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Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

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Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

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Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

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Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

(This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

(This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

(This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

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Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Walking home as societally femme vs societally masc may seem to be obviously safer for the masc individual. And it is. I tried over 200 night walks in 2018-2019 in both “masc” and “femme” looks (by societal standards) in 14 large cities and 17 small towns. Needless to say, I was absolutely heckled more when perceived as “femme”. Followed home at times, touched without consent, and even stopped for questioning by people curious as to where I was going or if I was trans. However, there were some things during my night walks I also monitored that I’ve never shared before- and they were regarding socio-economic accessibility. (1) I tried boarding busses at night without fare in men’s and women’s attire. I was granted more free fares as perceived male than female by about 2.5x. (2) I was less likely to get a ticket when caught jumping the turnstiles illegally for the train. As a “femme” I racked up 6 tickets vs 11 as “masc”. (3) I was equally as likely to be lent a phone by a stranger I’d asked to call “for a ride”. Flat even- and that one really surprised me. 

Why did this study matter? As a person who’s experienced poverty for a good portion of my life, getting home was more than just “walking there without getting touched/heckled”. It was also navigating the little things like not affording transportation or a phone service. I wanted to understand what the world would be likely to offer me in either “gender/sex” perception- so I knew what needed to be dismantled and how to survive should I need to. 

Did any of these surprise You? How do You think we would do getting home from Your city/town center to Your home? Would it be any different?

NOTE: My experiment pertains to My own being only and may not be accurate for other people of other aesthetics, intersectionalities or locations. The purpose of this was not to support the division of treatment but to clearly illustrate if I as ONE being can be granted various privileges or punishments based on the simple assumption of sex/gender. 

Photo by @mattlicari 

#lgbtq #genderfluid #genderqueer #gendercapitalism #storytime #comparison #nonbinary #binaryexpert
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - I refuse to let the F on my birth certificate be synonymous with FEAR. I refuse to let FEAR be synonymous with Fabric. My dysphoria is not with my Flesh. It is with sexpectations, society and Fictious Fabrications of who I must be based on who has come before me with adjacent genitalia. The I that I am is not merely an Idea. The I that I am is a series of intentions, actions, and experiences. 

My identity is the I am I. If You wish to attempt to Limit Me with Language, just know that the I that is I can not cease to exist but already does will and has. You may take away my freedom of body, my freedom of speech- but You will never take away what truly makes Me free. The Me that is Me. It is beyond tangibility and touch. It is beyond Your grasp. 

I am I. Forever, then and now. I will not cease to be I because if I do then I give permission and proof for You to cease to be You. And for Us to cease to be Us. 

I am I. Are You You?

On a train tomorrow so I have extra time! I’ll reply to the first 300 comments :) Ask me anything. 

#lovewins #whoworeitbetter #lgbtqia #genderfluid #genderqueer #iami
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - I receive 1-300 messages a day and this one was one of my favorites today. It was the second one I read and it just made me giggle. Since they are couped up at home unable to get validation for their wit, humor and identity from their family- do You mind commenting below that You found this joke funny/clever? (Only if You did of course!). Alternatively if You have a good joke to gift back to this being I think they would really love it! 

Thanks for cheering me up brilliant being. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtqmemes #comedy #memes #nonbinary #genderfluid #lovewins
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Tell me your name- your true name, the one You know yourself to be- and we will say it back. Add Your pronouns for extra love. I will respond to every comment on this post made in the next 48 hours. Proud to be your family and see You as You. 

I want to thank the amazing designers on @makingthecuttv for supporting me this month. These designs (like the one I’m wearing) have been awesome! They’ve been incredibly supportive of intersectional voices and a delight to watch on @amazonprimevideo . If You want to support them check their looks on @amazonfashion or @amazonfashioneu 
#ad #genderqueer #fashion #lgbtqia #resource #trans #nonbinary You don’t need to be queer, trans or NB to post.
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
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One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

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I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
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One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

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I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
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One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

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I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
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One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

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I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
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One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

——————————

I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
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One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

——————————

I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
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One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

——————————

I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Often we are told to choose. Choose a label. Choose a name. Choose a pronoun. Choose a style. Choose. Choose. Choose. But You have already chosen- your cells and the universe has already chosen. You are You. It's that simple- and it can not always be defined by sound. Tell me one thing You love about Yourself that's unique below and I'll Cheers to that! 

If You like exploring things as unique as Yourself, I just gave the new @tiamariadrink (available at Tesco) a shot- it's Matcha flavored?! And it was really great!
#TiaMariaMatcha #OneofaKind #DrinkResponsibly #LGBTQ #adv #takeyourmatchatime
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - What’s the genderless/all gender doll name they’d give to a Ken/Barbie hybrid? 
Or are they all genderless? I love that Barbie and Ken just have universal  smooth bumps under their pants and yet are both very clear on their identity and pronoun choice. 

The world of Barbie was one I avoided growing up, yet felt compared to. I didn’t see myself or my closest friends represented by this very popular culture icon and didn’t give it a chance as a result. In fact, I was angry at it. Especially for how it culturally set a tone that fat bodies weren’t desired and that there were only two options of identity. Boy. Girl. 

At McDonalds as a kid, on the rare opportunity that I went, they offered Barbie or Hot Wheels. I chose Hot Wheels every time. I didn’t need some piece of plastic reminding me that I wasn’t “ideal” by society. 

However, over the past few years I got reintroduced to the world of Barbie. And while it has a lot of work to do, I have to say that I had missed all of the hard work the employees put into expanding out Barbies message   world of friends to make it more inclusive. Conversations about body types, functioning, learning new things about new people- some of them were really high level things we all needed to hear. 

What I took away from that was a reminder that people can change. And those people will change businesses. Politics. Schools. And communities. If we continue to share our stories and stick together- uplift messages of what we need- You be surprised at just how many others will expand as well. 

#genderless #barbiethemovie #ken #lgbtqia #whatdoyouthink
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - I can’t deny biology right? I’m a boy or girl and that’s it. It’s ALL on the birth certificate. While I understand the desire to homogenize who I am by who has existed before me and the possible basic adjacent characteristics I may have to others from flesh to mind- to call me simply “She” or “He” feels akin to lazily saying one sees “a color of the rainbow”. In reality there are over 18 Decillion colors to perceive. (It’s true look it up). It’s not accurate enough for me to be called “she” or “he”. It’s not fair enough. It’s not true enough. 

When one talks about me as a person and says “SHE did this”- what does “SHE” even do to the conversation? Why SHE? What accuracy is provided to me by the term “SHE”? When so many have been called “SHE” before? A vision begins to pain in the recipients head, a slew of expectation from all the other “SHE”s they’ve ever met. How I could be, what I could be wearing, why I could be doing what I’m doing, what I may do next. All based on what other “she’s” have done. Not based on what what I have done as I. Frankly, it’s seemingly a lot of extra work for everyone. And the recipient has to unwind what they know about “she” to add me to their expectations.

I flinch at the sexpectations and expectations, obstacles, laws and looks that are based around the sound of a “gender”/“sex”. I refuse to participate. 

When it comes to others using “he” or “she” I will always respect the language and identity of an individual that they have for themselves. Many have fought, suffered, survived & sacrificed for the right to be respected in these sounds. I don’t see my way of existing/identifying as superior to anyone else’s. It’s just what works for me personally and it’s what feels right. 
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If someone can’t use the language I use for myself, I’ve let go of trying to control that. I do not need verbal validation for my truth to exist. However, should one call me She or He and treat me to a lesser standard on the basis of sexpectation affiliated to those sounds- I WILL challenge them with all the power of my being. 

Am I safe with You? (Will answer as many comments as possible!)
#genderqueer #lgbtq #memesdaily #iami 📸 @colesprouse
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - For anyone who feels alone tonight- find Your community here. Right now. Type *HUG* in the comments and for the next 24 hours I’ll type *hug* back. Some other people may send you a hug too! Why? Because You deserve acknowledgement. You deserve my time. You deserve a moment that is all about You. I want to gift that to You because You have gifted me this space to raise voice, money, awareness and more. You’ve changed my life simply by clicking that “follow” button. Thank You. Thank You. Thank You. Thank You for getting me off the streets. Thank You for giving me support when I need to lean. Thank You for creating a community I can find anywhere in the world. 

This image by the way was taken for a @ukgap series featuring different voices. They invested into a really diverse array of community members and let people say what they wanted unfiltered. The crew was also reflective of our community. I really appreciate that. The reason I decided to hop on this shoot was as an homage to my roots. Gap was a working class brand in the USA. It’s what we wore because it was affordable and durable. While I was on the streets I had a Gap hoodie that lasted a full two years of hardcore outside conditions. It later became a comfort item when I got more stable. I’ve at times been teased for my Gap hoodie- but I don’t care. It’s survival represents my survival as a transient queer person. And Im not ashamed of that. 

Thanks for letting me tell my story @femalenarratives and @ukgap . Thank You for putting funds into our community all year round even outside of Pride. As with all Pride collaborations- funds from this post will be going to house transient LGBTQ individuals. If You need housing and are on the street DM me to register on the funding list. I am working hard to put  revenue generated off this platform into housing our community. Don’t be afraid to ask. 

#pridemonth #pride #genderfluid #genderqueerpride #bi #demi #lovewins #hug #findme #lovecommunity 

Photographer: @rosalineshahnavaz 
Stylist: @naifhen 
Make-up Artist: @poppyellah 
Videographer: @rancefilm partner @kelsey_ellison
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Some of these suggestions are a bit controversial- but I’m gonna take a chance here. As You know, I bleed but I don’t identify as female. This menstrual cycle I did a bit of journaling on a few basic things regarding menstrual products that I’d like to see change before I leave this earth. 

-Dont use blue liquid in illustrations of menstrual blood on ads. Use something that looks like actual blood. Destigmatize bleeding by not tiptoeing. Be casually literal. We aren’t afraid to show placenta   birth blood and  blood from murders or fights on tv right?

-Get rid of the term “feminine products” in stores and adverts. That descriptor not only does nothing to illustrate the function of the product, but it’s also not accurate. And it puts a target on anyone that is purchasing but not “feminine” by societal standards.

-If a school has a uniform, make menstrual underwear a free part of it. For any student who requests them. No requirements to carry pads/tampons into school, makes menstruation part of school spirit, and keeps people supported. 

-Educate people about longterm usage items such as menstrual panties- phase out single use items as accessibility picks up.

-Put menstrual product dispensers in all restrooms despite the “gender/sex” on the door.

These are just a few things, what do You think? Anything You don’t agree with and why? The comments are being watched so whatever You say will possibly have a real impact!

Btw these panties are of course @chantelle_paris . And I'm really proud to say that they are rolling into a new era of inclusive language surrounding their menstrual underwear. I tried them during my menstrual cycle and they legit worked- which surprised me because tbh I was skeptical. And they didn’t feel like a diaper.

#ChantellePeriodPanties #ChantelleLife #genderqueer #menstrualhygieneday
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Some of these suggestions are a bit controversial- but I’m gonna take a chance here. As You know, I bleed but I don’t identify as female. This menstrual cycle I did a bit of journaling on a few basic things regarding menstrual products that I’d like to see change before I leave this earth. 

-Dont use blue liquid in illustrations of menstrual blood on ads. Use something that looks like actual blood. Destigmatize bleeding by not tiptoeing. Be casually literal. We aren’t afraid to show placenta   birth blood and  blood from murders or fights on tv right?

