School has just gone back and here we are again…. 💔 The number of school shootings this year is simply unconscionable, unfortunately we must have these conversations in the USA with our children. My heart breaks a little more each time we are faced with a situation that should not be in this country, as it isn’t in others around the world. I wanted to share some parental pointers to help you,especially if like me you are feeling all sorts of emotions right now….maybe numb, angry,sad,anxious,fearful,helpless. 1. Stay an active listener to support your teen expressing their feelings until they start asking Qs. Your calm is their stability. Remain grounded. 2. Don’t try and fix what they feel, empathize. Don’t band aid either, teens do not want to be shrugged off it will annoy them. 3. Keep it real with them. Honesty matters, if you don’t know something say so. They are older they would of heard the news,read the articles. Separate facts from fake news. 4. Yes, you do get to voice your concerns too,it keeps the convo authentic. 5. Reinforce security as best you can and if your child is severely stressed you secure them above all else, fullstop. 6. Try your hardest to limit exposure to ongoing news as it does heightened anxiety. Your role is to nurture and be their safe home. 7. They may ask what they can do to change things and at this point it becomes about what you can all do as a family to help eachother in this situation, have that conversation. I hope this helps a little…🥺🙏🏾🤍 Jo xx
We salute you Grandparents 🙏🏾 Parents here are some pointers: 1. Boundaries are vital to stop a person feeling abused, so be clear together on days, hours and where the care is being held,yours, theirs, so safety is followed through on and respectful both parties feel good. 2. Discuss your family practices and how that may differ from theirs, generations do things differently. 3. Limitations on things like screen time, candy, ‘the Grandparent treats’ these are to be decided upon,leave room to discuss. 4. Make time for Grandparents to see children when not co- caring so they can be a grandparent without the responsibility. 5. Grandparents are exactly that, they raised their children already and are entitled to live their life as they chose, as are you, show consideration for that. Be excited that they travel, be thrilled for their new chapter. 6. Gratitude goes a long way and has mileage don’t be stingy. A few bucks here and there, some flowers a voucher, whatever you can do, will always be appreciated. 7. Be mature enough to ask if there is anything they’d like to discuss because it leaves room to talk perhaps about a challenge or something they feel discomfort around. At the end of the day Grandparents Hold their own unique relationship with their grandchild and yes you may think wow ! it so wasn’t like that with us,well now you know it’s different when you’re the parent, the stress is different. 8. Last but not least make sure to see both sets if you can as Paternal Grandparents lose out on time compared to Maternal Grandparents and both are equally important to the child. Note: To my Grandparents I love you and miss you everyday. Thank you for your special love ❤️ your memories,your faces,your energy live on within me. ✨️ #NationalGrandparentsDay #HelpingFamiliesShine💫 jofrost.com
Hurried child syndrome is trending right now yet it is nothing new, however social media has elevated this illusion of pressure on parents today. So I’m here to be the voice of reason, stop rushing, it’s too much and this type of energy is no good for anyone in the family and certainly does not support calm & confident. You got this! Jo xx Your thoughts? #HelpingFamiliesShine💫 Jofrost.com
Hurried child syndrome is trending right now yet it is nothing new, however social media has elevated this illusion of pressure on parents today. So I’m here to be the voice of reason, stop rushing, it’s too much and this type of energy is no good for anyone in the family and certainly does not support calm & confident. You got this! Jo xx Your thoughts? #HelpingFamiliesShine💫 Jofrost.com
Hurried child syndrome is trending right now yet it is nothing new, however social media has elevated this illusion of pressure on parents today. So I’m here to be the voice of reason, stop rushing, it’s too much and this type of energy is no good for anyone in the family and certainly does not support calm & confident. You got this! Jo xx Your thoughts? #HelpingFamiliesShine💫 Jofrost.com
Tough love is NOT a parenting style it is a teachable moment. Most parents have made that call at one point parenting. Many on social media Inc professionals villainize parents who have done so and I believe that is not okay. Think about it, you’ve offered to take yr teen to school this term as it is quicker than the bus, on yr way to work, they get up late,every day, now yr late, everyday,you tell them please time keep or you will have to get the bus next time because it’s costing me my work, they have no regard and get up late again,so next day you say no can do buddy and they get the bus moaning. That’s Tough Love. I could give so many examples but I’m sure you have ones you could share with me, so, your Tough Love decisions 💙 Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine
