™ll work to be seen. No one tells you that one day, youā€™ll see an audience member see themselves in you. They are rethinking what is possible, because of the five minutes you spent onstage. No one tells you that producers are going to hit on you & itā€™s going to be awful. Or that theyā€™re going to hit on everyone except you & that youā€™ll hate yourself for thinking that might be even worse. No one tells you that performing is the best drug. Or that slow weeks & unanswered inquiries will make you wonder if you should just hang up your tassels. No one tells you that half the photos taken of you onstage will make you want to live in a hole in the ground. No one tells you some gigs are perfect for you, & others will never hire you, & itā€™s your job to figure out which is which. No one will tell you that you need to practice or upgrade your costuming or study comedy. A mentor might. But no one tells you how hard it is to get a mentor, either. What I can tell you is: Youā€™ll figure it out. Youā€™ll pick up lessons the way kittens scoop up lacy bras. Youā€™ll laugh so much, & probably cry your eyelashes off at least once. You will make good art & bad art but it will always be yours. The truth is that itā€™s life, just sparklier. So enjoy it. Make some friends. Abandon your ego. Learn what makes your light beam brightest. Then shine. āœØ

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Caption : āœØThings No One Tells You About Being A ShowgirlāœØ No one tells you how much STUFF there is, for starters. You think itā€™s a corset & bra, ruffled panties, a pair of high heels. Youā€™ve got most of that at home.ā€Ø Smash cut to three ā€”or five or fifteen yearsā€” later, & youā€™re backstage with two gowns (one for performing, one for curtain call), two corsets, sixty-inch wide feather fans, a bustle the size of a small car, a boa, lingerie, a lace onesie, three sets of gloves, two pairs of heels (high set for performing & the low ones for your go-go stint) & thatā€™s before you get into wigs & hair accessories & makeup. And no one tells you about the stairs. No one tells you that when youā€™re just starting out, the shoes you need for your show are going to cost $60, & the show is gonna pay you $50. No one tells you how hard youā€™ll work to be seen. No one tells you that one day, youā€™ll see an audience member see themselves in you. They are rethinking what is possible, because of the five minutes you spent onstage. No one tells you that producers are going to hit on you & itā€™s going to be awful. Or that theyā€™re going to hit on everyone except you & that youā€™ll hate yourself for thinking that might be even worse. No one tells you that performing is the best drug. Or that slow weeks & unanswered inquiries will make you wonder if you should just hang up your tassels. No one tells you that half the photos taken of you onstage will make you want to live in a hole in the ground. No one tells you some gigs are perfect for you, & others will never hire you, & itā€™s your job to figure out which is which. No one will tell you that you need to practice or upgrade your costuming or study comedy. A mentor might. But no one tells you how hard it is to get a mentor, either. What I can tell you is: Youā€™ll figure it out. Youā€™ll pick up lessons the way kittens scoop up lacy bras. Youā€™ll laugh so much, & probably cry your eyelashes off at least once. You will make good art & bad art but it will always be yours. The truth is that itā€™s life, just sparklier. So enjoy it. Make some friends. Abandon your ego. Learn what makes your light beam brightest. Then shine. āœØ
Likes : 1872Jezebel Express - 1.6K Likes - Today I came across a photo I took this summer. I wasĀ really sick but trying to make it work, and I remember feeling like my body had betrayed me: all I wanted was ONE good shot, but I looked exhausted in every image. I WAS exhausted, and I resented it. I kept getting better, then worse. I eventually found out I had pneumonia, and it did not go quietly. (Months later, I still have a horrible cough!) Through my illness, I kept asking myself: Why am I so embarrassed that Iā€™m ill? And why do I feel like Iā€™ve done something wrong? Itā€™s easy for me to understand that we canā€™t completely control our bodies. Body diversity is normal, and so is body change. But illness feels different. Harder. Of course, I was raised to view illness through the lens of late capitalism. Illness nukes productivity and prevents us from fulfilling our usual obligations. I wasnā€™t raised to value rest, but I was taught that what I accomplish is a reflection of my worth, so illness feels like failure. Our culture has also monetized wellness, and with it, a false narrative that we can avoid sickness (and by extension, death) with the right rituals and purchases. In reality, illness is simply a part of living in a human body, and of aging, assuming we are lucky enough to age. The idea that good citizens produce while bad ones donā€™t is not only untrue, itā€™s wildly ableist. People who ā€œnever get sickā€ are not morally superior to the chronically ill. Community members are allowed to require varying levels of support. One of the core tenets of community, in fact, is that *everyone* needs help.Ā  Illness gives us the chance to practice hearing what our bodies need. To take support from the friends. To slow down.Ā  But slowing down is hard. Iā€™ve been guilted by the bosses who insisted I stay home AND the ones who insisted I come in. Weā€™re told to ā€œget well soonā€, but rarely to take out time to heal. Itā€™s no wonder it feels fraught!Ā  Still: we donā€™t need to view our own illness as an error that other people now have to pay for. Illness is not a personal failing. Itā€™s simply part of being human. Remembering this can help us treat ourselves and others with the respect and care we deserve. ā¤ļø

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Caption : Today I came across a photo I took this summer. I wasĀ really sick but trying to make it work, and I remember feeling like my body had betrayed me: all I wanted was ONE good shot, but I looked exhausted in every image. I WAS exhausted, and I resented it. I kept getting better, then worse. I eventually found out I had pneumonia, and it did not go quietly. (Months later, I still have a horrible cough!) Through my illness, I kept asking myself: Why am I so embarrassed that Iā€™m ill? And why do I feel like Iā€™ve done something wrong? Itā€™s easy for me to understand that we canā€™t completely control our bodies. Body diversity is normal, and so is body change. But illness feels different. Harder. Of course, I was raised to view illness through the lens of late capitalism. Illness nukes productivity and prevents us from fulfilling our usual obligations. I wasnā€™t raised to value rest, but I was taught that what I accomplish is a reflection of my worth, so illness feels like failure. Our culture has also monetized wellness, and with it, a false narrative that we can avoid sickness (and by extension, death) with the right rituals and purchases. In reality, illness is simply a part of living in a human body, and of aging, assuming we are lucky enough to age. The idea that good citizens produce while bad ones donā€™t is not only untrue, itā€™s wildly ableist. People who ā€œnever get sickā€ are not morally superior to the chronically ill. Community members are allowed to require varying levels of support. One of the core tenets of community, in fact, is that *everyone* needs help.Ā  Illness gives us the chance to practice hearing what our bodies need. To take support from the friends. To slow down.Ā  But slowing down is hard. Iā€™ve been guilted by the bosses who insisted I stay home AND the ones who insisted I come in. Weā€™re told to ā€œget well soonā€, but rarely to take out time to heal. Itā€™s no wonder it feels fraught!Ā  Still: we donā€™t need to view our own illness as an error that other people now have to pay for. Illness is not a personal failing. Itā€™s simply part of being human. Remembering this can help us treat ourselves and others with the respect and care we deserve. ā¤ļø
Likes : 1557Jezebel Express - 1.5K Likes - This includes yours. ā¤ļø This reminder feels extra important during the holidays, when many of us visit family who can be quick with criticisms or advice. I know negative messaging runs rampant this time of year, so let me share some beliefs of mine that might be helpful to hear: āœØ All bodies deserve respect, because human beings live in them. āœØ No one deserves to be ridiculed for their size, proportions, ability or any bodily feature.Ā  āœØAll bodies are equally valuable. Aging bodies are not worth less than young ones, thin bodies are not worth more than fat ones. āœØIf you donā€™t have access to someoneā€™s medical records, you canā€™t draw conclusions about their health from their appearance. āœØ No one owes you health. No one owes you an attractive physical appearance that matches your preferences. āœØNo one is obligated to change their body, even if that body is imperfect, even if their feelings about that body are complicated. āœØPeople are allowed to change their bodies if thatā€™s what right for them. What they do with their body is unrelated to your body unless they push you to change, too. āœØCommenting on other peopleā€™s bodies in social situations is inappropriate. People know what they look like, and if they want your input, they will ask. ā€œConcernā€ does not give you a hall pass to comment on other peopleā€™s bodies. āœØShaming, body policing and joking/cruelty about bodies are not respectful. It is sane and reasonable to dislike being subject to this. āœØIt is normal and healthy to set boundaries around body talk. People who resist these boundaries are often defending their ā€œrightā€ to treat you however they want. This is a sh*t dynamic. Itā€™s okay to reject it. āœØ Itā€™s fine to make it weird when people are inappropriate about your body (they have already made it weird for you, right?) āœØItā€™s okay to leave situations where you are not respected. You also have the power to tolerate non-ideal situations & avoid internalizing negative messages. You know what you need and you can find a way to handle your own family dynamics.Ā  āœØYou deserve love and respect this holiday season. I hope it finds you, but even if it doesnā€™tā€” you still deserve it, and Iā€™m holding out for next year. šŸ’•

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Caption : This includes yours. ā¤ļø This reminder feels extra important during the holidays, when many of us visit family who can be quick with criticisms or advice. I know negative messaging runs rampant this time of year, so let me share some beliefs of mine that might be helpful to hear: āœØ All bodies deserve respect, because human beings live in them. āœØ No one deserves to be ridiculed for their size, proportions, ability or any bodily feature.Ā  āœØAll bodies are equally valuable. Aging bodies are not worth less than young ones, thin bodies are not worth more than fat ones. āœØIf you donā€™t have access to someoneā€™s medical records, you canā€™t draw conclusions about their health from their appearance. āœØ No one owes you health. No one owes you an attractive physical appearance that matches your preferences. āœØNo one is obligated to change their body, even if that body is imperfect, even if their feelings about that body are complicated. āœØPeople are allowed to change their bodies if thatā€™s what right for them. What they do with their body is unrelated to your body unless they push you to change, too. āœØCommenting on other peopleā€™s bodies in social situations is inappropriate. People know what they look like, and if they want your input, they will ask. ā€œConcernā€ does not give you a hall pass to comment on other peopleā€™s bodies. āœØShaming, body policing and joking/cruelty about bodies are not respectful. It is sane and reasonable to dislike being subject to this. āœØIt is normal and healthy to set boundaries around body talk. People who resist these boundaries are often defending their ā€œrightā€ to treat you however they want. This is a sh*t dynamic. Itā€™s okay to reject it. āœØ Itā€™s fine to make it weird when people are inappropriate about your body (they have already made it weird for you, right?) āœØItā€™s okay to leave situations where you are not respected. You also have the power to tolerate non-ideal situations & avoid internalizing negative messages. You know what you need and you can find a way to handle your own family dynamics.Ā  āœØYou deserve love and respect this holiday season. I hope it finds you, but even if it doesnā€™tā€” you still deserve it, and Iā€™m holding out for next year. šŸ’•
Likes : 1457Jezebel Express - 1.4K Likes - āœØLet the sun shineā€¦āœØJust finished a glorious extended winter holiday in the desert, and now Iā€™m booking spring dates in the Southwest and up the West coast. Holler if you want me in your cityā€¦ Iā€™d just love to dance for you. šŸ’• Photo by the talented @boudoirbynomi.