-Get rid of the term “feminine products” in stores and adverts. That descriptor not only does nothing to illustrate the function of the product, but it’s also not accurate. And it puts a target on anyone that is purchasing but not “feminine” by societal standards.

-If a school has a uniform, make menstrual underwear a free part of it. For any student who requests them. No requirements to carry pads/tampons into school, makes menstruation part of school spirit, and keeps people supported. 

-Educate people about longterm usage items such as menstrual panties- phase out single use items as accessibility picks up.

-Put menstrual product dispensers in all restrooms despite the “gender/sex” on the door.

These are just a few things, what do You think? Anything You don’t agree with and why? The comments are being watched so whatever You say will possibly have a real impact!

Btw these panties are of course @chantelle_paris . And I'm really proud to say that they are rolling into a new era of inclusive language surrounding their menstrual underwear. I tried them during my menstrual cycle and they legit worked- which surprised me because tbh I was skeptical. And they didn’t feel like a diaper.

#ChantellePeriodPanties #ChantelleLife #genderqueer #menstrualhygieneday
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Some of these suggestions are a bit controversial- but I’m gonna take a chance here. As You know, I bleed but I don’t identify as female. This menstrual cycle I did a bit of journaling on a few basic things regarding menstrual products that I’d like to see change before I leave this earth. 

-Dont use blue liquid in illustrations of menstrual blood on ads. Use something that looks like actual blood. Destigmatize bleeding by not tiptoeing. Be casually literal. We aren’t afraid to show placenta   birth blood and  blood from murders or fights on tv right?

-Get rid of the term “feminine products” in stores and adverts. That descriptor not only does nothing to illustrate the function of the product, but it’s also not accurate. And it puts a target on anyone that is purchasing but not “feminine” by societal standards.

-If a school has a uniform, make menstrual underwear a free part of it. For any student who requests them. No requirements to carry pads/tampons into school, makes menstruation part of school spirit, and keeps people supported. 

-Educate people about longterm usage items such as menstrual panties- phase out single use items as accessibility picks up.

-Put menstrual product dispensers in all restrooms despite the “gender/sex” on the door.

These are just a few things, what do You think? Anything You don’t agree with and why? The comments are being watched so whatever You say will possibly have a real impact!

Btw these panties are of course @chantelle_paris . And I'm really proud to say that they are rolling into a new era of inclusive language surrounding their menstrual underwear. I tried them during my menstrual cycle and they legit worked- which surprised me because tbh I was skeptical. And they didn’t feel like a diaper.

#ChantellePeriodPanties #ChantelleLife #genderqueer #menstrualhygieneday
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. 

There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” 

Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. 

Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. 

But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. 

(These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.)

Photog: @austnfischer 
Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano 
Hair: @tizidima 
MUA: @miriamspanumakeup 
Styling: @francescakoof
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. 

There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” 

Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. 

Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. 

But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. 

(These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.)

Photog: @austnfischer 
Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano 
Hair: @tizidima 
MUA: @miriamspanumakeup 
Styling: @francescakoof
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. 

There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” 

Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. 

Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. 

But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. 

(These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.)

Photog: @austnfischer 
Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano 
Hair: @tizidima 
MUA: @miriamspanumakeup 
Styling: @francescakoof
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. 

There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” 

Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. 

Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. 

But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. 

(These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.)

Photog: @austnfischer 
Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano 
Hair: @tizidima 
MUA: @miriamspanumakeup 
Styling: @francescakoof
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. 

There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” 

Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. 

Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. 

But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. 

(These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.)

Photog: @austnfischer 
Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano 
Hair: @tizidima 
MUA: @miriamspanumakeup 
Styling: @francescakoof
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - It’s my Birthday! And I’ve been thinking a lot about You- and Us! You may have noticed that over the past couple years- I’ve not posted very often. Partially because I’ve been on a journey, trying to figure out the best way to fully realize what I was born to do. Partially because I genuinely never thought I’d live this long. It’s been a wild day processing that I’ve even survived to this point. Survived society, survived fate, and survived myself. I’ve held back posting often because so many beings seem like Saints on this platform- and many people seem to be seeking that Sainthood for themselves. The truth is- my path to where I am has been a bumpy ride and I’ve faltered, stumbled, made mistakes and poor choices at times. I’ve never really been a pure person, because I’ve done a lot of things to survive that aren’t easy to talk about. While I’ve always tried to be a person of service- I’ve not always felt worthy of receiving help myself. However, the past couple years I’ve dedicated it to volunteering on everything from cleaning up after the Australian wildfires to organizing protests with Justice for Black Lives to delivering medication to shielding people during COVID. What was my place in the world and what was the corner I was meant to pick up? And it finally dawned on me. This space over the next year will be dedicated to being a space for anyone else trying to grow too- anyone who has faltered, stumbled or just needs to rest. Anyone trying to be better today than they were tomorrow. Anyone who believes that love is worth more than money. Anyone who has been abandoned or homeless in any sort of way. Anyone who enjoys, conflict resolution, fashion, film and activism. I’m not going to hide quietly anymore. I’ll be posting 3 days a week, highlighting the world, joy, and even showing l bts stuff of everyday life. (Something I also hid- because I felt it wasn’t important to post). Buckle up- this year will be the best yet! #lgbtq🌈 #genderqueer #birthday #lovewins
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - According to my birth certificate, I am appropriately dressed today. This is what a pretty ‘girl’ looks like. 😉 If You are AFAB and look like this in a dress too- I want You to know You don’t need to identify as non-binary or trans. You can still identify as feminine and female. This IS what a pretty girl looks like. You ARE what a pretty girl looks like. Our identities are not exclusively our aesthetics. Do You agree? 

Speaking of which I go this dress from @makingthecuttv by @amazonprimevideo - it was the winning look! The designers this season are also pushing the boundaries of fashion dialogue and I think it’s important to see this happening on such a mainstream platform. If You like what I’m wearing (or anything from my next couple posts featuring Making the Cut looks) You can click the link in my bio to snag it off from @amazonfashion @amazonfashioneu ! 

#Makingthecut #AD #genderqueer #lgbtq🌈 #lovewins #genderisthematrix
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - I hadn’t posted on IG in a while because I’d been struggling emotionally. Not typically a New Years Resolution person, however this year mine was to choose to exist everyday of 2023. Really proud to say I’m still here and working through it. ❤️ Lost a lot this year, risked a lot this year, and experienced a lot of hard knocks.  From loss of loved ones via cancer to war to love- I thought I was good at compartmentalizing things that didn’t turn out well. It was a superpower I had obtained from living on the streets and moving about so much. Turns out, when I finally had a moment to sit still something  happened that I wasn’t expecting. In the situation of survival which requires fight, flight, or freeze- I tend to friend. When You don’t feel good- do good. But I found myself in the peculiar situation where I didn’t DO at all. I froze. FREEZE. 

See- I had kept myself busy busy busy working on any causes and issues but my own. I became an excellent coach and horrible player. Poured my soul into the souls of others and found value in providing value. When value should’ve already been felt regardless. Able to navigate others through chaos and unable to even breathe in the direction of my own. A lot of hard lessons were learned. A lot of growth I felt unprepared for was suddenly demanded. So. I froze. Pause. Process. The flood that occurred of all the tears uncried and all the personal needs neglected suffocated and seemed impossible to gasp through. The grief and grit. Every single day of 2023 has been a choice I made to be here. Here I am. 

After a 30 day detox from the mainfeed, I’m now ready to return with 12 new pieces of content created with the incredible @sareh.ovey - an Iranian refugee who was forced to flee Iran after photographing some clients without their hijabs. Massively talented human, Sareh now lives in Turkey and is working to resettle life. If anyone likes Sareh’s work and is interested in a Collab, Sareh can shoot, edit, and do all the design for photos   videos. A goal this year is to get Sareh an opp to shoot with @milanfashionweek - as they have pledged towards integrating global change initiatives. 

#LGBTQIA #activism #lovewins #stillhere
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - If You are in a space with a family member where You are scared to come out or You are currently being told that Your sexuality/identity isnt ok- I want You to know that You have permission to keep breathing. Keep moving. Keep investing in Yourself. Through time, space, unapologetic unwavering self love- things WILL change. I promise they will. Perhaps the person will shift their perspective. Perhaps You will shift Your priorities. Perhaps time will shift circumstances or context. My parent @mothernaturesmountain is an incredible person. She lives off the grid in the forest, a healer and herbalist. She taught me a lot of important lessons growing up- especially around how to forage, survive and be patient. We bonded even closer when my parents divorced after an abusive relationship and it felt like it was just her and I against a naysaying world. But then in highschool she discovered I was queer. And it didn’t go over well. At the time I was ashamed of who I was. Deeply. As a Christian I felt I was angering God and endangering the emotional health of my grandparents. I also felt- after everything my parent did for me the least I could do is just be normal. I never thought of being queer as a life of hardship for myself- but rather for my family who would have to be affiliated with me. So I tried to make up for it by taking myself out of the equation. I ran away across the country. Determined that I’d rather be homeless than a burden. And I was transient for years. Often my parent offered aid but I felt I didn’t deserve to take it because I felt guilty. Foggy cold nights, sleeping in my car trunk, in backyards and 24hr McDonald’s, broken tent cities, arrested for stealing food from WholeFoods and underwear from Target, dating people just to avoid being alone- I made myself a mess. Drinking. Lying. Hiding. Even when I started to stabilize. So many people wanted to love me but I couldn’t trust them. I was always an arms length apart from anyone I really liked to avoid losing them by never embracing them fully. But then one day my parent reached out in a way that was so pure. It began this healing process. And I couldn’t love anyone more than her. #queer #pride
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - What I wear is not my gender. At least not for me personally. Both of these are just extensions of my existence. They are not masculine or feminine to me. They do not define my sexuality. They are not intended to illustrate my political beliefs. They are just as they are. Things I like to wear when the weather gets warm. Illustrations of my personal aesthetic and artistic interests. 

And yet somehow, as much as I strive to steel off the obstacle of existing outside expectations- as much as I say to myself “do what You want, forget the gazes, giggles, glares and gasps.” I find myself processing everyday that while what I wear is not meant to be a battle against society- it does indeed wage war on the perception of “what, who, and how one should be in society”. It makes a seemingly simple activity like swimming the defiance of potential death and a political debate unsolicited on the beach. 

Does everything I do need to be something in which I have to survive? Must I accept that my existence is resistance and trick myself into believing somehow that it is a privilege to provoke so many people by merely donning a bit of fabric?

I’m proud I’ve survived this far. I’m not posting this because I’m tired or feeling sad for myself. I’m posting this because I’m bored. I’m flat out bored with so many people attempting to put others into their own expectations and shackling themselves to silly self regulations and regulations of others. I’m bored, checking my watch hoping for time to come when people are ready to finally be free. When people are willing to free others. You want to have limitations on Yourself, then in my opinion as long as You are choosing those limitations, it’s power. But please, for the love of all that is interesting and good, release people from Your gaze, grip, and guffaws. Because for some it’s deadly. And for everyone- it’s BORING. 

Anyways- if we went swimming somewhere that You really love where would we go? Lake? Sea? River? Pool? 

#beachbabe #lgbtq #fashion #beforeandafter #question #genderqueer
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - I’ve never wanted to be Cinderella- I’ve just wanted to be the person who told her that she would survive if she left her toxic stepfamily. The thought of being royalty turned my stomach- it seemed so hierarchal, boring and full of decisions I’d never want to make. Nah- it was a more  simple servitude I’d crave in my imagination. Anyone else feel that when watching shows about royalty and fairytale monarchs- that You would rather wear a tunic than a crown? 

