Ain’t gonna lie. I did loose my cool when the dogs rolled around in the mud then tore trough my house flinging mud everywhere. My day is planned. I climbed out of my bedroom window in my jammies to video that. I’m shifting. It’s weird. #joyous one minute undone the next. Emerging from the semi-catatonic state of newly #widowed, I’ve entered a new era in which I feel his absence in new ways daily. I think he’s messing with me from Heaven. You know, « she’s moping. Let me give her something she has to focus on » Whether that makes sense or not is irrelevant. It’s how I choose to #feel about it so I can keep it pushing. #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose
Something similar happened to me once. I was walking home from the Rapid in Cleveland and some guy came up behind me and grabbed my bag. The strap broke and it fell half way between us. I’m cheap but not stupid. We stood there for a second. I said, “take it.” He hesitated then took it. It’s weird when things don’t go as planned and you have to kinda sit through this odd space of not quite knowing what to do with a complete stranger the only thing you know about is that he’s a criminal but not to terribly adept. I wish you all the #peace that I’ve managed to misplace the last few days. I’m going to do a deep clean in my bedroom and see if i can find it hiding under some of this chaos I’ve got going on in here. I miss him so much. Shoutout @fofocacelebridadess
Can I hear it for our young dancer? She practiced; she got dressed up; her parents were probably all up in the audience. Ain’t no way in the world she wasn’t going to give it her all. Can I also get a small shoutout to my young shook dude? Yea, I know he bailed. He left her on her own. But I feel for him because that’s the kind of thing I used to do. I was scared of everything. I went to a violin recital at around 8. Got there. Simply refused to go on stage. Mom tried to put me in a dance class when I was around 5. Just class, mind you. I saw all those kids in there and refused. Mom said she would spank me if I didn’t and I said OK. Mom said that’s the last time she did that because she saw who she was dealing with. She’d have to be more creative if she was going to get my hard head to do anything. I was terrified by the public. But as horrified as he looks he might be learning something. Tough lesson but I’ve taken that course. Getting through it, no matter how bad it feels taught me that it wasn’t fatal. Horrifying but survivable. My mother eventually found ways of shoving me into things. And every time you COULD NOT TELL ME THE WORLD WASN’T GONNA END. (I wrote that in the way I felt it. Full volume freak out) The thing is absent those throws into the deep in of the #fear pool no THIS. No judgeship. No TV. I feel her pain too though, in a weird metaphysical kind of way. I’m dancing alone now too. Sometimes the sad just jumps on you out of nowhere. This was supposed to be cute and uplifting. My bad. #emotions #emotionalintelligence #widow #dance Relevant #tolerism: Fear is a failed front man: he never lets the band in stage. Shoutout @saysdotcom
Everybody saw and looked. Then the guy in the black came over to help followed by the woman in the blue flowered dress. Once that happens everyone gets involved. It’s a social phenomenon. One person does something different he’s just odd. Someone joins him, validating his move, others see and follow suit. Not always but it’s a real thing that you can see if you pay attention and use if you’re trying to start something. But please use your powers for good! #emotionalintelligence #feelingonpurpose Shoutout @lass_kemo_
Little girl Lynn just got all out in front of me and and messed up a couple of things. Now don’t get it twisted… I was pushed: Police. Seven hour emergency room stay. (Unrelated btw) #Widow work of the most daunting variety. As I write I got a call from a Texas hospital about my sister. I need to get all emotional hands on deck cause my boat keeps springing leaks. That said, there is no excuse for being short with people or not acknowledging their progress. I have an apology to make. Ain’t saying to who or why but I want you to know that I am. Unsolicited apologies are like a wide spectrum antibiotic. Cures a multitude of #emotional mistakes. I apologize a lot. It’s freeing. Temper tantrums are the hallmarks of powerlessness. I have problems but I also have the power to be a good human being. It takes more work and I have a spotty success record but hey, you gotta try. #emotionalintelligence Happy Saturday you guys!
I finally got my first podcast episode done. It’s on all major podcast platforms. It’s called FEELING ON PURPOSE. It’s also on my YouTube channel: RealJudgeLynn It’s a work in progress I’m hoping you’ll help me shape into something that has value to you. Next episode I promise I’ll sit still. 😂 #emotionalintelligence #emotions
Happy Sunday! Have a good one. #keepcoming Someone asked the email address. judgelynnpodcast@gmailcom. It’s for those of you who want to ask me questions to answer on my podcast.