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Caption : āœØLet the sun shineā€¦āœØJust finished a glorious extended winter holiday in the desert, and now Iā€™m booking spring dates in the Southwest and up the West coast. Holler if you want me in your cityā€¦ Iā€™d just love to dance for you. šŸ’• Photo by the talented @boudoirbynomi.
Likes : 1444Jezebel Express - 1.4K Likes - A little mountaintop PSA for yā€™all, sent with love. šŸ—£ļøšŸ”ļøšŸ’•

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Caption : A little mountaintop PSA for yā€™all, sent with love. šŸ—£ļøšŸ”ļøšŸ’•
Likes : 1426Jezebel Express - 1.4K Likes - In this age of data obsession, itā€™s understandable that weā€™ve come to view our bodies analytically & critically. In our lives, constant updates are a matter of course. Download the update. Get toned, beat wrinkles. Upgrade your phone. Crush your personal best. We have been encouraged to believe our bodies can be optimized & improved the way we update modern technology: filter, photoshop, control alt delete. We reboot our diets the way weā€™d reboot a hung program. And what is plastic (or bariatric) surgery if not the literal bodily equivalent of ā€œcut and paste?ā€ But our bodiesā€” they are not modern technical wonders. They are not new & improved. They are, in fact, ancient, made of repurposed stardust & water (which we can never drink enough of, no matter how we optimize.) I actually donā€™t even think the optimizing itself is an issue. Wanting improvement is normal. The problem is that ā€œfixingā€ our bodies has become obligatory, and judging bodies based on how successfully they match the cultural standard du jour is the norm. (TW: ED, self-harm, next paragraph only) People talk to me about their bodies a lot, & one confession comes up constantly: they tell me how they have often fantasized about snipping fat or other ā€˜problemā€™ parts away with scissors to perfect their bodies. The fantasy of the optimized body is so powerful they canā€™t even register the horror of scissors slicing into skin. But as we talk, it becomes apparent that what most of these people desire is simply to be treated better: to be loved more easily, to avoid cruelty. The problem is not with the bodies we fantasize about harming, but with a culture that refuses to value them. A culture that invites us to harm them. Our human bodies do not exist to be optimized. Our bodies exist for love & joy & long naps & sunrises & swingsets, & holding toddlers on the perfect curve of our hip. Our bodies are not made to be analyzed, improved, streamlined. Our bodies do what they need to do to keep us alive. Your body is doing exactly what it is supposed to do: itā€™s letting you exist, imperfectly & beautifully. If you want, you can let your body exist imperfectly & beautifully, too. ā¤ļø

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Caption : In this age of data obsession, itā€™s understandable that weā€™ve come to view our bodies analytically & critically. In our lives, constant updates are a matter of course. Download the update. Get toned, beat wrinkles. Upgrade your phone. Crush your personal best. We have been encouraged to believe our bodies can be optimized & improved the way we update modern technology: filter, photoshop, control alt delete. We reboot our diets the way weā€™d reboot a hung program. And what is plastic (or bariatric) surgery if not the literal bodily equivalent of ā€œcut and paste?ā€ But our bodiesā€” they are not modern technical wonders. They are not new & improved. They are, in fact, ancient, made of repurposed stardust & water (which we can never drink enough of, no matter how we optimize.) I actually donā€™t even think the optimizing itself is an issue. Wanting improvement is normal. The problem is that ā€œfixingā€ our bodies has become obligatory, and judging bodies based on how successfully they match the cultural standard du jour is the norm. (TW: ED, self-harm, next paragraph only) People talk to me about their bodies a lot, & one confession comes up constantly: they tell me how they have often fantasized about snipping fat or other ā€˜problemā€™ parts away with scissors to perfect their bodies. The fantasy of the optimized body is so powerful they canā€™t even register the horror of scissors slicing into skin. But as we talk, it becomes apparent that what most of these people desire is simply to be treated better: to be loved more easily, to avoid cruelty. The problem is not with the bodies we fantasize about harming, but with a culture that refuses to value them. A culture that invites us to harm them. Our human bodies do not exist to be optimized. Our bodies exist for love & joy & long naps & sunrises & swingsets, & holding toddlers on the perfect curve of our hip. Our bodies are not made to be analyzed, improved, streamlined. Our bodies do what they need to do to keep us alive. Your body is doing exactly what it is supposed to do: itā€™s letting you exist, imperfectly & beautifully. If you want, you can let your body exist imperfectly & beautifully, too. ā¤ļø
Likes : 1357Jezebel Express - 1.3K Likes - Todayā€™s reminder, for anyone who needs it. ā¤ļø Itā€™s okay to have good days and bad days and weird days in your human body. All relationships have peaks and valleys, and your relationship with your body is no exception. Try to be kind to yourself (and your body) on rough days, and remember to celebrate the sparkly ones! āœØ

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Caption : Todayā€™s reminder, for anyone who needs it. ā¤ļø Itā€™s okay to have good days and bad days and weird days in your human body. All relationships have peaks and valleys, and your relationship with your body is no exception. Try to be kind to yourself (and your body) on rough days, and remember to celebrate the sparkly ones! āœØ
Likes : 1342Jezebel Express - 1.3K Likes - Oregon āœ… Also donā€™t forget my next Zoom class series starts THIS Thursday! āœØšŸ’ƒā¤ļø

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Caption : Oregon āœ… Also donā€™t forget my next Zoom class series starts THIS Thursday! āœØšŸ’ƒā¤ļø
Likes : 1270Jezebel Express - 1.3K Likes - Dreams do come true! Today I performed in New York Fashion Week in @selkieā€™s unbelievably gorgeous runway show at the St. Regis Hotelā€™s rooftop ballroom! šŸ’— I have such appreciation for @selkie on so many levelsā€” from the unapologetic whimsy and magic of their aesthetic to their intentional, consistent inclusivity and commitment to creating fashion for all bodies. Iā€™ll be posting more about the show this week, but for now, let me just say: WOW. The looks were incredible, the models and teams were so kind, my performance was an absolute blast, and the entire audience looked so great they couldā€™ve stood on their own in the spotlight! But I think the absolute best part of today was realizing that this entire collection would have been brain-breaking to me when a teenager, but it would also have changed my life. Back then, my only option for clothing was whatever the one fat lady store at the mall had on sale. Young people werenā€™t supposed to be fat, so the clothes were targeted exclusively to office workers. I was rocking business casual looks at da club yā€™all! I was out there in chinos! It was not great. Even worse, it got the message knocking around in my impressionable brain that larger bodied people donā€™t deserve beautiful clothing, or to participate in girly or romantic behavior, or to draw attention to themselves at all, unless theyā€™re performing weight loss penitence. I had to do a lot of hard work as an adult to unlearn those lessons, and one of the reasons I began performing burlesque was because I wanted to help adult women rethink their relationships to their bodies and their sexuality. But today, as I was laced into a corset covered in butterflies and swathed in soft sexy pink, I realized that when I most needed to see fashion like this was was a teen flipping through fashion magazines, trying to learn how style worked and seeing no one who looked like me, and nothing that spoke to me. Today I got to be the person teenage me really needed to see in fashion. I canā€™t imagine anything feeling better. @selkie, Iā€™m so glad youā€™re here. You are everything I want fashion to be. Thank you so much for letting me be part of the magic. āœØšŸŒ™šŸ”®

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Caption : Dreams do come true! Today I performed in New York Fashion Week in @selkieā€™s unbelievably gorgeous runway show at the St. Regis Hotelā€™s rooftop ballroom! šŸ’— I have such appreciation for @selkie on so many levelsā€” from the unapologetic whimsy and magic of their aesthetic to their intentional, consistent inclusivity and commitment to creating fashion for all bodies. Iā€™ll be posting more about the show this week, but for now, let me just say: WOW. The looks were incredible, the models and teams were so kind, my performance was an absolute blast, and the entire audience looked so great they couldā€™ve stood on their own in the spotlight! But I think the absolute best part of today was realizing that this entire collection would have been brain-breaking to me when a teenager, but it would also have changed my life. Back then, my only option for clothing was whatever the one fat lady store at the mall had on sale. Young people werenā€™t supposed to be fat, so the clothes were targeted exclusively to office workers. I was rocking business casual looks at da club yā€™all! I was out there in chinos! It was not great. Even worse, it got the message knocking around in my impressionable brain that larger bodied people donā€™t deserve beautiful clothing, or to participate in girly or romantic behavior, or to draw attention to themselves at all, unless theyā€™re performing weight loss penitence. I had to do a lot of hard work as an adult to unlearn those lessons, and one of the reasons I began performing burlesque was because I wanted to help adult women rethink their relationships to their bodies and their sexuality. But today, as I was laced into a corset covered in butterflies and swathed in soft sexy pink, I realized that when I most needed to see fashion like this was was a teen flipping through fashion magazines, trying to learn how style worked and seeing no one who looked like me, and nothing that spoke to me. Today I got to be the person teenage me really needed to see in fashion. I canā€™t imagine anything feeling better. @selkie, Iā€™m so glad youā€™re here. You are everything I want fashion to be. Thank you so much for letting me be part of the magic. āœØšŸŒ™šŸ”®
Likes : 1260Jezebel Express - 1.3K Likes - Home away from home šŸ”® I always get a lot of writing done here and I invariably sleep like a rock.

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Caption : Home away from home šŸ”® I always get a lot of writing done here and I invariably sleep like a rock.
Likes : 1257Jezebel Express - 1.3K Likes - This photo!!! I love how I look shocked *and* concerned, like ā€œWhat AM I going to do with all this ass, all this ass outside my jeans?!ā€ If you are unable to refrain from sharing in the comments what you personally would like to do with all this ass, please tip me $50 at any of the links in my bio, as I am not here on the internet to get you off for free. Bisoux. šŸ’‹ Photo by @brokenglassfoto for @strippedavaldezproduction āœØ

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Caption : This photo!!! I love how I look shocked *and* concerned, like ā€œWhat AM I going to do with all this ass, all this ass outside my jeans?!ā€ If you are unable to refrain from sharing in the comments what you personally would like to do with all this ass, please tip me $50 at any of the links in my bio, as I am not here on the internet to get you off for free. Bisoux. šŸ’‹ Photo by @brokenglassfoto for @strippedavaldezproduction āœØ
Likes : 1257Jezebel Express - 1.3K Likes - I love being on the road, and I am doing some necessary thinking and growth, but god damnā€¦ I miss my city so much. I took this a few weeks ago when I was home for a wedding. (I called no one, because I did not have one spare minute free, so rest assured that it was me, not you. I am coming back for some of that NYC fall magic the minute the weather turns! šŸ)

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Caption : I love being on the road, and I am doing some necessary thinking and growth, but god damnā€¦ I miss my city so much. I took this a few weeks ago when I was home for a wedding. (I called no one, because I did not have one spare minute free, so rest assured that it was me, not you. I am coming back for some of that NYC fall magic the minute the weather turns! šŸ)
Likes : 1252Jezebel Express - 1.2K Likes - āœØsoftāœØ Lately Iā€™m thinking a lot about what it means to be soft but strong, resolute but resilient, to trust and love and also honor yourself and your instincts. We have to walk a fine balance and know what requires standing our ground. and where we must go with the flow. Sometimes Iā€™m resistant to change, but lately Iā€™m trying to be softer. A work in progress, always. šŸ“ø: @boudoirbynomi

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Caption : āœØsoftāœØ Lately Iā€™m thinking a lot about what it means to be soft but strong, resolute but resilient, to trust and love and also honor yourself and your instincts. We have to walk a fine balance and know what requires standing our ground. and where we must go with the flow. Sometimes Iā€™m resistant to change, but lately Iā€™m trying to be softer. A work in progress, always. šŸ“ø: @boudoirbynomi
Likes : 1227Jezebel Express - 1.2K Likes - Iā€™ve been told to hide my entire lifeā€” to wear dark colors, cover my arms, pick ā€œflatteringā€ outfits and wait until Iā€™d lost ten (or twenty or fifty) pounds to doā€¦ well, anything. The beach was for later, when my body was acceptable. Dating could wait until I had a better body to offer my partner. Wearing fun clothes, being loved exactly as I was, being the star of the showā€” I was told I could do those things when I was thin. I would ā€œdeserveā€ them when I was thin. I chose to live my life with joy and exuberance in response to that messaging. Iā€™ve walked in New York Fashion Week, I toured Iceland dancing, and every once in a while, a woman tells me I changed her life. None of that would have happened if Iā€™d been preoccupied with hiding the hideousness of my arm flab from the universe. I was told I had to wait until later to do the daring things, that I needed to be acceptable first. But the requirements for being acceptable kept changing. If Iā€™m honest, it started to feel like a scam, and the ā€œtomorrowā€ that was supposed to be better just never showed up. I started asking what was possible today, in my current circumstances, instead of feeling miserable and ashamed of them. And the day I said ā€œIā€™m tired of waiting, Iā€™m just gonna do it anywayā€ was honestly the best day of my life. You have this option too: to simply exist as you are. To live today. And I do wanna say that deciding to enjoy today doesnā€™t mean that your complex feelings about your body will just poof into thin air. The expectation that we all achieve perfect, unwavering self love is unfairā€” you donā€™t get from hating your body to loving it overnight. Most of us spend most of our lives in the middle. We are allowed to live our best lives while we are figuring it out. We are allowed to live our best lives in bodies we might find imperfect, and bodies we wish we could change, and bodies that are in the process of changing, and bodies that are probably gonna stay the same. I will tell you what I learned the hard way: You are permitted joy. It is your birthright. And you can claim it today. ā¤ļø