Tough love is NOT a parenting style it is a teachable moment. Most parents have made that call at one point parenting. Many on social media Inc professionals villainize parents who have done so and I believe that is not okay. Think about it, you’ve offered to take yr teen to school this term as it is quicker than the bus, on yr way to work, they get up late,every day, now yr late, everyday,you tell them please time keep or you will have to get the bus next time because it’s costing me my work, they have no regard and get up late again,so next day you say no can do buddy and they get the bus moaning. That’s Tough Love. I could give so many examples but I’m sure you have ones you could share with me, so, your Tough Love decisions 💙 Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine
Tough love is NOT a parenting style it is a teachable moment. Most parents have made that call at one point parenting. Many on social media Inc professionals villainize parents who have done so and I believe that is not okay. Think about it, you’ve offered to take yr teen to school this term as it is quicker than the bus, on yr way to work, they get up late,every day, now yr late, everyday,you tell them please time keep or you will have to get the bus next time because it’s costing me my work, they have no regard and get up late again,so next day you say no can do buddy and they get the bus moaning. That’s Tough Love. I could give so many examples but I’m sure you have ones you could share with me, so, your Tough Love decisions 💙 Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine
Tough love is NOT a parenting style it is a teachable moment. Most parents have made that call at one point parenting. Many on social media Inc professionals villainize parents who have done so and I believe that is not okay. Think about it, you’ve offered to take yr teen to school this term as it is quicker than the bus, on yr way to work, they get up late,every day, now yr late, everyday,you tell them please time keep or you will have to get the bus next time because it’s costing me my work, they have no regard and get up late again,so next day you say no can do buddy and they get the bus moaning. That’s Tough Love. I could give so many examples but I’m sure you have ones you could share with me, so, your Tough Love decisions 💙 Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine
Tough love is NOT a parenting style it is a teachable moment. Most parents have made that call at one point parenting. Many on social media Inc professionals villainize parents who have done so and I believe that is not okay. Think about it, you’ve offered to take yr teen to school this term as it is quicker than the bus, on yr way to work, they get up late,every day, now yr late, everyday,you tell them please time keep or you will have to get the bus next time because it’s costing me my work, they have no regard and get up late again,so next day you say no can do buddy and they get the bus moaning. That’s Tough Love. I could give so many examples but I’m sure you have ones you could share with me, so, your Tough Love decisions 💙 Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine
Tough love is NOT a parenting style it is a teachable moment. Most parents have made that call at one point parenting. Many on social media Inc professionals villainize parents who have done so and I believe that is not okay. Think about it, you’ve offered to take yr teen to school this term as it is quicker than the bus, on yr way to work, they get up late,every day, now yr late, everyday,you tell them please time keep or you will have to get the bus next time because it’s costing me my work, they have no regard and get up late again,so next day you say no can do buddy and they get the bus moaning. That’s Tough Love. I could give so many examples but I’m sure you have ones you could share with me, so, your Tough Love decisions 💙 Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine
Tough love is NOT a parenting style it is a teachable moment. Most parents have made that call at one point parenting. Many on social media Inc professionals villainize parents who have done so and I believe that is not okay. Think about it, you’ve offered to take yr teen to school this term as it is quicker than the bus, on yr way to work, they get up late,every day, now yr late, everyday,you tell them please time keep or you will have to get the bus next time because it’s costing me my work, they have no regard and get up late again,so next day you say no can do buddy and they get the bus moaning. That’s Tough Love. I could give so many examples but I’m sure you have ones you could share with me, so, your Tough Love decisions 💙 Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine
Can’t leave home without it. Can’t enjoy some else’s company without looking at it. Can’t answer a question, never looking up from phone. Scrolling for hours in same room as love one, consistently? Maybe YOU, the adult, have addictive behavioural challenges too. It is easy to bypass yourself and enable your children……. We’ve all done one thing or many however with more awareness we can reduce the distraction and put in more action to change our behaviour. Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