#Womanhood #femininity If you watch the early episodes of Divorce Court, I often claimed to be a quart low on estrogen. When my dad told me he’d either give me a big wedding or a down payment on a house, you get one guess which one I took. It’s a wish washy term though. Means so many different things to different people. We had a good laugh about this on their podcast! Just remember we’re all a lot of things. Don’t just label and leave. Once we anoint someone with one of those it’s too easy to consume everything they do and say in accordance therewith thereby missing the fine print of who they are. Congrats to @hardlyinitiated They won Podcast of the Year!!!! Good dudes. Very. Gentlemen in every sense of the word. Good interviewers too. The two I did with them are among my top five!
Don’t you hate it when people are fooling around when you’re trying to work? Lost my equilibrium. I’ll get back to you when it returns. Shoutout @uniladtech
Life is lumpy. You gotta stay in shape. I have left the house twice this week. I’m scared of everybody out there now. I mean the level of response you see to every perceived slight. I’m scared to accidentally inconvenience someone. Did you see the guy who got beat to a pulp with a golf club because he had the nerve to walk on the golf cart path? Now I am gonna admit a fair amount of ignorance of the game. And I don’t know how big a faux pas walking on that path is but I can’t imagine it’s worth a butt whupping. Deeper still dude wielding the golf club was aghast at having been arrested for whomping this other guy. Never let your good fortune start to feel like a right. If you’re golfing mid day things are probably okay for you. When an inconvenience angers you that much you have some #emotional work to do. Now I don’t know what underlying stressors the club wielding dude was dealing with – and you have to remember that – not as an excuse but in an effort to understand. Just because the veneer looks good you don’t know what’s roiling just beneath. Doesn’t justify a thing but it helps us learn. You can’t fix what you don’t understand. You know, we spend a good part of our day having our feelings poked for no reason at all. To get views people get more and more controversial. Use stronger language, speak with greater intensity. When fed a constant diet of real and performative angst, we end up carrying around a lot of fight of flight chemicals that can’t tell the difference between the thing that first upset you and the next thing that happens to happen to you. Watch your emotional house as you scroll. Then make sure any upset earned by others and trotted out in front of you on your phone doesn’t follow you to the grocery store … cause I go there. Lawd, what I wrote had nothing to do with the video … I ramble in the morning. #emotionalintelligence #FeelingOnPurpose. Shoutout @tonybaker because he did a great voice over on this. DM for further credit or removal.
#emotionalintelligence You pick your mood; don’t let your mood pick you. I know. #feelings #emotions descend on you so quickly it’s hard to stop and think before responding. That’s why we all have to practice The Pause when nothing critical is going on. Everybody out there standing on the edge of #angry looking for a push. It’s easier to be kind. There’s this old joke. “Stay out of my business. Because when God sees you he’ll be asking you about your sins, not mine.” I did a remix the other day that got pulled for misuse. I thought if the remix option was available you could use it as long as you added something to it. It is clear to me I don’t know what I’m doing. I know it’s just one but since I’m clearly confused about it … so if I lose this page The only way to find me will be on YouTube @realjudgelynn. (Judge Lynn Toler) There are a few fake men on there but at this time I have 59K followers. In fact I might go live there just to see you guys. Anyway have a peaceful weekend. Relevant #Tolerism: Be slow to anger. Everybody’s got a boatload of crap they’re trying to wade through. I know this post is disjointed and all over the place. I was going to go back and massage it into a clear, coherent thought. But then I decided that disjointed was, in fact, an accurate reflection of my state of mind. So, in the spirit of authenticity (with a side of lazy) I will leave you with my original musings.
#FeelingOnPurpose Episode 2 Tomorrow September 9th, at 10 a.m. PT 1 p.m.on YouTube at RealJudgeLynn . If you can fall through … I will be there. #emotionalintelligence. Let me know what you want to talk about in future episodes … I have a slew of thoughts on feeling consciously so the world will have a harder time kicking our #feelings about. First episode is already up.