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Caption : Iā€™ve been told to hide my entire lifeā€” to wear dark colors, cover my arms, pick ā€œflatteringā€ outfits and wait until Iā€™d lost ten (or twenty or fifty) pounds to doā€¦ well, anything. The beach was for later, when my body was acceptable. Dating could wait until I had a better body to offer my partner. Wearing fun clothes, being loved exactly as I was, being the star of the showā€” I was told I could do those things when I was thin. I would ā€œdeserveā€ them when I was thin. I chose to live my life with joy and exuberance in response to that messaging. Iā€™ve walked in New York Fashion Week, I toured Iceland dancing, and every once in a while, a woman tells me I changed her life. None of that would have happened if Iā€™d been preoccupied with hiding the hideousness of my arm flab from the universe. I was told I had to wait until later to do the daring things, that I needed to be acceptable first. But the requirements for being acceptable kept changing. If Iā€™m honest, it started to feel like a scam, and the ā€œtomorrowā€ that was supposed to be better just never showed up. I started asking what was possible today, in my current circumstances, instead of feeling miserable and ashamed of them. And the day I said ā€œIā€™m tired of waiting, Iā€™m just gonna do it anywayā€ was honestly the best day of my life. You have this option too: to simply exist as you are. To live today. And I do wanna say that deciding to enjoy today doesnā€™t mean that your complex feelings about your body will just poof into thin air. The expectation that we all achieve perfect, unwavering self love is unfairā€” you donā€™t get from hating your body to loving it overnight. Most of us spend most of our lives in the middle. We are allowed to live our best lives while we are figuring it out. We are allowed to live our best lives in bodies we might find imperfect, and bodies we wish we could change, and bodies that are in the process of changing, and bodies that are probably gonna stay the same. I will tell you what I learned the hard way: You are permitted joy. It is your birthright. And you can claim it today. ā¤ļø
Likes : 1182Jezebel Express - 1.1K Likes - I hope everyone gets to enjoy a restful long weekend with loved ones! Today Iā€™m on a farm near Yosemite having a feast with friends and a photo shoot is not in todayā€™s plans, so please accept the most Fall Yā€™all photo I could find along with my best wishes for a life spent near people who love you the way you need to be loved. šŸ‚šŸā¤ļø

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Caption : I hope everyone gets to enjoy a restful long weekend with loved ones! Today Iā€™m on a farm near Yosemite having a feast with friends and a photo shoot is not in todayā€™s plans, so please accept the most Fall Yā€™all photo I could find along with my best wishes for a life spent near people who love you the way you need to be loved. šŸ‚šŸā¤ļø
Likes : 1139Jezebel Express - 1.1K Likes - Really enjoyed this costume in this lighting. Not sure what I was doing with my hair. āœØšŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

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Caption : Really enjoyed this costume in this lighting. Not sure what I was doing with my hair. āœØšŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø
Likes : 1071Jezebel Express - 1.1K Likes - Whoops i did it again

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Caption : Whoops i did it again
Likes : 1062Jezebel Express - 1K Likes - Loving this new duster- you can never have too much drama onstage! šŸŠ

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Caption : Loving this new duster- you can never have too much drama onstage! šŸŠ
Likes : 1000Jezebel Express - 1K Likes - Sometimes you change your outfit, sometimes you change your oil. šŸ”§ Working on lots of bus projects at VanAid (follow @lovejez for bus stuff) and getting the bus all tuned up for some Arizona shows in early Marchā€¦ Iā€™ll be announcing them very soon!

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Caption : Sometimes you change your outfit, sometimes you change your oil. šŸ”§ Working on lots of bus projects at VanAid (follow @lovejez for bus stuff) and getting the bus all tuned up for some Arizona shows in early Marchā€¦ Iā€™ll be announcing them very soon!
Likes : 965Jezebel Express - 1K Likes - Quick backstage selfie, and a question for yā€™all! Iā€™ll be announcing some new Spring burlesque classes this week. šŸŽ‰ Is there anything in particular youā€™d like me to teach? Iā€™m taking notes! šŸ’‹ āœļø PS for anyone new: All my burly-w & confidence classes are taught on Zoom, and theyā€™re recorded so you can take them at home, on your own schedule. Letā€™s dance! šŸ’ƒ

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Caption : Quick backstage selfie, and a question for yā€™all! Iā€™ll be announcing some new Spring burlesque classes this week. šŸŽ‰ Is there anything in particular youā€™d like me to teach? Iā€™m taking notes! šŸ’‹ āœļø PS for anyone new: All my burly-w & confidence classes are taught on Zoom, and theyā€™re recorded so you can take them at home, on your own schedule. Letā€™s dance! šŸ’ƒ
Likes : 963Jezebel Express - 1K Likes - Showgirl fit check! (We spend more time in random basements than youā€™d expect.)

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Caption : Showgirl fit check! (We spend more time in random basements than youā€™d expect.)
Likes : 960Jezebel Express - 0.9K Likes - Just saw an image of a crowded vintage beach scene w/ the caption "A Beach in the 70s. Not one fat body. My, how the food industry has destroyed us." Fat people have always existed. It's not shocking that theyā€™re not in old beach photosā€” they were taught to hide. When y'all act like fat people are a brand new problem, you help prejudiced people feel justified in othering us & painting us as abnormal. We are not. Fat people have been around. Body diversity is normal. Every mammalian species exhibits it & we think nothing of a bigger gopher w/a smaller sister. There's no need to rank gophers (or people) according to size. Capitalism HAS affected our populationā€™s health in a bunch of ways, including what foods are available/ how theyā€™re grown, but posts like this make it hard to talk about, because their framing is so reductive & misguided. Let's talk about food deserts, or Monsanto, or the racist roots of fatphobic thinking, or how "obesity" is a made-up disease that prevents people from getting adequate healthcare. Or the ways an ever-increasing work week has changed our exercise habits. Or when diet drug Phen-Fen was taken off the market because it was killing people. Letā€™s talk about practical reasons for our fatter population, like folks living longer & having access to medical intervention. We could discuss the ways eating disorder treatment fails so many people who are suffering & then have the exact same conversation about bariatric surgery. We could talk about factory farming, or food choices being ascribed moral virtue, or Americaā€™s prejudice against disability being reflected in anti-fatness. We could discuss the "war on obesity" harming to people of all sizes, or food consumption as stress response, or the myriad ways people are denied access to psychiatric & medical care in America if it doesn't line exactly the right pockets. Does that sounds like too much work? Is it too complicated to talk about fat in a way that encompasses data other than ā€œcalories in, calories outā€'? You're right. Let's just say the problem is ā€œthe food industryā€ making people ā€œfatā€. That way, the solution is simple: just donā€™t be fat. Thatā€™s how this works, right?

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Caption : Just saw an image of a crowded vintage beach scene w/ the caption “A Beach in the 70s. Not one fat body. My, how the food industry has destroyed us.” Fat people have always existed. It’s not shocking that theyā€™re not in old beach photosā€” they were taught to hide. When y’all act like fat people are a brand new problem, you help prejudiced people feel justified in othering us & painting us as abnormal. We are not. Fat people have been around. Body diversity is normal. Every mammalian species exhibits it & we think nothing of a bigger gopher w/a smaller sister. There’s no need to rank gophers (or people) according to size. Capitalism HAS affected our populationā€™s health in a bunch of ways, including what foods are available/ how theyā€™re grown, but posts like this make it hard to talk about, because their framing is so reductive & misguided. Let’s talk about food deserts, or Monsanto, or the racist roots of fatphobic thinking, or how “obesity” is a made-up disease that prevents people from getting adequate healthcare. Or the ways an ever-increasing work week has changed our exercise habits. Or when diet drug Phen-Fen was taken off the market because it was killing people. Letā€™s talk about practical reasons for our fatter population, like folks living longer & having access to medical intervention. We could discuss the ways eating disorder treatment fails so many people who are suffering & then have the exact same conversation about bariatric surgery. We could talk about factory farming, or food choices being ascribed moral virtue, or Americaā€™s prejudice against disability being reflected in anti-fatness. We could discuss the “war on obesity” harming to people of all sizes, or food consumption as stress response, or the myriad ways people are denied access to psychiatric & medical care in America if it doesn’t line exactly the right pockets. Does that sounds like too much work? Is it too complicated to talk about fat in a way that encompasses data other than ā€œcalories in, calories outā€’? You’re right. Let’s just say the problem is ā€œthe food industryā€ making people ā€œfatā€. That way, the solution is simple: just donā€™t be fat. Thatā€™s how this works, right?
Likes : 934Jezebel Express - 0.9K Likes - When youā€™re fully dressed and ready to go on, but also vibing to the bass coming through the rafters from the stage. šŸ’ƒāœØšŸŽµ

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Caption : When youā€™re fully dressed and ready to go on, but also vibing to the bass coming through the rafters from the stage. šŸ’ƒāœØšŸŽµ
Likes : 933Jezebel Express - 888 Likes - When youā€™re teaching panel skirts, but also not trying to spend an hour hanging out in a g-string on Zoom. This costume made by rita.n.wink ages ago! ā¤ļø

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Caption : When youā€™re teaching panel skirts, but also not trying to spend an hour hanging out in a g-string on Zoom. This costume made by rita.n.wink ages ago! ā¤ļø
Likes : 888Jezebel Express - 855 Likes - Indulge me. šŸ’‹ (I wish the lighting was better but this was backstage & impromptu so itā€™s a miracle it got recorded at all.)

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Caption : Indulge me. šŸ’‹ (I wish the lighting was better but this was backstage & impromptu so itā€™s a miracle it got recorded at all.)
Likes : 855Jezebel Express - 853 Likes - Fast fans from my show in Bisbee a few weeks ago. āœØā¤ļøšŸ’ƒ I realized itā€™s been too long since I shared a video (and also too long since I taught a fans class!)

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Caption : Fast fans from my show in Bisbee a few weeks ago. āœØā¤ļøšŸ’ƒ I realized itā€™s been too long since I shared a video (and also too long since I taught a fans class!)
Likes : 853Jezebel Express - 847 Likes - Little peek at the studio. Love working with @boudoirbynomi & I think these are going to have a SUPER different feel than our last set. Maybe Iā€™ll post some of those this week to remind you! šŸ’‹

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Caption : Little peek at the studio. Love working with @boudoirbynomi & I think these are going to have a SUPER different feel than our last set. Maybe Iā€™ll post some of those this week to remind you! šŸ’‹
Likes : 847Jezebel Express - 840 Likes - You already know the answer. Before anyone writes me an essay on why YOU, personally, need to change your body, let me just say: desiring change is normal. Humans are restlessā€” itā€™s the curse of self-awareness. We want new jobs, different bodies, to swap out the chairs in our living rooms. We are eager to imagine whatā€™s possible in the future and resistant to tolerating what is right now. Iā€™ve said here that you owe no one the body you had in the past, and that extends to changes you want to make now. If you decide you want to have big muscles, I will cheer you on. If you decide you are done with restricting your food intake, I have my pompons ready! But if you are a person who primarily feels pressure to modify your body from outside sources, this is important information. Do you want muscles because your partner thinks superfit bodies are hot? Do you wear shorts at the beach because of how people look at your body? Are you in conversation with your body about what it needs and wants, or are you changing your body to answer other people? It isnā€™t wrong to make decisions that include insights from others, or to make decisions that keep you safe and comfy. But itā€™s helpful to think about how many of our decisions are influenced by the cultural consensus that there is a ā€œrightā€ way to look. Our responses to this pressure vary. Some prioritize looking whatever way will benefit them socially, while others simply try to fit in and avoid social penalty. Others resist the pressure or flout convention. Because power dynamics amongst humans are incredibly fraught, I donā€™t think any of these strategies are wrongā€” but I do think itā€™s important to understand that all of us choose strategies to avoid conflict or oppression in a culture that prizes certain bodies, objectifies or desexualizes others, and ranks all bodies according to an entirely arbitrary hierarchy. To that end, itā€™s worth asking what our fantasies about changing our bodies mean. Do you actually want to modify your physical formā€¦ or do you just wish you could exist peacefully in the body you already have? ā¤ļø āœØI want to affirm that you are worthy of love and respect, as you exist in this moment.āœØ