Which would You be? The rescued? The rescuer? The advisor? The servant? The warrior? The royalty? The community gardener? Who do You imagine Yourself as?

Fascinatingly our answer can often uncover deeper truths about what we believe we deserve, where we see our purpose in the world, and what biases we harbor against our own existence that we have to work through. Aka- the conflict resolution within ourselves. 

#whoareyou #lgbtq #fairytales #cosplay #royalty #fashion #periodpiece #genderqueer
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *)

These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. 

I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 

3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination.

It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me.  After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!!

Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *)

These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. 

I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 

3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination.

It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me.  After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!!

Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *)

These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. 

I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 

3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination.

It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me.  After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!!

Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *)

These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. 

I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 

3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination.

It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me.  After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!!

Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - Found out I’m cancer free today! It’s been a heck of a year. One of fighting harder for life on every aspect than I’ve ever had to fight before- and across more spectrums of that statement than ever before. 

Ive spent the past year realigning internally, externally and communally. Giving this planet and myself everything I’ve got to give with every ounce of existence possible. 

And somehow, today, is the day where I finally feel the clear crisp start to the next chapter of who I am. And how I want to show up for You, this world and myself. 

Despite all the obstacles and the uncertainties of this era- I find myself daring… hoping… BELIEVING that this life has a lot of beauty ahead. That these will be one of the most meaningful and impactful years. That all the lessons, the truths, the trusts and the hard knocks have culminated in being more equipped for whatever the universe brings. 

I haven’t - and I wont - give up on pursuing purpose, art, possibility and a bit better of a planet for You too. Can’t wait for adventure to cross our paths. 

Thanks for sticking with me. For giving me grace to be the being I am. To grow and pivot. To try again and again better and better. I am so grateful for You and this community who have gifted me a safe space and who have reminded me to not give up. 

You’re a big reason why I’m alive today. ❤️ Here we go to the next chapter together! Up up up and up we go!

#lgbtqia #positivenews #goodvibes #letsgo #grateful
Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram - ‼️URGENT CALL TO ACTION‼️

🆘Two children, Rafif (13) and Rafik (15), are severely injured after bombing of their home. Their mother and 10 other family members were killed.

🆘They are immobile and stranded in #AlShifa Hospital. Their extensive and life threatening wounds require constant care - but, instead, their guardians and medical staff were forcibly removed from the hospital. Like all the other patients at Al Shifa, including children, they are completely alone, in pain and have not eaten in 4 days. This is utterly horrifying: NO CHILD should be in this situation. They require urgent medical attention and URGENT EVACUATION.

🔉We are calling on the UK Government, WHO and UN OCHA to act immediately and save Rafif and Rafik, as well as the hundreds of other patients.

🚨REPOST, STORY & TAG
@ukgovofficial @ukhomeoffice @un_ocha @who @drtedros 

#EvacuateRR
Rain Dove Dubilewski - 56.5K Likes - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.

56.5K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all. We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. I’ll add more in the comments below. #lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ folx and their allies.
Likes : 56507
Rain Dove Dubilewski - 56.5K Likes - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.

56.5K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all. We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. I’ll add more in the comments below. #lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ folx and their allies.
Likes : 56507
Rain Dove Dubilewski - 56.5K Likes - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.

56.5K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all. We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. I’ll add more in the comments below. #lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ folx and their allies.
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 56.5K Likes - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.

56.5K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all. We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. I’ll add more in the comments below. #lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ folx and their allies.
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 56.5K Likes - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.

56.5K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all. We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. I’ll add more in the comments below. #lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ folx and their allies.
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 56.5K Likes - Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ  people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ  Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq  identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. 

This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq  liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all.  We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. 

 I’ll add more in the comments below.

#lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime 

Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ  people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. 

PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ  folx and their allies.

56.5K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : Don’t let propaganda lie to you. I lived. Our team lived. Local LGBTQ people are living. It’s true that LGBTQ Gazan Palestinians experience oppression. Their stories of their experiences are valid. The Gazan Palestinian community also isn’t a monolithic one, and many many people support lgbtq identities from within. Additionally, people are trying to use the conservative values the government of Gaza to shut down any calls for humanitarian aid to all Gazan Palestinians. To justify harm to Palestinian people as a whole. This egregious lie can not succeed. The Gazan Palestinian people are by and large a loving, giving, kind people. They are nonviolent and welcoming. Some may have a road to travel for lgbtq liberation to exist- but also… they need a road to travel at all. We must not discard our humanity just because humanity has discarded us. I’ll add more in the comments below. #lovewins #lgbtqia #nonbinary #storytime Ps: This piece of content was reviewed and approved by Gazan Palestinian LGBTQ people. The content was requested by the community and is centering my experience by request for impact and for allyship. It additionally was reviewed by Jewish individuals and Allie’s with Israeli passports to ensure that it doesn’t contain antisemitic remarks or calls to violence. PPS: our cash aid program is verified, the only direct cash to hand program for Gazan Palestinians working specifically with the Palestinian Embassy to get to the most dire cases. It’s run by local LGBTQ folx and their allies.
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 55.1K Likes - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

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Caption : Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. #lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo (This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 55.1K Likes - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

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Caption : Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. #lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo (This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 55.1K Likes - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

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Caption : Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. #lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo (This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 55.1K Likes - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

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Caption : Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. #lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo (This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 55.1K Likes - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

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Caption : Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. #lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo (This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 55.1K Likes - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

(This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)

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Caption : Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. #lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo (This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 55.1K Likes - Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA  identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. 

If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. 

Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo 

(This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)

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Caption : Love is a complicated thing. Many parents are terrified of what it actually means. They know that they must make a safe space for their children- but also they worry that if they do not provide a basic sense of guidance for them that they may stray off a stable path towards a destination full of bumps and brambles. It’s a very valid feeling. Almost every parent who is oppositional to LGBTQPIA identities tells me the same thing “Love is not complicity” or “Love is not letting my kid do whatever they want”. While it’s true- parenting comes with the hard task of setting boundaries as well as opening possibilities- one thing parents often forget is that while they are guardians of their kids, they are not the masters of their kids. They may have legal custody of them, but they do not truly own them. Even if they are the ones that birthed them. The moment that being is in the world, the them that they are will never be Yours to do with what You will. Your place is not to make them, but rather to share space with them that will help them be the being they were born to be. That may be difficult- because who they are may not be who You envisioned. But it will be ok. Teach them not to get in their own or another being’s way fo food, shelter, water, safety. Teach them compassion and the ability to set their own boundaries. Teach them self care. If You are afraid it’s not enough- that perhaps Your loved one will miss out if You don’t get something specific into their mind other than the above- feel free to reach out. We can chat through it. I know religion, culture sexpectations and family tradition can be hard to work through- but we have got You. You’re not alone. Ps the being in the post- their name is Brine and at the moment Brine is a THEY/HE. If You want to affirm their identity feel free to support them in the comments below. He knows I am posting this. #lgbtqia #lgbtq #genderfluid #transgender #parenting #debate #conflictresolution #letsgo (This post has been modified and the screen name hidden to protect the individual. This is an ongoing dialogue.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 49K Likes - Walking home as societally femme vs societally masc may seem to be obviously safer for the masc individual. And it is. I tried over 200 night walks in 2018-2019 in both “masc” and “femme” looks (by societal standards) in 14 large cities and 17 small towns. Needless to say, I was absolutely heckled more when perceived as “femme”. Followed home at times, touched without consent, and even stopped for questioning by people curious as to where I was going or if I was trans. However, there were some things during my night walks I also monitored that I’ve never shared before- and they were regarding socio-economic accessibility. (1) I tried boarding busses at night without fare in men’s and women’s attire. I was granted more free fares as perceived male than female by about 2.5x. (2) I was less likely to get a ticket when caught jumping the turnstiles illegally for the train. As a “femme” I racked up 6 tickets vs 11 as “masc”. (3) I was equally as likely to be lent a phone by a stranger I’d asked to call “for a ride”. Flat even- and that one really surprised me. 

Why did this study matter? As a person who’s experienced poverty for a good portion of my life, getting home was more than just “walking there without getting touched/heckled”. It was also navigating the little things like not affording transportation or a phone service. I wanted to understand what the world would be likely to offer me in either “gender/sex” perception- so I knew what needed to be dismantled and how to survive should I need to. 

Did any of these surprise You? How do You think we would do getting home from Your city/town center to Your home? Would it be any different?

NOTE: My experiment pertains to My own being only and may not be accurate for other people of other aesthetics, intersectionalities or locations. The purpose of this was not to support the division of treatment but to clearly illustrate if I as ONE being can be granted various privileges or punishments based on the simple assumption of sex/gender. 

Photo by @mattlicari 

#lgbtq #genderfluid #genderqueer #gendercapitalism #storytime #comparison #nonbinary #binaryexpert

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Caption : Walking home as societally femme vs societally masc may seem to be obviously safer for the masc individual. And it is. I tried over 200 night walks in 2018-2019 in both “masc” and “femme” looks (by societal standards) in 14 large cities and 17 small towns. Needless to say, I was absolutely heckled more when perceived as “femme”. Followed home at times, touched without consent, and even stopped for questioning by people curious as to where I was going or if I was trans. However, there were some things during my night walks I also monitored that I’ve never shared before- and they were regarding socio-economic accessibility. (1) I tried boarding busses at night without fare in men’s and women’s attire. I was granted more free fares as perceived male than female by about 2.5x. (2) I was less likely to get a ticket when caught jumping the turnstiles illegally for the train. As a “femme” I racked up 6 tickets vs 11 as “masc”. (3) I was equally as likely to be lent a phone by a stranger I’d asked to call “for a ride”. Flat even- and that one really surprised me. Why did this study matter? As a person who’s experienced poverty for a good portion of my life, getting home was more than just “walking there without getting touched/heckled”. It was also navigating the little things like not affording transportation or a phone service. I wanted to understand what the world would be likely to offer me in either “gender/sex” perception- so I knew what needed to be dismantled and how to survive should I need to. Did any of these surprise You? How do You think we would do getting home from Your city/town center to Your home? Would it be any different? NOTE: My experiment pertains to My own being only and may not be accurate for other people of other aesthetics, intersectionalities or locations. The purpose of this was not to support the division of treatment but to clearly illustrate if I as ONE being can be granted various privileges or punishments based on the simple assumption of sex/gender. Photo by @mattlicari #lgbtq #genderfluid #genderqueer #gendercapitalism #storytime #comparison #nonbinary #binaryexpert
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 43.2K Likes - I refuse to let the F on my birth certificate be synonymous with FEAR. I refuse to let FEAR be synonymous with Fabric. My dysphoria is not with my Flesh. It is with sexpectations, society and Fictious Fabrications of who I must be based on who has come before me with adjacent genitalia. The I that I am is not merely an Idea. The I that I am is a series of intentions, actions, and experiences. 

My identity is the I am I. If You wish to attempt to Limit Me with Language, just know that the I that is I can not cease to exist but already does will and has. You may take away my freedom of body, my freedom of speech- but You will never take away what truly makes Me free. The Me that is Me. It is beyond tangibility and touch. It is beyond Your grasp. 

I am I. Forever, then and now. I will not cease to be I because if I do then I give permission and proof for You to cease to be You. And for Us to cease to be Us. 

