Jamie Otis Instagram – This is VERY controversial, but while I’m leaking from all my crevices & can barely move from stitches after giving birth, I’d prefer not to have to entertain guests who want to see my babies.
I’ll never forget after I had my daughter there was only one person who came to my house to help me. She told me to take a nap & she’d fold my laundry🤯 I was soooo shocked she offered to help ME, not just hold the baby🙏😭❤️
They say it takes a village but I think a lot of villages have forgotten how to be most helpful to a new mom😏
We need to change this new norm💯
I dont need you to hold my babies so I can get stuff done. I’d rather you help me get stuff done so I can rest, heal, & hold/bond w my babies myself🙏
This will infuriate some people, but they prob aren’t used to having boundaries👀
I hope it HELPS new moms know that they can say “no” to guests-even if it’s family-until they’re healed enough to entertain.
Bc if you don’t have to worry about cleaning your house for guests then you’ll have time to relax and bond with your baby.🙏
If your guests aren’t there to help support & nourish you-the woman who just gave birth and is now operating on next to no sleep while trying to nourish and bond with her new baby-then they will simply have to wait to come over until you feel healed enough.
That isn’t you being selfish (although as a people pleaser I struggled w it at first) but rather it’s just SELF CARE during a time when you must take care of yourself in order to be the best mommy for your new baby🙏❤️
I had awful PPD after my last baby. Im trying to avoid it this time.🙏
This past year I’ve really been working on boundaries and learning to pay attention to the people who have shown up for me/my fam during my hard times, who have called just to say hello-not because they need something, and those who have gone out of their way to be part of our family.
Surprisingly, it isn’t all blood-related fam at the top of the list.
And that’s ok. We all have different priorities in life💯…but it’s also ok if you set boundaries w friends/family who haven’t been there for you recently🙏 Especially after having a baby.❤️
Do you agree?🤷🏼♀️ | Posted on 01/Aug/2024 01:49:56