Can’t leave home without it. Can’t enjoy some else’s company without looking at it. Can’t answer a question, never looking up from phone. Scrolling for hours in same room as love one, consistently? Maybe YOU, the adult, have addictive behavioural challenges too. It is easy to bypass yourself and enable your children……. We’ve all done one thing or many however with more awareness we can reduce the distraction and put in more action to change our behaviour. Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
Can’t leave home without it. Can’t enjoy some else’s company without looking at it. Can’t answer a question, never looking up from phone. Scrolling for hours in same room as love one, consistently? Maybe YOU, the adult, have addictive behavioural challenges too. It is easy to bypass yourself and enable your children……. We’ve all done one thing or many however with more awareness we can reduce the distraction and put in more action to change our behaviour. Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
Can’t leave home without it. Can’t enjoy some else’s company without looking at it. Can’t answer a question, never looking up from phone. Scrolling for hours in same room as love one, consistently? Maybe YOU, the adult, have addictive behavioural challenges too. It is easy to bypass yourself and enable your children……. We’ve all done one thing or many however with more awareness we can reduce the distraction and put in more action to change our behaviour. Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
Can’t leave home without it. Can’t enjoy some else’s company without looking at it. Can’t answer a question, never looking up from phone. Scrolling for hours in same room as love one, consistently? Maybe YOU, the adult, have addictive behavioural challenges too. It is easy to bypass yourself and enable your children……. We’ve all done one thing or many however with more awareness we can reduce the distraction and put in more action to change our behaviour. Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
Can’t leave home without it. Can’t enjoy some else’s company without looking at it. Can’t answer a question, never looking up from phone. Scrolling for hours in same room as love one, consistently? Maybe YOU, the adult, have addictive behavioural challenges too. It is easy to bypass yourself and enable your children……. We’ve all done one thing or many however with more awareness we can reduce the distraction and put in more action to change our behaviour. Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
Can’t leave home without it. Can’t enjoy some else’s company without looking at it. Can’t answer a question, never looking up from phone. Scrolling for hours in same room as love one, consistently? Maybe YOU, the adult, have addictive behavioural challenges too. It is easy to bypass yourself and enable your children……. We’ve all done one thing or many however with more awareness we can reduce the distraction and put in more action to change our behaviour. Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
Can’t leave home without it. Can’t enjoy some else’s company without looking at it. Can’t answer a question, never looking up from phone. Scrolling for hours in same room as love one, consistently? Maybe YOU, the adult, have addictive behavioural challenges too. It is easy to bypass yourself and enable your children……. We’ve all done one thing or many however with more awareness we can reduce the distraction and put in more action to change our behaviour. Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
Can’t leave home without it. Can’t enjoy some else’s company without looking at it. Can’t answer a question, never looking up from phone. Scrolling for hours in same room as love one, consistently? Maybe YOU, the adult, have addictive behavioural challenges too. It is easy to bypass yourself and enable your children……. We’ve all done one thing or many however with more awareness we can reduce the distraction and put in more action to change our behaviour. Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
Can’t leave home without it. Can’t enjoy some else’s company without looking at it. Can’t answer a question, never looking up from phone. Scrolling for hours in same room as love one, consistently? Maybe YOU, the adult, have addictive behavioural challenges too. It is easy to bypass yourself and enable your children……. We’ve all done one thing or many however with more awareness we can reduce the distraction and put in more action to change our behaviour. Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
Can’t leave home without it. Can’t enjoy some else’s company without looking at it. Can’t answer a question, never looking up from phone. Scrolling for hours in same room as love one, consistently? Maybe YOU, the adult, have addictive behavioural challenges too. It is easy to bypass yourself and enable your children……. We’ve all done one thing or many however with more awareness we can reduce the distraction and put in more action to change our behaviour. Jo xx #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
And that’s okay parents, you just need to tell them with love. 💖 They’ll thank you later…….much much later! 😊 Can I get a 🙌🏽 #HelpingFamiliesShine💫