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Caption : You already know the answer. Before anyone writes me an essay on why YOU, personally, need to change your body, let me just say: desiring change is normal. Humans are restlessā€” itā€™s the curse of self-awareness. We want new jobs, different bodies, to swap out the chairs in our living rooms. We are eager to imagine whatā€™s possible in the future and resistant to tolerating what is right now. Iā€™ve said here that you owe no one the body you had in the past, and that extends to changes you want to make now. If you decide you want to have big muscles, I will cheer you on. If you decide you are done with restricting your food intake, I have my pompons ready! But if you are a person who primarily feels pressure to modify your body from outside sources, this is important information. Do you want muscles because your partner thinks superfit bodies are hot? Do you wear shorts at the beach because of how people look at your body? Are you in conversation with your body about what it needs and wants, or are you changing your body to answer other people? It isnā€™t wrong to make decisions that include insights from others, or to make decisions that keep you safe and comfy. But itā€™s helpful to think about how many of our decisions are influenced by the cultural consensus that there is a ā€œrightā€ way to look. Our responses to this pressure vary. Some prioritize looking whatever way will benefit them socially, while others simply try to fit in and avoid social penalty. Others resist the pressure or flout convention. Because power dynamics amongst humans are incredibly fraught, I donā€™t think any of these strategies are wrongā€” but I do think itā€™s important to understand that all of us choose strategies to avoid conflict or oppression in a culture that prizes certain bodies, objectifies or desexualizes others, and ranks all bodies according to an entirely arbitrary hierarchy. To that end, itā€™s worth asking what our fantasies about changing our bodies mean. Do you actually want to modify your physical formā€¦ or do you just wish you could exist peacefully in the body you already have? ā¤ļø āœØI want to affirm that you are worthy of love and respect, as you exist in this moment.āœØ
Likes : 840Jezebel Express - 825 Likes - You should hear it hit the floor šŸ’‹ #backstage #behindthescenes #sparkles #showgirl

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Caption : You should hear it hit the floor šŸ’‹ #backstage #behindthescenes #sparkles #showgirl
Likes : 825Jezebel Express - 801 Likes - Super fun show last night in Troy, NY. Happy Birthday @boucheebardot & thank you for bringing me upstate! šŸŽ‚šŸ’•āœØ#backstage #travelingshowgirl

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Caption : Super fun show last night in Troy, NY. Happy Birthday @boucheebardot & thank you for bringing me upstate! šŸŽ‚šŸ’•āœØ#backstage #travelingshowgirl
Likes : 801Jezebel Express - 769 Likes - Now that I have your attention: the BURLESQUE TOP 50 voting closes in a few days! āœØ It has been meaningful for me to be on this list as an artist and activist in the past, because even burlesque is prone to fatphobia, and that is sometimes reflected in who is hired for high paying and high profile work. Iā€™ve had to work HARD to be visible and have a microphone for my messaging that all bodies deserve respect, Anyway, change can be hard to see because it happens so slowly, but I have taken heart in seeing people ā€œmakeā€ this list that people appreciate for making changes in their community and in the world. I want to encourage you to vote for whoever is in your sparkly little heart, and to especially pay attention to performers who be denied opportunities to rise through mainstream channels due to systemic oppression. This is OUR vote for what we want OUR community to look like. ā¤ļø I put a link in my bioā€” if you have not voted yet, donā€™t forget to do so!

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Caption : Now that I have your attention: the BURLESQUE TOP 50 voting closes in a few days! āœØ It has been meaningful for me to be on this list as an artist and activist in the past, because even burlesque is prone to fatphobia, and that is sometimes reflected in who is hired for high paying and high profile work. Iā€™ve had to work HARD to be visible and have a microphone for my messaging that all bodies deserve respect, Anyway, change can be hard to see because it happens so slowly, but I have taken heart in seeing people ā€œmakeā€ this list that people appreciate for making changes in their community and in the world. I want to encourage you to vote for whoever is in your sparkly little heart, and to especially pay attention to performers who be denied opportunities to rise through mainstream channels due to systemic oppression. This is OUR vote for what we want OUR community to look like. ā¤ļø I put a link in my bioā€” if you have not voted yet, donā€™t forget to do so!
Likes : 769Jezebel Express - 750 Likes - Tonight is the Pink Moonā€” hereā€™s a pink moon. šŸ”®šŸ˜‰ Thinking about what Iā€™d like to honor & release this full moon, I came across this photo today. I took it on my birthday in 2021, which I spent alone in a strange city. My bus (where I lived) had broken down halfway between NY & Georgia, where I was headed for winter. Iā€™d decided to make lemonade by getting a cute hotel room to do a self portrait shoot. I got a few good shots in & then the phone rang. It was the mechanic, telling me the engine wasnā€™t fixable. The bus needed a new engine. He reckoned thatā€™d run me about $14,000. This was a problem, as Iā€™d spent my last two grand buying the bus. I sat on the floor, staring at my phone, & then I burst into tears. I didnā€™t feel like shooting anymore, & my makeup was trashed anyway but I did take this one last shot. I wanted to remember how that exact moment felt. I spent an agonizing several days trying to decide what to do. I was encouraged by friends & family to give up the bus & move back to New York. I understand why: I was out of my depth, I was scared & exhausted. Still: I thought I heard a little voice inside me whispering ā€œkeep going.ā€ But what did I know? What if the voice was wrong? Looking back, I realize how far removed I was from my instincts & my own self possession. I thought everyone elseā€™s opinion was more important than mine, that they somehow had the key to knowledge I couldnā€™t unlock within myself. I did eventually decide to replace the engine (at a much lower price) but I was painfully confused and conflicted about my choice. Looking back, I realize how far Iā€™ve come. Living on the road requires you to be so close to your instincts ā€” who is trustworthy, which places are safe. I am so close to the voice that tells me what is right for me now. Iā€™m grateful that some part of me knew that this path was right for me. Iā€™m glad I could hear her whisper. Tonight, I want to honor her person I was when I took this photo. She was so willing to consider, to listen. She was exactly who I needed to be at the time. But Iā€™m ready to let her self-doubt go. These days, I can hear myself so much more clearly. I just have to remember to listen. šŸŒ™

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Caption : Tonight is the Pink Moonā€” hereā€™s a pink moon. šŸ”®šŸ˜‰ Thinking about what Iā€™d like to honor & release this full moon, I came across this photo today. I took it on my birthday in 2021, which I spent alone in a strange city. My bus (where I lived) had broken down halfway between NY & Georgia, where I was headed for winter. Iā€™d decided to make lemonade by getting a cute hotel room to do a self portrait shoot. I got a few good shots in & then the phone rang. It was the mechanic, telling me the engine wasnā€™t fixable. The bus needed a new engine. He reckoned thatā€™d run me about $14,000. This was a problem, as Iā€™d spent my last two grand buying the bus. I sat on the floor, staring at my phone, & then I burst into tears. I didnā€™t feel like shooting anymore, & my makeup was trashed anyway but I did take this one last shot. I wanted to remember how that exact moment felt. I spent an agonizing several days trying to decide what to do. I was encouraged by friends & family to give up the bus & move back to New York. I understand why: I was out of my depth, I was scared & exhausted. Still: I thought I heard a little voice inside me whispering ā€œkeep going.ā€ But what did I know? What if the voice was wrong? Looking back, I realize how far removed I was from my instincts & my own self possession. I thought everyone elseā€™s opinion was more important than mine, that they somehow had the key to knowledge I couldnā€™t unlock within myself. I did eventually decide to replace the engine (at a much lower price) but I was painfully confused and conflicted about my choice. Looking back, I realize how far Iā€™ve come. Living on the road requires you to be so close to your instincts ā€” who is trustworthy, which places are safe. I am so close to the voice that tells me what is right for me now. Iā€™m grateful that some part of me knew that this path was right for me. Iā€™m glad I could hear her whisper. Tonight, I want to honor her person I was when I took this photo. She was so willing to consider, to listen. She was exactly who I needed to be at the time. But Iā€™m ready to let her self-doubt go. These days, I can hear myself so much more clearly. I just have to remember to listen. šŸŒ™
Likes : 750Jezebel Express - 702 Likes - Totally forgot I made the angry door guy at Sony Hall take this walk-by video of us showing off our outfits after the @newyorkburlesquefestival Saturday Spectacular. Look how cute we are tho!!! šŸ„°

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Caption : Totally forgot I made the angry door guy at Sony Hall take this walk-by video of us showing off our outfits after the @newyorkburlesquefestival Saturday Spectacular. Look how cute we are tho!!! šŸ„°
Likes : 702Jezebel Express - 698 Likes - Floating through a cotton candy dream @selkie NYFW. It felt exactly like it looks. šŸ©°šŸŽ€šŸ’— šŸ“ø: @ashleehuff #nyfw #fashionweek #whatiwore #pink #plussizefashion #selkie #runway

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Caption : Floating through a cotton candy dream @selkie NYFW. It felt exactly like it looks. šŸ©°šŸŽ€šŸ’— šŸ“ø: @ashleehuff #nyfw #fashionweek #whatiwore #pink #plussizefashion #selkie #runway
Likes : 698Jezebel Express - 688 Likes - My Paint By Numbers dance, as immortalized by Luma Rouge ā¤ļø I gotta get this act out againā€¦ itā€™s so much fun (and so messy!)

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Caption : My Paint By Numbers dance, as immortalized by Luma Rouge ā¤ļø I gotta get this act out againā€¦ itā€™s so much fun (and so messy!)
Likes : 688Jezebel Express - 673 Likes - Every layer of this @selkie look was out of control but this butterfly corset/frilly panty situation was so flirty and fun! šŸ’•šŸ¦‹šŸ’…šŸ» Iā€™m going to try to find a close up photo to post next because I want to give the hair and makeup babes their flowers- they absolutely slayed everyoneā€™s looks. #nyfw #fashionweek #selkie #butterflies #cottagecore #fairycore #pink #newyork #plussizefashion #runway #fatbabe #glamour #fashion #inclusizefashion šŸ“ø: @ashleehuff

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Caption : Every layer of this @selkie look was out of control but this butterfly corset/frilly panty situation was so flirty and fun! šŸ’•šŸ¦‹šŸ’…šŸ» Iā€™m going to try to find a close up photo to post next because I want to give the hair and makeup babes their flowers- they absolutely slayed everyoneā€™s looks. #nyfw #fashionweek #selkie #butterflies #cottagecore #fairycore #pink #newyork #plussizefashion #runway #fatbabe #glamour #fashion #inclusizefashion šŸ“ø: @ashleehuff
Likes : 673Jezebel Express - 667 Likes - āœØIf you are always at war with your body, what would a truce look like?āœØ is it possible for you to relate to your body without confronting it? What would you give up if you declared a truce? What would you gain?

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Caption : āœØIf you are always at war with your body, what would a truce look like?āœØ is it possible for you to relate to your body without confronting it? What would you give up if you declared a truce? What would you gain?
Likes : 667Jezebel Express - 658 Likes - If you got it, flaunt it! Every night of BHOF has an unofficial ā€œthemeā€- the reigning royalty and legends pick colors for es v night. Last night, the theme was ā€œpinkā€- check my story for a little look at all the gorgeous colors and humans who attended the show! šŸ’–

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Caption : If you got it, flaunt it! Every night of BHOF has an unofficial ā€œthemeā€- the reigning royalty and legends pick colors for es v night. Last night, the theme was ā€œpinkā€- check my story for a little look at all the gorgeous colors and humans who attended the show! šŸ’–
Likes : 658Jezebel Express - 655 Likes - Devilā€™s in the Details. āœØšŸ˜ˆāœØ So grateful @boudoirbynomi took these beautiful close-ups! I sometimes get focused on this costumeā€™s complicated aspects (chain mail bra needs fixed constantly, etc) that I forget to step back and enjoy how beautiful it is! A good reminder for me which Iā€™m sure I can apply to other parts of my life. (Maybe you too?)