That holler was from Tevin Campbell’s I’m So Confused. An apt theme song for my current condition and an accurate visual representation of how I intend to get through my day. Shoutout @girlsgottagram @miamuniz_
1) The ladies were most likely liquid, themselves. Not sure but #DoitFluid could have been involved. 2) There was definitely liquid on the floor (And I have absolutely no desire to opine on it’s make up. None of the possibilities are appealing.) 3) The ladies were in there to begin with because they needed to purge some of the liquid they imbibed. 4) Did you notice that the woman in the halter top that fully engaged in the cabal never lost control of whatever liquid she had in her hand. I’ve always liked the term liquidity. If you have it means you have some economic room to breathe. This is a whole different thing though. Wonder what the fight was about. I’ll say this though, it may or may not have been because it was a long line full of urgent bladders. #Petpeeve: I’ll be in the line at a bathroom in the airport thinking, they figured out how to build a machine that allows millions to fly and navigate the world in hours but can’t come up with a bathroom for women that is not wholly and completely inadequate. The bathrooms ought not be the same size, they should be capable of handling the same capacity. #emotionalintelligence look for the light you guys. And when we’re out there among the masses, take a beat. As Hicks said in @Aliens “we’re all in strung out shape but we have to stay sharp. We can’t let one of those things get in here.” In our scenario The Things are our lesson than empathetic #emotional selves. Relevant #Tolerism: People who feel entitled tend get disappointed a lot. Those who operate in #gratitude more often tend to be happily surprised. Pick the one that makes you #feelings work for and not against you. Shoutout @girlsgottagram @ambbruckman
Shoutout @theviralvaults Don’t focus so hard on one thing that the periphery doesn’t get its due. My podcast « Feeling on Purpose » is now on podcast platforms and on YouTube. (Link in bio) Have a great day.
So much to learn in such a short video. 1) For all my Pearl Clutchers out there, dude landed on his feet and he walked it off so no one is making fun of anyone’s pain. 2) speaking of walking it off … that walk off is great for #emotional management. You’ve always got to take a pause for the cause of allowing those fight or flight chemicals to rush your system before you rush over to whatever caused you a problem. 3) Does he have the right to be annoyed? Absolutely, dude just walked off the job, mind completely elsewhere. The question is how do we respond? We could respond with an attack and go for old boy with great gusto. After all your emotions are telling you to do something and old dude is in fact the source of his troubles. Or … We can let the upset wash through us and ebb while remembering the last time our own imperfect behinds blew a call. I know how bad I feel when I unintentionally hurt others as a function of my inattention. Or If you belong to a religion that teaches forgiveness you could go ahead and do that. The ease and energy of our emotional eruptions these days is everyone’s obligation to address because it’s going to everybody’s problem if we don’t. Shoutout @ta_worksafety #emotionalintelligence #feeling better feels better when you do better first #feelingonpurpose
Happy Monday y’all. Dude has the right attitude. Find your crowd then stand out in it! Shoutout @eggs.tyrone @viva.las.vegas.vlv
I have a particular affinity for this because I often have #wardrobe malfunctions. Not quite the right shoe. And don’t ask me to navigate heels. I did a speech once -I think it was at Baylor – and I wore high heels I had no business being in and my feet cramped up so badly I had to be helped off stage and into my car. She had her purse too. That’s also the kind of mistake I make. I don’t know when or how to accessorize. I face planted once while taking the bench. Walked on stage to give speech once with the fly of my pants open. My point is this. We all have less than stellar public moments. I try to see the funny in my own ridiculous … maybe not immediately but eventually. I am glad dude went to help cause she was in a pickle. Sometimes you just need to get rescued. #FontellaBass You remember her? Rescue Me. Then there’s #sam&dave: Hold On. I’m Coming. In the inimitable words of Florida Evans “damn damn damn.” It’s been a tough week. LOL That went left out of the blue didn’t it? My ‘to’ can’t even see ‘gether’ from here. But I will not linger in it, I’m gonna get out from under it. Don’t have a game plan yet but I am working on it. Y’all have a happy productive day! Shoutout @ciproshow
He did what he saw the #dog do and had no reason to believe there had been a rule change. Shoutout @david0ff_01 Happy Tuesday.
First, Happy Sunday. Second, when you speak for a living and have a moment like this, it’s hard. I know. I’ve been there and as I age I end up there more and more often. Third: as it’s happening your brain starts sending out stress hormones … they pool up in your brain and make things harder to see and decipher. It’s a tough moment in time, the first couple of times it happens but you know, you can learn to ride it out. That’s what happened when he said “Y’all know what I’m trying to say” WITH a #smile. Fourth: nothing like an organist with a sense of humor. I don’t know if he was ribbing rev or trying to help him out. Doesn’t matter, though, cause it’s funny either way. . An unforgiving Christian is an outrageous oxymoron. Finger wagging from afar fails to factor in detail … and we all know that’s where the devil lives. I’m not quite sure how all of this relates to the video but it’s the trip it sent me on. Thank you for coming along. It’s nice to have someone to talk to in the morning. Shoutout @mikamorrow
Dude went all in! Ain’t no half stepping. Shoutout @theviralvaults