I am I. Are You You?

On a train tomorrow so I have extra time! I’ll reply to the first 300 comments :) Ask me anything. 

#lovewins #whoworeitbetter #lgbtqia #genderfluid #genderqueer #iami

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Caption : I refuse to let the F on my birth certificate be synonymous with FEAR. I refuse to let FEAR be synonymous with Fabric. My dysphoria is not with my Flesh. It is with sexpectations, society and Fictious Fabrications of who I must be based on who has come before me with adjacent genitalia. The I that I am is not merely an Idea. The I that I am is a series of intentions, actions, and experiences. My identity is the I am I. If You wish to attempt to Limit Me with Language, just know that the I that is I can not cease to exist but already does will and has. You may take away my freedom of body, my freedom of speech- but You will never take away what truly makes Me free. The Me that is Me. It is beyond tangibility and touch. It is beyond Your grasp. I am I. Forever, then and now. I will not cease to be I because if I do then I give permission and proof for You to cease to be You. And for Us to cease to be Us. I am I. Are You You? On a train tomorrow so I have extra time! I’ll reply to the first 300 comments 🙂 Ask me anything. #lovewins #whoworeitbetter #lgbtqia #genderfluid #genderqueer #iami
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 37.9K Likes - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !

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Caption : My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures – we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. #KelseyForLila & #LilaBard #disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 37.9K Likes - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !

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Caption : My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures – we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. #KelseyForLila & #LilaBard #disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 37.9K Likes - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !

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Caption : My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures – we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. #KelseyForLila & #LilaBard #disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 37.9K Likes - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !

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Caption : My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures – we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. #KelseyForLila & #LilaBard #disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 37.9K Likes - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !

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Caption : My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures – we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. #KelseyForLila & #LilaBard #disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 37.9K Likes - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !

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Caption : My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures – we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. #KelseyForLila & #LilaBard #disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 37.9K Likes - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !

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Caption : My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures – we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. #KelseyForLila & #LilaBard #disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 37.9K Likes - My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures - we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting  characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! 

To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. 

#KelseyForLila & #LilaBard 

#disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !

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Caption : My partner has a glass eye. Because of it she has been time and time again denied auditions when the casting directors find out. Opportunities ripped away. Insults subtly handed behind the camera “Sorry but it’s just too distracting. Sorry but it’s not relatable. Sorry but… this isn’t that kind of film. It’s more for families…” She’s heard it all and throughout this pandemic with in home castings… so have I. I’m tired of it for her- but she always just rolls forward with a grin on her face anyways. That’s why when we saw the role of one eyed street thief Lila Bard (from “A Darker Shade of Magic” by @veschwab ) was up for casting by @sonypictures – we both knew that this was one time that it was worth fighting for a chance. An audition. Despite being professionally trained as an actor, Kelsey (like many actors with a disability) doesn’t have a major agent. As a result we were worried she may not get an a opportunity to be seen. That’s why the community came together and rallied behind her to create one of the most extra auditions ever. And the cast/crew is comprised of lgbtq, BIPOC, beings with disabilities. Including neurodiverse DP @petrosofsparta . This project will be coming to my IGTV on Monday and I am going to work my butt off to get it 1 million views so We can show that actors with disabilities ARE desired- and when casting characters with disabilities they should be prioritized over able bodied ones. We believe @sonypictures knows how important this is! But just in case- we are going to try because life is an adventure. GOOGLE Lila Bard. She looks like Kelsey, has a glass eye in the same eye, is from the same nation and has epic knife skills like Kelsey! To support simply share this post and/or when the video is out on Monday. TYPE “Kelsey For Lila” below and We will respond to every comment possible within 24 hours. #KelseyForLila & #LilaBard #disabilityawareness #disabilitypride #disabilityinclusion #loveislove thank You for the @dailymail article @drewjbullock !
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 33.7K Likes - I receive 1-300 messages a day and this one was one of my favorites today. It was the second one I read and it just made me giggle. Since they are couped up at home unable to get validation for their wit, humor and identity from their family- do You mind commenting below that You found this joke funny/clever? (Only if You did of course!). Alternatively if You have a good joke to gift back to this being I think they would really love it! 

Thanks for cheering me up brilliant being. 

#lgbtqia #lgbtqmemes #comedy #memes #nonbinary #genderfluid #lovewins

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Caption : I receive 1-300 messages a day and this one was one of my favorites today. It was the second one I read and it just made me giggle. Since they are couped up at home unable to get validation for their wit, humor and identity from their family- do You mind commenting below that You found this joke funny/clever? (Only if You did of course!). Alternatively if You have a good joke to gift back to this being I think they would really love it! Thanks for cheering me up brilliant being. #lgbtqia #lgbtqmemes #comedy #memes #nonbinary #genderfluid #lovewins
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 32.5K Likes - Tell me your name- your true name, the one You know yourself to be- and we will say it back. Add Your pronouns for extra love. I will respond to every comment on this post made in the next 48 hours. Proud to be your family and see You as You. 

I want to thank the amazing designers on @makingthecuttv for supporting me this month. These designs (like the one I’m wearing) have been awesome! They’ve been incredibly supportive of intersectional voices and a delight to watch on @amazonprimevideo . If You want to support them check their looks on @amazonfashion or @amazonfashioneu 
#ad #genderqueer #fashion #lgbtqia #resource #trans #nonbinary You don’t need to be queer, trans or NB to post.

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Caption : Tell me your name- your true name, the one You know yourself to be- and we will say it back. Add Your pronouns for extra love. I will respond to every comment on this post made in the next 48 hours. Proud to be your family and see You as You. I want to thank the amazing designers on @makingthecuttv for supporting me this month. These designs (like the one I’m wearing) have been awesome! They’ve been incredibly supportive of intersectional voices and a delight to watch on @amazonprimevideo . If You want to support them check their looks on @amazonfashion or @amazonfashioneu #ad #genderqueer #fashion #lgbtqia #resource #trans #nonbinary You don’t need to be queer, trans or NB to post.
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 29.4K Likes - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
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One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

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I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)

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Caption : Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 29.4K Likes - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
————————————-

One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

——————————

I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)

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Caption : Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 29.4K Likes - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
————————————-

One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

——————————

I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)

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Caption : Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 29.4K Likes - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
————————————-

One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

——————————

I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)

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Caption : Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 29.4K Likes - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
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One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

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I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)

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Caption : Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 29.4K Likes - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
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One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

——————————

I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)

29.4K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 29.4K Likes - Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. 
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One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.”

——————————

I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. 

It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? 

For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. 

#lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink 

(The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)

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Caption : Paula is trying to do the right thing- but it can be confusing in this era of information. I know she will likely read this and the comments below, so if You have anything additional You want to say to her she will likely read it! Or if You just want to let her or Izz/Isabelle know that they aren’t alone- that could be lifesaving. ————————————- One thing I rarely tell people is that I have a mantra I wrote and say whenever I get feedback from others on how I can be better. I go over it anytime I’ve made a mistake or proven I still have something to learn. (Because when I make a blunder, I’m notified of it usually by hundreds of people- so this truly became a necessity). This mantra I’ve found to be useful in this time of great shifting and education. Feel free to use it if You like- there’s nothing wrong if it’s not Your cup of tea. The mantra goes. “I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love.” —————————— I am not afraid to grow. I am not afraid to evolve. I am not afraid to be corrected. I am not afraid to be educated. I am not afraid to try. I am not afraid to love. It is an honor to expand who I am and how I communicate. I consider it a necessary form of service and one of the purest ways to express my love. Listening. Applying. Shifting. What about You? Is growing hard sometimes? For those who speak up or guide- please keep holding the world to account. You don’t need a blue check mark to have valid wisdom, education and contribution. If the world can be a better place, continue to say so. It won’t always be easy, but it’ll always be worth it. You are a person of important perspectives which when shared can often unlock welded doors of possibility. #lgbtqia #trans #parenting #parentingmemes #dialogue #conversation #whatdoyouthink (The posted screenshots reflect a real conversation. The images have been modified to fit this platform and protect the identity of the original communicator.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 26K Likes - Often we are told to choose. Choose a label. Choose a name. Choose a pronoun. Choose a style. Choose. Choose. Choose. But You have already chosen- your cells and the universe has already chosen. You are You. It's that simple- and it can not always be defined by sound. Tell me one thing You love about Yourself that's unique below and I'll Cheers to that! 

If You like exploring things as unique as Yourself, I just gave the new @tiamariadrink (available at Tesco) a shot- it's Matcha flavored?! And it was really great!
#TiaMariaMatcha #OneofaKind #DrinkResponsibly #LGBTQ #adv #takeyourmatchatime

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Caption : Often we are told to choose. Choose a label. Choose a name. Choose a pronoun. Choose a style. Choose. Choose. Choose. But You have already chosen- your cells and the universe has already chosen. You are You. It’s that simple- and it can not always be defined by sound. Tell me one thing You love about Yourself that’s unique below and I’ll Cheers to that! If You like exploring things as unique as Yourself, I just gave the new @tiamariadrink (available at Tesco) a shot- it’s Matcha flavored?! And it was really great! #TiaMariaMatcha #OneofaKind #DrinkResponsibly #LGBTQ #adv #takeyourmatchatime
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 24K Likes - What’s the genderless/all gender doll name they’d give to a Ken/Barbie hybrid? 
Or are they all genderless? I love that Barbie and Ken just have universal  smooth bumps under their pants and yet are both very clear on their identity and pronoun choice. 

The world of Barbie was one I avoided growing up, yet felt compared to. I didn’t see myself or my closest friends represented by this very popular culture icon and didn’t give it a chance as a result. In fact, I was angry at it. Especially for how it culturally set a tone that fat bodies weren’t desired and that there were only two options of identity. Boy. Girl. 

At McDonalds as a kid, on the rare opportunity that I went, they offered Barbie or Hot Wheels. I chose Hot Wheels every time. I didn’t need some piece of plastic reminding me that I wasn’t “ideal” by society. 

However, over the past few years I got reintroduced to the world of Barbie. And while it has a lot of work to do, I have to say that I had missed all of the hard work the employees put into expanding out Barbies message   world of friends to make it more inclusive. Conversations about body types, functioning, learning new things about new people- some of them were really high level things we all needed to hear. 

What I took away from that was a reminder that people can change. And those people will change businesses. Politics. Schools. And communities. If we continue to share our stories and stick together- uplift messages of what we need- You be surprised at just how many others will expand as well. 

#genderless #barbiethemovie #ken #lgbtqia #whatdoyouthink

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Caption : What’s the genderless/all gender doll name they’d give to a Ken/Barbie hybrid? Or are they all genderless? I love that Barbie and Ken just have universal smooth bumps under their pants and yet are both very clear on their identity and pronoun choice. The world of Barbie was one I avoided growing up, yet felt compared to. I didn’t see myself or my closest friends represented by this very popular culture icon and didn’t give it a chance as a result. In fact, I was angry at it. Especially for how it culturally set a tone that fat bodies weren’t desired and that there were only two options of identity. Boy. Girl. At McDonalds as a kid, on the rare opportunity that I went, they offered Barbie or Hot Wheels. I chose Hot Wheels every time. I didn’t need some piece of plastic reminding me that I wasn’t “ideal” by society. However, over the past few years I got reintroduced to the world of Barbie. And while it has a lot of work to do, I have to say that I had missed all of the hard work the employees put into expanding out Barbies message world of friends to make it more inclusive. Conversations about body types, functioning, learning new things about new people- some of them were really high level things we all needed to hear. What I took away from that was a reminder that people can change. And those people will change businesses. Politics. Schools. And communities. If we continue to share our stories and stick together- uplift messages of what we need- You be surprised at just how many others will expand as well. #genderless #barbiethemovie #ken #lgbtqia #whatdoyouthink
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 22.7K Likes - I can’t deny biology right? I’m a boy or girl and that’s it. It’s ALL on the birth certificate. While I understand the desire to homogenize who I am by who has existed before me and the possible basic adjacent characteristics I may have to others from flesh to mind- to call me simply “She” or “He” feels akin to lazily saying one sees “a color of the rainbow”. In reality there are over 18 Decillion colors to perceive. (It’s true look it up). It’s not accurate enough for me to be called “she” or “he”. It’s not fair enough. It’s not true enough. 