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Caption : Devilā€™s in the Details. āœØšŸ˜ˆāœØ So grateful @boudoirbynomi took these beautiful close-ups! I sometimes get focused on this costumeā€™s complicated aspects (chain mail bra needs fixed constantly, etc) that I forget to step back and enjoy how beautiful it is! A good reminder for me which Iā€™m sure I can apply to other parts of my life. (Maybe you too?)
Likes : 655Jezebel Express - 649 Likes - The light in this photo was bad, so I started throwing filters on it, and I discovered this one makes me look like a cake topper. šŸŽ‚ BUT WHAT IS THE EVENT that requires this cake topper? Burly-q birthday? Successful application of cat eye liner? I need to know!

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Caption : The light in this photo was bad, so I started throwing filters on it, and I discovered this one makes me look like a cake topper. šŸŽ‚ BUT WHAT IS THE EVENT that requires this cake topper? Burly-q birthday? Successful application of cat eye liner? I need to know!
Likes : 649Jezebel Express - 647 Likes - Yā€™all I cannot āœØWAITāœØ for you to see the photos @boudoirbynomi took of me yesterday! We had so much fun shooting & playing with her new lights. šŸ„°

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Caption : Yā€™all I cannot āœØWAITāœØ for you to see the photos @boudoirbynomi took of me yesterday! We had so much fun shooting & playing with her new lights. šŸ„°
Likes : 647Jezebel Express - 611 Likes - āš”ļøELECTRIC LOVE āš”ļøFirst glimpse at my recent shoot with @boudoirbynomi. Feeling this picture of me feeling myself! šŸ‘©šŸ»ā€šŸŽ¤šŸ’…šŸ»šŸ”®

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Caption : āš”ļøELECTRIC LOVE āš”ļøFirst glimpse at my recent shoot with @boudoirbynomi. Feeling this picture of me feeling myself! šŸ‘©šŸ»ā€šŸŽ¤šŸ’…šŸ»šŸ”®
Likes : 611Jezebel Express - 607 Likes - šŸ¦‡ Happy Friday the 13th šŸ¦‡ Incredible šŸ“ø by @ireallyhopeyouwin Incredible robe by @catherinedlish

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Caption : šŸ¦‡ Happy Friday the 13th šŸ¦‡ Incredible šŸ“ø by @ireallyhopeyouwin Incredible robe by @catherinedlish
Likes : 607Jezebel Express - 600 Likes - Itā€™s decorative gourd season, m*therf*ckers. šŸ Last nightā€™s @newyorkburlesquefestival show was incredible and judging by the amount of orange accents & costumes, we are READY FOR FALL! Thanks @angiepontani @jengapay for having me & curating one hell of a festival & @burlesquebishop, our lovely kittens & the whole team for keeping the wheels on the train! I know it takes a lot of people to make a festival go and I appreciate all of you ! šŸ§”

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Caption : Itā€™s decorative gourd season, m*therf*ckers. šŸ Last nightā€™s @newyorkburlesquefestival show was incredible and judging by the amount of orange accents & costumes, we are READY FOR FALL! Thanks @angiepontani @jengapay for having me & curating one hell of a festival & @burlesquebishop, our lovely kittens & the whole team for keeping the wheels on the train! I know it takes a lot of people to make a festival go and I appreciate all of you ! šŸ§”
Likes : 600Jezebel Express - 591 Likes - Fun fact: I got mistaken for @sucrealacreme SO MANY TIMES at BHOF last year! šŸ‘Æā€ā™€ļø We donā€™t look (or perform) anything alike, but we do like to joke about it now, and we had to admit that we could kindaaaa see the resemblance at our show in Albany. I look forward to submitting my saxophone-based act to BHOF this year so people can stop her in the hallways to compliment her performance! šŸ˜‰šŸŽ·āœØ

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Caption : Fun fact: I got mistaken for @sucrealacreme SO MANY TIMES at BHOF last year! šŸ‘Æā€ā™€ļø We donā€™t look (or perform) anything alike, but we do like to joke about it now, and we had to admit that we could kindaaaa see the resemblance at our show in Albany. I look forward to submitting my saxophone-based act to BHOF this year so people can stop her in the hallways to compliment her performance! šŸ˜‰šŸŽ·āœØ
Likes : 591Jezebel Express - 589 Likes - Last night at @newyorkburlesquefestival! Had so much fun. āœØ Lately Iā€™m getting some wild comments about how Iā€™m ā€œsucking inā€ or misrepresenting my body in photos (in the skin tight clothes I wear?! which I take off onstage anyway? okay šŸ‘€). I thought it was probably time to come clean and expose the ā€œreal meā€ so please enjoy. šŸ‘¹

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Caption : Last night at @newyorkburlesquefestival! Had so much fun. āœØ Lately Iā€™m getting some wild comments about how Iā€™m ā€œsucking inā€ or misrepresenting my body in photos (in the skin tight clothes I wear?! which I take off onstage anyway? okay šŸ‘€). I thought it was probably time to come clean and expose the ā€œreal meā€ so please enjoy. šŸ‘¹
Likes : 589Jezebel Express - 589 Likes - Last night at @newyorkburlesquefestival! Had so much fun. āœØ Lately Iā€™m getting some wild comments about how Iā€™m ā€œsucking inā€ or misrepresenting my body in photos (in the skin tight clothes I wear?! which I take off onstage anyway? okay šŸ‘€). I thought it was probably time to come clean and expose the ā€œreal meā€ so please enjoy. šŸ‘¹

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Caption : Last night at @newyorkburlesquefestival! Had so much fun. āœØ Lately Iā€™m getting some wild comments about how Iā€™m ā€œsucking inā€ or misrepresenting my body in photos (in the skin tight clothes I wear?! which I take off onstage anyway? okay šŸ‘€). I thought it was probably time to come clean and expose the ā€œreal meā€ so please enjoy. šŸ‘¹
Likes : 589Jezebel Express - 582 Likes - āœØClothing is meant to fit you, not the other way around.āœØ You do not need to fit into the clothing you wore five years ago. You owe no one an unchanging body. You do not ever have to wear the jeans you wore in high school again. You do not need to hang on to clothing that is unlikely to fit you again. If you own any clothing that you use as a tool of shame or punishment, please do not allow it to continue occupying space in your home. The fact that you spent money on something does not mean you need to rearrange your physical body around it, especially if doing so has mental costs. Your clothing should not pinch or hurt you (unless youā€™re into that sort of thing. šŸ˜) Your partnerā€™s fondness for an outfit is not a good reason to keep it around if it makes you feel bad about yourself. All that said, you are also under no obligation to throw away clothing that doesnā€™t fit you, so long as you are not using that clothing to harm yourself. Does it make you happy to know you have it? Does it fall within your bodyā€™s normal size fluctuations? Are you otherwise attached to it? Keep it! It sounds like it ā€œfitsā€ you and your life. Sometimes we are told that we are only allowed to own clothing that fits us, and it can feel like we are being punished for not staying the same size over time. Like food, clothing serves a variety of purposes. Some are practical, some are emotional, some are related to identity or community. And like food, our relationship with clothes can be positive, neutral, or negative. Discarding clothing that makes you feel bad about your body is a concrete step you can take towards accepting your body as it is. There are practical considerations to changing sizes, and I donā€™t mean to minimize them. Anxiety about having clothes that is real, as is actual clothing scarcity for folks with proportions that donā€™t match ā€œstandardā€ clothing shapes or sizes. You know best what is right for you and your life. But I do want to invite you to keep clothing that fits you and feels good in your wardrobe, and to opt out of letting the sizes you own dictate your opinion about what size you ā€œshouldā€ be. Instead, start to honor the size you are. ā¤ļø

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Caption : āœØClothing is meant to fit you, not the other way around.āœØ You do not need to fit into the clothing you wore five years ago. You owe no one an unchanging body. You do not ever have to wear the jeans you wore in high school again. You do not need to hang on to clothing that is unlikely to fit you again. If you own any clothing that you use as a tool of shame or punishment, please do not allow it to continue occupying space in your home. The fact that you spent money on something does not mean you need to rearrange your physical body around it, especially if doing so has mental costs. Your clothing should not pinch or hurt you (unless youā€™re into that sort of thing. šŸ˜) Your partnerā€™s fondness for an outfit is not a good reason to keep it around if it makes you feel bad about yourself. All that said, you are also under no obligation to throw away clothing that doesnā€™t fit you, so long as you are not using that clothing to harm yourself. Does it make you happy to know you have it? Does it fall within your bodyā€™s normal size fluctuations? Are you otherwise attached to it? Keep it! It sounds like it ā€œfitsā€ you and your life. Sometimes we are told that we are only allowed to own clothing that fits us, and it can feel like we are being punished for not staying the same size over time. Like food, clothing serves a variety of purposes. Some are practical, some are emotional, some are related to identity or community. And like food, our relationship with clothes can be positive, neutral, or negative. Discarding clothing that makes you feel bad about your body is a concrete step you can take towards accepting your body as it is. There are practical considerations to changing sizes, and I donā€™t mean to minimize them. Anxiety about having clothes that is real, as is actual clothing scarcity for folks with proportions that donā€™t match ā€œstandardā€ clothing shapes or sizes. You know best what is right for you and your life. But I do want to invite you to keep clothing that fits you and feels good in your wardrobe, and to opt out of letting the sizes you own dictate your opinion about what size you ā€œshouldā€ be. Instead, start to honor the size you are. ā¤ļø
Likes : 582Jezebel Express - 567 Likes - I have never worn this outfit without someone yelling ā€œTell me about it, stud!ā€ and honestly, if thatā€™s not a good reason to wear an outfit, I donā€™t know what is. New weighted veil by Dulce Dā€™Jour and Iā€™m still learning so donā€™t judge me!!

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Caption : I have never worn this outfit without someone yelling ā€œTell me about it, stud!ā€ and honestly, if thatā€™s not a good reason to wear an outfit, I donā€™t know what is. New weighted veil by Dulce Dā€™Jour and Iā€™m still learning so donā€™t judge me!!
Likes : 567Jezebel Express - 561 Likes - These creeps. ā¤ļø I could fill a book with love for these two incredible artists/humans, but for today I just wanna say: no one has ever deserved their crowns more. šŸ‘‘ CONGRATS to our 2023 Best Debut Winner @margomayhem and our 2023 Miss Exotic World @thesamsonnight! Photo by Steve Prue.

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Caption : These creeps. ā¤ļø I could fill a book with love for these two incredible artists/humans, but for today I just wanna say: no one has ever deserved their crowns more. šŸ‘‘ CONGRATS to our 2023 Best Debut Winner @margomayhem and our 2023 Miss Exotic World @thesamsonnight! Photo by Steve Prue.
Likes : 561Jezebel Express - 546 Likes - I am practicing poi on the beach today, wearing significantly less makeup than this. An all time fave photo by @absesay_photo šŸ”„

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Caption : I am practicing poi on the beach today, wearing significantly less makeup than this. An all time fave photo by @absesay_photo šŸ”„
Likes : 546Jezebel Express - 545 Likes - Loving this painting by @bronwynmcivor ā€” they used one of my recent self taken photos as a point of inspiration. I love how this is both recognizable and totally new, all at once. šŸ’“šŸŖ· #yourbodydeservesdaylight

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Caption : Loving this painting by @bronwynmcivor ā€” they used one of my recent self taken photos as a point of inspiration. I love how this is both recognizable and totally new, all at once. šŸ’“šŸŖ· #yourbodydeservesdaylight
Likes : 545Jezebel Express - 534 Likes - āœØCLASS STARTS IN AN HOUR!āœØ You can register on my website and get the link immediately! And if you see this after Thursday night, donā€™t stress, gorgeous humanā€¦ you can still hop in. All classes are recorded and uploaded, so you can always take our first class by recording and join us live next week if you want! You can also take alllll the classes recorded- I know itā€™s hard to get acheudles lined up. Anyway, this is your final warning! lincoln bio as walways šŸ’‹ Photo by @pixelvixenimaging

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Caption : āœØCLASS STARTS IN AN HOUR!āœØ You can register on my website and get the link immediately! And if you see this after Thursday night, donā€™t stress, gorgeous humanā€¦ you can still hop in. All classes are recorded and uploaded, so you can always take our first class by recording and join us live next week if you want! You can also take alllll the classes recorded- I know itā€™s hard to get acheudles lined up. Anyway, this is your final warning! lincoln bio as walways šŸ’‹ Photo by @pixelvixenimaging
Likes : 534Jezebel Express - 507 Likes - Always so thankful for the helpfulness of strangers. šŸ„°

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Caption : Always so thankful for the helpfulness of strangers. šŸ„°
Likes : 507Jezebel Express - 507 Likes - Nothing more satisfying than watching a dancer hit their beats! If this skill eludes you, can I remind you that I teach a whole class on musicality? Live class is Thursday, April 18 at 8:15pm ET, but if youā€™re seeing this after that, donā€™t sweat: weā€™re recoridnf class so you can also take it that way! This video is courtesy of @metropolitan_studios_ in Atlanta! This was āœØliterallyāœØmy first show back after the pandemic closures, and you can see how much I was living for the stage! šŸ’ƒāœØā¤ļø

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Caption : Nothing more satisfying than watching a dancer hit their beats! If this skill eludes you, can I remind you that I teach a whole class on musicality? Live class is Thursday, April 18 at 8:15pm ET, but if youā€™re seeing this after that, donā€™t sweat: weā€™re recoridnf class so you can also take it that way! This video is courtesy of @metropolitan_studios_ in Atlanta! This was āœØliterallyāœØmy first show back after the pandemic closures, and you can see how much I was living for the stage! šŸ’ƒāœØā¤ļø
Likes : 507Jezebel Express - 507 Likes - Musicality is an incredibly important dance skill! If youā€™d like to hone yours, join my workshop this Thursday! šŸ’ƒ As always, info is in my bio!

507 Likes – Jezebel Express Instagram

Caption : Musicality is an incredibly important dance skill! If youā€™d like to hone yours, join my workshop this Thursday! šŸ’ƒ As always, info is in my bio!
Likes : 507Jezebel Express - 500 Likes - Lacing in last night āœØšŸŽ€āœØ (I can go tighte,r but it was a quick changeā€¦ and frankly I prefer to leave a little wiggle room for breathing while dancing!) #corset #glamour #plussize #dancer #nightlife #sparkles #plussizefashion

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Caption : Lacing in last night āœØšŸŽ€āœØ (I can go tighte,r but it was a quick changeā€¦ and frankly I prefer to leave a little wiggle room for breathing while dancing!) #corset #glamour #plussize #dancer #nightlife #sparkles #plussizefashion
Likes : 500Jezebel Express - 499 Likes - Me enjoying my life while thousands of people on the internet argue about my body. šŸ¤Ŗ Having a post go viral is always chaotic, but I appreciate how effectively it brings the right people to me! I also know that the people who leave nasty comments are dealing with insecurities or old wounds that compel them to lash out at strangers, and I try hard to have compassion for them. For folks who followed me from my reels this week: Iā€™m so happy youā€™re here! Enjoy the glitter and the giggles! āœØ For the mean folks: I genuinely wish you all the growth and healing you need. Itā€™s possible to feel incredible about yourself without trying to diminish someone elseā€™s shine. Ask me how I know. šŸ˜‰āœØ

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Caption : Me enjoying my life while thousands of people on the internet argue about my body. šŸ¤Ŗ Having a post go viral is always chaotic, but I appreciate how effectively it brings the right people to me! I also know that the people who leave nasty comments are dealing with insecurities or old wounds that compel them to lash out at strangers, and I try hard to have compassion for them. For folks who followed me from my reels this week: Iā€™m so happy youā€™re here! Enjoy the glitter and the giggles! āœØ For the mean folks: I genuinely wish you all the growth and healing you need. Itā€™s possible to feel incredible about yourself without trying to diminish someone elseā€™s shine. Ask me how I know. šŸ˜‰āœØ
Likes : 499Jezebel Express - 495 Likes - When you live in a bus but also teach fan dancing. āœØšŸŖ­šŸšŒ I donā€™t normally teach fans IN the bus but I was workshopping an existing fan act with a student and had them out for reference! Couldnā€™t resist documenting my weirdo life. šŸ’•

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Caption : When you live in a bus but also teach fan dancing. āœØšŸŖ­šŸšŒ I donā€™t normally teach fans IN the bus but I was workshopping an existing fan act with a student and had them out for reference! Couldnā€™t resist documenting my weirdo life. šŸ’•
Likes : 495Jezebel Express - 493 Likes - Hey babe wake up new tassel twirling class just dropped šŸ„° As always comment if you have questions but full class description is below. āœØ TASSEL TWIRLING FOR TREMENDOUS TATAS MARCH 3, 1-2:30PM EASTERN TIME, $35 flex Join Jezebel Express for a tassel twirling overview designed to help you explore various twirling techniques in a supportive, encouraging environment that celebrates all bodies. Bodies and breasts/chests are all different, so finding the right technique for you and your body is our goal! In addition to trying out some twirling moves, we will also talk about choosing the best pastie size, pastie placement on the chest, different tassel attachment strategies, and making vs. buying pasties. If you are interested in twirling but do not have much (or any) breast tissue, thatā€™s great: itā€™s actually a little easier to twirl with smaller breasts or an entirely flat chest than it is when dealing with a larger cup size! That said, if you are a person with large breasts, have no fear: we will be discussing pastie placement for larger chests, sourcing larger pasties, and finding a twirling rhythm that makes sense for bodies with more breast mass! Jez will be addressing some common questions, including: ā€œWhat do I do if I have extra large or extra small areola?ā€ ā€œCan I twirl with pierced nips?ā€ ā€œWhat if my breast sizes are not the same, or I have only one breast?ā€ ā€What do I do if my nipples point down instead of out?ā€ (The answer to all of these is ā€œTwirl with what youā€™ve got, babe!ā€ but we will go into loving and respectful detail on how to handle these situations in class.) EVERYONE is welcome in class, so long as they intend to participate. No observers are permitted (ie, your partner is not welcome to watch the class unless they have bought a ticket and intend to twirl with usā€” show them your moves at a later date, please!) NOTE ABOUT RECORDED CLASS: The recorded class will contain clear and detailed instruction on all tassel techniques. we cover in the live class, but the recording will not include demonstrations of topless tassel twirling. This is to protect the privacy of the teacher and class. Thank you for understanding!

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Caption : Hey babe wake up new tassel twirling class just dropped šŸ„° As always comment if you have questions but full class description is below. āœØ TASSEL TWIRLING FOR TREMENDOUS TATAS MARCH 3, 1-2:30PM EASTERN TIME, $35 flex Join Jezebel Express for a tassel twirling overview designed to help you explore various twirling techniques in a supportive, encouraging environment that celebrates all bodies. Bodies and breasts/chests are all different, so finding the right technique for you and your body is our goal! In addition to trying out some twirling moves, we will also talk about choosing the best pastie size, pastie placement on the chest, different tassel attachment strategies, and making vs. buying pasties. If you are interested in twirling but do not have much (or any) breast tissue, thatā€™s great: itā€™s actually a little easier to twirl with smaller breasts or an entirely flat chest than it is when dealing with a larger cup size! That said, if you are a person with large breasts, have no fear: we will be discussing pastie placement for larger chests, sourcing larger pasties, and finding a twirling rhythm that makes sense for bodies with more breast mass! Jez will be addressing some common questions, including: ā€œWhat do I do if I have extra large or extra small areola?ā€ ā€œCan I twirl with pierced nips?ā€ ā€œWhat if my breast sizes are not the same, or I have only one breast?ā€ ā€What do I do if my nipples point down instead of out?ā€ (The answer to all of these is ā€œTwirl with what youā€™ve got, babe!ā€ but we will go into loving and respectful detail on how to handle these situations in class.) EVERYONE is welcome in class, so long as they intend to participate. No observers are permitted (ie, your partner is not welcome to watch the class unless they have bought a ticket and intend to twirl with usā€” show them your moves at a later date, please!) NOTE ABOUT RECORDED CLASS: The recorded class will contain clear and detailed instruction on all tassel techniques. we cover in the live class, but the recording will not include demonstrations of topless tassel twirling. This is to protect the privacy of the teacher and class. Thank you for understanding!
Likes : 493Jezebel Express - 482 Likes - I trust that none of you doubt my commitment to sparkle motion! āœØ šŸ“ø by @lynzmarie_photo at @grandburlesquepresents šŸ’•

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Caption : I trust that none of you doubt my commitment to sparkle motion! āœØ šŸ“ø by @lynzmarie_photo at @grandburlesquepresents šŸ’•
Likes : 482Jezebel Express - 472 Likes - This week, Iā€™ve been thinking about the way we view our bodies as projects. Itā€™s almost as though they are imperfect paintings that always require just one final adjustment, no matter how long weā€™ve been working on them. Our culture encourages us to eye our bodies critically: optimize, perfect, sculpt, tone. We are taught itā€™s necessary to shape our bodies into whatever form is currently perceived as ideal. Of course, ā€œidealā€ is a moving target. The minute you buy a fat ass, thin is in again. We live in a society that rewards certain bodies while penalizing others, so itā€™s normal that we daydream about how our lives would be different if our bodies were different. But we do not need to be wait to live our lives until our bodies are perfect. Maybe you are putting off a beach vacation, trying a daring style, asking for a raise, flirting with someone gorgeous. ā€œIā€™ll do it later,ā€ you whisper. ā€œWhen Iā€™m better.ā€ The thing is: you donā€™t need to be better. And youā€™re not guaranteed later. Let me be clear: All bodies have equal value. All human beings deserve respect. Your body is unrelated to your worth. You will not deserve love or happiness or respect more if you have a ā€œbetterā€ body. Anyone who tells you different is trying to sell you something. And listenā€”you are the ultimate expert on what you & your body need. I donā€™t necessarily think itā€™s wrong to change your body if thatā€™s your desire. Iā€™m just reminding you that you donā€™t have to placeholder your life until your body catches up to your goals. It is possible to live a life full of joy & love & fun in the body you have today. It is possible to find peace there. You just have to put down the paintbrush, step away from the canvas, and live. Live as though your body is already perfect, for one dinner or day. See how it feels. When you return to your canvas, look in new ways. Do you always need to scan for imperfections? What if the weird stuff is actually adding to the painting? What if the flaws make it interesting? What would happen if you hung the painting as it is? What if you never changed another thing about it? What would happen if you acknowledged that you are already a work or art?

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Caption : This week, Iā€™ve been thinking about the way we view our bodies as projects. Itā€™s almost as though they are imperfect paintings that always require just one final adjustment, no matter how long weā€™ve been working on them. Our culture encourages us to eye our bodies critically: optimize, perfect, sculpt, tone. We are taught itā€™s necessary to shape our bodies into whatever form is currently perceived as ideal. Of course, ā€œidealā€ is a moving target. The minute you buy a fat ass, thin is in again. We live in a society that rewards certain bodies while penalizing others, so itā€™s normal that we daydream about how our lives would be different if our bodies were different. But we do not need to be wait to live our lives until our bodies are perfect. Maybe you are putting off a beach vacation, trying a daring style, asking for a raise, flirting with someone gorgeous. ā€œIā€™ll do it later,ā€ you whisper. ā€œWhen Iā€™m better.ā€ The thing is: you donā€™t need to be better. And youā€™re not guaranteed later. Let me be clear: All bodies have equal value. All human beings deserve respect. Your body is unrelated to your worth. You will not deserve love or happiness or respect more if you have a ā€œbetterā€ body. Anyone who tells you different is trying to sell you something. And listenā€”you are the ultimate expert on what you & your body need. I donā€™t necessarily think itā€™s wrong to change your body if thatā€™s your desire. Iā€™m just reminding you that you donā€™t have to placeholder your life until your body catches up to your goals. It is possible to live a life full of joy & love & fun in the body you have today. It is possible to find peace there. You just have to put down the paintbrush, step away from the canvas, and live. Live as though your body is already perfect, for one dinner or day. See how it feels. When you return to your canvas, look in new ways. Do you always need to scan for imperfections? What if the weird stuff is actually adding to the painting? What if the flaws make it interesting? What would happen if you hung the painting as it is? What if you never changed another thing about it? What would happen if you acknowledged that you are already a work or art?
Likes : 472Jezebel Express - 463 Likes - Backstage at @laburlabee! I had an epic weekend in Colorado Springs- mor ephotoa forthcoming. THANK YOU EVERYONE for making me feel so gosh darn welcome, for signing up for my classes and for coming to cheer me on! Iā€™m back in Denver performing this Saturday night (announcement about where tomorrow, so stay tuned!!)