When one talks about me as a person and says “SHE did this”- what does “SHE” even do to the conversation? Why SHE? What accuracy is provided to me by the term “SHE”? When so many have been called “SHE” before? A vision begins to pain in the recipients head, a slew of expectation from all the other “SHE”s they’ve ever met. How I could be, what I could be wearing, why I could be doing what I’m doing, what I may do next. All based on what other “she’s” have done. Not based on what what I have done as I. Frankly, it’s seemingly a lot of extra work for everyone. And the recipient has to unwind what they know about “she” to add me to their expectations.

I flinch at the sexpectations and expectations, obstacles, laws and looks that are based around the sound of a “gender”/“sex”. I refuse to participate. 

When it comes to others using “he” or “she” I will always respect the language and identity of an individual that they have for themselves. Many have fought, suffered, survived & sacrificed for the right to be respected in these sounds. I don’t see my way of existing/identifying as superior to anyone else’s. It’s just what works for me personally and it’s what feels right. 
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If someone can’t use the language I use for myself, I’ve let go of trying to control that. I do not need verbal validation for my truth to exist. However, should one call me She or He and treat me to a lesser standard on the basis of sexpectation affiliated to those sounds- I WILL challenge them with all the power of my being. 

Am I safe with You? (Will answer as many comments as possible!)
#genderqueer #lgbtq #memesdaily #iami 📸 @colesprouse

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Caption : I can’t deny biology right? I’m a boy or girl and that’s it. It’s ALL on the birth certificate. While I understand the desire to homogenize who I am by who has existed before me and the possible basic adjacent characteristics I may have to others from flesh to mind- to call me simply “She” or “He” feels akin to lazily saying one sees “a color of the rainbow”. In reality there are over 18 Decillion colors to perceive. (It’s true look it up). It’s not accurate enough for me to be called “she” or “he”. It’s not fair enough. It’s not true enough. When one talks about me as a person and says “SHE did this”- what does “SHE” even do to the conversation? Why SHE? What accuracy is provided to me by the term “SHE”? When so many have been called “SHE” before? A vision begins to pain in the recipients head, a slew of expectation from all the other “SHE”s they’ve ever met. How I could be, what I could be wearing, why I could be doing what I’m doing, what I may do next. All based on what other “she’s” have done. Not based on what what I have done as I. Frankly, it’s seemingly a lot of extra work for everyone. And the recipient has to unwind what they know about “she” to add me to their expectations. I flinch at the sexpectations and expectations, obstacles, laws and looks that are based around the sound of a “gender”/“sex”. I refuse to participate. When it comes to others using “he” or “she” I will always respect the language and identity of an individual that they have for themselves. Many have fought, suffered, survived & sacrificed for the right to be respected in these sounds. I don’t see my way of existing/identifying as superior to anyone else’s. It’s just what works for me personally and it’s what feels right. ——————————- If someone can’t use the language I use for myself, I’ve let go of trying to control that. I do not need verbal validation for my truth to exist. However, should one call me She or He and treat me to a lesser standard on the basis of sexpectation affiliated to those sounds- I WILL challenge them with all the power of my being. Am I safe with You? (Will answer as many comments as possible!) #genderqueer #lgbtq #memesdaily #iami 📸 @colesprouse
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 22.7K Likes - For anyone who feels alone tonight- find Your community here. Right now. Type *HUG* in the comments and for the next 24 hours I’ll type *hug* back. Some other people may send you a hug too! Why? Because You deserve acknowledgement. You deserve my time. You deserve a moment that is all about You. I want to gift that to You because You have gifted me this space to raise voice, money, awareness and more. You’ve changed my life simply by clicking that “follow” button. Thank You. Thank You. Thank You. Thank You for getting me off the streets. Thank You for giving me support when I need to lean. Thank You for creating a community I can find anywhere in the world. 

This image by the way was taken for a @ukgap series featuring different voices. They invested into a really diverse array of community members and let people say what they wanted unfiltered. The crew was also reflective of our community. I really appreciate that. The reason I decided to hop on this shoot was as an homage to my roots. Gap was a working class brand in the USA. It’s what we wore because it was affordable and durable. While I was on the streets I had a Gap hoodie that lasted a full two years of hardcore outside conditions. It later became a comfort item when I got more stable. I’ve at times been teased for my Gap hoodie- but I don’t care. It’s survival represents my survival as a transient queer person. And Im not ashamed of that. 

Thanks for letting me tell my story @femalenarratives and @ukgap . Thank You for putting funds into our community all year round even outside of Pride. As with all Pride collaborations- funds from this post will be going to house transient LGBTQ individuals. If You need housing and are on the street DM me to register on the funding list. I am working hard to put  revenue generated off this platform into housing our community. Don’t be afraid to ask. 

#pridemonth #pride #genderfluid #genderqueerpride #bi #demi #lovewins #hug #findme #lovecommunity 

Photographer: @rosalineshahnavaz 
Stylist: @naifhen 
Make-up Artist: @poppyellah 
Videographer: @rancefilm partner @kelsey_ellison

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Caption : For anyone who feels alone tonight- find Your community here. Right now. Type *HUG* in the comments and for the next 24 hours I’ll type *hug* back. Some other people may send you a hug too! Why? Because You deserve acknowledgement. You deserve my time. You deserve a moment that is all about You. I want to gift that to You because You have gifted me this space to raise voice, money, awareness and more. You’ve changed my life simply by clicking that “follow” button. Thank You. Thank You. Thank You. Thank You for getting me off the streets. Thank You for giving me support when I need to lean. Thank You for creating a community I can find anywhere in the world. This image by the way was taken for a @ukgap series featuring different voices. They invested into a really diverse array of community members and let people say what they wanted unfiltered. The crew was also reflective of our community. I really appreciate that. The reason I decided to hop on this shoot was as an homage to my roots. Gap was a working class brand in the USA. It’s what we wore because it was affordable and durable. While I was on the streets I had a Gap hoodie that lasted a full two years of hardcore outside conditions. It later became a comfort item when I got more stable. I’ve at times been teased for my Gap hoodie- but I don’t care. It’s survival represents my survival as a transient queer person. And Im not ashamed of that. Thanks for letting me tell my story @femalenarratives and @ukgap . Thank You for putting funds into our community all year round even outside of Pride. As with all Pride collaborations- funds from this post will be going to house transient LGBTQ individuals. If You need housing and are on the street DM me to register on the funding list. I am working hard to put revenue generated off this platform into housing our community. Don’t be afraid to ask. #pridemonth #pride #genderfluid #genderqueerpride #bi #demi #lovewins #hug #findme #lovecommunity Photographer: @rosalineshahnavaz Stylist: @naifhen Make-up Artist: @poppyellah Videographer: @rancefilm partner @kelsey_ellison
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 22.1K Likes - Some of these suggestions are a bit controversial- but I’m gonna take a chance here. As You know, I bleed but I don’t identify as female. This menstrual cycle I did a bit of journaling on a few basic things regarding menstrual products that I’d like to see change before I leave this earth. 

-Dont use blue liquid in illustrations of menstrual blood on ads. Use something that looks like actual blood. Destigmatize bleeding by not tiptoeing. Be casually literal. We aren’t afraid to show placenta   birth blood and  blood from murders or fights on tv right?

-Get rid of the term “feminine products” in stores and adverts. That descriptor not only does nothing to illustrate the function of the product, but it’s also not accurate. And it puts a target on anyone that is purchasing but not “feminine” by societal standards.

-If a school has a uniform, make menstrual underwear a free part of it. For any student who requests them. No requirements to carry pads/tampons into school, makes menstruation part of school spirit, and keeps people supported. 

-Educate people about longterm usage items such as menstrual panties- phase out single use items as accessibility picks up.

-Put menstrual product dispensers in all restrooms despite the “gender/sex” on the door.

These are just a few things, what do You think? Anything You don’t agree with and why? The comments are being watched so whatever You say will possibly have a real impact!

Btw these panties are of course @chantelle_paris . And I'm really proud to say that they are rolling into a new era of inclusive language surrounding their menstrual underwear. I tried them during my menstrual cycle and they legit worked- which surprised me because tbh I was skeptical. And they didn’t feel like a diaper.

#ChantellePeriodPanties #ChantelleLife #genderqueer #menstrualhygieneday

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Caption : Some of these suggestions are a bit controversial- but I’m gonna take a chance here. As You know, I bleed but I don’t identify as female. This menstrual cycle I did a bit of journaling on a few basic things regarding menstrual products that I’d like to see change before I leave this earth.  -Dont use blue liquid in illustrations of menstrual blood on ads. Use something that looks like actual blood. Destigmatize bleeding by not tiptoeing. Be casually literal. We aren’t afraid to show placenta birth blood and  blood from murders or fights on tv right? -Get rid of the term “feminine products” in stores and adverts. That descriptor not only does nothing to illustrate the function of the product, but it’s also not accurate. And it puts a target on anyone that is purchasing but not “feminine” by societal standards. -If a school has a uniform, make menstrual underwear a free part of it. For any student who requests them. No requirements to carry pads/tampons into school, makes menstruation part of school spirit, and keeps people supported. -Educate people about longterm usage items such as menstrual panties- phase out single use items as accessibility picks up. -Put menstrual product dispensers in all restrooms despite the “gender/sex” on the door. These are just a few things, what do You think? Anything You don’t agree with and why? The comments are being watched so whatever You say will possibly have a real impact! Btw these panties are of course @chantelle_paris . And I’m really proud to say that they are rolling into a new era of inclusive language surrounding their menstrual underwear. I tried them during my menstrual cycle and they legit worked- which surprised me because tbh I was skeptical. And they didn’t feel like a diaper. #ChantellePeriodPanties #ChantelleLife #genderqueer #menstrualhygieneday
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 22.1K Likes - Some of these suggestions are a bit controversial- but I’m gonna take a chance here. As You know, I bleed but I don’t identify as female. This menstrual cycle I did a bit of journaling on a few basic things regarding menstrual products that I’d like to see change before I leave this earth. 

-Dont use blue liquid in illustrations of menstrual blood on ads. Use something that looks like actual blood. Destigmatize bleeding by not tiptoeing. Be casually literal. We aren’t afraid to show placenta   birth blood and  blood from murders or fights on tv right?

-Get rid of the term “feminine products” in stores and adverts. That descriptor not only does nothing to illustrate the function of the product, but it’s also not accurate. And it puts a target on anyone that is purchasing but not “feminine” by societal standards.