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Caption : Backstage at @laburlabee! I had an epic weekend in Colorado Springs- mor ephotoa forthcoming. THANK YOU EVERYONE for making me feel so gosh darn welcome, for signing up for my classes and for coming to cheer me on! Iā€™m back in Denver performing this Saturday night (announcement about where tomorrow, so stay tuned!!)
Likes : 463Jezebel Express - 461 Likes - I love how much texture and motion you can see here: velvet gloves, crinkled organza, fluttery feathers and tiny twinkling rhinestones. This is how I imagine I look onstage so itā€™s nice to see that itā€™s occasionally true. āœØā¤ļøšŸ’ƒ Thanks @lynzmarie_photo for capturing this!

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Caption : I love how much texture and motion you can see here: velvet gloves, crinkled organza, fluttery feathers and tiny twinkling rhinestones. This is how I imagine I look onstage so itā€™s nice to see that itā€™s occasionally true. āœØā¤ļøšŸ’ƒ Thanks @lynzmarie_photo for capturing this!
Likes : 461Jezebel Express - 454 Likes - āœØREMEMBER: CHANGE IS OPTIONALāœØ Happy New Year! I realize itā€™s January 8th, but I ignore the internet first week of the year because ā€œnew youā€ messaging is often super harmful, and I am just not interested in bringing that energy into 2024! I donā€™t do resolutions so much as offer vague advice to self, and this year I went with ā€œDo your best (and also rest!)ā€ I have trouble turning ā€œoffā€ and always feel like I could be doing more, so this framework feels both exciting to try out and like it might benefit me. Since ā€œnew year, new youā€ season is far from over, lemme just say: āœØChange is optional. You donā€™t owe anyone a ā€œbetterā€ you. You deserve love and respect exactly as you exist in this moment. āœØChange is also fine. Thereā€™s nothing wrong with choosing to make different decisions, but think twice before positioning the ā€œnewā€ you as better than the old one. Of course some habits make us happier, but the ā€œoldā€ you got you this far, and she probably had reasons for making the choices she did. There is no need to abandon or humiliate her (especially since, if your resolutions donā€™t go as planned, you might stay her!) āœØ It is okay for it not to be the right time to make big changes (yes, even in January!) Sometimes we have circumstances or constraints that make change extra hard, and sometimes our finances or our health making change extra challenging. If you realize a big change isnā€™t the right move for you right now, try to practice compassion for yourself instead of beating yourself up or wallowing in shame. You are making the decision that is best for you right now, and thatā€™s never something you have to be ashamed of. āœØ You always have the option of rejecting our cultureā€™s belief in body hierarchies (ie, that some bodies are better than others). You can start today, actually. If you need a first step, follow people who live in bodies that you consider ā€œlessā€ valuable (no commenting.) Listen to them. See if watching them be actual humans helps to level the playing field in your head. āœØif your diet is bad for your mental health, your diet is bad for you. It is unhealthy for your diet to dominate your conversations and headspace. āœØDo your bestā€¦ and also rest! ā¤ļøšŸ›ŒāœØ

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Caption : āœØREMEMBER: CHANGE IS OPTIONALāœØ Happy New Year! I realize itā€™s January 8th, but I ignore the internet first week of the year because ā€œnew youā€ messaging is often super harmful, and I am just not interested in bringing that energy into 2024! I donā€™t do resolutions so much as offer vague advice to self, and this year I went with ā€œDo your best (and also rest!)ā€ I have trouble turning ā€œoffā€ and always feel like I could be doing more, so this framework feels both exciting to try out and like it might benefit me. Since ā€œnew year, new youā€ season is far from over, lemme just say: āœØChange is optional. You donā€™t owe anyone a ā€œbetterā€ you. You deserve love and respect exactly as you exist in this moment. āœØChange is also fine. Thereā€™s nothing wrong with choosing to make different decisions, but think twice before positioning the ā€œnewā€ you as better than the old one. Of course some habits make us happier, but the ā€œoldā€ you got you this far, and she probably had reasons for making the choices she did. There is no need to abandon or humiliate her (especially since, if your resolutions donā€™t go as planned, you might stay her!) āœØ It is okay for it not to be the right time to make big changes (yes, even in January!) Sometimes we have circumstances or constraints that make change extra hard, and sometimes our finances or our health making change extra challenging. If you realize a big change isnā€™t the right move for you right now, try to practice compassion for yourself instead of beating yourself up or wallowing in shame. You are making the decision that is best for you right now, and thatā€™s never something you have to be ashamed of. āœØ You always have the option of rejecting our cultureā€™s belief in body hierarchies (ie, that some bodies are better than others). You can start today, actually. If you need a first step, follow people who live in bodies that you consider ā€œlessā€ valuable (no commenting.) Listen to them. See if watching them be actual humans helps to level the playing field in your head. āœØif your diet is bad for your mental health, your diet is bad for you. It is unhealthy for your diet to dominate your conversations and headspace. āœØDo your bestā€¦ and also rest! ā¤ļøšŸ›ŒāœØ
Likes : 454Jezebel Express - 445 Likes - Donā€™t torture yourself, Gomez. Thatā€™s my job. šŸ„€

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Caption : Donā€™t torture yourself, Gomez. Thatā€™s my job. šŸ„€
Likes : 445Jezebel Express - 440 Likes - Sometimes my lives crash together delightfully.

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Caption : Sometimes my lives crash together delightfully.
Likes : 440Jezebel Express - 430 Likes - āœØCasualāœØ. šŸ“ø: @brokenglassfoto in Colorado Springs for @strippedavaldezproduction. I had so much fun!! (PS: Iā€™m back in the Springs for a couple of days doing bus maintenance, holler at me if there are any fun shows to see! ā¤ļø)

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Caption : āœØCasualāœØ. šŸ“ø: @brokenglassfoto in Colorado Springs for @strippedavaldezproduction. I had so much fun!! (PS: Iā€™m back in the Springs for a couple of days doing bus maintenance, holler at me if there are any fun shows to see! ā¤ļø)
Likes : 430Jezebel Express - 428 Likes - Is it even BHOF if you donā€™t post a bathroom selfie in a velvet gown?

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Caption : Is it even BHOF if you donā€™t post a bathroom selfie in a velvet gown?
Likes : 428Jezebel Express - 423 Likes - šŸ’•šŸŒŗšŸ’–šŸŽŸļøšŸ©°šŸŒ·šŸ·šŸ‘› Went in for blonde balayage and suddenly needed pink hair. Who am I to question my gut? Thanks to mccasino_ for the new look! šŸ’•

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Caption : šŸ’•šŸŒŗšŸ’–šŸŽŸļøšŸ©°šŸŒ·šŸ·šŸ‘› Went in for blonde balayage and suddenly needed pink hair. Who am I to question my gut? Thanks to mccasino_ for the new look! šŸ’•
Likes : 423Jezebel Express - 413 Likes - These two brought a completely original & absolutely flawless and also *extremely effing cute* routine to #bhof! Biggest congrats Kosmic Joy (@joyridermtl & @kozmicskater) on your Best Small Group win, thank you for being such badass sparkles of love & light. āœØ

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Caption : These two brought a completely original & absolutely flawless and also *extremely effing cute* routine to #bhof! Biggest congrats Kosmic Joy (@joyridermtl & @kozmicskater) on your Best Small Group win, thank you for being such badass sparkles of love & light. āœØ
Likes : 413Jezebel Express - 412 Likes - Why does this sparkly dress sound like a rain stick tho? šŸ§šŸŒ§ļø

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Caption : Why does this sparkly dress sound like a rain stick tho? šŸ§šŸŒ§ļø
Likes : 412Jezebel Express - 409 Likes - Always happiest in a dance studio. ā¤ļø Taught six classes this weekā€¦ I am so grateful for each and every one. šŸ’ƒ thank you @soniarita.az for letting me teach at your amazing Bisbee studio and thank you @xo.mattfinish for letting me teach in YOUR amazing studio in Tucson!

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Caption : Always happiest in a dance studio. ā¤ļø Taught six classes this weekā€¦ I am so grateful for each and every one. šŸ’ƒ thank you @soniarita.az for letting me teach at your amazing Bisbee studio and thank you @xo.mattfinish for letting me teach in YOUR amazing studio in Tucson!
Likes : 409Jezebel Express - 402 Likes - Showgirl mode OFF at @descendonbend āš”ļøI spent labour day weekend with a bunch of nomads in the Oregon outback and it was such a blast. Iā€™ll be posting more about that at @lovejez if youā€™re interestedā€¦ in showpony news, Iā€™ll be in NYC twice in September for two very special shows, so stay tuned here for info on that! āœØ thanks @crizzlecalanca for the photo (and for everything.) ā¤ļø

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Caption : Showgirl mode OFF at @descendonbend āš”ļøI spent labour day weekend with a bunch of nomads in the Oregon outback and it was such a blast. Iā€™ll be posting more about that at @lovejez if youā€™re interestedā€¦ in showpony news, Iā€™ll be in NYC twice in September for two very special shows, so stay tuned here for info on that! āœØ thanks @crizzlecalanca for the photo (and for everything.) ā¤ļø
Likes : 402Jezebel Express - 400 Likes - I had such a blast at @lacyknightly123 TEASY BELLE brunch show yesterdayā€” thank you so much for having me! šŸ’ƒšŸ³ I didnā€™t take enough pictures, but Iā€™m glad I managed to snap one with babe @dahlia_kash ! šŸ’•āœØšŸ„°

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Caption : I had such a blast at @lacyknightly123 TEASY BELLE brunch show yesterdayā€” thank you so much for having me! šŸ’ƒšŸ³ I didnā€™t take enough pictures, but Iā€™m glad I managed to snap one with babe @dahlia_kash ! šŸ’•āœØšŸ„°
Likes : 400Jezebel Express - 379 Likes - šŸŠOrange crush!šŸŠ @newyorkburlesquefestival šŸ“ø: @edbarnas

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Caption : šŸŠOrange crush!šŸŠ @newyorkburlesquefestival šŸ“ø: @edbarnas
Likes : 379Jezebel Express - 366 Likes - A little costume detail from tonightā€™s show! No Iā€™m not thinnerā€¦ the backstage mirrors are just on a tilt. Never let the internet fool you babies! You're fine as you are. šŸ˜˜

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Caption : A little costume detail from tonightā€™s show! No Iā€™m not thinnerā€¦ the backstage mirrors are just on a tilt. Never let the internet fool you babies! You’re fine as you are. šŸ˜˜
Likes : 366Jezebel Express - 355 Likes - Living my best life at last Friday nightā€™s STRIPPED! show! āœØ Did you miss me? Good news: Iā€™m on tomorrow night for Carnivale de Sensualeā€™s HOTTER THAN HELL at @theorientaltheater in Denver. šŸ”„ Iā€™ll also be attending tonightā€™s Sandman inspired show (Gaiman not Metallica but good question šŸŽ) at the same theater so if you are going and you see meā€” say hi! People always tell me they saw me and šŸ”ed out on introducing themselves! Iā€™m only mean on the internet, kids, I promiseā€” Iā€™m a real cupcake in person. šŸ§ šŸ“ø by @brokenglassfoto

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Caption : Living my best life at last Friday nightā€™s STRIPPED! show! āœØ Did you miss me? Good news: Iā€™m on tomorrow night for Carnivale de Sensualeā€™s HOTTER THAN HELL at @theorientaltheater in Denver. šŸ”„ Iā€™ll also be attending tonightā€™s Sandman inspired show (Gaiman not Metallica but good question šŸŽ) at the same theater so if you are going and you see meā€” say hi! People always tell me they saw me and šŸ”ed out on introducing themselves! Iā€™m only mean on the internet, kids, I promiseā€” Iā€™m a real cupcake in person. šŸ§ šŸ“ø by @brokenglassfoto
Likes : 355Jezebel Express - 350 Likes - This photo was taken in Vegas on a disposable camera by @sassyvonstraddler just a few weeks ago, but in my mind, it was taken in the late eighties in a tony NYC bar, where the three of us have just finished relieving some finance bros of their Wall Street winnings for the week. šŸ˜‡šŸ’ø

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Caption : This photo was taken in Vegas on a disposable camera by @sassyvonstraddler just a few weeks ago, but in my mind, it was taken in the late eighties in a tony NYC bar, where the three of us have just finished relieving some finance bros of their Wall Street winnings for the week. šŸ˜‡šŸ’ø
Likes : 350Jezebel Express - 349 Likes - Backstage āœØ. Had a blast in Tucson & I will definitely be back! Headed back to NYC later this week for a private gig and a little time with friends, and then Vegas for a hot minute before I head back into the wilderness for some skoolie nature time šŸšŒšŸŒ±

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Caption : Backstage āœØ. Had a blast in Tucson & I will definitely be back! Headed back to NYC later this week for a private gig and a little time with friends, and then Vegas for a hot minute before I head back into the wilderness for some skoolie nature time šŸšŒšŸŒ±
Likes : 349Jezebel Express - 336 Likes - Song suggestions in the comments plz! šŸŽ§

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Caption : Song suggestions in the comments plz! šŸŽ§
Likes : 336Jezebel Express - 334 Likes - Sometimes fancy, sometimes under a bus swearing at an oil filter. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø Thanks for catching my best angles @mrgorgeousny! (PS: this was taken @thesamsonnight & @margomayhemā€™s wedding, peep how elegant it was! šŸ˜)

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Caption : Sometimes fancy, sometimes under a bus swearing at an oil filter. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø Thanks for catching my best angles @mrgorgeousny! (PS: this was taken @thesamsonnight & @margomayhemā€™s wedding, peep how elegant it was! šŸ˜)
Likes : 334Jezebel Express - 334 Likes - Post class glow! If you missed our first session of Flirtinf with Burlesque, thereā€™s still time to register: recordings of every class are offered so you can always catch up before next week! šŸ’ƒ

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Caption : Post class glow! If you missed our first session of Flirtinf with Burlesque, thereā€™s still time to register: recordings of every class are offered so you can always catch up before next week! šŸ’ƒ
Likes : 334Jezebel Express - 332 Likes - ā›“ļøWhatā€™re YOU lookin at?ā›“ļø AZ Shows & classes done and dusted. Whatā€™s our next adventure?

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Caption : ā›“ļøWhatā€™re YOU lookin at?ā›“ļø AZ Shows & classes done and dusted. Whatā€™s our next adventure?
Likes : 332Jezebel Express - 330 Likes - Snapshot with an icon! šŸ•·ļøšŸ•·ļø This movie was formative for me- tell me if it was for you too? I just found this is my drafts so let me give proper credit for the Rando Elvira cutout to The Surly Wench in Tucson where I performed last month - their giant dressing room is a treasure trove of rad oddities but this was definitely my favorite,

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Caption : Snapshot with an icon! šŸ•·ļøšŸ•·ļø This movie was formative for me- tell me if it was for you too? I just found this is my drafts so let me give proper credit for the Rando Elvira cutout to The Surly Wench in Tucson where I performed last month – their giant dressing room is a treasure trove of rad oddities but this was definitely my favorite,
Likes : 330Jezebel Express - 328 Likes - āœØSALT LAKE CITY!āœØ I canā€™t wait to join @hottakeburlesque this Saturday night (June 24)! Iā€™ll be there wearing a half-bored sneer & some black lipstick Iā€™m just waiting for someone to smearā€¦ ā›“ļøšŸ–¤šŸ’„

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Caption : āœØSALT LAKE CITY!āœØ I canā€™t wait to join @hottakeburlesque this Saturday night (June 24)! Iā€™ll be there wearing a half-bored sneer & some black lipstick Iā€™m just waiting for someone to smearā€¦ ā›“ļøšŸ–¤šŸ’„
Likes : 328Jezebel Express - 325 Likes - Feeling that eclipse energy today and taking a moment to appreciate the reality of darkness meeting light. No one is always one wayā€” human beings are mutable and ever-changing. Rather than trying to blot out the parts of ourselves that make us uncomfortable, we can choose instead to accept and incorporate themā€¦ to look at our shadows with love and tenderness and try to understand why they are there, instead of banishing them. We are all light and dark, and we always will be. The trick is finding balance, and learning to appreciate (and share) all aspects of ourselves , instead of just the most easy-to-accept parts of us. ā¤ļø šŸ“· by the incomparable @bettinamaystudios

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Caption : Feeling that eclipse energy today and taking a moment to appreciate the reality of darkness meeting light. No one is always one wayā€” human beings are mutable and ever-changing. Rather than trying to blot out the parts of ourselves that make us uncomfortable, we can choose instead to accept and incorporate themā€¦ to look at our shadows with love and tenderness and try to understand why they are there, instead of banishing them. We are all light and dark, and we always will be. The trick is finding balance, and learning to appreciate (and share) all aspects of ourselves , instead of just the most easy-to-accept parts of us. ā¤ļø šŸ“· by the incomparable @bettinamaystudios
Likes : 325Jezebel Express - 325 Likes - Every once in awhile, it happens: we catch a glimpse of ourselvesā€” maybe in the mirror or at an angle we don't often seeā€” and we think "Damn. I look good." Maybe it's our bodyā€™s shadow or our nose from this angle, or our wrinkles looking kinda cute while we're laughing. We have a rare moment of self-appreciationā€”but we all know what follows that. The voices. Maybe it's a parent ("cover your arms") or friend ("girl, botox!") or partner ("donā€™t get a big head, now!ā€) A litany of lightning speed critiques, replacing your appreciation with shame: you're wrong, you have work to do, you're hideous. Why are we like this? We are taught from the time we begin consuming media that love is always conditional-- that we must look and act exactly right. We must walk a careful tightrope to earn love, and then stay balanced to keep it. Many of us have spent our lives tiptoeing carefully, looking only ahead towards our betterment, instead of admiring the grace and skill of the balancing acts we do every day, or the spectacular view from up here. I don't think love is like a tightrope. This is what self-improvement shills will tell you, though, and theyā€™re loud. Theyā€™re also yelling into the ears of the people who love you, and because those folks want you to be well-loved, they may join the chorus of voices pressuring you to balance oh-so-carefully and never slip up. But love is not a tightrope. Love is a net. Love holds the things we have been told are unforgivable about ourselves. Love does not require perfect balance or staring straight ahead, laser focused on inching toward some ad guyā€™s idea of perfection.Ā  Love wants you to enjoy your time on earth. To revel in the view. To admire yourself. And sure, looking around might make you lose your balance. But what are you even doing on that tightrope anyway?Ā  The next time you catch a glimpse of something you like in the mirror, donā€™t let the voices keep snap your attention back to whatā€˜s ā€œwrongā€. Instead, enjoy a rare glimpse at whatā€™s right, whatā€™s wonderful, whatā€™s perfect about you. Turn your head. Take a good, long look at how beautiful you are. And when you fall, let love catch you. āœØ

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Caption : Every once in awhile, it happens: we catch a glimpse of ourselvesā€” maybe in the mirror or at an angle we don’t often seeā€” and we think “Damn. I look good.” Maybe it’s our bodyā€™s shadow or our nose from this angle, or our wrinkles looking kinda cute while we’re laughing. We have a rare moment of self-appreciationā€”but we all know what follows that. The voices. Maybe it’s a parent (“cover your arms”) or friend (“girl, botox!”) or partner (“donā€™t get a big head, now!ā€) A litany of lightning speed critiques, replacing your appreciation with shame: you’re wrong, you have work to do, you’re hideous. Why are we like this? We are taught from the time we begin consuming media that love is always conditional– that we must look and act exactly right. We must walk a careful tightrope to earn love, and then stay balanced to keep it. Many of us have spent our lives tiptoeing carefully, looking only ahead towards our betterment, instead of admiring the grace and skill of the balancing acts we do every day, or the spectacular view from up here. I don’t think love is like a tightrope. This is what self-improvement shills will tell you, though, and theyā€™re loud. Theyā€™re also yelling into the ears of the people who love you, and because those folks want you to be well-loved, they may join the chorus of voices pressuring you to balance oh-so-carefully and never slip up. But love is not a tightrope. Love is a net. Love holds the things we have been told are unforgivable about ourselves. Love does not require perfect balance or staring straight ahead, laser focused on inching toward some ad guyā€™s idea of perfection.Ā  Love wants you to enjoy your time on earth. To revel in the view. To admire yourself. And sure, looking around might make you lose your balance. But what are you even doing on that tightrope anyway?Ā  The next time you catch a glimpse of something you like in the mirror, donā€™t let the voices keep snap your attention back to whatā€˜s ā€œwrongā€. Instead, enjoy a rare glimpse at whatā€™s right, whatā€™s wonderful, whatā€™s perfect about you. Turn your head. Take a good, long look at how beautiful you are. And when you fall, let love catch you. āœØ
Likes : 325Jezebel Express - 318 Likes - Twirling my tassels in a most unconventional manner @harlowsnightclub in Sacramento! Thank you @burlyclines @vivalachacha for a super fun show! āœØ šŸ“ø: @jamesblonde001

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Caption : Twirling my tassels in a most unconventional manner @harlowsnightclub in Sacramento! Thank you @burlyclines @vivalachacha for a super fun show! āœØ šŸ“ø: @jamesblonde001
Likes : 318Jezebel Express - 314 Likes - āœØšŸ§™ā€ā™€ļøBASIC WITCH šŸ§™ā€ā™€ļøāœØ I had the best Halloween Weekā€¦ instead of working a ton, I went to a grown-up Halloween party, hit up some trick or treating, and even wore a costume I have zero plans of ever using in an act! Got this cute starry dress at plus size thrift shop @iwantsecondspdx during their store Halloween party this weekend. I wasnā€™t sure where Iā€™d wear it, but these random impractical sleeves were too c*nt to pass up! Took me about 36 hours to find an occasion šŸŽƒ I hope everyone had a super fun Halloweekā€¦ if you did anything great, Iā€™d love to hear about it! šŸ‘‚ šŸ‘»šŸ’€šŸ§›šŸ»ā€ā™€ļøšŸ¦‡

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Caption : āœØšŸ§™ā€ā™€ļøBASIC WITCH šŸ§™ā€ā™€ļøāœØ I had the best Halloween Weekā€¦ instead of working a ton, I went to a grown-up Halloween party, hit up some trick or treating, and even wore a costume I have zero plans of ever using in an act! Got this cute starry dress at plus size thrift shop @iwantsecondspdx during their store Halloween party this weekend. I wasnā€™t sure where Iā€™d wear it, but these random impractical sleeves were too c*nt to pass up! Took me about 36 hours to find an occasion šŸŽƒ I hope everyone had a super fun Halloweekā€¦ if you did anything great, Iā€™d love to hear about it! šŸ‘‚ šŸ‘»šŸ’€šŸ§›šŸ»ā€ā™€ļøšŸ¦‡
Likes : 314Jezebel Express - 310 Likes - Do I have anything stuck in my teeth? šŸ˜¬ An all time fave shot from @absesay_photo ā¤ļø

310 Likes – Jezebel Express Instagram

Caption : Do I have anything stuck in my teeth? šŸ˜¬ An all time fave shot from @absesay_photo ā¤ļø
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