-If a school has a uniform, make menstrual underwear a free part of it. For any student who requests them. No requirements to carry pads/tampons into school, makes menstruation part of school spirit, and keeps people supported. 

-Educate people about longterm usage items such as menstrual panties- phase out single use items as accessibility picks up.

-Put menstrual product dispensers in all restrooms despite the “gender/sex” on the door.

These are just a few things, what do You think? Anything You don’t agree with and why? The comments are being watched so whatever You say will possibly have a real impact!

Btw these panties are of course @chantelle_paris . And I'm really proud to say that they are rolling into a new era of inclusive language surrounding their menstrual underwear. I tried them during my menstrual cycle and they legit worked- which surprised me because tbh I was skeptical. And they didn’t feel like a diaper.

#ChantellePeriodPanties #ChantelleLife #genderqueer #menstrualhygieneday

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Caption : Some of these suggestions are a bit controversial- but I’m gonna take a chance here. As You know, I bleed but I don’t identify as female. This menstrual cycle I did a bit of journaling on a few basic things regarding menstrual products that I’d like to see change before I leave this earth.  -Dont use blue liquid in illustrations of menstrual blood on ads. Use something that looks like actual blood. Destigmatize bleeding by not tiptoeing. Be casually literal. We aren’t afraid to show placenta birth blood and  blood from murders or fights on tv right? -Get rid of the term “feminine products” in stores and adverts. That descriptor not only does nothing to illustrate the function of the product, but it’s also not accurate. And it puts a target on anyone that is purchasing but not “feminine” by societal standards. -If a school has a uniform, make menstrual underwear a free part of it. For any student who requests them. No requirements to carry pads/tampons into school, makes menstruation part of school spirit, and keeps people supported. -Educate people about longterm usage items such as menstrual panties- phase out single use items as accessibility picks up. -Put menstrual product dispensers in all restrooms despite the “gender/sex” on the door. These are just a few things, what do You think? Anything You don’t agree with and why? The comments are being watched so whatever You say will possibly have a real impact! Btw these panties are of course @chantelle_paris . And I’m really proud to say that they are rolling into a new era of inclusive language surrounding their menstrual underwear. I tried them during my menstrual cycle and they legit worked- which surprised me because tbh I was skeptical. And they didn’t feel like a diaper. #ChantellePeriodPanties #ChantelleLife #genderqueer #menstrualhygieneday
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 22.1K Likes - Some of these suggestions are a bit controversial- but I’m gonna take a chance here. As You know, I bleed but I don’t identify as female. This menstrual cycle I did a bit of journaling on a few basic things regarding menstrual products that I’d like to see change before I leave this earth. 

-Dont use blue liquid in illustrations of menstrual blood on ads. Use something that looks like actual blood. Destigmatize bleeding by not tiptoeing. Be casually literal. We aren’t afraid to show placenta   birth blood and  blood from murders or fights on tv right?

-Get rid of the term “feminine products” in stores and adverts. That descriptor not only does nothing to illustrate the function of the product, but it’s also not accurate. And it puts a target on anyone that is purchasing but not “feminine” by societal standards.

-If a school has a uniform, make menstrual underwear a free part of it. For any student who requests them. No requirements to carry pads/tampons into school, makes menstruation part of school spirit, and keeps people supported. 

-Educate people about longterm usage items such as menstrual panties- phase out single use items as accessibility picks up.

-Put menstrual product dispensers in all restrooms despite the “gender/sex” on the door.

These are just a few things, what do You think? Anything You don’t agree with and why? The comments are being watched so whatever You say will possibly have a real impact!

Btw these panties are of course @chantelle_paris . And I'm really proud to say that they are rolling into a new era of inclusive language surrounding their menstrual underwear. I tried them during my menstrual cycle and they legit worked- which surprised me because tbh I was skeptical. And they didn’t feel like a diaper.

#ChantellePeriodPanties #ChantelleLife #genderqueer #menstrualhygieneday

22.1K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : Some of these suggestions are a bit controversial- but I’m gonna take a chance here. As You know, I bleed but I don’t identify as female. This menstrual cycle I did a bit of journaling on a few basic things regarding menstrual products that I’d like to see change before I leave this earth.  -Dont use blue liquid in illustrations of menstrual blood on ads. Use something that looks like actual blood. Destigmatize bleeding by not tiptoeing. Be casually literal. We aren’t afraid to show placenta birth blood and  blood from murders or fights on tv right? -Get rid of the term “feminine products” in stores and adverts. That descriptor not only does nothing to illustrate the function of the product, but it’s also not accurate. And it puts a target on anyone that is purchasing but not “feminine” by societal standards. -If a school has a uniform, make menstrual underwear a free part of it. For any student who requests them. No requirements to carry pads/tampons into school, makes menstruation part of school spirit, and keeps people supported. -Educate people about longterm usage items such as menstrual panties- phase out single use items as accessibility picks up. -Put menstrual product dispensers in all restrooms despite the “gender/sex” on the door. These are just a few things, what do You think? Anything You don’t agree with and why? The comments are being watched so whatever You say will possibly have a real impact! Btw these panties are of course @chantelle_paris . And I’m really proud to say that they are rolling into a new era of inclusive language surrounding their menstrual underwear. I tried them during my menstrual cycle and they legit worked- which surprised me because tbh I was skeptical. And they didn’t feel like a diaper. #ChantellePeriodPanties #ChantelleLife #genderqueer #menstrualhygieneday
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.8K Likes - It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. 

There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” 

Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. 

Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. 

But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. 

(These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.)

Photog: @austnfischer 
Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano 
Hair: @tizidima 
MUA: @miriamspanumakeup 
Styling: @francescakoof

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Caption : It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. (These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.) Photog: @austnfischer Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano Hair: @tizidima MUA: @miriamspanumakeup Styling: @francescakoof
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.8K Likes - It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. 

There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” 

Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. 

Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. 

But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. 

(These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.)

Photog: @austnfischer 
Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano 
Hair: @tizidima 
MUA: @miriamspanumakeup 
Styling: @francescakoof

21.8K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. (These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.) Photog: @austnfischer Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano Hair: @tizidima MUA: @miriamspanumakeup Styling: @francescakoof
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.8K Likes - It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. 

There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” 

Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. 

Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. 

But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. 

(These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.)

Photog: @austnfischer 
Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano 
Hair: @tizidima 
MUA: @miriamspanumakeup 
Styling: @francescakoof

21.8K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. (These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.) Photog: @austnfischer Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano Hair: @tizidima MUA: @miriamspanumakeup Styling: @francescakoof
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.8K Likes - It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. 

There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” 

Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. 

Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. 

But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. 

(These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.)

Photog: @austnfischer 
Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano 
Hair: @tizidima 
MUA: @miriamspanumakeup 
Styling: @francescakoof

21.8K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. (These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.) Photog: @austnfischer Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano Hair: @tizidima MUA: @miriamspanumakeup Styling: @francescakoof
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.8K Likes - It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. 

There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” 

Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. 

Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. 

But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. 

(These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.)

Photog: @austnfischer 
Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano 
Hair: @tizidima 
MUA: @miriamspanumakeup 
Styling: @francescakoof

21.8K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : It’s never ceases to amaze me how complicated such a simple concept is. How dangerous. How upsetting. To say simply “I am I” with no follow up or specifics of label. No pronouns. There is a feeling of being threatened. As if I’ve betrayed an entire collective of people for saying “Refer to me by the sound I have chosen for myself, Rain. Refer to me as my actions, expressions and intentions. Refer to me as Your personal experience with me.” Often, they insist I MUST have a pronoun. I MUST have an idea adhered to my name that can be referred to in its place so that I am a collective idea/energy. So that I am a familiar pattern of speech. But I refuse. Call me as You wish, I do not bark at those who chose a familiar pronoun and run with it. I will not spite You or correct You as it’s not personally offensive to me. I understand the addiction to familiarity and tradition. However, I will always feel a little closer, more trusting, and more connected to those who those who try to use only my name. Because it means, one cares . And regardless of care, I will reciprocate that respect to You too. Our keys to freedom are interlocked within each other. We can choose to provide it or choose to cage those around us. But know this. No matter what one says or does to try to shackle me to a “sound”, they will never successfully splinter the truth of who I am. Because it is indeed the simplest form of the truth. I am I. (These images were by @trevorsorbie who decided to rid gendered pricing from their salons. They took a “risk” that paid out successfully. In doing so they also freed their customers from sexpectations.) Photog: @austnfischer Creative Director : @giuseppebstelitano Hair: @tizidima MUA: @miriamspanumakeup Styling: @francescakoof
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.7K Likes - It’s my Birthday! And I’ve been thinking a lot about You- and Us! You may have noticed that over the past couple years- I’ve not posted very often. Partially because I’ve been on a journey, trying to figure out the best way to fully realize what I was born to do. Partially because I genuinely never thought I’d live this long. It’s been a wild day processing that I’ve even survived to this point. Survived society, survived fate, and survived myself. I’ve held back posting often because so many beings seem like Saints on this platform- and many people seem to be seeking that Sainthood for themselves. The truth is- my path to where I am has been a bumpy ride and I’ve faltered, stumbled, made mistakes and poor choices at times. I’ve never really been a pure person, because I’ve done a lot of things to survive that aren’t easy to talk about. While I’ve always tried to be a person of service- I’ve not always felt worthy of receiving help myself. However, the past couple years I’ve dedicated it to volunteering on everything from cleaning up after the Australian wildfires to organizing protests with Justice for Black Lives to delivering medication to shielding people during COVID. What was my place in the world and what was the corner I was meant to pick up? And it finally dawned on me. This space over the next year will be dedicated to being a space for anyone else trying to grow too- anyone who has faltered, stumbled or just needs to rest. Anyone trying to be better today than they were tomorrow. Anyone who believes that love is worth more than money. Anyone who has been abandoned or homeless in any sort of way. Anyone who enjoys, conflict resolution, fashion, film and activism. I’m not going to hide quietly anymore. I’ll be posting 3 days a week, highlighting the world, joy, and even showing l bts stuff of everyday life. (Something I also hid- because I felt it wasn’t important to post). Buckle up- this year will be the best yet! #lgbtq🌈 #genderqueer #birthday #lovewins

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Caption : It’s my Birthday! And I’ve been thinking a lot about You- and Us! You may have noticed that over the past couple years- I’ve not posted very often. Partially because I’ve been on a journey, trying to figure out the best way to fully realize what I was born to do. Partially because I genuinely never thought I’d live this long. It’s been a wild day processing that I’ve even survived to this point. Survived society, survived fate, and survived myself. I’ve held back posting often because so many beings seem like Saints on this platform- and many people seem to be seeking that Sainthood for themselves. The truth is- my path to where I am has been a bumpy ride and I’ve faltered, stumbled, made mistakes and poor choices at times. I’ve never really been a pure person, because I’ve done a lot of things to survive that aren’t easy to talk about. While I’ve always tried to be a person of service- I’ve not always felt worthy of receiving help myself. However, the past couple years I’ve dedicated it to volunteering on everything from cleaning up after the Australian wildfires to organizing protests with Justice for Black Lives to delivering medication to shielding people during COVID. What was my place in the world and what was the corner I was meant to pick up? And it finally dawned on me. This space over the next year will be dedicated to being a space for anyone else trying to grow too- anyone who has faltered, stumbled or just needs to rest. Anyone trying to be better today than they were tomorrow. Anyone who believes that love is worth more than money. Anyone who has been abandoned or homeless in any sort of way. Anyone who enjoys, conflict resolution, fashion, film and activism. I’m not going to hide quietly anymore. I’ll be posting 3 days a week, highlighting the world, joy, and even showing l bts stuff of everyday life. (Something I also hid- because I felt it wasn’t important to post). Buckle up- this year will be the best yet! #lgbtq🌈 #genderqueer #birthday #lovewins
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.7K Likes - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)

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Caption : Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.7K Likes - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)

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Caption : Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.7K Likes - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)

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Caption : Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.7K Likes - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)

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Caption : Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.7K Likes - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)

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Caption : Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.7K Likes - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)

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Caption : Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.7K Likes - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)

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Caption : Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.7K Likes - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)

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Caption : Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.7K Likes - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)

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Caption : Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.7K Likes - Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. 

The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. 

Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. 

We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. 

If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. 

I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean.  And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. 

#lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily 
(This is an older conversation  which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)

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Caption : Contains References to Recognizing Abuse: This being goes by the pseudonym “CARRIE” and 1 year later she is safely in a new space… but the process wasn’t easy. It took a lot of healing. The other being was visited by community members and mental health professionals and is now in a much healthier place but the work is ongoing. Abuse can exist in all formats of relationships. Yet in the LGBTQPIAD community we can really overlook it or excuse from our partner or ourselves more than other dynamics… because we DO understand the impacts of trauma. Because love IS especially precious and hard won. Because we don’t want people to think we are unhealthy as a community… since they already try to demonize us for so many other things. We often stay in dynamics long than we should and we often don’t get help because it’s not affordable, accessible, or it terrifies us. But we need it- all humans need and deserve support through their traumas and life. If You are a person who doesn’t feel safe with Your partner, heard, equal or loved- just know that we are here to support whatever journey You need to take to be in a safe space. You are not a bad person or weak for stepping away. And stepping away doesn’t mean that your relationship has to end- it simply sets a boundary that it has to improve for You to jump back in. I know resources are severely underfunded in many places to get assistance- but we will do our best. Look at local organizations and don’t be afraid to lean. And if You are part of the queer community- it doesn’t mean You need to only look at queer resources for assistance. These are many food shelters, government programs, and other charities related to violence survival available for You. A few places I want to shout out is @rainn @trevorproject and @galopuk there are so many more. Feel free to tag one below- let’s make this post a resource. And also- feel free to let “CARRIE” know that leaving was the right choice. It was one of the hardest things she’s had to do. #lgbtqia #lovewins #survivor #goodnews #dialogue #memesdaily (This is an older conversation which has been modified to fit this platform format. The events in this dialogue are true.)
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 21.5K Likes - According to my birth certificate, I am appropriately dressed today. This is what a pretty ‘girl’ looks like. 😉 If You are AFAB and look like this in a dress too- I want You to know You don’t need to identify as non-binary or trans. You can still identify as feminine and female. This IS what a pretty girl looks like. You ARE what a pretty girl looks like. Our identities are not exclusively our aesthetics. Do You agree? 

Speaking of which I go this dress from @makingthecuttv by @amazonprimevideo - it was the winning look! The designers this season are also pushing the boundaries of fashion dialogue and I think it’s important to see this happening on such a mainstream platform. If You like what I’m wearing (or anything from my next couple posts featuring Making the Cut looks) You can click the link in my bio to snag it off from @amazonfashion @amazonfashioneu ! 

#Makingthecut #AD #genderqueer #lgbtq🌈 #lovewins #genderisthematrix

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Caption : According to my birth certificate, I am appropriately dressed today. This is what a pretty ‘girl’ looks like. 😉 If You are AFAB and look like this in a dress too- I want You to know You don’t need to identify as non-binary or trans. You can still identify as feminine and female. This IS what a pretty girl looks like. You ARE what a pretty girl looks like. Our identities are not exclusively our aesthetics. Do You agree? Speaking of which I go this dress from @makingthecuttv by @amazonprimevideo – it was the winning look! The designers this season are also pushing the boundaries of fashion dialogue and I think it’s important to see this happening on such a mainstream platform. If You like what I’m wearing (or anything from my next couple posts featuring Making the Cut looks) You can click the link in my bio to snag it off from @amazonfashion @amazonfashioneu ! #Makingthecut #AD #genderqueer #lgbtq🌈 #lovewins #genderisthematrix
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 20.3K Likes - I hadn’t posted on IG in a while because I’d been struggling emotionally. Not typically a New Years Resolution person, however this year mine was to choose to exist everyday of 2023. Really proud to say I’m still here and working through it. ❤️ Lost a lot this year, risked a lot this year, and experienced a lot of hard knocks.  From loss of loved ones via cancer to war to love- I thought I was good at compartmentalizing things that didn’t turn out well. It was a superpower I had obtained from living on the streets and moving about so much. Turns out, when I finally had a moment to sit still something  happened that I wasn’t expecting. In the situation of survival which requires fight, flight, or freeze- I tend to friend. When You don’t feel good- do good. But I found myself in the peculiar situation where I didn’t DO at all. I froze. FREEZE. 

See- I had kept myself busy busy busy working on any causes and issues but my own. I became an excellent coach and horrible player. Poured my soul into the souls of others and found value in providing value. When value should’ve already been felt regardless. Able to navigate others through chaos and unable to even breathe in the direction of my own. A lot of hard lessons were learned. A lot of growth I felt unprepared for was suddenly demanded. So. I froze. Pause. Process. The flood that occurred of all the tears uncried and all the personal needs neglected suffocated and seemed impossible to gasp through. The grief and grit. Every single day of 2023 has been a choice I made to be here. Here I am. 

After a 30 day detox from the mainfeed, I’m now ready to return with 12 new pieces of content created with the incredible @sareh.ovey - an Iranian refugee who was forced to flee Iran after photographing some clients without their hijabs. Massively talented human, Sareh now lives in Turkey and is working to resettle life. If anyone likes Sareh’s work and is interested in a Collab, Sareh can shoot, edit, and do all the design for photos   videos. A goal this year is to get Sareh an opp to shoot with @milanfashionweek - as they have pledged towards integrating global change initiatives. 

#LGBTQIA #activism #lovewins #stillhere

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Caption : I hadn’t posted on IG in a while because I’d been struggling emotionally. Not typically a New Years Resolution person, however this year mine was to choose to exist everyday of 2023. Really proud to say I’m still here and working through it. ❤️ Lost a lot this year, risked a lot this year, and experienced a lot of hard knocks. From loss of loved ones via cancer to war to love- I thought I was good at compartmentalizing things that didn’t turn out well. It was a superpower I had obtained from living on the streets and moving about so much. Turns out, when I finally had a moment to sit still something happened that I wasn’t expecting. In the situation of survival which requires fight, flight, or freeze- I tend to friend. When You don’t feel good- do good. But I found myself in the peculiar situation where I didn’t DO at all. I froze. FREEZE. See- I had kept myself busy busy busy working on any causes and issues but my own. I became an excellent coach and horrible player. Poured my soul into the souls of others and found value in providing value. When value should’ve already been felt regardless. Able to navigate others through chaos and unable to even breathe in the direction of my own. A lot of hard lessons were learned. A lot of growth I felt unprepared for was suddenly demanded. So. I froze. Pause. Process. The flood that occurred of all the tears uncried and all the personal needs neglected suffocated and seemed impossible to gasp through. The grief and grit. Every single day of 2023 has been a choice I made to be here. Here I am. After a 30 day detox from the mainfeed, I’m now ready to return with 12 new pieces of content created with the incredible @sareh.ovey – an Iranian refugee who was forced to flee Iran after photographing some clients without their hijabs. Massively talented human, Sareh now lives in Turkey and is working to resettle life. If anyone likes Sareh’s work and is interested in a Collab, Sareh can shoot, edit, and do all the design for photos videos. A goal this year is to get Sareh an opp to shoot with @milanfashionweek – as they have pledged towards integrating global change initiatives. #LGBTQIA #activism #lovewins #stillhere
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 17.9K Likes - If You are in a space with a family member where You are scared to come out or You are currently being told that Your sexuality/identity isnt ok- I want You to know that You have permission to keep breathing. Keep moving. Keep investing in Yourself. Through time, space, unapologetic unwavering self love- things WILL change. I promise they will. Perhaps the person will shift their perspective. Perhaps You will shift Your priorities. Perhaps time will shift circumstances or context. My parent @mothernaturesmountain is an incredible person. She lives off the grid in the forest, a healer and herbalist. She taught me a lot of important lessons growing up- especially around how to forage, survive and be patient. We bonded even closer when my parents divorced after an abusive relationship and it felt like it was just her and I against a naysaying world. But then in highschool she discovered I was queer. And it didn’t go over well. At the time I was ashamed of who I was. Deeply. As a Christian I felt I was angering God and endangering the emotional health of my grandparents. I also felt- after everything my parent did for me the least I could do is just be normal. I never thought of being queer as a life of hardship for myself- but rather for my family who would have to be affiliated with me. So I tried to make up for it by taking myself out of the equation. I ran away across the country. Determined that I’d rather be homeless than a burden. And I was transient for years. Often my parent offered aid but I felt I didn’t deserve to take it because I felt guilty. Foggy cold nights, sleeping in my car trunk, in backyards and 24hr McDonald’s, broken tent cities, arrested for stealing food from WholeFoods and underwear from Target, dating people just to avoid being alone- I made myself a mess. Drinking. Lying. Hiding. Even when I started to stabilize. So many people wanted to love me but I couldn’t trust them. I was always an arms length apart from anyone I really liked to avoid losing them by never embracing them fully. But then one day my parent reached out in a way that was so pure. It began this healing process. And I couldn’t love anyone more than her. #queer #pride

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Caption : If You are in a space with a family member where You are scared to come out or You are currently being told that Your sexuality/identity isnt ok- I want You to know that You have permission to keep breathing. Keep moving. Keep investing in Yourself. Through time, space, unapologetic unwavering self love- things WILL change. I promise they will. Perhaps the person will shift their perspective. Perhaps You will shift Your priorities. Perhaps time will shift circumstances or context. My parent @mothernaturesmountain is an incredible person. She lives off the grid in the forest, a healer and herbalist. She taught me a lot of important lessons growing up- especially around how to forage, survive and be patient. We bonded even closer when my parents divorced after an abusive relationship and it felt like it was just her and I against a naysaying world. But then in highschool she discovered I was queer. And it didn’t go over well. At the time I was ashamed of who I was. Deeply. As a Christian I felt I was angering God and endangering the emotional health of my grandparents. I also felt- after everything my parent did for me the least I could do is just be normal. I never thought of being queer as a life of hardship for myself- but rather for my family who would have to be affiliated with me. So I tried to make up for it by taking myself out of the equation. I ran away across the country. Determined that I’d rather be homeless than a burden. And I was transient for years. Often my parent offered aid but I felt I didn’t deserve to take it because I felt guilty. Foggy cold nights, sleeping in my car trunk, in backyards and 24hr McDonald’s, broken tent cities, arrested for stealing food from WholeFoods and underwear from Target, dating people just to avoid being alone- I made myself a mess. Drinking. Lying. Hiding. Even when I started to stabilize. So many people wanted to love me but I couldn’t trust them. I was always an arms length apart from anyone I really liked to avoid losing them by never embracing them fully. But then one day my parent reached out in a way that was so pure. It began this healing process. And I couldn’t love anyone more than her. #queer #pride
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 17.6K Likes - What I wear is not my gender. At least not for me personally. Both of these are just extensions of my existence. They are not masculine or feminine to me. They do not define my sexuality. They are not intended to illustrate my political beliefs. They are just as they are. Things I like to wear when the weather gets warm. Illustrations of my personal aesthetic and artistic interests. 

And yet somehow, as much as I strive to steel off the obstacle of existing outside expectations- as much as I say to myself “do what You want, forget the gazes, giggles, glares and gasps.” I find myself processing everyday that while what I wear is not meant to be a battle against society- it does indeed wage war on the perception of “what, who, and how one should be in society”. It makes a seemingly simple activity like swimming the defiance of potential death and a political debate unsolicited on the beach. 

Does everything I do need to be something in which I have to survive? Must I accept that my existence is resistance and trick myself into believing somehow that it is a privilege to provoke so many people by merely donning a bit of fabric?

I’m proud I’ve survived this far. I’m not posting this because I’m tired or feeling sad for myself. I’m posting this because I’m bored. I’m flat out bored with so many people attempting to put others into their own expectations and shackling themselves to silly self regulations and regulations of others. I’m bored, checking my watch hoping for time to come when people are ready to finally be free. When people are willing to free others. You want to have limitations on Yourself, then in my opinion as long as You are choosing those limitations, it’s power. But please, for the love of all that is interesting and good, release people from Your gaze, grip, and guffaws. Because for some it’s deadly. And for everyone- it’s BORING. 

Anyways- if we went swimming somewhere that You really love where would we go? Lake? Sea? River? Pool? 

#beachbabe #lgbtq #fashion #beforeandafter #question #genderqueer

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Caption : What I wear is not my gender. At least not for me personally. Both of these are just extensions of my existence. They are not masculine or feminine to me. They do not define my sexuality. They are not intended to illustrate my political beliefs. They are just as they are. Things I like to wear when the weather gets warm. Illustrations of my personal aesthetic and artistic interests. And yet somehow, as much as I strive to steel off the obstacle of existing outside expectations- as much as I say to myself “do what You want, forget the gazes, giggles, glares and gasps.” I find myself processing everyday that while what I wear is not meant to be a battle against society- it does indeed wage war on the perception of “what, who, and how one should be in society”. It makes a seemingly simple activity like swimming the defiance of potential death and a political debate unsolicited on the beach. Does everything I do need to be something in which I have to survive? Must I accept that my existence is resistance and trick myself into believing somehow that it is a privilege to provoke so many people by merely donning a bit of fabric? I’m proud I’ve survived this far. I’m not posting this because I’m tired or feeling sad for myself. I’m posting this because I’m bored. I’m flat out bored with so many people attempting to put others into their own expectations and shackling themselves to silly self regulations and regulations of others. I’m bored, checking my watch hoping for time to come when people are ready to finally be free. When people are willing to free others. You want to have limitations on Yourself, then in my opinion as long as You are choosing those limitations, it’s power. But please, for the love of all that is interesting and good, release people from Your gaze, grip, and guffaws. Because for some it’s deadly. And for everyone- it’s BORING. Anyways- if we went swimming somewhere that You really love where would we go? Lake? Sea? River? Pool? #beachbabe #lgbtq #fashion #beforeandafter #question #genderqueer
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 16K Likes - I’ve never wanted to be Cinderella- I’ve just wanted to be the person who told her that she would survive if she left her toxic stepfamily. The thought of being royalty turned my stomach- it seemed so hierarchal, boring and full of decisions I’d never want to make. Nah- it was a more  simple servitude I’d crave in my imagination. Anyone else feel that when watching shows about royalty and fairytale monarchs- that You would rather wear a tunic than a crown? 

Which would You be? The rescued? The rescuer? The advisor? The servant? The warrior? The royalty? The community gardener? Who do You imagine Yourself as?

Fascinatingly our answer can often uncover deeper truths about what we believe we deserve, where we see our purpose in the world, and what biases we harbor against our own existence that we have to work through. Aka- the conflict resolution within ourselves. 

#whoareyou #lgbtq #fairytales #cosplay #royalty #fashion #periodpiece #genderqueer

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Caption : I’ve never wanted to be Cinderella- I’ve just wanted to be the person who told her that she would survive if she left her toxic stepfamily. The thought of being royalty turned my stomach- it seemed so hierarchal, boring and full of decisions I’d never want to make. Nah- it was a more simple servitude I’d crave in my imagination. Anyone else feel that when watching shows about royalty and fairytale monarchs- that You would rather wear a tunic than a crown? Which would You be? The rescued? The rescuer? The advisor? The servant? The warrior? The royalty? The community gardener? Who do You imagine Yourself as? Fascinatingly our answer can often uncover deeper truths about what we believe we deserve, where we see our purpose in the world, and what biases we harbor against our own existence that we have to work through. Aka- the conflict resolution within ourselves. #whoareyou #lgbtq #fairytales #cosplay #royalty #fashion #periodpiece #genderqueer
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 15.1K Likes - I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *)

These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. 

I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 

3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination.

It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me.  After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!!

Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer

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Caption : I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *) These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination. It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me. After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!! Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 15.1K Likes - I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *)

These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. 

I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 

3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination.

It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me.  After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!!

Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer

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Caption : I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *) These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination. It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me. After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!! Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 15.1K Likes - I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *)

These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. 

I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 

3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination.

It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me.  After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!!

Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer

15.1K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *) These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination. It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me. After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!! Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 15.1K Likes - I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *)

These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. 

I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 

3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination.

It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me.  After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!!

Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer

15.1K Likes – Rain Dove Dubilewski Instagram

Caption : I waited a year & a half to post these- and I almost just deleted them. Here’s why ⬇️ (*note following story contains some distressing themes- but it has a happy ending. Reader discretion advised. *) These images were taken over a year and a half ago when I had hit my bottom of bottoms spiritually and physically. I was drinking a lot, dealing with the turmoil of a tumultuous personal life, feeling inadequate to be enough to stop the gasping mountain of suffering people shared into my inbox that I desperately wanted to heal, I was broke, felt my career was over, and felt that the future held no art, I had cancer, wasn’t in the best physical health or mental health, and felt that I was just not able to be the being everyone and myself needed to the extent that was requested. I found myself crashing in a space in NYC during this pivotal time with @mrddayland . He was tapping back into his photography and one night we just had a super safe space and after not being in front of the camera for about a while, I found it surprisingly ok to just sit and shoot with this human. These are the images taken. Looking at them at the time I felt they had something special in them- but I also felt really ashamed because I could see the depression. The lines from stress and self neglect etched into my skin. The sunken gaze beneath the chainmail. The downturned lips usually a grin. A clear capture of the state I was in. 3 months later I would go on the journey I’ve shared here with yall that I decided to ethically end my life. It had come to that moment. That culmination. It’s only by a literal miracle of a natural phenomenon happening that I chose to live. A caterpillar attached itself to my shirt & turned into a moth. One of the most incredible things to ever happen to me. After a year and a half of VERY hard hard work I’ve found purpose greater than I could’ve imagined. Hope. Dips of defeatable depression. Joy. Rage. And LIFE again!! Choosing to live is sometimes our greatest form of revolution. I post these now not out of shame but pride for Pride that they remind me that I lived. I’ll leave there to always remind me. #pridemonth #lgbtq🌈 #storytime #genderqueer
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 13K Likes - Found out I’m cancer free today! It’s been a heck of a year. One of fighting harder for life on every aspect than I’ve ever had to fight before- and across more spectrums of that statement than ever before. 

Ive spent the past year realigning internally, externally and communally. Giving this planet and myself everything I’ve got to give with every ounce of existence possible. 

And somehow, today, is the day where I finally feel the clear crisp start to the next chapter of who I am. And how I want to show up for You, this world and myself. 

Despite all the obstacles and the uncertainties of this era- I find myself daring… hoping… BELIEVING that this life has a lot of beauty ahead. That these will be one of the most meaningful and impactful years. That all the lessons, the truths, the trusts and the hard knocks have culminated in being more equipped for whatever the universe brings. 

I haven’t - and I wont - give up on pursuing purpose, art, possibility and a bit better of a planet for You too. Can’t wait for adventure to cross our paths. 

Thanks for sticking with me. For giving me grace to be the being I am. To grow and pivot. To try again and again better and better. I am so grateful for You and this community who have gifted me a safe space and who have reminded me to not give up. 

You’re a big reason why I’m alive today. ❤️ Here we go to the next chapter together! Up up up and up we go!

#lgbtqia #positivenews #goodvibes #letsgo #grateful

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Caption : Found out I’m cancer free today! It’s been a heck of a year. One of fighting harder for life on every aspect than I’ve ever had to fight before- and across more spectrums of that statement than ever before. Ive spent the past year realigning internally, externally and communally. Giving this planet and myself everything I’ve got to give with every ounce of existence possible. And somehow, today, is the day where I finally feel the clear crisp start to the next chapter of who I am. And how I want to show up for You, this world and myself. Despite all the obstacles and the uncertainties of this era- I find myself daring… hoping… BELIEVING that this life has a lot of beauty ahead. That these will be one of the most meaningful and impactful years. That all the lessons, the truths, the trusts and the hard knocks have culminated in being more equipped for whatever the universe brings. I haven’t – and I wont – give up on pursuing purpose, art, possibility and a bit better of a planet for You too. Can’t wait for adventure to cross our paths. Thanks for sticking with me. For giving me grace to be the being I am. To grow and pivot. To try again and again better and better. I am so grateful for You and this community who have gifted me a safe space and who have reminded me to not give up. You’re a big reason why I’m alive today. ❤️ Here we go to the next chapter together! Up up up and up we go! #lgbtqia #positivenews #goodvibes #letsgo #grateful
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Rain Dove Dubilewski - 9.4K Likes - ‼️URGENT CALL TO ACTION‼️

🆘Two children, Rafif (13) and Rafik (15), are severely injured after bombing of their home. Their mother and 10 other family members were killed.

🆘They are immobile and stranded in #AlShifa Hospital. Their extensive and life threatening wounds require constant care - but, instead, their guardians and medical staff were forcibly removed from the hospital. Like all the other patients at Al Shifa, including children, they are completely alone, in pain and have not eaten in 4 days. This is utterly horrifying: NO CHILD should be in this situation. They require urgent medical attention and URGENT EVACUATION.

🔉We are calling on the UK Government, WHO and UN OCHA to act immediately and save Rafif and Rafik, as well as the hundreds of other patients.

🚨REPOST, STORY & TAG
@ukgovofficial @ukhomeoffice @un_ocha @who @drtedros 

#EvacuateRR

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Caption : ‼️URGENT CALL TO ACTION‼️ 🆘Two children, Rafif (13) and Rafik (15), are severely injured after bombing of their home. Their mother and 10 other family members were killed. 🆘They are immobile and stranded in #AlShifa Hospital. Their extensive and life threatening wounds require constant care – but, instead, their guardians and medical staff were forcibly removed from the hospital. Like all the other patients at Al Shifa, including children, they are completely alone, in pain and have not eaten in 4 days. This is utterly horrifying: NO CHILD should be in this situation. They require urgent medical attention and URGENT EVACUATION. 🔉We are calling on the UK Government, WHO and UN OCHA to act immediately and save Rafif and Rafik, as well as the hundreds of other patients. 🚨REPOST, STORY & TAG @ukgovofficial @ukhomeoffice @un_ocha @who @drtedros #EvacuateRR
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